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- Herausgeber: Books on Demand
- Kategorie: Ratgeber
- Sprache: Englisch
- Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2021
Almost all of us have experienced the end of a relationship in our lives. Either our partner left us, or we were the ones who left. Most of us probably experienced both. There is the possibility of getting back together. In this book we tell you how getting back together works. You will learn what you can do and what you should not do. We will take you on a journey, during which you will look at your life and your past relationship in a way you have probably not done this before.
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Content
Introduction
Immediate measures
The retreat phase
The attack phase
Literature
Introduction
Almost all of us have experienced the end of a relationship in our lives. Either our partner left us, or we were the ones who left. Most of us probably experienced both.
If we are the one someone broke up with, a world shatters. Even if we see the end of a relationship coming, we do not want to realise this at first. We feel sadness, pain, helplessness and suddenly even the otherwise rational-minded person is entangled in overwhelming sentimental feelings.
In such a situation we often do not know what to do. We are devastated. We are affected by the feelings that we have for our ex and by the pain associated with the separation. It is often as if with a partner leaving us, a part of us dies and we feel emptiness, frustration and helplessness.
We tend to refuse accepting reality or we beg the ex to come back to us. In such situation people are capable of the most desperate and irrational acts as they try to regain the love that has left. Unfortunately most attempts made in this state of uncontrolled emotions are not successful.
However, a break-up does not have to be final. Think about your circle of friends! Is there not the couple X & Y? Were they not separated once? And did they not come together again? Think of all the celebrities whose break-ups and reunions you can follow every week in the yellow press.
There is the possibility of getting back together. If your partner has left you, he or she does not want to be in a relationship with you at the moment. But if you want to be with him or her, there is the possibility of getting back together. In this book we tell you how getting back together works.
You will learn what you can do and what you should not do. We will take you on a journey, during which you will look at your life and your past relationship in a way you have probably not done this before.
Is such a book necessary?
If your partner just broke up with you, you may have already searched in bookshops and on the Internet for help. What did you notice? There is some serious literature available on the topic of separation. There is, however, little advice on how to reunite with the ex. There is some advice available on the Internet – typically for a lot of money. For even more money you might find magic rituals and the likes that are supposed to bring your ex back, but most certainly never do. You are currently experiencing a crisis. You go through a rough time in your life. Unfortunately, that makes some people receptive to various forms of charlatanism.
With our book, we offer you a comprehensive and compact guide on how getting back together with your ex is possible. We want to help you to find a way out of your current emotional struggles. This book is supposed to be a good companion for the coming weeks and months. And we sincerely hope that when you have finished reading this book, you will be glad that you did.
If you want to get back together with your ex and follow our advice, you may often get emotionally exhausted. You may often think that giving up may be the easiest way out. But if you follow the difficult path of our advice, you may be rewarded in the end.
One thing you have to bear in mind though: there is no guarantee that you will get back together with your ex. You have to realise this. However, you can improve your chances of achieving your goal if you follow certain strategies. These we will explain.
Whether they work in your particular case remains to be seen. The secret of getting back together is based on your calmness, self assurance and attractiveness. This is what we will work on.
Even if you will not get back together with your ex, we hope that from reading this book you will gain strength and confidence that will bring you a lot of success in future love matters and relationships.
How to deal with a break-up effectively? Our book starts with advising you what you should do during the first few days after a break-up and what you should avoid.
Furthermore, we would like to invite you on a journey that we call the retreat. You will find out exactly what it is supposed to mean in the corresponding chapter. You will avoid any contact with your ex for a while. During that time you will intensively reflect on your life and your past relationship.
That phase will be followed by what we call the attack. Here, we will help you to become active in order to win your ex back.
We hope that you enjoy reading and that our book helps you to get through a difficult period of your life, and that you will be content with the result of the journey you are about to take no matter what it will be.
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Immediate measures
There are things you must do immediately after the separation from your partner. They are of great importance. Your behaviour during the first few days after break-up has great significance for the further relationship between you and your ex.
Take time for yourself!
First of all, you must accept that you are currently in an extraordinary emotional situation. Accept your lovesickness and sorrow. Allow yourself time to mourn and to cry. It is perfectly fine. This will give you emotional relief. If you have the opportunity to do this, take a few days off. Spend time with friends and family.
Accept your lovesickness!
However, if you feel extremely bad, if you think of nothing else but your ex, if your consumption of alcohol or drugs has increased rapidly, then you must get professional help. Entrust yourself with a good friend and look for a doctor you can trust – a psychiatrist, a therapist or a coach.
As hard as it sounds, but try to enjoy the positive aspects of life as much as you possibly can. Pamper yourself with wellness, good food or some other pleasant things. Show yourself that you appreciate and love yourself.
Write down your thoughts and feelings!
Write down your thoughts and feelings. Write them in a diary or write letters to your ex. However, do not send any of your letters to him or her at this stage. This is an absolute no-go!
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The behaviour towards your ex
How should you react to your ex’ wish to break up your relationship? Follow below advice even if some items do not feel right to you at the moment:
Accept the break-up completely.
Express consent.
Do not try to get your ex back through emotional overreactions.
Do not whine!
Do not beg!
Do not stalk your ex with constant calls, e-mails, SMS or letters!
Do not let your ex know how bad you feel and how desperate you are.
Do not try to convince your ex with arguments to change his or her mind.
Do not tell your ex how much you love him or her.
All of these reactions would be completely natural and instinctive, but they are all absolutely counterproductive at present and would only increase the emotional distance between you and your ex. He or she would feel being put under pressure.
