Happiness in life does not happen by coincidence E-Book

Jana Küster

• Herausgeber: Books on Demand
• Kategorie: Geisteswissenschaft
• Sprache: Englisch

Seitenzahl: 171

Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2018

Beschreibung

"About the book" Happiness in life does not happen by coincidence: Just be happy! This book is aimed at people who no longer place their happiness in the hands of others, but want to achieve this goal out of their own motivation. Don't postpone your happy life until tomorrow, live today in the HERE and NOW! Enjoying the LIFE - instead of constantly renounce, optimizing, pondering ... That's how it works without a guilty conscience! # Fulfilled Partnership - What makes a relationship really happy # Overcome and free yourself from fears, panic attacks & phobias in your life # Stay fit, healthy & vital - Inspirations for a healthy lifestyle # The art of self-motivation - What really inspires us & how to train the drive for action # Mindfulness & Deceleration in everyday life - I am offline! # The positive aspects of self-love - Boosting self-confidence and self-esteem # Financial freedom & minimalism pure - How you declutter your life, home, mind & soul # Guide to happiness for more satisfaction & joy in life Start today by making the most of your life and building a positive mindset. Be happy and will be ... starts in the HEAD! A new easy life has a liberating effect: Less ballast, less pressure, more zest for life and light-heartedness. Get this book NOW and (finally) become a happy person again!

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Happiness in life does not happen by coincidence

Fulfilled Partnership - What makes a relationship really happy Tingle & Love - Tips to keep the relationship fresh Happy long-distance relationship - Maintaining love despite distance Staples in relationships - How to become less affectionate Overcome and free yourself from fears, panic attacks & phobias in your life Social phobia - Am I affected by it myself? Learning to let go: How to conclude with negative experiences Stay fit, healthy & vital - Inspirations for a healthy lifestyle Fitness: Getting fit into old age - 100 are made easy Training: How to turn your power training into a HI (I)T Health: Strong defence - Healthy through the cool season Nutrition: Hidden Sugar - The Calorie Trap in Everyday Life Motivation: Bye piggy hound … take off, but right! Prevention: Health insurance contribution - fitness studio on prescription? The art of self-motivation - What really inspires us & how to train the drive for action More motivation with this simple method No motivation? Tricks to get started and hold out permanently Mindfulness & Deceleration in everyday life - I am offline! Concentrated holiday recreation - So you get a lot of relaxation from the days off Dissatisfied with your job: Signs that you have the wrong job Do I have a burnout? That's how you can tell the symptoms Burnout prevention: 10 tips - You can do it yourself! The positive aspects of self-love - Boosting self-confidence and self-esteem Appealing and likeable - How to make a good impression Tips for learning to love yourself The power of the insults - Insults are incredibly painful We all know them the stumbling blocks in life A sovereign "No" can be learned! Letting go and clearing out the clouds frees the soul and gives wings Financial freedom & minimalism pure - How you declutter your life, home, mind & soul Minimalism pure: Throw ballast overboard free! Minimalism as a life principle & lifestyle Minimalism in everyday life: Consciously simplifying your everyday routine Minimalism in your own living dreams Travel to your perfect wardrobe & fashion style Minimalism and the love of finance Minimalism at the workstation, in the office & home office Minimalist on (world) travel with a little hand luggage Guide to happiness for more satisfaction & joy in life Be happy: The 10 most important findings of Positive Psychology Let them talk - What others think about you: 5 tips to become independent Reasons why laughter is healthy and important Copyright

Fulfilled Partnership - What makes a relationship really happy

Tingle & Love - Tips to keep the relationship fresh

How do you spice up a relationship? Especially if you've been together as a couple for a long time and still live together. How you can avoid sitting in front of the TV in the evening and living in a shared flat.

If you've been together as a couple for a few years, then of course the adrenaline and the initial excitement have disappeared. Then everyday life becomes normal and if you don't pay attention, more and more routines creep in and at some point you start living next door. Of course you can also see each other in all unfavourable moments, e. g. with a sniffing nose or snoring. This can of course kill all the romance and passion, but there is still a lot you can do to celebrate love a little bit anew and to spice up the relationship.

1. Talk to your life partner

Talk to your partner about a lot of profound things. So it's not just about everyday things like what happened to you at work today or which movie you saw last. But also about how your childhood was, what your relationship with your parents is, what dreams you have, what you might want to do sometime. All these fundamental questions of life.

2. Set up a regular date-night

The problem with long term relationships and especially when you live together is that you don't really date anymore. I. e. this anticipation for the joint meeting, making oneself pretty for one's partner, planning the evening together and then doing something particularly romantic. This is not necessary if you live together. But you can also get that back by simply setting up a fixed appointment per week or an appointment every two weeks. At which both of them have a real date together again and that's where they celebrate in the same way. So you plan it together, make yourself pretty for it, take your time off of course, take enough time and spend a great evening together.

3. Surprise your partner

Especially when boredom and routine prevail, break this routine and do something different and new. Bring flowers to your partner, pick them up from work, put on something special or plan some surprise for him.

4. Set up a common ritual

This in turn is the advantage of long-term relationships and also of having lived together for many years. You can get yourself a common ritual that only makes you special, and that will make you bond even more. For example, you might want to have a quick review in bed every night to see what's best on that particular day, or to have a breakfast in bed every weekend. Some kind of nice little ritual you guys are.

5. Remember what you like about your partner

In long-term relationships, this is often forgotten why you fall in love with your partner. What you like so much about your partner is appreciated and what qualities you like so much. Just as it used to be and what you have seen in him, and to keep this in mind every now and then, even after many years of relationship, love also keeps you fresh.

6. Don't forget to show appreciation to your partner

Praise you or him and say thank you. This is also the case if we live together for a long time, then you can easily get caught in a spiral where you only start exchanging negative things with each other. The colleague who was annoyed by what went wrong again, how you somehow feel uncomfortable and you forget that the partner is not a matter of course and that he or she is doing great things. That you also say thank you when you are invited to an ice cream, when your partner listens to you or takes you in his arms. Even after many years, the recognition they deserve is evident.

7. Forging plans together

If there is no excitement in the relationship, you probably haven't talked about your plans for a long time. Because that way you can easily get the adventure back into the relationship. You two have so much more to go on, or you can have so much more to go on. For example, what would you like to do together in the near or distant future? Maybe you want to move into a bigger apartment? Do you have a project in common professionally? You two want to start a family? Do you want to travel around the world? These are all great things that bind you together, because they are your joint plans for the future. And of course, they will also make you to indulge in anticipation together.

8. Wallows also in common memories

Just as the gaze to the front welds together, so does the gaze to the rear. What have you guys been through? How was it when you guys got together? Do you remember your first date? Do you remember what a first impression you had of your partner? What have you already experienced together - any journeys, projects, moves, renovated and furnished the apartment together? You can reflect on what you've already been through and what you've been through and what didn't break up, but maybe even brought together more.

9. Joint ventures

Just as important as each partner has his own friends, interests and hobbies, it is also very important that you have something in common. So maybe there is something you both are interested in, e. g. a music genre you both love and where you can go to a concert together. Maybe you both love Thai cuisine and could go to a cooking class together. Because of the fact that these joint ventures also connect and you have new topics to talk about this topic or hobby. Eventually there is also a lot of adrenaline in the respective experience, which brings together even more.

10. Occasionally move away from the partner

Especially if we take our partner too much for granted, it can help to get a little bit out of the way and take a step back. To keep distance and give us the opportunity to miss the partner again. Notice what it's like when the partner isn't there. So maybe by staying somewhere else or even taking a short break on your own or with your friends. This often helps us to remember how much we miss each other, what we love and appreciate about him and to really look forward to seeing him when we can embrace him again.

Happy long-distance relationship - Maintaining love despite distance

In fact, long-distance relationships are becoming increasingly common in today's society. They also represent an extreme burden for relationships, which can be solved if you pay attention to a few points.

What used to happen only in times of war has now become commonplace. Couples who have to live at least temporarily at a distance. Employers more often require us to be flexible and work in other locations. Stays abroad are actually something like an unspoken obligation in the course of studies or even during school hours. I have read that at least every second person in Germany now lives temporarily in long-distance relationships. I myself have also been affected by this for three months. I bet everyone of you know at least one person who is affected or has been affected by it.

As I said, there are many reasons - whether you are moving to another city for your studies, for your job or whether you are spending a year abroad. Then it is really important to keep love alive through this distance. Or in the case of chronic long-distance relationships, i. e. these typical weekend relationships, to somehow bear withstand this eternal cycle of "vision and separation" in the best possible way.

I am now showing the greatest possible problems and challenges that long-distance relationships can bring. Here is what you can do to keep love alive at a distance.

1. Staying present

The greatest danger for long-distance relationships is to gradually drift apart. Because you just don't participate in each other's everyday life anymore. I. e. it is very important that you regularly talk and communicate with each other. Use all sorts of communication systems to keep you really involved in your everyday life. So call your partner and tell him what you have experienced, what was particularly stupid today, what you think and feel. Even if you see and see each other next weekend.

2. Trust each other

One of the biggest challenges for long-distance relationships is dealing with jealousy. Because your partner will experience other things, he will try new things without you. He will meet new people, will go out and celebrate with other people. So it's very important that you trust him, that you remember that you know him as a person. And that he or she loves you. It is imperative that you avoid any kind of control mania. So this constant news is about "What are you doing right now? Who are you doing this with? What else is happening? What did you just eat? Avoid clinging behaviour because it puts your partner under uncanny pressure.

3. Maintain the passion

A big problem in long-distance relationships is of course that you can't even just hug or kiss your partner. But that the whole physical affection and passion completely falls by the wayside. So that this doesn't happen, try to exchange these intimacies through other channels. So by sending you photos via smartphone, which might increase the anticipation of each other.

4. Plan your reunion

Every time you break up a weekend relationship, it should be clear when you can see each other again. So that you don't separate in the unknown and so that you can develop your anticipation. Even larger goals can be planned wonderfully together, so that you can indulge in anticipation together. Maybe on a trip together, a larger family celebration or moving together after the time of separation.

5. Remove the pressure

Especially in weekend relationships there is a lot of pressure that on weekends when you finally see each other again everything has to be perfect. Many couples plan their weekend meticulously and get a highlight after the next one, which they have to work off. So that this is an absolutely romantic weekend which you will always remember. But that's exactly what builds up too much pressure, which puts you both under enormous pressure, and it doesn't usually work that way either. Of course, this can also be the case when you see each other again, but you have to get used to each other again. That you guys might be fighting a little bit at first, or that you might be a little bit of a stranger. Just take it easy on the weekend and relax. You can also spend the whole weekend together in bed, i. e. you don't have to do something really special. But just look forward to the reunion, because that is in the foreground and then you can decide spontaneously that you want to do something nice together. Or maybe not.

6. Create rituals for you

This is also very helpful for long-distance relationships, which you maintain such a common ritual. Many couples send themselves e. g. Good Morning News or Sleep News. So the last thing you do before you go flaccid is write something to your partner. Or maybe it's something like you're always eating out on the first day together or cooking something together. Somehow something beautiful that pleases you, because rituals create security and that is needed at a distance.

7. Regulates the finances

Especially if you visit more often or if one of them is driving to the other, it costs a lot of money every month. Money problems and money disputes are a common factor in relationship disputes and unfortunately not only in long-distance relationships. But nevertheless because long-distance relationships in particular are financially burdened. Arrange this for you from the beginning and let's talk about it so that both of you feel comfortable with the solution. That you might put together for the fare of one partner. These financial matters should not burden your relationship.

8. Surprise yourselves

Small gestures and gifts receive love, and this is true in normal and long-distance relationships. I. e. surprise your partner more often with a text message like "I love you". Or send flowers via an online mail order company, a small greeting card with your perfume scent or a photo album from your last trip together. Do something nice and beautiful with which you can surprise your partner.

9. Settle dispute immediately

It is important that you don't wait until the weekend or your first reunion to resolve a relationship dispute. But that you always get this right out of the world, because otherwise there is a lot of jammed up until the next reunion. And you don't want to start or finish your next reunion completely in a fight. So it's best to clear things up immediately!

10. Discuss your future

The long-distance relationship should rarely be permanent. Because it is incredibly sad and sad when you spend several years in a long-distance relationship, only to find out at some point that no one is actually willing to leave their hometown or place of residence. Or that the stay abroad was originally planned as a long-term solution. So talk about your future and really consider exactly when you can find together. So when this long-distance relationship ends and you can finally be permanently close to each other.

11. Use your time

Probably the long-distance relationship cannot be avoided because it has to be like this. Because one of them has to work or study in another place. Then accept that and deal with the situation, stop complaining or complaining and make the best of the situation. It can also have its advantages to live in a long-distance relationship. Because you have much more time for yourself, you have more time to meet your friends, to take care of your hobbies, you have fewer responsibilities. Nobody cares if you stay in the office for a long time and do overtime. So you can put your resources into other projects or people during this time. In this way you will make the most of your time and be happier and more balanced when your partner comes back.

Love at a distance is a challenge on which both partners can grow.

Staples in relationships - How to become less affectionate

How can I manage to be less attached and less in relationships? Here I describe five reasons for your clinging behaviour and what you can do about it.

Compounding behavior can occur in all relationships. So in the relationship with your partner, as well as with your friends or maybe with your parents. I will limit myself to the (married) couple relationship. But as I said, it can occur in all relationships.

What does it even mean to cling? Stapling is a behavior if you want your partner around you all the time. If you flood him with messages every day. For example, if you write him a message at 10:00 am,"How are you and what are you doing right now?" and write again at 10:30 am,"What are you doing right now?". Though in this half hour probably not a hell of a lot will have happened.

It is also expressed, for example, in the fact that you want to penetrate into all areas of your partner's life. So want to be present everywhere, e. g. you can also contact the sailing club only because he likes to go sailing. You're pushing yourself into the evenings he wants to spend with his buddies. You have to be around him all the time. That means you're not giving him any space.

Those who cling have the feeling that they absolutely need their partner. And therefore terrified of losing him. You are almost emotionally dependent on your partner and can't imagine a life without him. That's why you cling to him so that you don't lose him.

This can even be flattering for the partner at the beginning, because it is nice to see how much the other one wants to have nearby. But sooner or later it gets very annoying this behavior and it also becomes extremely stressful. Your partner feels more and more pushed into the role of fulfilling your needs. So being there all the time, responding to your text messages and that will make him unable to live his life. That he e. g. doesn't pursue his hobbies like that anymore, that he can't meet his friends so freely, because then you are always there.

It will make your partner feel crushed by your love. Maybe your constant news might also trigger some kind of control feeling. So he feels like you're controlling him all the time, which leads to anger and anger. Sooner or later he will probably part with you in order to finally be able to breathe freely again. This is the last thing you want, of course. Because you want to hold him, you don't want to lose him right now.

Therefore, you should definitely work on your clasp and attachment. In a healthy relationship, none of the two partners cling to each other, but one leaves oneself the freedom for one's own hobbies, interests and friends. Thus, one is all the more pleased about the time spent together.

So how can you become less devoted?

The first step is to recognize your behavior. That you realize for yourself that you're clinging to too much. You have already done so, and this is a big important and first step.

The second step would be to look at the causes of your behavior. Why are you even clinging? And then take appropriate countermeasures.

I'll show you five causes and how to deal with them:

1. Early loss experiences

The first reason for clinging behavior may be early loss experiences. Maybe you were abandoned as a child by one parent or lost some other important caregiver. This now naturally leads to this strong fear that other people can only step into your life to rely on it again. If you suffer from it, so if you think that's the problem behind your clinging behavior, you should try to let go of the past negative experience. To leave this ballast from the past behind you, so that you do not carry it further into your future.

2. Bad experiences in previous relationships

Just because your ex-partner cheated on you doesn't necessarily mean that your current partner does exactly the same thing when he's not with you. Every relationship is a new beginning and a new start. In relationships, it's necessary for us to go in with a leap of faith. So it's important that you learn to trust and trust again.

3. Low self-esteem

This means that you feel uncomfortable with yourself and are constantly looking for confirmation from your partner. You must therefore always have him around you, always be sure of his love so that he can build up your own value, so to speak. In this case, you must urgently learn to build up self-confidence and increase your self-esteem.

4. Uncertainty