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- Kategorie: Geisteswissenschaft
- Sprache: Englisch
Spiritual awareness is an attribute that can’t be dissociated from mental health or physical health. And yet, quite a lot of people do this grave mistake of thinking that they can hypocritically segregate themselves into different spectrums of reality, while ignoring the rest. That is why they remain stuck in endless life cycles!
It is foolish to follow religions or sciences that isolate themselves in one part of the life spectrum as if the others were irrelevant or subject only to belief. For no spiritual or mental evolution is possible without an integration of all the elements that compose our existence.
How can we then understand life if not in this way only? Everything that surrounds us, affects us, at different levels. The holistic view of mental health is crucial to make any other, that is part of it, credible enough to be followed effectively.
You will discover here the most well-hidden secrets of the human mind that are evident to those who become successful in any and even all areas of life.
It could be said that the therapy exposed in this book unites educational models, theories of contemporary psychology, and other sciences of the mind, as well as religious principles, namely the many religious philosophies that refer to the power of consciousness and self-analysis, but it is also directed at the capacity of each being to transform his own reality independently by integrating such entire body of knowledge.
The different explanations presented in these pages are complementary and follow a constructive model, which facilitates their assimilation as well as the intended learnings and transformations.
It is expected that, following the many techniques and examples presented, the reader will prove to be more efficient in solving his existential problems, and become more skillful in the control of his own mind. This, while healing himself in the process and becoming more aligned with a higher truth. Because, as Carl Gustav Jung said, “Illumination is not imagining figures of light, but rather making darkness conscious”.
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Holistic Psychology: 77 Secrets about the Mind That They Don’t Want You to Know
Dan Desmarques
Published by 22 Lions Publishing, 2020.
Table of Contents
Title Page
Copyright Page.
Introduction.
Chapter 1: How to Heal Yourself With Your Mind?
Chapter 2: How to Rewire Your Brain to Change Your Destiny?
Chapter 3: Should You Be Accountable for The Mistakes of Others?
Chapter 4: What is Discernment and Why is it So Important?
Chapter 5: Why is it Important to Learn about Other Cultures?
Chapter 6: Why The End Has No End?
Chapter 7: Why Life Changes Us as We Get Older?
Chapter 8: Why We Should Never Stop Questioning?
Chapter 9: Is Religion a Tool of Manipulation?
Chapter 10: What is The Difference Between Religion and Philosophy?
Chapter 11: What is Emotional Resilience?
Chapter 12: What are The Causes of Disagreement?
Chapter 13: How Do You Stop Brainwashing?
Chapter 14: What is The Role of Discernment in Spiritual Growth?
Chapter 15: Why You Shouldn’t Judge?
Chapter 16: How to Find Your Spiritual Life Path?
Chapter 17: Why Meditation Isn’t Enough?
Chapter 18: How to Turn Your Life Around for The Better?
Chapter 19: Are you Limited by The Fear of What Other People Think?
Chapter 20: Can You Have Peace Through Ignorance?
Chapter 21: How to Deal With a Stressful Situation?
Chapter 22: How is Character Important in Achieving Goals?
Chapter 23: When Should You Stop Helping Someone?
Chapter 24: Is Acting Morally Necessary for Happiness?
Chapter 25: Why is Intelligence Overrated?
Chapter 26: What is The Role of Consciousness Transformation in Compassion?
Chapter 27: Why Thinking Like a Philosopher Will Make You Wiser?
Chapter 28: Do You Experience Love as a Positive or Negative Emotion?
Chapter 29: How Can Spirituality Benefit Mental and Physical Health?
Chapter 30: Should Love Be Rational?
Chapter 31: What is Rational Irrationality?
Chapter 32: How Can Creativity Help With Mental Health?
Chapter 33: Why We Fear The Unknown?
Chapter 34: Why is Observation Important?
Chapter 35: Why Do People Blindly Accept Authority?
Chapter 36: How Do We Overcome Fear and Anxiety?
Chapter 37: How to Hack Your Unconscious?
Chapter 38: How to Find The Hidden Truths about Yourself?
Chapter 39: How to Differentiate Psychopathy From Demonic Possession?
Chapter 40: Can Sociopaths and Psychopaths Feel Any Level of Guilt?
Chapter 41: Is Mental Illness Contagious?
Chapter 42: Can You Love Someone with a Mental Illness?
Chapter 43: Why is Important to Spend More Time with The Right People?
Chapter 44: How to Identify Mental Health Problems in Others?
Chapter 45: Why Do Therapeutical Procedures Fail?
Chapter 46: Why Does Emotional Abuse Happen?
Chapter 47: How to Heal and Move on From a Broken Heart?
Chapter 48: How to Start Training Your Subconscious Mind?
Chapter 49: Can We Have Empathy Towards Patients With Mental Illness?
Chapter 50: Can Psychopaths Be Cured?
Chapter 51: How to Achieve a Positive Mindset?
Chapter 52: How to Deal with Toxic People?
Chapter 53: How to Deal with Suicidal Thoughts?
Chapter 54: Why Do Some People Refuse to Undergo Therapy?
Chapter 55: Does Time Really Heal All Wounds?
Chapter 56: Does Hypnosis Work?
Chapter 57: Does Self-Therapy Work?
Chapter 58: Are We Programmed by Deception?
Chapter 59: What Should We Know About Loneliness?
Chapter 60: How to Be Successful in Life?
Chapter 61: How to Sharpen Your Mind?
Chapter 62: How to Control Your Subconscious Mind?
Chapter 63: How to Regulate Your Emotions Without Suppressing Them?
Chapter 64: How to Deal With Other People’s Difficult Emotions?
Chapter 65: How to Prevent The Restimulation of a Memory?
Chapter 66: How to Improve Your Memory?
Chapter 67: How to Reduce The Impact of Trauma?
Chapter 68: Why You Must Learn to Forgive?
Chapter 69: How to Change Your Personality?
Chapter 70: How to Shift Your Energy?
Chapter 71: How to Improve You Social Life?
Chapter 72: How Can You Know Whom to Trust?
Chapter 73: How Can You Tell if Someone is a Bad Friend?
Chapter 74: How to Use The Power of The Mind to Create and Manifest?
Chapter 75: How to Create Miracles in Your Life?
Chapter 76: Does Being in Love Make You Dumber?
Chapter 77: How to Live a More Holistic Lifestyle?
Chapter 78: 77 Secrets about the Mind
About the Publisher
Copyright Page.
Holistic Psychology: 77 Secrets about the Mind That They Don’t Want You to Know
By Dan Desmarques
Copyright © Dan Desmarques, 2020 (1st Ed.) All Rights Reserved.
Introduction.
Spiritual awareness is an attribute that can’t be dissociated from mental health or physical health. And yet, quite a lot of people do this grave mistake of thinking that they can hypocritically segregate themselves into different spectrums of reality, while ignoring the rest. That is why they remain stuck in endless life cycles!
It is foolish to follow religions or sciences that isolate themselves in one part of the life spectrum as if the others were irrelevant or subject only to belief. For no spiritual or mental evolution is possible without an integration of all the elements that compose our existence.
How can we then understand life if not in this way only? Everything that surrounds us, affects us, at different levels. The holistic view of mental health is crucial to make any other, that is part of it, credible enough to be followed effectively.
You will discover here the most well-hidden secrets of the human mind that are evident to those who become successful in any and even all areas of life.
It could be said that the therapy exposed in this book unites educational models, theories of contemporary psychology, and other sciences of the mind, as well as religious principles, namely the many religious philosophies that refer to the power of consciousness and self-analysis, but it is also directed at the capacity of each being to transform his own reality independently by integrating such entire body of knowledge.
The different explanations presented in these pages are complementary and follow a constructive model, which facilitates their assimilation as well as the intended learnings and transformations.
It is expected that, following the many techniques and examples presented, the reader will prove to be more efficient in solving his existential problems, and become more skillful in the control of his own mind. This, while healing himself in the process and becoming more aligned with a higher truth. Because, as Carl Gustav Jung said, “Illumination is not imagining figures of light, but rather making darkness conscious”.
Chapter 1: How to Heal Yourself With Your Mind?
A human being isn’t a static organism but dynamic. What we eat, feel, experience, and even our relationship with, and interpretation of, our experiences, influences our DNA.
This said, we can’t predict changes in our future without precisely analyzing how we react to the situations presented before us.
These reactions begin far before we’re even born, with our mother. She’s the one who influences what we eat and feel before birth. By the time of birth, a baby has already suffered significant DNA changes that will affect his entire life.
What we do from that point onward, with our genetic code, consists of consciously altering it, with our habits and knowledge on the best way possible of dealing with our decisions in life, namely, through what we think, what we do and how we feel.
Such approach requires a new slant on what is known in psychology or even psychiatry. A radical approach that may never find its acceptance inside the scientific community. Quite simply, because this same community of scientists and therapists is funded by corporations and institutions with interests of their own.
The appearance of diseases like cancer, for example, can be explained by alterations in our body, fueled by our emotions. It is an inner deregulation, from which the pharmaceutical corporations have been profiting billions of dollars. And, as in this case, much more is hidden in regards to our emotional education, or how our emotions affect our body, and to which extent.
Most people know only from what they’re told, or is assumed by the masses as being correct. And how do we truly understand our emotions without alternatives to the mainstream agenda?
Our emotions are processed by the spinal cord and into our brain, and from there to our muscles, eventually causing certain reactions. This whole process passes through cells, and our body is composed by a huge variety of them, each one registering the emotional events we go through. Therefore, everything affects our body of energy and our electromagnetism, reason why acupuncture works, as it deals with this electromagnetic field and attempts to correct it as a method of healing the body.
Any therapy that takes our energetic body into consideration should produce its results, as it reflects everything that happens inside of us, even at a thought level.
We can’t ever dissociate the results from their causes, i.e., our mind.
It is in the mind that emotions are processed and assimilated or suppressed. Whenever portions of energy accumulate in certain parts of the body and are restrained there, physical illnesses may appear.
On the other hand, our body is constantly renovating itself. So when our energy is stuck in an area, this renovation may lead to other anomalies appearing in the body.
Every new cell comes from a preexistent one, which means that a problem always emerges from the registration of a previous anomaly in our system. With every pain, physical or emotional, our body seeks to rebalance itself, and it is when it’s not capable of doing so anymore, or so effectively, that diseases appear.
The state of disease is actually a constant in our system, meaning that it is the equilibrium of the system that becomes too deregulated to heal itself properly, that makes the disease appear to be manifesting itself. In a body in constant harmony, diseases simply don’t appear.
Now, we may assume that anyone can easily die if this is true. However, our body is a very efficient machine, that can fix itself and permanently find a new equilibrium.
Our body can even isolate our pain, so that we can handle it for a while, until it either heals or kills us. It can also trigger headaches and depressions as a way of saving energy to heal itself or force us to get the necessary nutrients.
Most people don’t realize, for example, that there’s an association between processed foods and depression, or that the daily consumption of fruits promotes our psychological well-being in general.
It is here that we find the most basic cellular communication of our body, when it is telling us what is right or wrong to eat.
Secret No.1: What we consume contains energy that vibrates at the same level of our emotions, and our emotions can either heal us or kill us.
Chapter 2: How to Rewire Your Brain to Change Your Destiny?
Nothing in what we feel is truly isolated or should be isolated from the whole, including the way of dealing with life and interpreting its difficulties, and in particular, the ones emerging from our emotional and economical hardships.
Few people know that changing thoughts can have an impact in our DNA. But it is what some scientists at Harvard have indirectly proven us, when claiming that reading books can increase the lifespan of a person.
As a matter of fact, other studies have shown that, how we see ourselves, can also affect our appearance. Which means that, being fat, isn’t as important as believing that one is supposed to be fat, or can’t be slim and fit.
Our ancestors certainly have a role in the problems we face, but no more than what we can do or not for ourselves to change the outcome. For it is not only our body that reacts to our genetic predispositions and thoughts; our brain does the same.
The brain is constantly reorganizing itself. We literally change how our brain is wired — through its various neurons and synapses — according to our beliefs.
The repetition of phrases, for example, can change our future, not by magic, but by reframing our belief-system. The outside world will align or not accordingly.
If you ever felt that the way someone speaks to you doesn’t match yours, or that the motivations of others leave you speechless and demotivated from sharing the same space with them, you have seen what I just said at a very physical level.
This reality presents itself in a more shocking way, when we fall in love with a person that seems too stupid as soon as she opens her mouth to speak.
What really happened in this situation, is that you have attracted someone that matches your ideal partner from a visual viewpoint, but not from a psychological perspective. And you had to go through such experience to realize what was missing.
It is said that the main reason why empaths attract narcissists, is because they lack self-love, and as such, have not properly stated what they aren’t willing to tolerate in another person. If you are not actively seeking problems, your attitude should actually repel such individuals.
I say this from personal experience. Because I went from having narcissists chasing me for years, and sending me love letters almost every month, and constantly asking me to marry them, to having such women fall in love with me in less than a day, and then disappearing from my life in less than a week, as soon as they realized I wouldn’t be ignoring their abuse.
What attracted them to me, got magnetically more powerful, but my self-esteem had now been raised to the same level of my social charisma and physical attractiveness market value. In other words, I noticed that I was now attracting the most beautiful women, among which the ones with a terrible attitude wouldn’t want to be in communication with me for too long.
Contrary to what you are told by society, you don’t become a bad person for getting angry for the right reasons. If someone is considering cheating on you, or has lied on an important topic, or has even occulted her intent of using you for personal gains, you have the right to get angry. If they vanish because of that, it’s their problem, and not yours.
If you are afraid that someone you should not tolerate disappears, then that’s a problem you must consider in regards to yourself and your values.
Every time someone I really liked vanishes from my life, I do this simple exercise of asking myself the following questions:
• Could I truly live with such a person?
• Could I be friends or build a family with someone that has such a personality?
• Would I be willing to change my life or personality to conform to the whims of such person?
If the answer is ‘no’ in the three cases, I am at peace with myself.
Every time I think of this same person, I only have to repeat the same questions to let her go from my mind again.
It’s a simple way to breakup from toxic relationships. But, unfortunately, as I came to realize, not even psychologists know how to help others properly in this subject. A therapy must always contain techniques like this, and which help you in rewiring your brain. Techniques that you can also apply to yourself.
Secret No.2: How you think about what happens to you is as important as what actually happens. Your self-worth and self-esteem should never be so inferior that others feel entitled to disrespect you.
Chapter 3: Should You Be Accountable for The Mistakes of Others?
You don’t really starve when refusing to eat rotten food. And you certainly don’t have to accept the trash that one has created in her or his own life.
The habit, that so many people possess, of using shaming tactics to force others to accept their past mistakes, won’t really solve their problems either, even if they succeed at it.
When you accept such personalities in your life, you are not just accepting the problems they created, but also the mentality that has refused to take responsibility for them, i.e., a person who has not grown up.
Statistics show us, for example, that what is termed as toxic masculinity, commonly emerges from toxic femininity, as most of the rapists, thieves and other criminal offenders, come from single mother households.
What these statistics don’t show you, is that these same mothers, who claim that it’s the men’s fault that they were abandoned — and not their poor choice of men motivated by sexual instinct rather than intelligence and moral values —, are mentally immature.
The reason why their sons and daughters are at risk of becoming criminals or do become criminals, is because these are children usually being raised by other children, i.e., adults with the cognitive level of a 5yo.
You can’t copy values that don’t exist! And when you accept someone without them, you are accepting a source of problems. Maybe not of the same nature as the previous ones but problems of a different nature.
You see, many women who have guided their past choices based on sexual instinct, have not acquired the level of responsibility necessary to introspect and analyze their own poor outcomes. As such, they develop hatred towards men in general, as well as insecurities and uncertainties, which are then funneled to the poor guy who was brainwashed enough by society to tolerate such attitude.
Those who see in these words a personal attack, commit the same grave mistake, for they are not able to dissociate themselves, to see this reality operating from the many different angles.
It is a constant of our society, affecting both genders, and since many laws were passed that facilitate an overall refusal of personal responsibility.
As people are allowed to refuse to take responsibility for their poor decisions, they don’t feel any pressure to assume their mistakes, and as a result, they never grow up. They merely associate themselves with like-minded groups, invested and interested in the same type of social subversion.
That’s how the culture of stupidity begins. It follows the suppression of shame and the avoidance of personal responsibility. Which, inevitably, go through a direct attack on the moral values of others, deemed as old fashioned, traditionalist and discriminatory.
It is interesting, for example, to notice that people who drink alcohol feel bad with themselves when drinking in front of me, as I don’t, because it is as if by drinking with them, I made them feel less bad on something they already know to be bad. This type of logic, is the same that people typically use on moral behavior. They assume that if everyone is a slut, a stupid moron, and a criminal, then that makes their problems less important.
It is relevant to notice this parallel in our social interactions, as we are not responsible for how our moral decisions affect the immoral behaviors of others.
Secret No.3: Never feel responsible for the mistakes of others, and neither tolerate that they may shame you for your moral and conscious decisions, in order to coerce you to do what they want, and in particular, if it violates your own sense of self-worth.
Chapter 4: What is Discernment and Why is it So Important?
You can only change your life, when you start accepting the fact that you have done mistakes, and only you are responsible for such mistakes, rather than blaming others or the circumstances. This is particularly valid for what occurred to you once you reached adulthood, and obviously, not when you were a child.
The confusion, between guilt and responsibility, is many times at the core of various mental illnesses. Because a trauma that appeared when you were just an innocent child, may cause guilt or shame, from which you can only heal by forgiving yourself, and accept that you were a victim of a bad circumstance that was outside your control.
The same can’t be said when you become an adult, and are in full control of your decisions. However, the repetition of a trauma of your childhood with the same response when you are an adult, can trigger chronic mental illness. And this is typically what leads people to the chair of the psychiatrist.
You may fall victim to rape or some other form of violence, by someone strange to you, but if that person entered your life because you allowed, then you are, at the very least, responsible for accepting such individual. This differentiation, or exercise in differentiating trauma as a victim, from control as potential responsibility, is very important for the necessary self-forgiveness and understanding, that will then protect you from future similar incidents, but not to the extent that you lose the capacity to trust anyone.
The difference, in both cases, comes from your own capacity to differentiate, and this is the type of responsibility I am addressing here. It is related to the self-analysis of potential responsibility and the relativity of your responsibility, according to each circumstance. This, because, our life and choices, as our responsibility over both, are always limited to the circumstances in which we experience them.
If you feel the need to practice and develop this mental capacity, take a sheet of paper to describe an incident that you believe has affected you psychologically and still does. Then, in a new sheet of paper, create two divisions to form three columns:
• In the first column, write the year and month in which the same trauma repeated itself;
• In the second column, describe the incident with as many details as possible;
• In the third column, describe what you could have done to avoid it.
As you will see quite clearly, even though the trauma is the same over time, your own control of the possibilities to avoid it, varies significantly, according to your age, knowledge, experience and environment.
This discernment, through the awareness that the exercise brings you, is very important to heal yourself while clearing the path to a better future, where those traumas don’t affect your decisions anymore, namely, when you need to trust someone and love again.
Secret No.4: You must be able to separate the past from the future, and analyze the differences between similar experiences, if you wish to relearn how to trust and love someone.
Chapter 5: Why is it Important to Learn about Other Cultures?
Intelligence has plenty to do with how we choose to react to the experiences that come to us, and how our ancestors did things.
If a person develops the ability to process independent mental patterns — by being exposed to situations that stimulate such voluntary attitude —, the capacity to connect concepts and gather information — that is both divergent and convergent —, and then reorganize it efficiently, will allow the development of the capacity to think differently.
It is known, for example, that parents who spend most of their time reading and developing mental patterns on a variety of topics — such as, managers, entrepreneurs and freelancers —, develop this ability more than anyone else, and do pass such potential to the next generation — their children.
I also believe that a day will come, when humanity reaches such a level of awareness, that studying becomes a personal activity, in which one doesn't need instruction but merely books from which he will be able to gather knowledge while learning on his own.
The word culture is associated with cultivating, e.g., the culture of the potato, is about how to plant it, make it grow and make it healthy for consumption, and the same thing we can say about the automobile, which was planted first as an idea in history, then developed ever since. Reason why we say that culture is what stays when we forget about it. What remains with us is what we identify as culture, because it affects our development as human beings.
A way of changing our culture is, therefore, by traveling and communicating with as many people of different backgrounds as possible. For during this process, we mix our culture with the one of others, and in doing this, alter ourselves exponentially.
This experience starts early with the family, our childhood friends, and then with the governmental institutions, like kindergarten and schools. It continues during our lifetime, but mostly with the media.
Now, our acceptance of a culture occurs fundamentally by observation and imitation. We copy that which we assume to be right, or in order not to be rejected by the social environment where we find ourselves. And so, the acceptance of a culture coexists with our survival and interferes with it. We risk more challenges when fighting against the status and limitations imposed by the society in which we live.
For this reason, those who think and understand more than the average, know more than the average, and have a higher predisposition for imagination than the average, will always be seen as outcasts and discriminated, or pushed backwards into the social flock from which they have differentiated themselves. The worse thing anyone can ever tell you, is that you overthink or overanalyze, and that you should slowdown.
Such people are too ignorant to understand you, and assimilate your words, and the complexity of your thoughts, but are trying to hold you back. Because they fear your changes, either due to jealousy or their own emotional attachments to you, and that may be naturally broken over time.
They are not too stupid or too lazy for their environment, or they wouldn’t say that. But that is indeed a way of saying that you have surpassed such environment.
Fighting their nature will do nothing for you but delay you. It is better to create new associations of higher value, or change city, rather than compromising your mind to fit into the small world of perceptions of others.
The shark will always be too big for the aquarium, the hurricane will always be too strong for the tent, the tsunami will always have too much water for the boat, the wolf will always be too independent for the sheep, the eagle will always fly too high for the mouse, and the overthinker will always think too much for those who think too little.
It is a natural predisposition of the masses to manipulate and attempt to control anyone who doesn’t seem to fit into the accepted and assimilated mainstream norms of a society.
Secret No.5: Whenever we change our thoughts, we change our physical reality, but only if we have the courage to reject the reality that doesn’t fit our ideal self.
Chapter 6: Why The End Has No End?
I did not explore the planet as much as I would like, and unfortunately, because I spend quite a lot of my time working.
On the surface, it may seem I enjoy life, but I tend to spend 16 hours a day just working, from Monday to Sunday, and rarely stopping. The balance between work and leisure or work and exercise, is necessary but not easy to maintain, as the equilibrium between our "mental life" and spiritual life. I always feel like I am running against time and life is too short. Because it is indeed.
In this sense, the struggle to become nobody when you think you are somebody, can be seen from many different angles. Because you can't really be anybody until you are somebody. That’s why we are born in the flesh!
That avoidance creates misunderstandings that lead to the mental projections I see in many members of different religions. And which then leads them to assume that they have a spiritual awareness that they actually don’t have.
Their insults, or what they think is a teaching from a pedestal (but is actually an insult) when they believe they know who is the person in front of them, but look like blind people describing me the colors of a rainbow, say more about them than it says about me. It's like a dance of energies, that sometimes makes me laugh, while to them is infuriating, as if I was the one disrespecting their good will.
