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Narcissistic Abuse, Gaslighting, & Codependency Recovery
Protect Yourself Against Dark Psychology Tactics, Recognize Emotionally Abusive People, and Spot Manipulation to End Toxic Relationships.
Narcissistic Abuse & Codependency
Gaslighting
Eric Holt
Copyright © 2023 by Eric Holt
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Narcissistic Abuse & Codependency
A Comprehensive Recovery Guide for Gaslighting and Narcissism, with Strategies to Identify, Disarm, and Manage Narcissistic and Abusive Relationships.
Eric Holt
Contents
Introduction
On Facebook, I have seen numerous posts about people caving in to exploitation by others. Examples include continuing toxic relationships because of guilt about being “cold-hearted,” lending money that is not repaid, and doing favors for others that are not ultimately beneficial.
Codependency is an intimate dance between codependents and narcissistic personality types. Let me share my favorite codependent joke to help you better understand codependency.
Two codependents have sex. In the afterglow, one asks the other, “Well, it was good for you; how was it for me”? Codependents don’t have positive relationships with themselves. They often choose the needs of others over their own. This is not good.
Additionally, narcissists have an unhealthy relationship with themselves. They placed their interests first. They take advantage of others and relationships for personal gain without regret or sorrow. They fail to recognize their role in wrongdoing and shift the blame to others.
It is easy to understand how codependents and narcissists become entangled. It resembles the fitting together of two puzzle pieces. One is the easier target for the other. However, there is more of a relationship.
It is discovered that this interaction has familial ties. You are more likely to develop codependency or narcissism yourself if you have one narcissistic parent. The same is true if you have two narcissistic parents.
Codependency recovery enables a person to begin establishing boundaries and challenging the narcissist. All humans find it extremely difficult to imagine someone who is completely incapable of feeling empathy or being able to learn from past mistakes. A codependent's primary mistake is assuming the best about the narcissistic partner because it is difficult to imagine how someone could be so unforgiving and selfish. Thus, the dynamic starts.
The good news for the codependent is that there is still the possibility for healing once they fully appreciate how lacking in compassion the narcissist is—an attribute that characterizes us as humans. Codependents can work well with a therapist to make adjustments because they are ready to place the blame for issues on themselves. For the narcissist, not so. They are pathologically incapable of changing because they are trapped in their universe of non-blame. How can people change if they cannot recognize that they have a problem?
This book intends to provide helpful insights and techniques to help you recover from gaslighting and narcissism, with strategies to detect, disarm, and manage narcissistic and abusive relationships. If you’re ready to start your recovery path through personalized coaching and support, this book can help.
Break Free From Toxic Relationships—Reclaim Your Strength and Independence
Do you feel trapped in a cycle of narcissistic abuse and gaslighting, constantly questioning your reality and self-worth? Manipulative tactics like gaslighting can make each day a struggle, leaving you feeling drained and disconnected from who you truly are. Imagine the relief of finally understanding why these cycles persist—and, more importantly, how you can break free.
This struggle isn’t just about manipulation; it’s about holding onto your true self. When you’re constantly second-guessing your instincts, it’s easy to lose sight of your identity. Narcissists and abusers thrive on keeping you dependent and confused, using dark psychology to distort your reality and control your emotions. Recognizing these behaviors is the first step toward reclaiming your strength and independence.
The journey to empowerment begins with self-awareness. Our free “What Is Your Psychological Archetype?” quiz reveals the hidden traits that shape your responses, behaviors, and relationships. By understanding your psychological archetype, you’ll gain clarity on why certain relationships pull you in and learn how to set boundaries that protect your well-being.
Don’t let another day slip by in doubt and confusion. Take the quiz now to start your journey toward recovery and self-empowerment. quiz.books4growth.com
Understanding Narcissistic Abuse And Codependency
The terms codependence and narcissism are familiar to many of us. Codependency is when two people are entangled in a life where they depend on one another and suffer from emotional distress. A narcissistic partner is self-centered, arrogant and lacks empathy for their partner.
In this chapter, we will discuss narcissistic abuse in greater detail. We’ll also look at codependency, a natural complement to narcissistic abuse.
What Is Narcissistic Abuse?
Narcissistic abuse is a method of emotional abuse in which the perpetrator only cares about himself and may exploit their partner’s actions and words to control their mood and behavior. The effects of narcissistic abuse can differ depending on how long a person can handle these relationships. The effects might be minor or severe, and while some survivors recover, others may experience lasting damage.
Narcissists often project their emotions onto other people because these emotions bring them pain. They might have grown up with narcissistic carers, suffered abuse, or went through terrible experiences that affected their childhood. This does not, however, justify the mental or physical abuse perpetrated upon their victims.
Signs Of Narcissistic Abuse
Whether platonic, familial, or romantic, narcissistic abuse manifests itself in relationships in various ways. To establish or maintain control over the relationship or marriage, narcissists can use various strategies to shatter a person’s sense of reality and confidence. They could make you feel crazy, making you less likely to ask friends and relatives for support. A narcissist can abuse someone sexually, emotionally, mentally, physically, financially, or otherwise.
The following are 25 indicators of narcissistic abuse:
Gaslighting
Narcissistic gaslighting involves intentionally leading someone to doubt their understanding of reality or think they’re mentally ill. Narcissists will accomplish this by using precise, targeted gaslighting language.
You no longer feel like the person you used to be; you feel like everything you do is wrong; you always believe it’s your fault when things go wrong; you feel less confident and more anxious than you did previously; you often wonder if you’re being too sensitive; you often doubt whether your response to your partner is appropriate; you apologize frequently; and you have a sense that something’s wrong but are unable to pinpoint what it is.
Verbal & Emotional Abuse
A narcissist often emotionally or verbally abuses you to maintain control and further undermine you. Behavior that is intended to hurt you is what defines emotional abuse. This may appear as lying, threatening to harm you, or calling you stupid. Name-calling and insults are examples of verbal abuse.
Projection
Narcissistic projection entails blaming the victim for one’s problems rather than accepting responsibility. For instance, a narcissistic abuser would claim that their partner lied when, in fact, they had lied (this is known as DARVO, or deny, attack, reverse victim and offender). Or they accuse a partner of wrongdoing when they haven’t. This confuses.
Attempts To Keep You Away From Your Loved Ones
Narcissists make you dependent on them by cutting you off from your friends and family. They can control you if they cut you off from your support network. They can claim they don’t like your friends or family, complain that you spend too much time with them, or disparage their behavior or interactions with you to influence how you feel.
Physical Violence Threats
Narcissists often experience anger, although this emotion does not always translate into physical aggression. Narcissists can use threats of harm as coercion to prevent you from leaving or seeing your family. They frighten you by threatening to use violence to keep getting what they want. They might say something like, “You'll regret leaving! Or, "I'll punch you if you try to go out with your friends tonight."
Regular Criticism And Insults
One of narcissists’ tactics is making you feel dependent on them as a means of control and manipulation. They will degrade you and others to appear and feel superior to everyone else. They can never be wrong and must always feel superior to others to avoid appearing "stupid."
Censorship
When you are in a relationship with a narcissist, you may want to tread carefully around them to prevent provoking an angry reaction. This could manifest as self-censorship or shutting down your feelings and thoughts to appease the narcissist and prevent aggressive behaviors that may arise if there is a dispute. The victim becomes helpless due to this censorship, perpetuating the narcissist's dominance and control cycle.
Creating Fear For Their Reactions
More than enough fear of a rage outburst, bodily harm, or public humiliation can induce someone to learn how to prevent these events. The unpredictable and inconsistent nature of narcissistic behavior might increase anxiety levels. Narcissists enjoy playing this game because it enables them to achieve their goals.
Strategically Pleasing Others
People pleasers are not often associated with narcissists. However, narcissists will purposefully appease others if it makes them feel good, looks good in front of others, or allows them to advance in society. Additionally, this lessens their sense of shame and boosts their ego.
History Of Abuse In Past Relationships
Abuse and narcissism are often not isolated events. Both narcissists and their victims often have a history of abuse, which typically keeps them in these relationships. Victims may ignore red flags because they are weak, while narcissists are more likely to see them. A narcissist may have also picked up abusive habits as a kid and used them today.
Lack Of Compassion
Narcissistic relationships often fail because of a lack of empathy or the capacity to experience and express emotions. In a healthy relationship, each partner shows consideration for the other. The non-narcissistic partner in a narcissistic relationship won't feel loved and will show signs of misery and loneliness.
Excusing Or Disregarding Their Negative Actions
Narcissists often justify why harming or shaming someone is acceptable and never accept responsibility for their actions. Often, their victim will accept responsibility for them or offer justifications for why they acted in that manner in the first place. For instance, a victim might respond, "They're just stressed out right now," or "You're not as familiar with them as I am."
Changing Everything Into A Contest
A person with NPD needs to be in the spotlight and be right. The narcissist seeks a way to undermine and compete with you rather than lifting you and expressing gratitude for your significant successes. This keeps the cycle of their ego-inflation and disregard for your needs going.
Love Bombing
Love bombing means demonstrating care and attention to influence someone. Victims may experience internal turmoil and bewilderment as a result. The narcissist will employ love bombing to keep the person in their relationship by manipulating them into becoming their next supply source. The process of "love bombing" is severe, and the narcissist may overshare or push you to make a hasty commitment.
Breach Of Privacy
Narcissists will employ all control tactics to guarantee they are constantly in the driver's seat. They will constantly inquire as to your whereabouts, companions, and schedule. To keep an eye on you, they might inquire about your passcodes or break into your email.
Superior And Haughty Attitude
A narcissist's inflated sense of self-importance leaves little time or room for anyone else, making the other person feel isolated in the relationship. Because narcissists cannot establish connections with people, the other party often feels unheard or disregarded in relationships. You will eventually learn to hide your emotions or open up about what's going on in your life.
Mistrust-Building Outside Of The Relationship
A narcissist will gradually distance you from your supporters to completely control you and all you do. Typically, this begins subtly with little criticism from your family or friends. These actions will become more extreme until you believe your support network is not looking out for your interests. As a result, the victim becomes even more isolated, dependent, and alone.
Increased Feeling Of Entitlement
Narcissists anticipate being treated differently. If you don't give in to all of their demands and wishes, they'll start acting out. You can get the "cold shoulder" or the "silent treatment," or you might experience teasing or physical violence.
Possessive Behaviors
Narcissists are experts at controlling people's emotions. Your thoughts and desires will be subject to the control of a manipulative narcissist. Gaslighting is the most typical manipulation, but future promises and emotional blackmail are other possibilities. Confusion, low self-esteem, worry, shame, and guilt are all effects of manipulation. Additionally, you can be persuaded to stay in bed, skip work, have sex, or give the narcissist money.
Adopting A Victim Mentality
The narcissist turns to the victim card when all else fails. This is done to win people over and further manage behavior. Although narcissists may have a strong, dominant personality, a 2020 study found that they often exhibit victimhood. They will play the victim whenever criticized to gain more attention and make themselves seem helpless. Blaming their outside environment allows the narcissist to escape accountability for their actions.
Attempting To Control You
Controlling behaviors start subtle or subdued at first in a relationship with a narcissist so as not to scare you away. As they try to exert more influence over you over time, the controlling behaviors will get worse. The more power they have over you, the more they gain what they desire.
Hoovering
Hoovering, commonly after a round of silent treatment, refers to "sucking" someone back into a relationship. Emotional blackmail has also been used to describe hoovering. The narcissist will change their strategy if they believe they are losing control. They will affirm you, become close to you, or cheer you up. The narcissist resumes abusive behaviors when things improve, and the victim believes they have changed.
Taking Over The Discussion
Narcissists enjoy gush-worthy self-promotion. They will lie outright and fabricate information to make themselves appear superior to others or exaggerate their successes. Your achievements are not relevant, and they are not even anything people are interested in. Talking about your accomplishments will make a narcissist jealous and insecure. They'll interrupt you or steer the conversation away from the subject. They'll say negative things about you or fabricate lies to minimize your achievements.
Neglecting Your Boundaries
Complete disrespect for boundaries is a red flag. It's common for couples to spend time apart and set boundaries for their daily routines, bedtimes, and meals. A narcissist will disregard and overstep your limits in an additional effort to exert control over you and foster codependency.
Exploitation
Other people in a narcissist's life aim to satisfy their wants. Without feeling guilty or ashamed, they will exploit others. They do not consider how their acts may influence others, which causes their victims to feel abandoned and rejected.
Codependency - The Perfect Match For Narcissistic Abuse
Since codependency is not listed in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition (DSM-5), it is difficult to describe and is not regarded as a mental health problem.
Codependency is a pattern of behavior brought on by stress that controls how a person interacts with others and how she enables them to influence her. The codependent obsesses over and attempts to dominate the other person.
Codependency is not just a problem in relationships. Codependency wounds have an impact on our mental health and personal growth. Don't be misled. We don't believe that it's our fault at all. Codependency is a survival strategy that enabled us to survive our dysfunctional family upbringing. However, that shift came at a cost to our authenticity, originality, and future quality of life.
Who Are Codependents?
Some might believe that codependency only occurs in weak individuals despite the above criteria. That is completely untrue. Anyone can develop codependency given the right circumstances, especially if you've experienced neglect or abuse as a child.
The term "codependent" was first used to refer to those who put out fires and keep people outside of their loved one's environment from learning about the loved one's destructive behavior, such as alcoholism.
Simply put, a codependent supports another person's bad behavior. Codependency is a "relationship addiction" since it affects a person's capacity to have a fulfilling and amicable relationship through emotional and behavioral patterns. The attraction between narcissists and codependents can be alluring, but it may be harmful. Don't lose hope; you can take precautions.
People who have codependent and narcissistic traits are often attracted to one another.
An initially narcissistic personality may be appealing due to, among other qualities, charisma and confidence. A codependent person may first come across as compassionate and generous in addition to other desirable personal qualities.
This couple may click for several reasons, including their desire to feel needed. Continuous giving is a trait of codependents while taking is a trait of narcissists. Although these two people have much in common, their differences could make their connection toxic or unpleasant.
A relationship may become unbalanced if you discover that you have codependent tendencies while a person you care about has narcissistic traits. However, setting limits and attempting counseling can help resolve these issues, possibly even before they arise. Practicing mindfulness is the first step to improving your relationship with yourself and someone you care about.
The Impact Of Narcissistic Abuse On The Self
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