The Inner Life of the Counselor E-Book

Robert J. Wicks

• Herausgeber: John Wiley & Sons
• Kategorie: Fachliteratur
• Sprache: Englisch

Seitenzahl: 269

Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2012

Beschreibung

One of the greatest gifts helping professionals can share with others is a sense of their own peace. However, retaining and renewing a sense of a healthy perspective requires not only self-care strategies, but also an awareness of basic profound, yet simple, wisdom themes. The Inner Life of the Counselor presents classic and contemporary wisdom that examines and explores each of these themes in a way that both professional and non-professional helpers will find revealing and meaningful in understanding their own journey. Informed by the author's over thirty years of experience as a therapist, mentor, and clinical supervisor of professional helpers?as well as by his expertise in resiliency and prevention of secondary stress?The Inner Life of the Counselor thoughtfully looks at those elements that encourage sustained personal growth and professional development, such as self-care, stress management, and mindfulness. Lively, practical, and marked by an elegant sense of simplicity, this nurturing book demonstrates how exploring the inner life can lead counselors to new wisdom and inner peace?not only for themselves but also for those who come to them for relief and insight. It is an invitation to pause, reflect, renew, and navigate one of contemporary society's most challenging yet rewarding professions.

Leseprobe

Table of Contents

Cover

Title

Copyright

Dedication

In that Place of Sanity: The Inner Life of the Counselor

AUTHOR’S NOTE

Chapter 1: Creating Space Within

AUTHENTICITY AND TRANSPARENCY

HUMILITY IN SILENCE AND SOLITUDE

Chapter 2: Valuing and Accessing Alonetime

ALONETIME

RECOGNIZING, HONORING, AND APPRECIATING MORE FULLY THE SPACES IN DAILY LIFE

APPRECIATING THE CRUMBS OF ALONETIME

WHAT ARE SOME OF THE CRUMBS OF ALONETIME?

Chapter 3: Recognizing the Cues of Subtle “Mindlessness”

APPRECIATING WAYS TO BE MORE MINDFUL SO WE CAN MORE EASILY RECOGNIZE WHEN WE ARE NOT

APPRECIATING LIFE IN THE SLOW LANE: SOME ADDITIONAL INSIGHTS FROM PSYCHOLOGISTS, SPIRITUAL FIGURES, WRITERS, AND POETS

RECOGNIZING THE FRUITS OF BEING MINDFULLY CENTERED

GUIDELINES FOR INNER FREEDOM

Chapter 4: Learning the Art of Leaning Back

THE CAPACITY TO BE ALONE: RECOGNIZING WE ARE NOT USED TO SILENCE, MUCH LESS SOLITUDE

THE PSYCHOLOGICAL CAPACITY TO BE ALONE

WHAT ACTUALLY IS TRUE AWARENESS AND MINDFULNESS?

PAYING ATTENTION DIFFERENTLY IN SOLITUDE

RELEASING PREVIOUSLY UNACCOUNTED-FOR ENERGY

CREATING FAMILIAR PLACES OF SOLITUDE

SIMPLE APPROACHES TO FORMAL MINDFULNESS MEDITATION

INCLUDING EVERYTHING

GOING ON RETREAT: PERIODS OF DRAMATIC SOLITUDE

Chapter 5: Experiencing a New Type of Counselor Self-Nurturance

COUNSELOR SELF-NURTURANCE

PATIENCE AND KNOWING HOW TO PACE YOURSELF

TRANSPARENCY

OPENNESS TO, AND THE RELEASE OF, THE CHAINS OF YOUR HURTS

VALUING FRESHNESS AND FEEDING INNER SIMPLICITY THROUGH GREATER MINDFULNESS

HELPFUL PERSONAL DEBRIEFING: MODELING STILLNESS WHEN CONFRONTED WITH OUR EMOTIONS AND IMMATURE MOTIVATIONS

EMPLOYING RITUALS OF INNER RENEWAL

WASTING LESS ENERGY ON BEING JUDGMENTAL

HAVING AN APPRECIATION OF PERSONAL GIFTS AS WELL AS RELATED GROWING EDGES AT ANY GIVEN POINT

SEEING UNPRODUCTIVE VIEWS AND BEHAVIORS FOR WHAT THEY ARE AND ADDRESSING THEM ACCORDINGLY

BEING CONTINUALLY GRATEFUL FOR THE WONDER, AWE, AND JOY OF BEING A COUNSELOR

Chapter 6: Alonetime as a University: Honoring the Wisdom of Mentors of Mindfulness

COMMITMENT TO ACT

WHY SEEK SUCH A PSYCHOLOGICALLY COSTLY RELATIONSHIP?

WHAT ARE THESE PEOPLE LIKE?

OFFERS ACCEPTANCE AND SPACE TO THOSE SEEKING THEIR ASSISTANCE

POSSESS AN ENCOURAGING AND CONTAGIOUS APPEAL

EXEMPLIFY EXTRAORDINARINESS, HUMILITY, AND PRACTICALITY

OFFERS PERSPECTIVE, EVEN IN THE DARKNESS

A SENSE OF UN-SELF-CONSCIOUSNESS

ARE YOU ABLE TO BE AT HOME IN THE NOW?

LIVING WITH THE QUESTIONS AND INSTILLING PATIENCE IN OURSELVES

MENTORS OF MINDFULNESS ALSO DON’T GET IN THE WAY OF WHAT IS IMPORTANT

MINDFUL OPENNESS AND EFFORT: GUIDING LIGHTS TO NEW FREEDOM

THE CHARISM OF THE GUIDE

PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE

Appendix: Retreat and Reflect: Enjoying a Fresh Experience of Your Own Inner Life

MENTORS OF ALONETIME AND READINESS

APPRECIATING OUR CENTER OF GRAVITY

SIMPLICITY AND CLARITY

A POSITIVE ANTISOCIAL ACT

BALANCE

DISCOVERING SILENT SPACES

FINDING THE CENTRAL PRINCIPLE

TRANSPARENCY

A PERSON WITHOUT GUILE

LIFE AS A PILGRIMAGE

A QUIET WALK

PERSPECTIVE AND INTRIGUE

DEVELOPING YOUR OWN CULTURE OF SILENCE

STILLNESS, IMPERMANENCE, AND AWE

FACING OUR MATERIALISM

HONORING A SABBATH IN OUR LIVES

UNPLEASANT SURFACINGS ON THE ROAD TO GREATER FREEDOM

DIFFERING VIEWS OF SOLITUDE

ALONETIME AS AN OPPORTUNITY TO RELEASE OURSELVES FROM COMPARISON

LOVING FAMILIAR PLACES OF SOLITUDE WITHIN

RELISHING PRIVATE SPACE

GENTLENESS, A SENSE OF HUMOR, AND BEING IN THE NOW

SIMPLICITY AND MEANING-MAKING

SOLITUDE’S RENEWAL

QUIET RECOGNITION AND NEW COMMITMENT

SOLITUDE AND COMMUNITY

RESPECTING YOUR PLACES OF SOLITUDE

OUR SPACE IS THEIR SPACE

SOLITUDE: THE CHALLENGE AND THE GIFT

MELTING THE EGO

A Brief Final Comment on a Counselor’s Inner Renewal in Alonetime

About the Author

Recommended Readings

References

Bibliography

Permissions

Acknowledgments

Author Index

Subject Index

End User License Agreement

Guide

Cover

Table of Contents

Begin Reading

List of Tables

Chapter 3: Recognizing the Cues of Subtle “Mindlessness”s

Table 3.1 Benefits of Movements Toward Greater Mindfulness

Table 3.2 Guidelines for Inner Freedom

Chapter 5: Experiencing a New Type of Counselor Self-Nurturance

TABLE 5.1 Elements of Counselor Self-Nurturance

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The Inner Life of the Counselor

Robert J. Wicks

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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data:

Wicks, Robert J.

The inner life of the counselor / Robert J. Wicks.

p. cm.

Includes bibliographical references and index.

ISBN 978-1-118-19374-7 (hardback); ISBN 978-1-118-22762-6 (ebk)

ISBN 978-1-118-23340-5 (ebk); ISBN 978-1-118-26526-0 (ebk)

1. Mental health personnel—Life skills guides. 2. Mental health personnel—Job stress. 3. Mental health personnel and patient. I. Title.

RC440.8.W53 2012

616.89—dc23

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