Quick Wit - Fight Verbal Attacks - Simone Janson - E-Book

Quick Wit - Fight Verbal Attacks E-Book

Simone Janson

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Quick Wit - Fight Verbal Attacks

Be self-confident, learn non-violent communication emotional intelligence & resilience in conflicts, handle manipulation & the power of rhetoric

Simone Janson (ed.)

Published at Best of HR – Berufebilder.de®

Table of Contents
Introduction: How this book supports you
Add-on, press reviews and customer feedback
Content of the book
Structure of the book
Information as desired and additional material to the book!
Personal eBooks and eCourses
Ready to react in fits of rage: sovereign silence and enjoy // By Dr. Matthias Nöllke
Practice quick wit and rhetoric: dissing like professionals // By Dr. Cornelia Topf
Success factor Humor at work: How to promote laughter career - 7 tips // By Jumi Vogler
Nasty questions in job interview and job interview: 5 tips for optimal preparation // By Ute Blindert
Communicate to success in the job: 3 X 3 tips against career torpedoes // By Dr. Cornelia Topf
React correctly to criticism: Allow feedback // By Chris Wolf, Heinz Jiranek
Ready to beat instead of self-doubt: confidently counter feedback! // By Simone Janson
Quick-wittedness: Skilfully reacting to unfair comments [2 checklists & 5-minute recipe] // By Simone Janson
Dealing with conflicts with flying colors: Breaking through blockades // By Dr. Matthias Nöllke
Quick-wittedness First aid instead of a red button: anger is like swallowing poison // By Peter Kensok, Petra Schächtele-Philipp
Closing Remarks
Authors Overview
Dr. Matthias Nöllke
Dr. Cornelia Topf
Jumi Vogler
Ute Blindert
Chris Wolf
Heinz Jiranek
Petra Schächtele-Philipp
Peter Kensok
Simone Janson
About the publisher Best of HR - Berufebilder.de®
Notes on translation


The German National Library lists this publication in the German National Bibliography; detailed bibliographic data are available on the Internet at https://dnb.dnb.de.

ISBN of the German eBook edition: 9783965963528

ISBN of the English eBook edition: 9783965963535

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Quick Wit - Fight Verbal Attacks

1st edition, 21.11.2020

© 2020 Verlag Simone Janson | Best of HR – Berufebilder.de®

Duesseldorf, Germany

Concept, editing, graphic design & layout: Simone Janson

Cover design with Canva

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Introduction: How this book supports you

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What this book can do for you: You support certified climate protection projects, quickly receive compact information and checklists from experts (overview in the table of contents) as well as advice that has been tried and tested in practice, which, thanks to the add-on, lead step by step to success. Reacting confidently to verbal attacks and in embarrassing situations is just an unfulfilled dream for many people. But authentic self-confidence, a confident demeanor and a relaxed approach to criticism can be learned; self-love is the key to success here. At the same time it is also important to recognize interpersonal digital power games as well as communicative tricks and tactics of other people and to understand manipulative communication strategies. This book aims to encourage people to react quickly to attacks.

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Ready to react in fits of rage: sovereign silence and enjoy // By Dr. Matthias Nöllke

How do I behave when my opponent foams with anger? We will show you how to defuse the anger, protect yourself and ensure a strong finish.

The "silence"

Silence and quickness, how does that fit together? Well, to the quickness also belongs that one can hold the mouth at the right time. But have we not always asserted that flawlessness breaks through speechlessness?

Do you make quick wits? And in some situations it was important to say something at all? Well, that remains valid. However, in some situations it may be better to remain silent. This is not pure speechlessness, but a sovereign silence.

You decide when to answer

"Keeping silent" is a perfectly adequate response to an outburst of anger. “What you can't talk about, you have to be silent about it,” says the philosopher Ludwig Wittgenstein. This also applies here: as long as the other is romping around, there is no point in taking the floor. What do you sensibly want to say? He'll turn your neck on all good reasons immediately, so hold back your justification a little longer. Even if the other person asks you, “What do you think of that?”, You do not necessarily have to answer.

They rather wait until the appropriate opportunity arises. It is always favorable when the first objectification becomes apparent. So if your opposite is to talk about what happened. Then you can reply if you want. You do not have to.

The longer you are silent, the more helpless the other becomes

It's a strange phenomenon, but if you really don't say anything, the other one remains alone in his anger and gradually calms down. It is important that you also "remain silent" in body language, that is, take a neutral position. If you are slumped in your chair and your eyes are down, you cannot expect to "silence" the other.

Example: Scene of a marriage

The Trautmann couple has a violent marital dispute. She screams at him, showering him with accusations: "You are the most ruthless bastard!", "You only think of yourself!", "You took advantage of me!", "You lied to and cheated on me!", "Why do you me that? ”

Herr Trautmann does not reply, sits in his armchair and calmly drinks a glass of beer. "How can you just sit there and drink your beer?" No reaction. "I don't mean anything to you at all?" Mr. Trautmann looks at his wife and still says nothing. "Now talk finally!" She shouts at him. Not a word. "Why don't you say anything?" - "Are you ready?" He asks unaffected.

They let the others fidget

It is with hands to grasp: The one who determines the situation is the one who is silent. As long as you do not give an answer, give no opinion, the other can do nothing. He is becoming more and more helpless.

Take the counter test and imagine that the “silent” spoke in the last two examples. You shouldn't have had to say much to increase the force of the outburst. With your reaction you would only have given the fire new food.

Example: marriage counter sample

You: "You're the most ruthless bastard!" - He: "I think you're exaggerating now!" - You: “Oh, I'm exaggerating? I think I'm more of an understatement! ” - He: “But listen…” - You: “The way you behave! So ruthless, so selfish! ” - He: “I admit…” - You: “You cheated on me and took advantage of it!” - He: "But you are completely blameless, right?" - You: “Oh, that's probably the height! You betray me - and I should also be to blame for it! ”

Sovereign silence and enjoy

The metered "silence" can not only serve well in the case of outbursts of anger. In many situations in which you are expected to respond promptly, silence can unsettle the other party. For example:

Someone makes you an offer. Their silence signals neither approval nor rejection. Your counterpart is unsure: Should he improve his offer?

An employee reports on a project. Of course, he describes everything in the rosiest colors. You are suspicious and silent. By doing so, you are signaling: We are not finished yet, tell more. The employee admits that there were a few problems ...

They take over the management of a group. They do not make any specifications, but simply wait for things to develop.

Caution, danger of escalation!

The "silence" can be extremely grueling for others. On the one hand, this is what makes this method so incredibly powerful, on the other hand, there is also a considerable risk. If the other has the impression during a dispute that he can no longer get at you, then he will try to elicit a reaction from you.