Marriage Saving Tips E-Book

Anthony Ekanem

• Herausgeber: Anthony Ekanem
• Kategorie: Ratgeber
• Sprache: Englisch

Seitenzahl: 41

Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2016

Beschreibung

Relationships are hard. But, just for your information - marriage is even harder. There is no rule book when you get married. It's pretty much a "learn as you go" endeavor. You just hope you don't screw it up or cause lasting damage as you go through the learning process.You already know that, though. Don't you? Here's the real news. Yes, relationships and marriage are hard, but divorce is often much harder, and not just for you or your spouse. Divorce affects the lives of the rest of your family as well, especially children, close friends, and family members that may be interested in your relationship as much as you are. That's why anyone who has experienced a divorce knows the best option is to work out the problems and save the marriage if at all possible. Calling it quits, going through a divorce, should not be the first solution that comes to mind when times get tough. If you give anything less than a 100% effort to fix the problems that are plaguing your marriage, you are doing a great disservice to yourself and your family.This report is meant to help you maneuver through some of the pitfalls of a troubled marriage. It's not meant to replace marriage counseling, only to give you some thought provoking ways to challenge you and your spouse to consider building on what you have together and the feelings that brought you together in the first place, because, to put it simply... ... divorce is ugly. 

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Table of Contents

Introduction

Chapter 1

Chapter 2

Chapter 3

Chapter 4

Chapter 5

Introduction

Relationships are hard. But, just for your information - marriage is even harder. There is no rule book when you get married. It’s pretty much a “learn as you go” endeavor. You just hope you don’t screw it up or cause lasting damage as you go through the learning process.

You already know that, though. Don't you? Here's the real news. Yes, relationships and marriage are hard, but divorce is often much harder, and not just for you or your spouse. Divorce affects the lives of the rest of your family as well, especially children, close friends, and family members that may be interested in your relationship as much as you are. That's why anyone who has experienced a divorce knows the best option is to work out the problems and save the marriage if at all possible.

Calling it quits, going through a divorce, should not be the first solution that comes to mind when times get tough. If you give anything less than a 100% effort to fix the problems that are plaguing your marriage, you are doing a great disservice to yourself and your family.

This report is meant to help you maneuver through some of the pitfalls of a troubled marriage. It's not meant to replace marriage counseling, only to give you some thought provoking ways to challenge you and your spouse to consider building on what you have together and the feelings that brought you together in the first place, because, to put it simply... ... divorce is ugly.

Chapter 1

Avoiding Divorce

We are human; often weak, selfish and overwhelmed. That's why we are quick to say “it's just not working anymore." It feels easier in the moment to just give in to the urge to back off and walk away from a tough situation. Men and women handle stress in different ways. This is written from a woman's view point, but the issues remain the same for both. Whether you are a wife or a husband, divorce destroys. How can you avoid it?While not every marriage can be saved, there are a great number of marriages that are dissolved unnecessarily. That uncertainty is why you want to do some careful thinking before you decide to take a step you could end up regretting.When a relationship starts going downhill, people will often go through four phases:

denial

anger

sadness

acceptance

Let's explore how we move through, and sometimes get tangled up in these phases. When you feel like your spouse doesn’t feel anything or no longer cares about you or your relationship, it’s possible they may be going through the denial phase. While it might be easy to believe that your spouse feels nothing for you anymore, that may not be true in the least. Everyday life can tear people apart and feelings can get lost and become recognizable.In short, your spouse may be denying that they ever felt anything at all, or even denying that they’ve done anything wrong. You yourself might be in denial, or maybe already in the anger phase, or both.

However, while you and your spouse might not be feeling anything right now, those other phases will eventually come around.When that happens, you - and your spouse - will eventually experience the utter devastation that only the breakdown of a marriage can bring. Feelings of loss, failure and grief are not uncommon. Unfortunately, for some people, that sense of devastation comes after the divorce has become final, or after the relationship has really been damaged beyond repair. In the throes of the relationship’s death, you’re often too cloaked in the four stages to really feel the pain; the pain that might have given you some much needed insight into what's causing the breakdown of the marriage. This awareness can lead to resolution before it's too late.

Additionally, without doing some serious work on what's causing the distress, you will have to consider the fact that you will always be living with the thoughts and doubt about how much you actually contributed to the divorce. Could you have done more to prevent it?Was it your fault? Did you try hard enough?On top of that, these feelings of doubt or inadequacy could very well influence any future relationships you may enter into. If you doubt that you have what it takes to maintain a healthy relationship, those feelings of insecurity will always be there. This is the 'baggage' we all must carry with us if we don't examine the contents of our life and get rid of the uncertainty. That's why it's so important to explore every avenue to repair a wounded marriage before blindly entering the divorce court.