Naked and Transparent E-Book

Vladimire Calixte

• Herausgeber: Fresh Ink Group
• Kategorie: Ratgeber
• Sprache: Englisch
• Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2018

Seitenzahl: 130

Beschreibung

Do you feel broken or lost? Are you trapped by fear, loneliness, and heartache, but unable to see a way out? Are you unhappy in your relationships, and without a solution to make things right? If you are searching for answers to all of your struggles, Vladimire Calixte’s Naked and Transparent: Six Vital Tools for Knowing Yourself and Attracting Healthy Relationships can help you reclaim your life and help you attract more love, success, peace, and joy than you’ve ever imagined! Filled with personal experiences about love, loss, and abandonment, Naked goes beyond a traditional self-help book. It is a refreshing, honest, and stimulating experience that will help you open your heart and soul, and discover a brand-new you!

Part workbook and part memoir, Naked is an enjoyable yet informative must-read for women, men, and teens who suffer from low self-esteem, unworthiness, anxiety, shame, guilt, feelings of failure, and toxic relationships.

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Naked and Transparent

Six Vital Toolsfor Knowing Yourselfand AttractingHealthy Relationships

Vladimire Calixte

Naked and Transparent:

Six Vital Tools for Knowing Yourself

and Attracting Healthy Relationships

Copyright © 2018, 2015

by Vladimire Calixte

All rights reserved

Fresh Ink Group

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Edition 1.0 2015

Edition 2.0 2018

Cover design by Allison Denise

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Names and other identifying information have been changed.

BISAC Subject Headings:

SEL027000 SELF-HELP / Personal Growth / Success

OCC019000 BODY, MIND & SPIRIT / Inspiration & Personal Growth

FAM030000 FAMILY & RELATIONSHIPS / Marriage & Long-Term Relationships

Library of Congress Control Number: 2018948392

ISBN-13: 978-1-947867-11-6 Papercover

ISBN-13: 978-1-947867-12-3 Hardcover

ISBN-13: 978-1-947867-13-0 Ebooks

Table of Contents

Foreword

Acknowledgements

Naked and Transparent

Six Vital Tools for Knowing Yourself and Attracting Healthy Relationships

How to Use This Book

Chapter 1Who Am I? The Power of Clarity

Chapter 2Letting Go of Your Shame

Chapter 3Putting a Name to Your Wound

Chapter 4I Choose Me

Chapter 5Getting Comfortable with Vulnerability

Chapter 6Self-Awareness Puts a Dim on Introjections

Chapter 7Letters to My Father

Chapter 8Tips on How to Attract Your Ideal Partner after Becoming Self-Aware

Chapter 9How Not Knowing Yourself Is Holding You Back in Your Relationships

Chapter 10The Power of Doing Your Life: Where Do We Go from Here?

Chapter 11Additional Tips for Attracting Your Ideal Relationship

Conclusion

About Vladimire Calixte

Index

Foreword

Are you truly happy with who you really are? Are you living a blissful, authentic life that you’re proud of? Are you happy in your relationships? If you’ve answered no to any of these questions, you are about to embark on a powerful new journey that will awaken your heart and soul, and help you create a new beginning.

Becoming self-aware is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself. If you aren’t self-aware, you are doing things that sabotage your relationships, career, happiness, and self-worth.

Many of us are unconsciously holding on to old pain, insecurities, and false beliefs that cause us to create a false self. We may feel that the false self we show the world is more desirable than who we really are and that it protects us from being hurt, but it actually causes us to attract unhealthy partners, accept positions and careers that make us unhappy, and stops us from being truly accepted and loved by others.

Although we are often taught to look outside of ourselves for answers, we are the only ones who can truly save ourselves. It is only through self-awareness that we can truly live the lives we deserve.

It all begins with accepting and loving the person we see in the mirror. Reading this book will help you do just that. It will also help you unlock your deepest fears and release the toxic emotions and behaviors that have been controlling your life and wounding your soul. An accomplished self-help leader, Vladimire Calixte is one of the most revered and highly sought-after mental health specialists and relationship experts of our time.

I’ve had the pleasure of knowing Vladimire personally, and can say with extreme confidence that she is one of the most compassionate and caring individuals I have ever known. One of Vladimire’s many gifts is the ability to empathize with others and anticipate their unmet needs. She is non-judgmental and supportive, and possesses the rare ability to connect with people’s hearts and souls easily. People from all walks of life, including celebrities, trust Vladimire whole-heartedly with their most painful secrets, and feel totally safe and loved in her presence.

Vladimire’s loving spirit, magnetic personality, resilience, and courage transform the lives of those around her and millions of people around the world. She offers hope to those who need healing in their lives, and is the epitome of conscious living and self-love.

Her infectious words, exceptional wisdom, and provocative teachings truly make the world a better place. Vladimire is a nationally respected expert on mental health, self-esteem, abuse, addiction, and relationships. She is also the founder of Life Rebuilding in New York. For over a decade, Vladimire has been showing individuals, couples, and families how to thrive after trauma, dysfunction, abuse, and addiction. She has also been a valuable resource to the media. She has been featured in Ebony Magazine and has appeared on ABC’s Here and Now, Hot 97 Street Soldiers with Lisa Evers, Café Mocha with MC Lyte, Loni Love, and Angelique Perrin, and heard on Fox News Radio and CBS Radio, among others.

Her exciting new book, Naked and Transparent: Six Vital Tools for Knowing Yourself and Attracting Healthy Relationships, is an empowering guide that will offer you essential tools to discovering and loving your authentic self, which is the foundation to living an extraordinary, empowered life.

May you find happiness, success, love, and joy!

Florence Edwards, M.A.

CEO of Publicity 911

Los Angeles, California, 2014

Acknowledgments

I would like to thank my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. All glory and praise be to you, Heavenly Father.

I thank my wonderful and supportive husband, Alexander Benjamin. You are truly my gift from GOD, and I thank you so much for taking very good care of my heart and our two beautiful children, Tsai-Ann and Isaiah. I love you so much. You are truly the bone of my bone and the flesh of my flesh. You are my love, my anchor, and my best friend.

To my children, Tsai-Ann and Isaiah: I love being your mommy, and you are my two treasures. I promise never to take you both for granted. I love you both deeply, and I am so blessed to have the two of you in my life.

To my mom, Soeurette St. Preux: You sacrificed so much as a single mother of two young girls. Upon migrating to the United States from Haiti, you were determined to make a better life for us. I truly admire your courage and resilience. I love you, Mom!

To Guillermo Calixte and Paulette Calixte: In-laws like you are the best gift ever to me. Guillermo Calixte: You are my gift from heaven. Paulette Calixte: You’ve both helped me through many trials and tribulations. I thank you both for always being there and showing me you truly care.

To Florence Edwards and Charla Mackey of Publicity 911: I am humbled by your faith in me from the beginning. I thank you so much for always treating me as your only client amongst your many. You have helped me make my dreams come to fruition. For that, I am truly grateful.

To Kirk Watari of Best Web Choice: You were with me from the beginning. From the bottom of my heart I thank you for your time, diligence, and patience.

To Donna Erickson of A Flair For Writing; Charles Davis of Davis Images; Lenny Cavallaro, my editor; and proofreader Amy Thompson of Amy Thompson Editing: It has been an absolute pleasure working with you. I have learned so much from you. You took care of this book as though it were your own from start to finish. I thank you so kindly for helping me piece everything together. This book is very dear to my heart, and you have made it come to life.

Thanks to my publisher, Fresh Ink Group. You came at such an important time in my life, a time of renewal and transformation. You make a really good team. I look forward to working with you to publish many more books.

To my family and friends: I thank you for your love and unending support and encouragement. I feel so blessed to have you all in my life. Thank you for being there and I love each and every one of you tremendously. I could not have written this book on my own.

I stand on the shoulders of: Myriam St. Preux, Marie Paulette Rene, Marie Chantal Rene, Constance Cange, Barbara Cange Dameus, Patrick Calixte, Guillermo, Jr. Calixte, Laeticia Landais, Marie Claude Albert, Shilda Albert, Louise Albert, Carline Marcelin, Marie Evangeline Roussel, Myrtho Cherichel, Barbara Roussel, Samara Jean-Baptiste, Lucy Doutache, Raymonde Jean-Baptiste, Lucinda Jean-Baptiste, Roland Cherasard, Gary Jean-Enard, Wilson Rene, Tamara Rene-Nelson, Nesta Findlay-Givhans, Carlene Burke, Bree and Steven Pascal, Malikah and Andre Johnson, Sadie and Brad Lanzet, Pauline Hospidales, Maria Montes, Angela McGuire, Marcia Cyrus, Nelson Santoni Jr, Ayleen Alago, Harriet Safran, Pat Wright, Joe Turner, Beverly Middleton, Michelle and George Louis-Jeune, Tracy Calixte, Liza H. Herzberg, Jennifer Nelson, Kadmiel Valcin, Jeniece Nimmons-Drake, Alacia Davis, John Nardozzi, Annie Jennings PR, Lila Green, Angela Hadl, MarcArthur St Juste, Aisha Goodridge, Nancy Francois, and Claire Marie Sejour.

In cherished memory of my grandmother, Esperanta Rene; my grandfather, Raphael St. Preux; and my cousin, Andre S. Albert. Time goes on, and the days pass by; however, my memories of you will never die.

Naked and Transparent:

Six Vital Tools for Knowing Yourself and Attracting Healthy Relationships

“I choose not to blame myself. I release my instinctive emotional response from the deepest root cause, and free myself from shame and self-judgment.” (Author Unknown)

Introduction

Are you struggling in your relationships? Do you suffer from low self-worth, chronic fear, anxiety, shame, or fear of abandonment? Are you continually attracting abusive partners and toxic relationships that don’t honor you, even though you say you want to attract healthy relationships?

If you’ve answered “yes” to any of these questions, I’m excited to tell you there’s hope and that you will create a much juicier and fulfilling life than you’ve ever dreamed possible! Regardless of where you are in your life right now, increased self-awareness will create miracles and help you achieve phenomenal success in your relationships.

Healthy, long-term relationships require two whole human beings who accept and love themselves, flaws and all. If you truly want to change your life and are ready to do the work to heal thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors that are keeping you from having what you want and being who you really are, you’ll no longer be locked and bound in your pain and the fear that holds you back in your life.

The book you now hold in your hands is a powerful and unique guide that will give you some of the most important tools you need to help you break through self-defeating habits and attract your ideal life and relationships. Since you’re reading this book, I am convinced that you are committed to becoming more self-aware and empowered.

The path towards self-awareness will be challenging, but I will be here for you every step of the way to support you in your journey. I want to thank you for inviting me into your home and into your heart, and for allowing me to help you excel in your life.

My deep passion for living life exactly as we were meant to be is what led me to working in the mental health field. As a therapist, my mission is to facilitate your transformation—that internal point of change at which you begin to think about your life in a brand new way and become aware of what’s truly possible for you. You begin to celebrate, embrace, and honor who you are.

In order to do that, you have to become clear about who you really are, and who you are not. The continuous journey of knowing yourself takes extreme courage, but once you embark on it, you release yourself from the prison of fear, hopelessness, and failed relationships. The one thing that we all have in common—the one thing we all want more than anything else—is to be whole and to live in our own truth.

This book will challenge you to look inside your soul and get to know the real you. You will begin to make new choices based on the real you, and these will change your life. The purpose of this book is to serve as a catalyst for self-knowledge and self-awareness by having you wholeheartedly examine what you want, uncover your unmet needs and beliefs, and discover who you really are.

I am a big proponent of the old adage that when you come to know who you really are, it will change the way you live as well as the way you love. Furthermore, when you come to know yourself and work towards self-mastery and understanding, you will gain an unparalleled sense of clarity. This clarity will then help you establish responsibility for your life and your choices.

My goal in writing this book is to challenge the way you think about your past—your successes, failures, life choices, and relationships—in order to help you grow and ultimately accept your true self. We often want other people to love us unconditionally, but we do not love ourselves unconditionally and have a non-existent relationship with ourselves.

We often put up an emotional wall that distances us, not only from others, but from ourselves as well. If we are not connected with ourselves, it is almost impossible to attract what we want. What do you deeply desire? Is it love? Money? Success? Regardless of what you want, I have come to the understanding that self-awareness is the foundation for receiving it and experiencing lasting joy.

Let me ask you a question: Who do you think you really are? I am challenging you to be truthful about who you think you are, because when you are truthful with yourself, you will be truthful about your relationships, goals, and dreams.

Self-awareness allows you to gain greater insight into yourself as an individual and your relationships. It will help you become consistently willing to attend to yourself and your relationships consciously.

Please note that not knowing who you really are doesn’t make you a failure. If you feel shame from not knowing yourself, congratulate yourself on embarking down the path of self-discovery. The fact that you have a desire to know yourself is a huge step in achieving what you want.

If you read the book in its entirety and complete your assignments, I promise that you will see tremendous changes in every aspect of your life! You will feel more happiness, more confidence, and more peace than you’ve experienced before! I know, because I was once in your shoes and used the very techniques I have described in this book to become who I am today.

You can’t change something until you are aware of it, and my job is to help you uncover the truth. I highly recommend that you take the time to be unwaveringly honest with yourself. The path of ruthless, honest truth may be uncomfortable and/or downright unpleasant, but neither is it pleasant to live day after day, year after year, pretending to be someone you aren’t.

Regardless of the past, this book is all about the here and now. Although I do encourage you to delve into your past in order to pinpoint or locate the source of your primary wound, the goal is for you to become aware of how your beliefs and feelings are serving you now. As we work together to uncover your true self, I challenge you to do so without self-judgment.