Designed for Joy E-Book

• Herausgeber: Crossway
• Kategorie: Religion und Spiritualität
• Sprache: Englisch

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Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2015

Beschreibung

"Male and female he created them." —Genesis 1:27 It's one of the most important—and controversial—topics of our time. God created men and women in his image—equal in value and complementary in roles. These distinctive roles are not the vestiges of a bygone era, but integral to God's timeless good design for humanity. Designed for Joy includes fresh contributions from fourteen young leaders, casting a unified vision for Christian manhood and womanhood. Whether discussing the significance of gender, the truth about masculinity and femininity, the blessing of purity, or the challenge of raising children in a confusing world, this practical resource challenges us to embrace God's good design—for his glory and our joy.

Leseprobe

DESIGNED FOR JOY

How the Gospel Impacts Men and Women, Identity and Practice

EDITED BYJONATHAN PARNELL AND OWEN STRACHAN

FOREWORD BYJOHN PIPER

Designed for Joy: How the Gospel Impacts Men and Women, Identity and Practice

Copyright © 2015 by Desiring God

Published by Crossway 1300 Crescent Street Wheaton, Illinois 60187

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Designed for joy: how the gospel impacts men and women, identity and practice / edited by Jonathan Parnell and Owen Strachan; foreword by John Piper.

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1. Sex role—Religious aspects—Christianity. 2. Sex role—Biblical teaching. 3. Men (Christian theology) 4. Women—Religious aspects—Christianity. 5. Men (Christian theology)—Biblical teaching. 6. Women—Biblical teaching. I. Parnell, Jonathan, 1985– II. Strachan, Owen.

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Crossway is a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers.

To John Piper and Wayne Grudem

Contents

Foreword by John PiperIntroduction: How Does the Gospel Shape Manhood and Womanhood?Owen Strachan  1  Being a Man and Acting Like OneJonathan Parnell  2  Masculinity Handed DownJoe Rigney  3  The Happy Call to Holistic ProvisionDavid Mathis  4  The Feminine FocusTrillia Newbell  5  The Nature of a Woman’s NurtureGloria Furman  6  What Is Submission?Christina Fox  7  Every Day GodwardTony Reinke  8  Discipline for Our GoodAndy Naselli  9  Training Our Kids in a Transgender WorldDenny Burk10 Good News for the Not-Yet-MarriedMarshall Segal11 Purity We Can Count OnGrant and GraceAnna Castleberry12 My Recovery from FeminismCourtney Reissig13 Immature Manhood and the Hope of Something BetterBrandon SmithAfterword: The Glad ConvictionJonathan ParnellContributorsGeneral IndexScripture Index

Foreword

I asked to write this foreword. I had hoped to endorse this book and help spread the word through Twitter. But then I took a PDF on the plane to Brazil and could not put it down. So I told Marshall Segal, one of the authors, who told the editors, “If you’ll take me, I’d like to write the foreword.”

The reason for my eagerness is partly nostalgia, partly thankfulness, partly amazement, partly admiration, and partly hope.

The editors and most of the authors of this book were not yet teenagers when Wayne Grudem and I were editing “the big blue book” called Recovering Biblical Manhood and Womanhood from 1988 to 1991. So to see this project emerge twenty-five years later with a shared and refined vision is like seeing our baby graduate from college. But of course, my nostalgia is no reason for you to read the book. So let’s turn to what matters more.

Rising in me, as I read, was a high sense of thankfulness to God for the insight, wisdom, giftedness, biblical faithfulness, and courage of these younger authors. The vision of manhood and womanhood they are trumpeting is biblical, beautiful, and sadly obnoxious to many in society. That is, it fits with faith in Christ and infuriates those who love the atmosphere of self-actualizing autonomy—what editor Owen Strachan calls “narcissistic optimistic deism.” So I am thankful for the valor of these men and women, who are willing to swim against unbiblical currents.

My amazement is that decades into this struggle, there is such a widespread and robust embrace of the beautiful biblical vision of complementary manhood and womanhood. This may strike you as an evidence of small faith on my part. Perhaps it is. But if you had tasted the vitriol of our audiences in the 1970s and 1980s, you might understand.

In the late seventies, we were called “obscene” for suggesting that God’s Word taught distinct, complementary roles for men and women based on manhood and womanhood, not just competency. Therefore, the breadth and maturity and creativity and joyfulness of the complementarian crowd today triggers happy amazement in me.

Then, when I turned to these actual chapters, I read in admiration. These folks are not only good thinkers and faithful interpreters of the Bible; they are also gifted writers. The reading was not just informative and inspiring; it was a pleasure. I love to think of what these men and women will be writing in thirty years. If it’s this good now, what will it be then?

Finally, I come away with hope. I am pushing to the end of my seventh decade. So I think a lot these days about what is in place for the advance of God’s saving purposes on the earth in the decades to come. Reading these voices gives me hope that God is wonderfully at work to exalt his great name long after I am gone.

I commend this book to you and pray that the beauty of the vision, and the courage to speak it, will spread—for the supremacy of God in all things, for the joy of all peoples through Jesus Christ.

John Piper Founder and Teacher desiringGod.org

Introduction

How Does the Gospel Shape Manhood and Womanhood?

Owen Strachan

The lips of the young woman quivered. Tears rolled down her face. Her angry father stared at her. “I thought you were the kind of girl who didn’t get into this sort of trouble,” he said. She looked back at him, confused and adrift: “I guess I don’t really know what kind of girl I am.”

This exchange came in Juno, a poignant film made a few years ago. It’s a quick scene, but it has stuck with me ever since. In this young woman’s reply, I heard the confusion of an entire generation. So many young men and young women don’t know who they are. They’ve never been taught what a man or a woman is. They may have seen terrible pain in their home, and they may have grown up without a father, or less commonly, without a mother. Or they might have had a father and a mother, but their home was compromised by sin in some way. The family didn’t eat together. The parents weren’t happy together. The children grew up without discipleship or investment.

This is 2015. Families are struggling. As one would expect, many young men and young women lack a road map—a script—for their lives. When you’re in this confusing and confused state, you don’t have answers to the most basic questions about your life. This is true of your fundamental identity, which includes your manhood or womanhood. What do I mean by this?

You Need to Know Who You Are

Many high schoolers, college students, and twentysomethings know they have a body (this is kind of obvious); further, they know they’re a boy or a girl, a man or a woman; and they know they want to follow Jesus. But they have little sense of how these realities intertwine. They don’t know what their gender, their sexuality, is for. So they’re tentative. They’re confused. Quietly, perhaps with some shame, they ask these kinds of questions in their own minds:

What is my purpose?Why do I have this body?What does it mean to be a man or a woman?

This book is intended to help you figure out who you were made to be. We want to give you an inspiring vision for your life as a young man or a young woman. We see that our society is training you to think wrongly about gender and sexuality. It’s telling you things like: there are no essential differences between men and women; you can change your gender if you want, and that’s totally fine; you can be attracted to whomever comes most naturally to you—boys can like boys, girls can like girls; and finally, there are no responsibilities or callings that come with being a man or a woman—you do whatever you like.

In this book, we’re going to show that these ideas are false and harmful. We’re going to offer true words and biblical counsel to you so you can know who you are and what you were created for. We will see that we are designed by God, and that his design brings us joy.

We’re not going to simply offer you “Ten Tips to Be the Manly Man’s Man, the Manliest of Them All” or “Five Ways to Make Doilies and Sing Nineteenth-Century Hymns at the Same Time.” We’re coming at all this from a fresh perspective. You can almost hear the can cracking open as you read these words. We want you to see that the gospel, the good news of Jesus’s saving death and life-giving resurrection, is the central fact, the most important part, of your life as a God-loving man or woman. The gospel saves us, remakes us, and helps us understand who we truly are and what we are called to be for God’s glory and our joy.

The gospel is what frees us from our sin. The gospel is what allows us to live to the full, our hearts soaring, our pulses pounding, our lives stretching before us, full of hope, full of meaning. With this in our minds, let’s now consider four ways that the gospel shapes us as men and women.

The Gospel Makes Sense of the Image of God

One of the foundational realities of human beings, men and women alike, is that we are made in the image of God. See Genesis 1:26–27, which reads:

Then God said, “Let us make man in our image, after our likeness. And let them have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over the livestock and over all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.”

So God created man in his own image,

in the image of God he created him;

male and female he created them.

In other words, we’re created in a special way to display the full-orbed grandeur of our Creator. We do this by creating, by thinking, by taking dominion, and by enjoying relationships with one another.

But even this awe-inspiring theological truth can be a bit abstract, can’t it? What role, we might wonder, do our bodies have to play in being the image of God?

Before we’re converted, we understand that we are either male or female. That’s well and good. But it’s only when we’re saved by the grace of almighty God that we truly begin to grasp the meaning of our bodies, our sexuality. We are created as men or as women to inhabit our manhood and womanhood to the glory of our Maker. He did not make us all the same. He loves diversity. He revels in it. He created a world that pulses with difference, that explodes with color, that includes roaring waterfalls and self-inflating lizards and rapt, at-attention meerkats. But humankind, man and woman, is the pinnacle of his creation.

In Christ, we understand that our manhood or womanhood is not incidental. It’s not unimportant. It is the channel through which we will give God glory all our days. We have been put here to “image” God. After conversion, we understand that we’re here to give evidence of his greatness. We do that in substantial part by receiving our God-given sexuality as a gift. God created us as “male and female,” not as something else. The passage above states three separate times that God “created” the man and woman, stressing God’s role in making the man and woman his image bearers. There is intentionality, wisdom, and purpose in the creation of Adam and Eve, as the gospel frees us to see.

Simply receiving and reveling in this reality is a matter of worship. It’s not complicated, but it is profound. I am a man or a woman designed in just this way by God, we should think to ourselves as we consider the body given us from above. In the same way that the Grand Canyon was created to show God’s power, and the skies his handiwork, as a man or a woman I was formed to display the beauty of his brilliant design. In our fallenness, we’re tempted to think that we have no greater reason to live, and that we’re only “dust in the wind,” as the famous song says. In truth, we are diamonds in the wilderness. We’re no genetic accident, no freakish outcome of history. We’re the special creation of God.

You could sum these thoughts up like this: as believers, we’re not Christian Teletubbies. We’re not gospel blobs. We’re not the redeemed androgynous. We are gospel-captivated men and gospel-captivated women. When converted, we come to understand that our bodies are given us as vessels by which to put God’s wisdom and intelligence and love on display.

Whether single or married, whether young or old, we have been given our manhood or womanhood as a blessing. Our bodies, with their distinctive designs, tell us that there is an exhilarating intelligence, and a grander story, behind our frame and form.

The Gospel Gives Us Power over Our Natural Weaknesses

The gospel is our fundamental marker of identity. The work of Christ applied to our hearts is such an unstoppable, unopposable force that it refigures us entirely. It’s as if our old boundary markers have completely fallen away, as Paul says: “For as many of you as were baptized into Christ have put on Christ. There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is no male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus” (Gal. 3:27–28). This text doesn’t mean that the gospel wipes out manhood and womanhood. It does mean that our fundamental reality in life is our identity in Jesus Christ.

This has immense practical value for us. As men and women, we might be tempted toward certain stereotypes. Some young men might think that being a man means bench-pressing 250 pounds, dunking a basketball, or fighting off bears with their bare hands in their spare time. (Actually, if you do that, you are pretty manly.) Some young women might think that being a woman means being sexually desirable, a lover of literature, and having a certain image. Both groups can know that we are easily tempted to find our manly and womanly identity in stereotypes. The gospel is bad news for our stereotypes. It tells us that men are self-sacrificial leaders, and that women are fearless followers of Christ.

We’re going to be pulled as men and women toward certain ungodly behaviors. Men today are told that they are idiots, little boys who never grow up. We see such immaturity in Adam’s initial failure to protect the woman God gave him. We also see his selfishness in his move to blame Eve for eating the forbidden fruit (Gen. 3:1–7, 12). Men are tempted by an array of sins, but they must know that the gospel is the dread foe of their laziness, selfishness, irresponsibility, and immaturity. The leaders of Scripture do not look kindly on immaturity. “Show yourself a man,” David says to Solomon (1 Kings 2:2). We men hear this call today. We recognize that Jesus has the same challenge for us—and has all the grace we need to meet it.

Women today are told that their value is in their looks, or their social skills, or their ability to dominate men. We see such a desire in Eve’s being deceived by the serpent and her post-fall desire to “rule over” her husband (Gen. 3:16). This is an ancient problem with modern consequences. Women are told today that they will find fulfillment and lasting happiness in being strong. They are urged to use their sexuality as a tool of empowerment. They are challenged to disdain femininity. Christian women will feel these and other temptations pull at them, but they must know that the gospel shows us a better way. It opens a door to a happier world, a world of joy. In Christ, the power of sin is overcome and the distinct beauty of womanhood is celebrated.

The world gives us false visions of happy manhood and fulfilled womanhood. It’s like the dinner plate that looked so good on your friend’s Instagram but tastes so bad on your plate. Selfish manhood and “fierce” womanhood are not too big for us, though; these visions of our lives are too small. Sin always looks like a monster but ends up like a mouse. It has no power over us. It has no hold on us. We don’t cower in the face of the world’s temptations. We laugh at them.

We scorn the principalities and powers of this age. You think lust and power are going to entice me? we say. Your vision of happiness is too small. Show me a picture of my life as a man or a woman that echoes into eternity and you’ll have my attention. In Christ, we have found something better than all the world throws at us. In him, we become the men or women we were designed to be.

The Gospel Shows Us the Goodness of Limits

I remember going to basketball camp as a youngster. Part of the expectation of basketball camp is that you will hear at least one speech per week telling you that if you just practice enough, you can be the next LeBron.

You may never have dribbled a basketball, but chances are you have heard something similar. We’ve all been told this kind of message over and over and over again: “You are amazing. You are a star! You can be whatever you want! There are no limits in life for you.” Many of us have heard of this formulation so many times that it’s second nature to us. We naturally assume it’s true.

This kind of thinking is embedded in modern culture. It’s not just a cheesy mantra, though. It’s a spiritual system in its own right. In my book Risky Gospel, I even give it a name: “narcissistic optimistic deism.” I think this is the new “moralistic therapeutic deism.” The basic view of narcissistic optimistic deism is this:

Life is fundamentally about me.I deserve for life to get better and to allow me to achieve all my dreams.God exists to bless me and make my dreams come true.

If this sounds like a Disneyfied Christianity, that’s because it is. All that’s missing is a little flying insect with a magic wand. A major outcome of this way of thinking is this: you end up believing that you don’t have any limits, and that if someone suggests that you do, that’s a bad thing. People who might offer constructive criticism are in reality “haters.” They’re in the wrong, and you’re in the right, because if your heart feels it and wants it, it must be good.

This perspective is disastrous for our spiritual health. It fails to account for our fallenness, our inherent sinfulness, which means that every part of us has been corrupted by the fall of Adam (see Isa. 64:6; Rom. 3:10–18). This perspective has influenced the way many people look at their bodies and lives. They say, “I can be whatever I want to be.” Being a man or a woman doesn’t end up meaning anything. There’s no structure or order to life.