Living With It E-Book

Lizzie Enfield

• Herausgeber: Myriad Editions
• Kategorie: Gesellschafts- und Liebesromane
• Sprache: Englisch
• Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2014

Beschreibung

One-year-old Iris is deaf. Her parents, Ben and Maggie, are devastated. So are their close friends Isobel and Eric. Isobel knows that her decision, taken years ago, not to have her own children vaccinated against measles is to blame for Iris's deafness. And Ben knows this too. To make matters worse, Isobel is the woman he fell in love with in his twenties - the woman who married his best friend. As he and Maggie start legal proceedings, Isobel's world begins to unravel. Lizzie Enfield's compelling new novel explores the hearts and minds of ordinary people as they struggle to come to terms with the choices they've made. Acutely observed and utterly gripping, it explores love and loss, guilt and recovery, with humour, honesty and page-turning prose.

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Praise for Lizzie Enfield

‘A compelling read, with a constantly evolving plot that kept me hooked to the end, as well as a vivid, detailed and funny picture of the life of two modern families.’

William Nicholson

‘Lizzie Enfield has a great talent for mirroring all our lives through those small moments that make up a whole. She has a wonderful forensic style in which ordinary details are used to create extraordinary stories. Her writing reminds me of Anne Tyler’s.’

Araminta Hall

‘Living With It is a brilliant evocation of emotional turmoil. Lizzie Enfield vividly portrays the parental dilemmas, moral complexities and potentially tragic consequences of the MMR controversy. Gripping and thought-provoking.’

James LeFanu

‘Lizzie Enfield is a writer with a gift for conveying the intricacies and subtleties of relationships between family and friends. Her dialogue is perfectly pitched, and her storytelling thought-provoking and nuanced. Living With It explores an emotive issue with insight and care.’

Sarah Rayner

‘Picking up this book is like meeting with a dear friend. Lizzie Enfield’s prose is intelligent, amusing and confident. The action is balanced and well-paced.’

Red magazine

‘Written with warmth and humour. For the Allison Pearson market and a sophisticated cut above the norm.’

Bookseller

For my parents

Not your sort of book, and you don’t have to read it

Ip dip do Cat’s got the flu Dog’s got the measles So out goes you

Traditional playground rhyme

Contents

Title PageDedicationEpigraphWEEK ONEWEEK TWOWEEK THREEWEEK FOURA FEW MONTHS LATERAcknowledgementsBook Group GuideAbout the AuthorAlso by Lizzie EnfieldCopyright

WEEK ONE

Isobel, Saturday

‘I thought you knew?’

The way Sally said it made it clear there was something I ought to know, something that everyone else knew and presumed I must also be aware of. And she looked around the room and lowered her voice, not wanting to be heard before delivering those four words in a questioning tone, making me feel anxious about whatever it was I was supposed to have knowledge of but didn’t. Not just then.

There ought to be a word for being in a state of unknowingness: for waking up in the morning and going about your life, thinking everything is quite normal, when something has already happened which will change everything.

I read once about a woman from New York who was staying at a spa in some exotic location, destressing or detoxing or one of those things New Yorkers do, when 9/11 happened – and this woman missed it. She’d signed the ‘no external interruptions’ box in the spa’s list of requirements for her stay. Her suite was in a block without television, radio or wi-fi. No newspapers were delivered to her door. So it was only twenty-four hours after the event, on September 12th, when she walked across the complex to the treatment rooms and one of the other guests heard her say ‘I’ve got an appointment for an Indian head massage’ in her unmistakable accent and cried, ‘Oh, my God! Are you from New York? I’m so sorry. It’s just so terrible…’ that she was alerted to the fact that the world she lived in had changed.

Blissfully unaware was how I was this morning, but the words are not the right ones. They don’t come close enough to describing just how free I was, without knowing the thing that Sally would tell me a few hours later in the day.

We were all in upbeat mode.

It was what Vincent would call a ‘pink’ morning, with his strange synaesthetic tendency to ascribe colours to moods.

I was surprised when he first did it.

‘I don’t like Wednesdays,’ he said over breakfast one morning. ‘They’re yellow.’

He was busy seeing things in the remains of his cornflakes, another Vinnie peculiarity. ‘There’s a Fiat 500 driving across the desert,’ he’ll say, adjusting some minor detail of the image visible only to him with his spoon, pushing milk-soaked flakes about slightly, as if to sharpen up the picture. Or, ‘there’s a deer drinking from a stream,’ and sometimes ‘a butterfly flapping its wings’. He’s like an ancient astronomer, picking out hunter’s belts from random stars. He sees things clearly that the rest of us must also try to see. ‘Oh, yes!’ I’ll admire the soggy orange mush as if the butterfly wings are equally visible to me.

The colours thing felt slightly different.

‘What do you mean, they’re yellow, Vincent?’ I asked him.

But his answer was not illuminating. ‘They just are. Thursdays are a bit brown and Fridays are purple.’ He carried on eating his toast before adding, ‘Like Gabby.’

‘Like Gabs?’

‘Yes. She’s purple, Daddy is silver, Harvey is green and you’re sort of wood-coloured.’ He pointed to a shelf.

‘Beige?’ I was insulted. If Eric was silver, why couldn’t I be gold? I’m his mother, I should be gold.

But I was intrigued by the way my youngest son’s mind works. And this morning it was on sparkling form.

‘Why are you making that face, Vincent?’

I was putting lipstick on, using the hall mirror, before we left, and I could see him reflected behind me, his cheeks bulging in a peculiar way.

He disappeared into the living room without saying anything and re-emerged carrying a piece of paper.

‘I AM TRYING TO BREAK THE WORLD RECORD FOR HAVING A MOUTHFUL OF WATER,’ it read. ‘I’VE HAD IT SINCE I CLEANED MY TEETH. PS DON’T MAKE ME LAUGH…’

It made me laugh – a heartfelt, happy, ‘full of the joys of family life’ laugh.

Eric laughed too, when I told him and showed him the note, before tucking it in the pocket of my cardigan, where I would later discover this reminder of that moment, before I knew, before any of us knew.

‘Will Ben and Maggie be there?’ Gabriella asked as we found seats on the train.

‘Can we move up a bit, Gabs?’ I nudged Vinnie forward and nodded towards an empty peanut packet, left lying on the table.

Harvey has a nut allergy. I don’t think it’s as severe as the ones you hear about, when people can die simply from breathing in the dust from a discarded packet, but I don’t want to take risks. He hasn’t had a reaction for a long time, and that makes those around him forget that he has one and behave as if it’s gone away. Sometimes I feel that I’m the only one watching out for him. If even his fifteen-year-old sister, who is caring and sensible and really looks out for her younger brothers, nearly sits him down in front of a peanut packet, how can I trust anyone he spends time with to make sure he avoids contact with them? It’s a constant anxiety, when he’s at school or with friends.

‘Sorry, Mum.’ Gabs moved on up the carriage, casting around for five seats. ‘Here?’

‘But I need a table,’ Harvey rejected her choice. ‘I need to finish the cake.’

About five minutes before he left, Harvey had decided he would make Anton an origami birthday cake. It was an ambitious project. One that required several sheets of paper, more than five minutes and a flat surface.

‘You sit there, then,’ his older sister said, nodding towards a spare seat by a table. The other three were already taken. I’d thought it would be nice if we could all sit together for the twenty-minute journey along the coast from Hove to Lancing, but Harvey took the vacant seat, keen to get on with his creation.

It was rare that we all did things together these days and I was surprised Gabriella had opted to come. She prefers to spend time with her friends, and the fiftieth birthday of the husband of one my old university friends would usually make her run a mile. But she had been keen to come with us to Anton’s.

‘I’d like to see everyone again,’ she’d said, when I’d mentioned the invite.

By ‘everyone’ she’d meant the group of friends we’d been with for ten days in France, during the summer: Yasmin, who had been a fellow student of mine, and her husband, Anton; Sally and Paddy, who also went to the same university and who own the house in Gascony where we stayed at the beginning of August; and Ben and his wife Maggie. I’d lived in the same halls of residence as Ben. I met him on my first day and later I would meet Eric, Ben’s oldest friend, through him.

Initially Gabriella hadn’t been keen to come on holiday, but we weren’t going to leave her at home despite her protests of ‘everyone else’s parents let them’ and ‘but there won’t be anyone my age there’.

Anton and Yasmin’s son, Conrad, is just over a year older than Gabs. When she was born, we were all still living in London and I’d hoped Yasmin and I might spend time together. Apart from Sally, who had got pregnant in the midst of her finals, none of my close friends had children yet. But I’d found Conrad slightly disconcerting. I wasn’t sure why at first. He never looked at me or smiled, and he took no interest in Gabs, or in anything really.

When Gabs was just over a year old, Conrad’s slight strangeness got a label. He was autistic. It was a terrible blow to Anton and Yasmin, who were by then expecting their second child, Mira.

‘There’s a poem,’ Yasmin once said to me, ‘called “Welcome to Holland”, about raising a child with a disability. It likens it to thinking you’d booked a holiday in Italy and finding out you’re going to Holland instead.’

I’d understood what she meant. She still had a child, whom she loved very much, but he was not the child she had envisaged, and the journey with him through life was going to be very different from the one she and Anton had anticipated. And so was our friendship. Conrad and Gabs never became the close childhood friends I had once thought they might. When Yasmin and her family moved to the south coast, several years after we had moved to Brighton, it was so that Conrad could go to a local special school. By that time my kids had their own lives, and I had mine too, albeit one tightly bound up with the children. We did meet up, but only occasionally. It was always difficult. Conrad was always difficult. Gabs and he did not communicate. Harvey and Vincent were scared of him.

The holiday in France was the first time we had all spent any length of time together, and effectively Gabs was right: she was on her own. But she had suddenly seemed to grow up and had got on well with all the adults, especially Maggie, whom none of us really knows that well.

‘Will Ben and Maggie be there?’ she asked again, as we settled on the train.

‘And Iris,’ Vincent said, opening the can of Coke Eric had bought him and spraying it across the seat.

Iris is Ben and Maggie’s baby daughter. Gabs had got on well with her too. She’s always been good with younger children. I suppose it comes from being the eldest.

‘I’m sure they will,’ I said, with a confidence that turned out to be entirely misplaced. ‘Vinnie, be careful.’

I thought they would be there because it was Anton’s fiftieth and it was rare for them to have a party. Socialising has never been easy because of Conrad.

I thought they would be there because we all left France in the summer saying, ‘See you again at Anton’s fiftieth!’

I thought this too because, even though Ben hadn’t responded to my text asking if they were all going, I presumed he was just busy.

Ben and Maggie had been home again by the time Iris went down with measles. I knew how scary it must have been because it was scary for me too, seeing Gabs so ill. And I knew that Iris could only have caught the virus from Gabs while we were away. But it was over now. They were both fine. Their immune systems were probably stronger for it.

And anyway, our friendships, mine and Ben’s and Ben’s and Eric’s, go back so far that I imagined that any bad feeling there had been at the time was is in the past.

I am wrong.

Vincent is out playing football in the garden with a couple of other kids, watched by a small group of adults. It’s early November, but the temperature is mild. I am not sure where Harvey has got to and Gabriella is hovering at the edge of the living room, looking as if she wished she hadn’t come. Again, there’s no one here her age. I know she wanted to chat to Maggie and see Iris too. Gabs seems to get on better with Maggie than I do. I think it’s because they are both musical and also, when we were away, Maggie must have been grateful that Gabs was willing to spend hours entertaining the baby.

‘Are Ben and Maggie not here yet?’ I say to Sally, watching Gabriella sitting, bored, on the other side of the room.

‘I don’t think they’re coming,’ she says. She sounds strained, but I think nothing of it.

‘Oh. I thought they’d be here,’ I say.

Sally’s look tells me there’s a reason they are not here and she feels put on the spot because I don’t know and she’s going to have to be the one to tell me.

Or maybe I read too much into the way she looks at me.

‘Don’t you know?’ she asks.

‘Know what?’ I say, my ‘pink’ mood starting to evaporate.

‘I thought they’d have told you,’ Sally says, and she’s looking around now, perhaps for a means of escape.

‘Told me what?’ If there is such a thing as premonition, I feel it then: that whatever she says next is going to be bad.

‘This isn’t really the place.’ Sally is looking away, at Anton, who is circulating with a bottle. She won’t catch my eye.

‘Sally?’ I force her to.

We’ve known each other over twenty years.

We’ve always been completely at ease in each other’s company.

What is it she’s not telling me?

‘It’s Iris.’ She lowers her voice and this time looks straight at me. ‘She was very ill after the holiday.’

I knew this. ‘But she’s better.’ I’d spoken to Ben since and he’d reassured me that Iris was fine.

‘Yes, better.’ Sally takes a sip from her glass. Then another. ‘But…’

‘But what?’

‘I thought you knew?’ Sally says. ‘She’s deaf now. Completely deaf in both ears.’

I’ve only drunk half a glass of champagne but the room starts to swim before me.

‘You’d better sit down,’ Sally is saying, and again, ‘I’m sorry, I really thought you knew.’

‘I think I need to go to the bathroom,’ I hear myself saying, and then Yasmin is there too.

‘Are you OK, Bel?’

‘She didn’t know,’ Sally says to her. ‘I thought she would know.’

‘What’s up, Bel?’ Eric has found me – has honed in on my distress from where he was standing, just outside in the garden.

‘I’m just not feeling very well.’ I look at Sally, willing her not to tell him, not yet.

‘Oh, love.’ Eric is concerned. ‘I hope you’re not coming down with something. Anton said Maggie’s not well either.’

Eric does not seem to catch Sally and Yasmin exchanging glances. I do.

‘I feel a bit sick.’ I stand up and head towards the bathroom.

‘Shall I come with you?’ Eric asks, and I try to smile.

‘No, I’ll be fine, I’m sure.’

He looks worried, but Yasmin steps in. ‘I’ll take her. I think we’ve got some anti-nausea stuff in the medicine cabinet.’

We pass Conrad’s room as we walk across the landing to the bathroom. He’s sitting on his bed making the strange moaning noise he makes, the way some people hum under their breath. He hates large gatherings. They make him stressed, anxious and angry.

I pause to look in and see that Harvey is in the room with him, kneeling on the floor, using a large book on Conrad’s bed as a table, on which he is folding his origami.

I’m not entirely surprised he ended up here. The origami began on holiday. I bought a kit, as I wanted the boys to spend time doing something other than playing on their iPods. Harvey took to it immediately – unsurprisingly, as he loves making things – and Conrad developed a fascination with watching him and a fondness for the miniature paper creations that resulted.

But I am surprised that Harvey sought sanctuary in Conrad’s room. Conrad is not the sort of child whose company you’d seek out, or with whom you’d be likely to find sanctuary.

I walk past.

Yasmin is ahead of me now, opening the door to the bathroom. I push past her in a sudden hurry, sit down on the edge of the bath and take a deep breath. Yasmin stands by the washbasin.

‘I suppose everyone thinks it’s my fault?’ I say.

I want Yasmin to say something comforting, but she remains quiet. Or rather she looks away, and says nothing, which is not quite the same as remaining quiet. It’s more like not saying what she actually thinks.

And that speaks volumes.

So, I answer my question myself. Of course they are blaming me. How can everyone not be blaming me?

‘Are you feeling a bit better now?’ Yasmin says, looking at me again.

‘Not really,’ I tell her. ‘But I’ll be fine. I just need a minute.’

‘OK.’ Yasmin moves to leave.

Of course she wants to get back to the party. I know that. She’s the host. But at the same time I feel there’s something else, something she isn’t quite saying. I put my hand into my pocket, searching for a tissue because I think I might start to cry, but instead my hand finds Vinnie’s note. Was it only a few hours ago that we were full of the joys of family life?

I start to cry.

I know that if Ben has not told me himself then he must be angry with me. And I’m beginning to feel sorry for myself, because I know people are going to judge me.

Ben, Saturday

‘Where are you going?’ Maggie asks. ‘You haven’t finished your coffee.’

She’s just made a pot.

‘I’m going to empty the dishwasher,’ I tell her.

‘But it hasn’t finished its cycle.’

‘It has. I just heard it beep.’

‘That was the washing machine,’ Maggie says, too patiently.

‘What’s that supposed to mean?’

‘It doesn’t mean anything. All I’m saying is there is no point you jumping up to unload the dishwasher because it hasn’t finished its cycle. It was the washing machine which beeped.’

‘You’re implying I don’t do enough around the house,’ I snap. ‘Because I can’t tell the difference between the particular beeps our various household appliances make.’

‘I’m not implying anything of the sort, Ben. I’m just saying that the dishwasher hasn’t finished. Jesus…’ She bites her metaphorical lip.

‘What?’

‘Nothing.’

Iris, who’s been sitting in a chair that clips on to the table, rolling wax crayons over a sheet of paper and seeming happy enough, suddenly emits one of her horrid high-pitched screeches.

‘You’re pissed off with me now,’ I say, ignoring our daughter.

‘I’m not,’ Maggie replies, but of course she is. Why wouldn’t she be? I am tetchy and irritable and taking it out on her. ‘Look, Ben, if you need to be doing something, then by all means unload the washing machine and hang the washing up. All I asked was if you wanted to finish your coffee.’

‘Well, clearly it’s time I acquainted myself b-b-better with the household appliances.’ I curse myself for stuttering, riled by the stupidity of the argument but determined to have it anyway. ‘Where’s the laundry basket?’

‘By the back door,’ Maggie says, wearily, getting up herself, lifting Iris out of her chair, even though she’s stopped screeching and returned to crayon-rolling.

Maybe we should have gone to the party. I’d wanted to make a big angry statement by not going, but Yasmin had just seemed to accept it when I’d phoned to tell her we couldn’t make it – and why. ‘Of course, I understand.’

Her reaction was disappointing. Too understanding and sympathetic. No outright condemnation of Isobel. No real sense of shock at what had happened. No ‘Jesus, that’s terrible’ or stunned silence. She was the first of our friends to hear the news and I’d wanted her to be outraged. I didn’t want a measured, ‘That’s awful, Ben, I’m so sorry.’

I suppose I should have expected it. Deafness, to her, with crazy Conrad for a son, is probably not that bad. Maybe she stopped herself saying, ‘That’s great, Ben. She’s deaf, not autistic. Lucky you. Get on with it. You’ll learn to live with it.’

Paddy was more shocked, when I told him, but the old group loyalties are still there. Sympathy for Ben, but we’re not going to condemn Isobel outright because she’s our friend. Why not, though? She’s in the fucking wrong. It wouldn’t have hurt Isobel if Paddy had said as much, and it might have helped me.

So we’re at home, knowing some of our friends will soon be glugging wine all day, marking a milestone in the traditional way. And it’s getting to me, not really doing anything while elsewhere life is going on.

‘Will you watch her while I take a shower?’ Maggie asks. She’s put Iris on the floor of the kitchen now, in front of a shape-sorter.

‘You know I will,’ I say, as I drape wet clothes over the laundry maid.

She doesn’t need to ask me to watch my own daughter. She knows I could watch Iris all day. Her every action still captivates me. Her infant beauty bowls me over. I just can’t stand that when I say, ‘Hey, pumpkin!’ she no longer turns to look at me and smile. She just carries on with what she’s doing, and if she gets bored, which seems to happen increasingly quickly, then she starts to cry.

Our post lands on the floor of the hall mid-morning. There’s a lot today: mostly junk, a few bills and a subscription magazine for Maggie. The letterbox has a brass flap on the inside to keep cold air out, and every time a letter is posted through it makes a loud clanging sound, followed by the ‘phut’ as the piece of post hits the floor. It’s a noisy process, and today it culminates with ‘Alan with an ampersand’ ringing our doorbell.

We call him this on account of his Christmas card. We had no idea what our postman was called, until he sent one last year. Even when we opened it, it took us a while to work it out. ‘Happy Christmas from &lan,’ it read.

‘Oh, it’s Alan!’ It dawned on Maggie first.

I still wasn’t convinced. ‘Alan with an ampersand?’ I asked.

From then on our post was delivered by ‘Alan with an ampersand’, just as one of Maggie’s old boyfriends, Iain, was always referred to as ‘Iain with two eyes’, differentiating him from other Ians we knew, who were Cyclopes.

Our doorbell is loud and insistent. It makes you jump if you’ve not heard it before; in fact it makes me jump now, even though I already know Alan with an ampersand is on the other side, struggling to push something through. I’d thought he might give up and ring the bell.

But Iris, sitting on the floor chewing shapes from the sorter she’s apparently ‘too young’ to master, doesn’t react at all: not to the clanging, or the landing, or the insistence of the bell. She just carries on exploring the red triangle-shaped block with her tongue, as if it were a lollipop rather than a bit of wood painted in primary-coloured non-toxic paint.

And I feel like snapping at her now, ‘Can you really not hear?’ – the way old people whose hearing is going start snapping at everyone around them for mumbling, refusing to admit they have a problem, making it everyone else’s.

I stomp to answer the door, glancing back at Iris to see if she notices. I want her to be fooling us. Is she too young, I wonder, to have decided to pretend to be deaf, just to annoy us? Of course she is. But it doesn’t stop me thinking or hoping it, or wanting to jolt her into hearing by yelling at her.

I open the door and Alan with an ampersand says he has a parcel for Maggie, although he calls her Mrs Bisseker, because that’s what it says on the parcel. It’s wrong because we are not married, so officially she is Ms Bisseker.

‘More books,’ I say, feeling an irrational need to explain why we’ve been having so many parcels lately. It’s not really any of Alan’s business and I doubt he cares. But I want to impress upon him that we are not simply shopping and making his mailbag a little heavier than usual, but also improving ourselves, or rather improving our knowledge about our daughter’s condition.

That’s been Maggie’s response: to read as much as possible, as if knowing about it will make it easier to handle. She can spend whole hours on the National Deaf Children’s Society website, when she’s not on Amazon finding books.

I suppose she’s right: the more we know, the better. But my response is different. I’m angry, because it’s so fucking unnecessary. I’m furious that this has happened to our beautiful baby girl and I’m furious with Isobel, because it’s her fault.

Maggie cautioned me against calling her as soon as we found out. ‘It’s not going to help.’

She was so calm, but these things hit people in different ways. I knew she was upset too. She hasn’t picked up her trumpet in days and that’s unheard of. She used to play all the time, but it’s been quiet in our house since we found out. Too quiet. A quiet only punctuated by the doorbell.

‘Maybe someone else should tell her,’ Maggie said. ‘She needs to know, I agree, but maybe she needs to hear it from someone else and get her head round it before you actually speak to her.’

Sometimes Maggie can be so understanding I almost can’t stand it. It makes me want to shake her and work up a bit of the rage that I feel, just as I want to shout at Iris, tell her to stop closing her ears to the world and react to a sound.

I actually thought, when we went to the hospital two weeks ago, that the trip was just a formality: a reassurance for anxious parents whose children had had a previous spell in hospital; a box that NHS staff needed to tick on the records of kids who’d had measles. Have they been in for a follow-up appointment? Check. Did they take their children to be checked over by an audiologist? Check.

‘She’s just not as responsive as she used to be.’ Maggie was more anxious, especially when the GP referred Iris to the hospital, saying something about ‘ruling out deafness’.

But I still thought that was all we were doing: ruling deafness out, not having it confirmed. I hadn’t even thought I needed to go with them, but Maggie had insisted. ‘I don’t want to be on my own if there is anything wrong.’

‘I’m sure there isn’t.’

After Iris had come out of hospital before, we had both done the whole internet thing, even though the doctors had advised against it. I’d looked up the effects of measles and the possible complications. Again and again the online reports had stressed that these were ‘rare’. My older brother had measles, and he was and is fine. Younger, I’d had a jab and been immune to the few weeks’ unpleasantness that the virus brought with it.

Iris had been ill too – horribly, alarmingly ill. I never wanted to see her so poorly again. But she’d recovered quickly and seemed fine.

She was sitting happily on Maggie’s lap, looking about the room exactly like a child who was engaged with the world, when the consultant spoke.

‘Your daughter appears to have suffered Sudden Sensorial Bilateral Hearing Loss.’

‘What do you mean?’ Maggie and I both said this at once.

What I was actually thinking when he said this was, Why can’t they use plain English when they tell you something?

I tried to catch Maggie’s eye. I wanted to raise my eyebrows in a way that conveyed Isn’t it daft, the way they talk?

But Maggie was ahead of me. ‘You mean she can’t hear?’ she translated. ‘And that it happened suddenly? Will it return?’

‘Well, there are things that can be done.’ The consultant looked from me to her. ‘But I’m afraid the damage appears to have been caused by the virus your daughter contracted earlier this year. Her hearing won’t return naturally, though of course it is possible for her to have hearing aids and – ’

‘Hearing aids?’ I suddenly linked the plural with the ‘bilateral’ from the consultant’s earlier sentence. ‘You mean she’s lost the hearing in both her ears?’

‘It would appear so,’ the consultant said, tidying his notes into a pile, as if delivering this bombshell was a natural conclusion to this particular consultation.

I think someone must have passed the news on to Isobel by now. Or they will soon. Fuck knows how she’ll react. Will she be shaken out of her smug ‘I work so hard at being the perfect parent’ mode and feel as terrible as she should? Or will she dredge up some list of selfish justifications for landing this on us?

‘Are you regretting not going to the party?’ Maggie is washed and dressed and on the money. She has scooped Iris off the floor and is talking to her, even though she can’t hear a word. ‘Do you think Daddy would rather be getting drunk at a party?’

Maggie curls her hand into a C shape and tilts it towards Iris, as if drinking. Already she has bought a book on signing and is communicating with our deaf daughter in a way neither of us ever imagined. I am still obstinately resistant. What about hearing aids? What about implants? I am not willing to consign her to this other world.

‘This came for you.’ I ignore Maggie’s question and hand her the parcel. ‘Another book.’

‘Yes, another book,’ Maggie replies. The standoff continues. She could put a stop to it, if only she’d share some of my anger.

It’s not that she’s entirely accepting. There have been tears, lots of futile ‘what if’s, defiantly questioning, ‘Why didn’t she tell us it could be measles?’ ‘Why do you think the kids weren’t vaccinated?’ But she’s more focused on working out how we’re going to cope than on pointing the finger.

So she’s a better person than me. So what? I think as I hand her the parcel containing what I suspect to be more books on deafness: Coping with Deafness, Living with Deafness, Coping with a Deaf Child. There are hundreds of books on the subject and Maggie seems determined to work her way through all of them. Well, at least the ones about children. There are books on living with deaf parents or siblings, on working with deaf colleagues. There’s even one – and I’m glad it’s out there because when Maggie found it, searching on Amazon while Iris was napping after that hospital visit, she called me over and we laughed – called Living with a Deaf Dog. I thought it was a spoof when she showed it to me.

‘A deaf dog enjoys life just as hearing dogs do,’ Maggie read from the description of the book. ‘He still has his fine nose and his eyes, which are far more important faculties to a dog.’

‘Is it for real?’ I asked, sounding strangely American to myself, wondering if an American wrote the book.

‘I think so.’ Maggie read on. ‘This invaluable book will help owners of deaf and hard-of-hearing dogs not just to accept their loyal companions for what they are, but also to establish a closer bond as they help each other find new or adapted ways to live together.’

‘Do you think deaf dogs have hearing people trained up to react for them?’

Maggie laughed, not at my lame joke but at the fact that the author had a deaf Dalmatian called Chocolate. ‘It seems a bit cruel to confuse the poor dog by calling it chocolate when it’s black and white,’ she said.

‘Well, it can’t hear her,’ I replied and Maggie laughed at my joke, this time.

But it pissed me off, that I’d made the joke and that she’d found it funny. It seemed cruel. I pointed this out. ‘Do you think we’ll start making jokes about Iris?’

Maggie stopped laughing and started to cry.

Isobel, Saturday afternoon

At what point would I have had to act differently for it to have made a difference?

That’s what I keep asking myself, as I close my eyes on the train back home, trying to block out the world and focus on what I’ve just been told. Eric still thinks I’m not feeling well. I think he thinks I drank too much.

‘Why don’t you have this seat, Bel?’ he says. ‘I’ll sit over there with the kids. You could maybe try to sleep.’

‘Thank you.’

I am grateful for the thinking space, for the chance to ask myself ‘what if’, and, because we’ve just been with the same group of friends, I keep going back to the time when we were last all together and wondering how things might have played out differently.

When I was a child, our family holidays always had a particular day to look forward to, a day that was imbued with some sort of expectation and mystique – a day we’d save for the end of the week so that even while we were away, doing the thing we’d been looking forward to all year, there was still something else, something better, to anticipate.

In our case it was getting the ferry to Padstow. These were the days when Padstow was a very touristy fishing village in Cornwall but not yet a place of foodie pilgrimage. The excitement lay in waving the flag from the other side of the estuary to let the ferry that traversed the narrow point know you were there, then the ten minutes chugging through the often choppy water, rewarded with a few hours wandering round gift shops and eating ice cream.

It was the one day of the holiday when I didn’t have to swim before being allowed a cornet – a peculiar rule of Dad’s. Pleasure was not just to be taken; it had first to be earned by swimming in the freezing Atlantic. The rule only applied to myself and him, but it is a rule I still use with my own offspring. ‘Why don’t you go on the trampoline before we have cake?’ ‘Don’t you want to come for a walk before lunch?’ ‘Why don’t we save the sweets until after the water park?’ I am a chip off the old block.

Mum was allowed to stand on the shore, holding towels, ready for when we got out. But she still got her raspberry ripple cone. She was an adult already. There was no point in Dad trying to instil an element of toughness in her.

Or perhaps she already knew she was ill. I did not.

There was no trace of Rick Stein in Padstow then; no scattering of artisan bread shops attracting Notting Hill habitués. Nevertheless Padstow was always held up as the thing we would do when the weather was good, or when all the other fun had been had and could only be topped by this pinnacle of holiday outings.

Paddy and Sally, at their house in Gascony, had created a similar ritual: a thing that at some point we would all do, when we began to tire of lying round the pool and buying oysters in the ‘disgusting’ shacks. Harvey coined this phrase for the dégustation sheds where you could taste oysters. He thought disgusting was more apt, given the delicacy on offer. ‘Why on earth would anyone want the world to be their oyster?’ he would remark, every time Eric threw a slippery morsel of mollusc to the back of his throat and pronounced that it was. ‘If your world has got to be a fish, why can’t it be battered cod from Jenny’s fish and chip shop?’

The thing Paddy and Sally had spent the weeks whipping up enthusiasm for was a trip to the Dune du Pilat. ‘One day we’ll go and climb the biggest sand dune in Europe,’ Paddy had promised early on. Harvey and Vincent were closer to frenzied excitement than enthusiasm.

‘I’m in training!’ Vinnie had been rushing up and down the stairs of the house daily, ever since the outing had been outlined. ‘Should I bring all this?’ he’d ask, laying out an array of items for this ‘expedition’ on his bed.

Preparation was well under way before Paddy even decided on the date, and by the time the weather was slightly cooler and we’d tired of lounging we were all looking forward to the change of scene as much as the boys were.

But by then Gabriella was really quite ill. Her cough was worse; the slight temperature she was running was higher; her eyes were sore and she seemed listless.

‘Should I bring my torch?’ Vinnie was winding up his battery-free flashlight and directing it at various spots on the wall. I feared the anticipation of the Dune du Pilat might prove more exciting for him than actually climbing it.

‘Do you know it has a volume of sixty million metres cubed?’ Paddy was further heightening the anticipation with hard facts, on the morning we finally got ready to go.

‘I’m worried about Gabriella.’ I was the one to pour cold water on the boys’ excitement. ‘She’s not well enough to come and I think I ought to stay with her.’

‘No, come, Mum, please come!’ Vinnie stopped darting and flashing and began pleading. ‘Harvey wants you to come too. Don’t you?’

He looked at Harvey, who simply shrugged. I suspected he was not bothered either way. Harvey has always seemed a little more Eric’s child, I’m not sure why. Perhaps because he’s the first boy, or because Eric makes an effort to make sure he doesn’t get lost in the family by being in the middle; or maybe because they are just more similar. Harvey is certainly more easygoing than Gabriella or Vincent, and if I had continued to say I couldn’t go with them to the dune he’d have accepted it, whereas Vincent would probably have carried on insisting I come too.

‘Yes, come, Bel. She can stay behind if she’s not keen.’ Eric clearly thought Gabriella was suffering from teenage lethargy, nothing more serious.

But I was concerned. ‘I just don’t think it’s a good idea to leave her by herself.’

‘Why not? She’s fifteen!’ Ben, too, clearly thought I was being over-anxious.

‘Actually, I think I’ll stay here.’ Maggie unwittingly became the deciding factor. ‘It sounds like quite a climb, even without trying to carry a baby, and I’m happy to stay put.’

‘Well…’ I was torn between wanting to go, to be with the boys to see their triumphant faces when they reached the top of this giant sand dune, and wanting to keep an eye on Gabby.

‘That’s settled, then,’ Paddy was anxious to get going and Maggie said she was fine, staying with Gabs.

‘It’s probably just a summer cold,’ Ben said.

But there was something else – a slight uncertainty, preying on my mind. Earlier in the week, before Gabriella had begun to feel unwell, she’d been down to the lake to call her boyfriend. Sam had not returned any of the texts she’d sent since we’d been away and she was clearly worried that a few days’ absence was enough for him to lose sight of her and move on.

‘He’s really ill!’ she’d said to me when she came back, clearly relieved rather than worried by the cause of his silence. ‘He’s got measles.’

‘Really?’ I’d tried to sound casual. ‘Well, I’m sure he’ll be fine in a few days.’

Gabriella had seemed happy enough again, but when she started to get ill it was there, the question slowly forming in my mind. Was it measles? What were the symptoms? She didn’t have a rash, so it was probably just a cold.

No one except Eric and I knew she’d not been vaccinated. Why would they? It wasn’t the sort of thing that came up in conversation.

So it was there, in the back of my mind, when I left her with Maggie and her nine-month-old baby – the thought that it was possible Gabriella was going down with measles, and that, if she was, I should be the one staying to look after her.

And that I should tell Maggie, even it was only a possibility and I was wrong.

But I pushed the thought from my mind, worrying that I was worrying too much.

And even if I’d known then what I found out today, would I have been able to do anything that changed how things have panned out?

I imagine myself insisting on staying and, if I’d been there, Gabriella would not have got up and sat Iris on her lap and played with her while Maggie made them all lunch.

Would I have said then, ‘Look, there’s a chance she has measles. If you’re worried about it, we should keep them apart?’ Perhaps Ben would have insisted on driving into town and finding a French doctor, demanding that Iris have the measles vaccine there and then, even though it was a little early.

But I didn’t do, or say, any of those things.

‘Are you coming, then?’ Harvey asked, tired of my indecision.

Vincent was buzzing around me. ‘I’m doing a waggle dance,’ he informed me. ‘It’s something bees do to let the others know where the honey is.’

I laughed, as I tend to whenever Vinnie opens his mouth. ‘Well, if you’re sure, Maggie,’ I said, because I wanted to be with him, with all the others. I wanted to get out of the house and drive somewhere. I wanted to see this big sand dune, I wanted to earn my picnic lunch by climbing it, and I wanted to watch the boys scamper up and roll and slide down again, laughing, happy and carefree.

So I went with them, and set in motion a sequence of events that I can’t reverse.

Ben, Saturday afternoon

By mid-afternoon, I really wish that we’d gone to the party.

I keep checking my watch, thinking, they’ll all be there now; they’re probably having lunch now; maybe they are thinking about going home again; maybe someone’s told Isobel about Iris and she’s…

Then, I think, she’s what, exactly? I’m not going to find out because we’re not there. Maybe we should have gone and then I could have told her myself, seen her face, seen how she reacted. We could have had an angry confrontation. We might have ruined Anton’s fiftieth. It might have been worth it.

It wouldn’t have been fair, though. Not to Anton.

It’s driving me a bit crazy, being at home.

It’s three-thirty. Iris is having a nap and Maggie is reading her new book.

‘I think I might go for a walk,’ I say.

Maggie looks up. ‘Good idea.’

We’re still a bit out of kilter. I think it’s Maggie’s fault for being so calm. She doesn’t really seem to have noticed.

‘Where are you going?’ she asks, not bothered that I am not waiting for Iris to wake so that I can join them when she takes her out in the buggy.

‘Nowhere in particular. I just want to get out of the house,’ I say, and offer a grudging, ‘Is there anything we need?’

‘I don’t think so. I’ll take Iris out when she wakes.’

‘Do you want me to wait, then?’

‘No, it’s fine. You go now.’

I don’t know if she means that it is fine or if she’s pissed off and would rather I waited, but I don’t hang around to find out. I grab my coat and keys and head off in no particular direction.

The way Paddy went on about it, it was like something out of Lawrence of Arabia. All the time we’d been there, he’d been promising us that one day we’d take a drive, venture into the wilds of cultivated, second-home-dominated Gascony and climb the Dune du Pilat. ‘One day we’ll go and climb the biggest sand dune in Europe,’ he kept promising. And, on the day we eventually set off to conquer it, he was bombarding us with facts and figures.

‘It’s five hundred metres wide and nearly three kilometres long.’ He was behaving as if he’d built the fucking thing himself, with a bucket and spade. ‘And it’s a hundred and ten metres above sea level.’

‘What’s that in old money?’ I asked. It didn’t sound that high, although it turned out to be a tough climb in the summer heat.

Maggie wasn’t sure whether to come or not, and by the time I was halfway up I thought her deciding against had been the right decision.

‘That’s about three hunded and sixty feet,’ Paddy converted for us and, looking at Conrad, added, ‘So if we took a step every second we’d be up there in six minutes, but it’s a bit harder than that.’

Conrad ignored him and Anton muttered under his breath, ‘He’s not a fucking mathematical genius.’

I knew this was the first time Yasmin and Anton had been on a holiday with other families, and Anton was almost as wary of people’s reactions to their gangly autistic teenage son as Conrad was of the rest of us. Paddy was the worst, in all honesty. I mean, he was the host and he’s a mate and he meant well, but he was clearly expecting some sort of savant, and had decided to welcome Rain Man into his holiday home. When he actually got a strange, surly, non-communicative, angry teenager (OK, so that makes him sound normal and without being rude I can only say he’s not fucking normal), Paddy decided to ignore this and carry on as if it was Rain Man he was trying to enthuse with the proportions of his great big sandcastle.

It was the first time we’d been away with other families, too – new to children, new to the shared family holiday – and it was driving me a bit mad myself. It was like living in a shared house or student accommodation – apt, as we’d all been students together, but irritating, and starting to get to me by Dune Day.

‘Oh, no!’ There was drama in the way she said it. ‘Who finished all the chocolate spread?’

Isobel had asked this over breakfast and Maggie had confessed she’d given it to Iris the evening before, with a banana, for her pudding. ‘I’m sorry,’ she’d apologised – unnecessarily, I thought. ‘There’s a jar of Nutella in the cupboard?’

‘It’s for Harvey,’ Isobel had retorted. She was making him toast. ‘He’s got a severe nut allergy.’

‘Oh, yes. I’m so sorry,’ Maggie apologised again. ‘I didn’t think.’

‘There’s jam,’ I’d said.

‘Harvey doesn’t like jam,’ she’d retorted, and I’d bitten back my urge to say ‘chill’ the way the kids at school do, in their pared-down, text- and social media-influenced language. I ask my students their opinion of Beckett and they say, ‘Like.’ I read them a hilarious passage and rather than actually laughing they say, ‘Lol.’ It infuriates me.

So I didn’t tell Isobel to chill. Instead, I raised my eyebrows at Maggie, who shrugged, as if not particularly bothered.

Later, when we were all getting ready to go, Isobel’s children were somehow still central to the proceedings.

‘Ben, would you mind shoving this lot in the car?’ Sally had asked me, nodding towards a steadily growing stash of picnic food.

‘Ah, the female imperative,’ Paddy had joked. ‘Sally uses it all the time. “Would you mind” meaning “Do it – or else”.’

‘And Paddy… would you mind buttoning it and trying to get everyone out of the house?’

‘I’m worried about Gabriella,’ Isobel had announced in a way that served to dampen the general air of excitement, especially from her boys. ‘She’s not well enough to come. I think I ought to stay here with her.’

‘Are you coming or not?’ Vincent sounded slightly miffed.

Isobel always seemed to be fussing about one of the kids, but it was usually Gabriella or Vincent. Harvey just got on with it, while the others had ways of demanding her attention.

Eric seemed to note the slight tone of pique in his voice.

‘Yes, come, Bel,’ he had urged Isobel. ‘She can stay if she’s not keen.’

‘I just don’t think it’s a good idea to leave her by herself.’

‘Why not? She’s fifteen!’ I snapped.

But Maggie was more understanding. Jesus, if Maggie wasn’t always so understanding, maybe things would be different now.

‘I think I’ll stay here,’ she said. ‘It sounds like quite a climb, even without having to carry a baby.’