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Guide to youth welfare psychology The book is about self-discovery and reflection. Juvenile delinquents usually have a difficult past. Mistreatment and sexual assaults are not uncommon and so there are deficits in their development that should be compensated. I use simple examples to show how they can find each other again and how they can connect to society. Program yourself positively and shed guilt. How the psyche and emotions dominate them and what needs to be done to finally counteract old patterns. You will find yourself in the book and get help. This book goes very far and deep and will touch you so much.
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Life support for young offenders
Self-reflection and personal development
Autor
Samuel Samiris
Prof. Dr. Samuel Samiris
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An der Strusbek 10,
22926 Ahrensburg, Germany
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The Author and His Pseudonym Samuel Samiris.
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Life Support for Young Offenders.
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The author and his pseudonym Samuel Samiris.
I am writing this book under the pseudonym Samuel Samiris. Although I stand by all of this and make others and myself vulnerable with my open and honest statements, I don’t want to compromise anyone. Therefore, I write under a pseudonym to remain anonymous.
The goal.
My goal in this book is to deal with young offenders and to show young people in the discovery phase what is happening to them emotionally and psychologically and how this affects their lives. I would like to show strategies for disciplining yourself and maintaining full control over yourself in order to enable your personality to develop as normally as possible. By reading the book, young people and parents can learn how to reflect and become aware of their actions, build their self-confidence and selfesteem, and accept and love themselves. It explains how problems and complex feelings arise and how to solve them. In addition, misguided feelings/emotions that are problematic are identified and corrected.
Life support for young offenders.
Young offenders are usually exposed to complex problems and are often unfamiliar with the normal world. But it is precisely this normal world and its rules that show them how they should behave. This is a big mistake, as criminals are usually excluded from this so-called normal world and laughed at in secret. This creates no feeling for this other world and no basic acceptance. Because of my own experiences, I understand young people very well and therefore write on an equal level.
I myself have gone through a major change and am now free of many things that once burdened and triggered me. By intensively dealing with the psyche and emotions as well as by studying gestures, facial expressions and body language, I have managed to grow from a person who was overlooked and unfounded with complexes to a mentally strong and balanced person. This means triggering is hardly possible anymore.
In this book I write about phases of life and explain the influence of psyche and emotions.
Example: - why do you have complexes and where do they come from?
- What do they cause in you?
- What drives you?
- Why do you keep making all these mistakes?
- How to cure all this? Etc.
I’ve always asked myself why I am the way I am. I thought that in reality I wasn’t like that at all and was more of a nice guy! Nobody saw it except my dear Grandma Elsa. So I always asked myself the same questions: Why do I still make mistakes? Why did I surround myself with the wrong people? Why did I have friends who often humiliated me?
Why do I feel inferior to “normal people”? Where was my mind?
Why didn’t I have strength within me? Why didn’t I care about anything?
Why, why, why… Unfortunately, it often happens that you are neglected at a young age and therefore lack certain social behavior.
You often don’t understand why this is the case.
The parents who are responsible for this are usually busy with themselves. You have neglected the child due to lack of time, ignorance or your own problems, and without intention. They often don’t know any different, and so it’s normal for them. Basically, they are often just as much a victim as their child, whom they are now turning into a victim without knowing it by leaving the child alone to fend for themselves and giving little guidance. Parents are often unable to raise their children lovingly because they don’t know how to do it themselves. They’ve never been shown it, and so that’s their normality. The victims are now turning into the perpetrators.
Early childhood is a time when a baby gradually develops his emotional mind, without words and numbers. It learns to interpret the facial expressions, gestures and body language of its parents more and more and stores everything in images and the associated emotions. It has an instant feel for every facial expression.
As he learns the language, he neglects this again and trusts people’s statements more and more, and so in the end all that is left is his gut feeling.
If there is a lack of communication and information, a deficiency arises. The child often compensates for this in his thoughts, which are always connected to the emotion. In this way, misunderstood experiences remain stuck in images in the emotional world of thoughts. These emotional images and their associated events are clarified over time by the developing mind. If the experience is too drastic for the mind to be unable to clarify it for itself, then a child will find other ways in their thoughts to compensate for a lack of information. Such a deficiency often means psychological pain.
In extreme situations, a substitute world often develops alongside the real world of thoughts in which survival mechanisms are present. In order to continue to survive, our minds allow little white lies. This causes reality to become slightly distorted until everything is bearable again. These white lies in our minds help us escape, endure or alleviate emotional pain. Over time, complex patterns can emerge that give us some quality of life again. Lying to ourselves is helpful and helps us deal with suffering well into old age.
Maybe you’ve experienced this too: Because you’re lonely, you go to a party that doesn’t actually interest you. Or you have wrinkles removed or breasts implanted because you suffer from a feeling of inferiority. Or you buy food you don’t need just to reward yourself. All these lies and complexes make our existence easier and make us forget the mental pain for a while.
They make our lives more bearable for a short time. But we must not be aware of any of this and suppress all reason. They are repressed feelings that have not been heard or processed for many years.
When the loss of reality due to lying to ourselves progresses and the emotional pain can no longer be compensated for, young people even accept crime. This often happens due to lack of attention and selfconfidence. We all want to be loved and not feel alone. Some people are willing to take a risk for this.
No one is born a criminal, but complexities and lack of self-esteem can lead people down the wrong path. I can’t blame anyone here because if there is someone to blame, he is just as much a victim. A mother who abuses her child does not do so because she wants to. Most of the time she cannot deal with her own suffering. She is unable to cope with the situation and is only compensating for her own suffering. However, that doesn’t mean their behavior is acceptable. A person with a normal upbringing may not be able to understand this and often judge too quickly. However, there is an unpleasant world for people who have been spiritually alone or mistreated and have therefore chosen the wrong path. These people often do not know which emotions control and guide them internally. They don’t know why or who triggers this in them.
Those who come from such an environment usually do not have the mental strength and knowledge to question themselves or reflect honestly.
This is exactly why I am writing this book.
These people have a developmental disability, but are by no means stupid.
They lack the knowledge and understanding of the psyche and emotions so that they can make correct decisions for their lives.
Normal interaction has been lost and so they usually look for people/groups who are going through the same things as them. They then show solidarity and this is where the vicious circle closes.
To anyone who accepts my help, I pass on my knowledge and experiences and provide information. Because they don’t act out of their reason, but out of their emotions and therefore don’t know what they’re doing. They don’t deserve to be sidelined because of their past. They need psychological and emotional education so that they can make up for everything they are missing. Only then
Can you reach the spiritual height that your age dictates?
They usually only react to stimuli and pain that lies deep within them. You are triggered and, out of ignorance, you cannot do anything about it. So they keep going in circles. Only in their circle of friends do they get the understanding that they lack at home. This group of friends usually has similar problems. This explains why they keep seeking refuge in these circles and do not avoid them.
Young people assimilate themselves in order to be recognized and accepted. There they have confirmation and a status that they lack at home.
They have no strengths within them, no self-confidence and no self-esteem. They fail to accept themselves and therefore cannot love themselves. You were never taught anything like this. On the contrary, they were usually shown no or false appreciation. All of this makes them vulnerable and easily hurt. They hardly know anything about the psyche and emotions. Anyone who allows emotions risks being vulnerable. That’s why it happens that you’d rather go for a tough guy, no matter what you think. They constantly want to prove themselves in order to gain a place and status in the world. They seek attention, not humiliation. They want to be loved and not disrespected.
I am able to write about all of these issues on an equal level and speak about them as a guest speaker to give them an expanded and new awareness. This new awareness changes their thought pattern and thus their life course. But it is clear that this does not happen overnight.
It is a seed that needs to be watered for a while until the stem is stable enough not to fall over at the slightest gust of wind. The rapidly growing awareness of this reduces the recidivism rates of young offenders.
Now back to the escape into the world of thoughts Toddlers.
Escape into a world of thought in which everything is possible is normal. Because it is only here in our imagination that we are creative and consider things. In this fantasy world we try out a lot of things. We learn and reason in it without much effort. Compensate for our problems and feelings there and find solutions to alleviate the pain within us. So it’s not surprising if we allow a lie within us to keep away greater damage or the misery of reality. In this toddler time
The emotional world and beliefs grow within us. One of those natural mechanisms within us is to scream when we need something.
But as we get older, we become more and more detached from our parents and become more independent.
So we find more and more solutions for our lives and hardly need our parents. It’s a good idea to have an advisor for emergencies or someone in your family who can help with financial difficulties. This is completely normal and strengthens family bonds.
If you have a small child where no one responds to their crying anymore, that will help itself over time.
Whether it has learned this or not, it means that it has no instructions and is trying as it goes. If the toddler is left alone too often, a developmental disorder is possible.
If abuse or mistreatment is prevalent, this becomes even more difficult. A small child has no way of escaping and ducks. It remains dependent and escape or help is hardly possible. If babies or small children are not valued, the reverse conclusion is that they are worth nothing. If a toddler or baby does not express the problem because he or she does not speak, then the experience is stored in images and emotions because the child’s understanding does not process this.
Rational thinking lacks understanding of the problem and vocabulary. The relevant experiences and words are missing to achieve an understanding of all this. So they only have the option of expressing their needs through sounds and their emotionality as well as through their gestures, facial expressions and body language. They only process everything in images and emotions because the spoken word of clarification does not exist for them.
They interpret the facial expressions that they have saved in saved images and thereby recognize what the parents want to communicate to them. When the mother takes out the breast, the baby knows it is time to eat.
It is important to understand that beliefs are not set in stone and can be changed. A person who has been conditioned by their experiences and environment to show aggressive behavior patterns can learn to react differently through targeted training but also through therapeutic measures. However, it requires patience, commitment and the willingness to question and change your own beliefs.
It is also important to emphasize that every person is responsible for their actions and reactions, regardless of their beliefs and experiences. We have the ability to consciously choose how we respond to certain situations and should strive to make our actions consistent with our values and beliefs.
But what if the baby does not understand aggression and is not aware of guilt? Nobody tells the child that the mother had a bad day and that someone at work reminded her of her brutal father, who often abused and humiliated her as a small child. She cannot cope with the stress and reacts in the same way as her father, as she only knows this aggressive behavior, which is deeply anchored in her through constant repetition. It’s all of their stored images and associated emotions that make them react the same way their parent once did.
Often it is the unbridled anger and the scenario of the images that she sees in her mind and sees as a normal reaction to what has happened. Yes, it is her right to act as she once saw and felt, because this was her reality and truth in which she lived for a long time.
This has shaped her beliefs over time, and she has known no other way for many years. Therefore, this is their normality and truth, their subjective reality, which is deeply anchored in their beliefs. Beliefs are supporting pillars in our psyche and emotionality. Therefore, we are sensitive or insensitive to certain situations depending on how we are conditioned.
An example:
Nobody would think of killing someone for no reason because we are who we are. In other words: We are conditioned in our beliefs so that we don’t do this. These beliefs are almost unshakable.
However, if we are conditioned differently in our beliefs, we are ready to kill and go to war that was once senseless for us. Or how we humans condition our dogs, we are also conditioned by a lot of things outside. Let that sink in.
Another example:
For a murderer, the parameters of the beliefs are different than for a peaceful person, but as the beliefs change, the priorities also change.
Anyone who thinks they can exclude themselves is wrong. Because in another time, taking life wasn’t a big deal.
Through the constant experience of brutality, murder, manslaughter and wars in his environment, the abnormal becomes normal. The many repetitions form the beliefs. Through the many repetitions (habit effect) of lies, wrong becomes right. The suggested truth is thus established in their eyes. Over time, these become their truth and beliefs.
People who have experienced great psychological suffering at an early stage and over many years tend to act accordingly, as they once imagined. Anyone who doesn’t talk about it because of a lack of understanding, pain or shame has not processed it and runs the risk of being triggered. If it is not emotionally processed and understood, it does not heal. If man only achieves justice in his imagination and his just revenge is only lived out there, then the constant repetition in the mind’s eye develops into his own truth and beliefs. They program themselves through their own sense of justice to their truth, which has become alien to reality.
Most of the time it is the unbearable pain that is repressed. If this person is triggered by their memories or other circumstances and is thus confronted with pain, shame and much more, but they cannot bear it themselves, this can change depending on the extent. Up to and including the rampage. There are people who seem completely normal and have largely adapted. They are often nice, friendly and helpful. However, if you get on these people’s nerves and accidentally trigger them, there is a risk that they will fall out of their usual behavioral pattern and immerse themselves in a different world of thoughts or get mentally stuck there.
If you let your emotions flow and vent in this world of thoughts, you relieve yourself and let everything out. I don’t need to explain what this means and how explosive it can be. This is incomprehensible to people who grew up normally. But the pain is so great that screaming or flailing helps to bear it.
Imagine that you accidentally hit your thumb with a heavy hammer and your fingernail flies off and your thumb bursts.
Anyone who stays relaxed and doesn’t scream loudly and run in circles deserves my respect. Triggering can be just as painful and explosive as the hammer and thumb example.
If you don’t believe that, I’ll tell you that I was in such a situation myself. So I know what I’m writing about here. It’s thanks to my father that it didn’t escalate. He recognized the desperation in my eyes and the emotions clenching and widening my fists and responded in a de-escalatory manner. It was an unbearable injustice and humiliation that I had experienced over many years, and possibly another one at the hands of my father and his violence. That day my mother showed me how despicably cruel she could be. How brutal and unfair.
It was unbearable for me, so I dared to stand up to my mother for the first time when I was 18. By that I mean I was just defending myself and ended up holding her to push her away from me. She now realized the power I had and screamed at my sleeping father to beat me without explanation.
But my father knew my mother and her angry temper and remained calm. He watched me and realized that I was now ready for anything if my father did what a mother wanted. I was at my wits‘ end and ready to finally settle accounts with everything and use my violence to punish everyone who was responsible for my supposed lifelong suffering. I was ready to stand up for myself and fight no matter what. I had such tears in my eyes that I couldn’t see and could no longer speak because of mental despair.
After crushing your thumb with the blow of the hammer, try to explain objectively what happened. It is not possible because you are preoccupied with the physical and emotional pain. You throw the hammer into the corner and at that moment you don’t care if something else breaks and causes major damage. You act irrationally and don’t care. Only later, after the pain, do you realize what you have done. Your pain and emotions controlled you.
This is called loss of control or affect. That’s why it’s important to always know what is controlling you at the moment.
Psychologically, you can say that you are unable to do anything about the unbearable mental pain. Out of necessity, the subconscious takes over this and provides emotional relief so that a bearable continuation of life is possible. It gives us the strength and courage we need to do what we otherwise wouldn’t be able to do.
Anyone who thinks that this reaction is wrong or inhumane should think of life-threatening situations in which they cannot muster the necessary brutality and courage to save their lives. If they are prepared to exceed themselves or run amok, then they perceive this as life-threatening and see no other way out. Of course it’s not civilized, but it helps you survive. To be civilized is to be trained like an animal. But there is an animal in all of us that is hardly needed in our civilization and is therefore disappearing more and more. It has been trained into us by society, but it is always anchored deep within us and comes to light in cases of hardship. There are several constellations for such cases, but I will not go into this any further. It is only intended to give you an idea of how such accidents occur and to warn others about them.
Just like when my emotions controlled me and my father recognized the danger and was level-headed. I have him to thank for not going crazy and letting go of all emotions/the animal. Like a pack of vicious dogs doing whatever they want. But what I had to do inside. I wanted to throw the said hammer back or let the dogs loose and let the anger and despair that had been pent up over my entire life run free. Just once to finally come clean and settle accounts with tyranny.
No matter what might happen, all that was missing was a little spark.
But I have processed all of this over the years and dealt intensively with the psyche and emotions. I no longer have distressing nightmares in which I wake up so scared and drenched in sweat that I don’t dare close my eyes lest I fall asleep again. So that in my subconscious, what has been suppressed keeps coming up in me.
I believe that if you don’t get any sleep, you’ll end up going crazy.
There was a time when I dreamed of terrible revenge at night. It was good for me to let myself out in my dreams and take revenge. However, this happened in a different context. Back then, I lost everything because I trusted friends and was unable to keep my five-figure monthly net income, my investment and ultimately my wife and the family happiness that came with it. Everything was gone.
No more existence.
No family. Why am I telling you this? Anyone caught in such thoughts lives dangerously. When such an evildoer suddenly appears in front of you, you are inclined to do what you want in your dreams and fantasies (self-programming). Pay attention to your thoughts because your thoughts become words and your words become actions. More on that later in the world of thoughts! Today I can honestly reflect on all this writing and myself. But those around me at the time hardly knew anything about it. Because of shame and guilt, I couldn’t talk about everything I had experienced and my feelings at the time. There was no one there who was interested in my feelings and injustices.
Who can and wants to get involved in such matters? What did I know about psychology back then? Nothing. So I remained alone with myself, like many other young people who do not understand themselves and their environment and are far away from normality. They are alone with themselves and all that they cannot understand, creating a chaos of emotions within themselves. So complexes continue to thrive within them, without any hope of resolution. Where from? That is the reason why I am writing this book. There is no one who explains their social behavior and their psychology and makes it so understandable that they understand it. It’s no use saying you can’t do that. They all know that themselves.
Most people don’t know why they do it anyway. Only when they understand emotional and psychological reactions can they let go of their old patterns and accept new things through conscious action. Without understanding their emotions and their crimes, it is hardly possible to change their minds.
I will help with my experiences and show that you are not alone.
There is someone who can help you understand your emotional and psychological world with this book. I worked intensively on it myself and honestly reflected on what seemed impossible to me at the beginning. Today I know many facets of the psyche and no longer fall back into old patterns. I am disciplined and calm within myself. I am at peace with my emotional world.
Here is an example for those who believe that they cannot get into such trouble: “No one can make me kill anyone. Nobody tells me what to do. I am strong within myself.” Millions of people have made such statements again and again and yet they were in a war and committed atrocities and killed people. To anyone who believes that it is suddenly legitimate to kill on behalf of the government, I say that every life is valuable.
No killing is legitimate unless my life is directly threatened by an aggressor.
Killing someone I don’t know and who hasn’t done anything to me is not okay. Point.
The question is: How did you manage to motivate millions of people to euphorically kill?
They were blinded by the volume and repetition. Only when they can see again will they gradually understand what has happened to them.
If you are a winner, then you are a hero.
If you’re a loser, then you’re a murderer.
They are two same things, but with two different effects. In this context, I wrote a book: “My Neighbor, Stattelmann.” It is about the returnees, the remnants left behind by the war. About once believed heroes who return from war and receive no recognition for their sacrifice. They suffer silently within themselves and are alive on the outside, but inside they are long dead or wish they were dead. The ideology of war has destroyed young lives and futures.
Anyone who once understands this world of thought will not want to supply weapons or take part in something that takes on incomprehensible proportions. But why is this happening? Here are some reasons why you do what you don’t want to: the power of habit, basic trust, submissiveness, stubbornness, peer pressure. Repetition does not automatically mean truth and should be questioned.
So we accept developments and decisions that we would have laughed about a year ago, or regret them later. Think about how often you support decisions without questioning them. People often prefer the convenient lie to the inconvenient truth.
Anyone who allows this need not be surprised later. Some decisions are insignificant, but some even cost your life. The end result is that adult and educated people act catastrophically, acting with complete conviction and emotion.
Their beliefs are often reconditioned by the media, politics and church.
However, neither the church nor politics have the right to allow something that is repugnant in their hearts.
Who wants to blame young people and their naivety?
An example for better understanding:
There was once a scientific test in which five monkeys were locked in a room. In this sufficiently large room there was a ladder with a banana hanging at the top. Whenever one monkey wanted to get the banana, the other four monkeys were sprayed with water. The four monkeys didn’t want that and always attacked the one monkey that wanted the banana and beat him up.
So no monkeys went to the banana anymore. Then they swapped a monkey, the new monkey knew nothing about the banana and the water and went to the banana. He sensed that the others didn’t want that, and so he conformed (peer pressure).
So the monkeys continued to be swapped until there was no one left who knew the reason why you shouldn’t take the banana. But none of the new monkeys took the banana, even though no one knew why that was the case (subordination, no questioning, group behavior).
You may think that there is a reason for this or that it is none of our business. These are statements made by people who later imitate this behavior without questioning it. This is called group dynamics/ coercion.
Nobody knows why we do it, but we do. Through habit and obedience you do things to avoid being excluded. These are behavioral patterns such as: B. smoking or drinking and similar movements and opinions. This all mostly arises from a sense of belonging and a lack of self-confidence.
Because many people think or act this way, we believe that the multitude of people is a guarantee of their correctness and that we no longer have to think about our considerations.
This is convenient, but mostly wrong.
It is important to be vigilant about what is happening.
Please note that the corrections are made in German.
Have the courage that others don’t have. Be critical and question, and don’t give up your ownership just because it’s more convenient. Politics knows these dynamics well and exploits them for their own purposes. The power of habit is the worst. We just have to hear it long enough to believe it. So it becomes difficult to believe the actual truth, especially if the masses hear the untruth everywhere for long and often enough. The media is the most powerful weapon. When they say something, no one believes a lie. Who would be so bold as to lie on television? But it happens all the time, they lie to us more and more blatantly.
This system is simple and successful, why change anything? The internet is full of such stories and evidence.
There is so much that we can no longer see the forest for the trees. Everyone is busy with themselves and their problems. You have enough to do with yourself.
You don’t need any more problems. Through habit and conditioning (possible brainwashing) via the media, etc. and its repetitions, you lose your freedom little by little and in the end you like it because of the emphasis on the benefits. At this point I have to give another example that proves that this action is essentially good and normal, but is abused by charlatans and their evil purposes.
The basic trust and the advance of trust in the group (higher authority) and in the evolutionary experience of the individual or a group/crowd protect the ignorant. This is how it happens that ignorant people trust in others and follow their opinions without having an opinion of their own.
