Help, my Child is a Teenager! E-Book

JOAN PONT GALMÉS

• Herausgeber: CADEBOU BOOKS
• Kategorie: Ratgeber
• Sprache: Englisch

Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2022

Beschreibung

Suddenly, someone who needed you for everything starts to pull away. The big step of adolescence has arrived. The first years of high school, the first sexual experiences, alcohol, drugs, cyberbullying.
Our daughters and sons are going to have to face a world that is constantly changing as they prepare to become well-rounded individuals.
You are going to be the light that will guide them through this difficult and decisive stage, but you have to be prepared. There is always a better way to solve problems.

IF YOU PREFER TO READ OR GIVE THIS BOOK AS A GIFT, THE PRINTED VERSION IS AVAILABLE ON AMAZON.

Joan Pont lives on the island of Mallorca. A former bodyguard for military authorities and a stockbroker, he now devotes himself exclusively to literature.


Series "Yes I want. Yes, I can". (Translated into multiple languages)
1- How to write your first book and publish it online.
2- Essential tips to prosper economically in life.
3- Help, my son/daughter wants to be a youtuber!
4- The 12 commandments of independent self-publishing.
5- Searching for you Balance. Keys to Stoic Thought
6- Why don't sheep get depressed? A guide to happiness

Youth series Tom, the tik-toker pig (translated into multiple languages).
1- A pet for Tom
2- Hikikomori, solve your problem!

Find Joan Pont at:
Email: [email protected]
Website: pontailor2000.wixsite.com/jpjohnson
Twitter: @J_P_Johnson
Facebook: facebook.com/pontgalmes
Instagram: j.p.johnson1

Leseprobe

Index of content

HELP, MY CHILD IS A TEENAGER!

1- PREPARING BEFORE THE BIG CRISIS (Am I good for this?)

2 - I WILL ALWAYS BE THERE FOR YOU (Even if you don't want me to)

3-THE GREAT DISAPPOINTMENT (My daughter is going to be the prime minister or the richest person in the world)

4- THE SCHOOL YEARS (That stupid teacher flunked me in math)

5- TEENAGERS AND TECHNOLOGY (If you get bad grades, I will punish you without a cell phone).

6- ALCOHOL AND DRUGS.

7-SEXUAL IDENTITY (If they get you pregnant, you'll leave home).

HELP, MY CHILD IS A TEENAGER! 

Joan Pont 

For Cristian. 

Help, my child is a teenager! 

© Joan Pont Galmés [2023]. 

All rights reserved. 

1- PREPARING BEFORE THE BIG CRISIS (Am I good for this?) 

 

Human beings, despite the fact that our brains have been evolving by trial and error since the end of the Triassic, two hundred million years ago, achieving quite acceptable results, we still belong to the genus Mammalia, so, like all other mammals on our planet, we are genetically predetermined to take care of our offspring.  

And we do it very well.  

We raise healthy and well-fed babies, we take them to the doctor when they are sick and to school so that they receive a good education and become people capable of facing life with enough resources, without expecting anything in return... 

Wait a minute, is it true that we don't expect anything in return? Yes, genetics predisposes us to give everything for our children, even our lives, but we are fascinated that this little person needs us, walks beside us and does almost everything we ask. We have become mothers and fathers. 

So far so good, we strive to the limit of our strength to turn these children into responsible adults, who make their own decisions and are able to find a place in the complicated world that awaits them. 

The problem is that, immersed in the frenetic pace of today's society, childhood lasts less and less.  

Our eleven to fourteen year old daughters and sons are hyper-connected from their earliest years, so they don't have to discover the world, but the world comes to them. From the refuge of their bedroom they can talk to their friends, see their musical or sports idols on social media and (yes, that too!) discover a sexuality far removed from reality. 

When they leave their bedrooms they know almost everything and, if they have questions, they look to TikTok for answers. 

Often we mothers and fathers witness this evolution with a sense of helplessness, because our daughters and sons go so fast that we don't have enough strength to keep up with them. We find the TikTok videos that they think are wonderful boring and meaningless, and we don't understand the new language they use, but at the same time we communicate with them with an ease that our own mothers and fathers never offered us. 

ADOLESCENCE SEEMS CHAOTIC, BUT IT IS NOT, IT HAS ITS OWN RULES. 

The same thing happened to us, mothers and fathers, only more slowly. Our own parents were puzzled with us and often, based on the educational concepts of that time, tried to take control based on an authoritarian concept of education, which did not always work well. 

At this point some mother and some father responds, "My parents used an authoritarian education, and now you are saying that it was not correct, but I am a balanced person, which means that my education worked well." It is true, because, and here we come to a very important point, the influence that we can exert on our children is only a part of the whole of their development, so we have to face it very calmly, because we are almost always going to get it right, unless we get it terribly wrong. 

PARENTS' INFLUENCE ON THEIR CHILDREN ACCOUNTS FOR NO MORE THAN 25% OF THEIR DEVELOPMENT. 

Many people are surprised when they hear this because, having been with our children since birth, we believe that our influence on them is more intense, but the world around them also intervenes in their personality and their way of thinking.