Second Chance to Meraki E-Book

Kettaki

• Herausgeber: Pencil
• Kategorie: Ratgeber
• Sprache: Englisch
• Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2022

Seitenzahl: 150

Beschreibung

About the book:
There are broadly two kinds of struggles for a human (apart from all the major ones) - that being - fighting with yourself and trying to be what you are not for the sake of others and fighting for yourself for the sake of protecting who you are. In either case, one can't go down without a fight. So, no-pain, no-struggle, no-fight is not an option.

This book is an eye-opener and makes you realize that - you can and you must choose your hard, because nothing really is easy. By the end of this book you will realize that - you can and you must choose your pain, before Life puts you in a place where the struggle isn't of your choice.

It's a collection of experiences by a millennial, for the millennials and Gen Z. If you have ever considered yourself a misfit, then this one's just for you.

Leseprobe

SecondChancetoMeraki

Mostofusdon'tgetitrightthefirsttimeandnotmanygetthechoiceofasecondchance.So,ifa'secondchance'knocksatyourdoor,don'tgiveasecondthought-embraceitwithallyourbeing.

BY

Kettaki

ISBN9789356106710©Kettaki2022PublishedinIndia2022byPencilAbrandofOnePointSixTechnologiesPvt.Ltd.123,BuildingJ2,ShramSevaPremises,WadalaTruckTerminal,Wadala(E)Mumbai400037,Maharashtra,[e-mail]dwideNopartofthispublicationmaybereproduced,storedinorintroducedintoaretrievalsystem,ortransmitted,inanyform,orbyanymeans(electronic,mechanical,photocopying,recordingorotherwise),withoutthepriorwrittenpermissionofthePublisher.Anypersonwhocommitsanunauthorizedactinrelationtothispublicationcanbeliabletocriminalprosecutionandcivilclaimsfordamages.

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Contents

SecondChancetoMeraki

Prelude

MerakiConversations

1.Lifeline;notdeadline.

2.HappyholicorWorkoholic

3.GetFascinatedwithYourself.

4.BalancetheEffortwithSurrender...

5.MarrytheMoment.

6.LabelsorExperience

7.LostandFound!

8.Areyouinarelationshipwithyourself.

SecondChancetoMeraki

Merakiiswhathappenstoyou,whenyouleaveapieceofyoursoulin

anything&everythingthatyoulovetodo.

Ihavejuggledwiththisveryquestionallmylife-whetheryouchooseorwhetheryouarechosen. IknowwhatIwanttodobutIdon’tknowwhatIwanttodo.IknowIwanttodosomethingsoul-involving,butIdon’tknowwhereexactlytoinvolvemysoul.

Iseemtolikealotofthings,soIdon’tknowwhattochooseorshouldIjustwaitforsomethingtochoosemeandkeeptryingoutthingstillthen.

Iamalreadyinmythirtiesand itpainsmetosaythateversinceIhaveunderstoodtheconceptofikigai,ithasmademe‘feellost’morethanIwas.Because,backthen,Ididn’thaveameanstofindoutthingsaboutmyselforthethingthatIwoulddedicatemyselfto,buttoday,whenIhavethemeans,Iamstillthere,tryingoutthings.

And,that’swhenIconceivedthisideaofSecondChancetoMeraki.Ihavefoundsomepeacewiththeacceptancethatthere'sareasonLifebelievesin2ndchancesbecausemostpeopledon’tgetitrightthefirsttime.

Bymost,Imean,mostofthisgeneration,theGenYwhereIbelongandtheGenZwhoaresortoftomorrow’sfuture.Whatwehaveinabundancearechoices&it’sagoodthingbutdoweknowtousethis‘freedomtochoose’tobuildamerakiwayoflife?

Prelude

2020wasmymomentoftruthformanyreasons-personal&professional.AndIamcertainthatitwasayearofrevelationformanypeople.

Therearetwotypesofstrugglesforahuman(otherthanthesurvivalones)-fightingwithyourselfandtryingtobewhatyouarenotforthesakeofothersandfightingforyourselfforthesakeofprotectingwhatyouare.Butbeforebeingabletodothat,onemustalsoknowwhoyouare!

Gettingintouchwithyourauthenticselfisthekeyherebecauseit’sveryeasytogetinfluenced–partlybecauseof thedigitalageweliveinandpartlyby thesocietalconditioningwearegroomedinto.

Iamnotheretotellyouso&soishardoreasy.Becausenothingiseasy.

Iamheretotellyou,youcan&youmustchooseyourhard,beforelifeputsyousomewhere,wherethehardisn’twhatyouchose.

Lifewillbehardasapainteroradoctor.But,ifyouwanttopaint,thehardwillbeworthsomethingandyoumaysavealife,ifnot,lives!Thatonelife,yourlife,maysaveotherlostliveslikeyours.Thatonelife,arelativelyhappierlife,yourlife,canspreadhappinessandmaybesomeday,onelifeatatime,theworldcouldbeahappierplace.

Isthereabiggerhappinessthangettingtodowhatyoulovetodo?Don’tchoosethepainofhavingtobecomeadoctorwhenyoucanchoosethepainthatcomeswithpainting.

No-painisnever anoption,soifyouaregoingtogothroughitanyway,makeitworthy.Withtheadventof2020andalotoftimeforself-introspection,somethinghitmesuperhard.Ihadbeen‘runningaway’fromsomethingallmylife.

ThatalwaysmademesuperrestlessbecauseIdidn’tknowwhatIwasrunningawayfrom.Ifigured,Iwasrunningawayfrommyself,frombeingme,frombeingmyownversion.t’snotalwaysnecessarythat‘ourversionofoneself’isacceptedbyeveryonearoundus,evenourlovedones.Butit’scrucialoneacceptsitforoneself-good,bad,ugly-onecan’tdisownapartofoneself.

Whenyoukeepdisowning,runningaway,itgrowsbigger&biggerlikeashadowchasingyouand youcan’tgetridofitbecauseit’sverymuchapartofyou.Itbecomesalifepatternsoonerthanyouknowandkeepsaffectingeverydecisionyoumake.

Ihadmy‘nowornever’moment,thedayofmybirthdayin2020.Everyyearfewdaysbeforemybirthday,Ihaveaphase,areallydarkonewhereinIcrymyselftobed,accusingmyselfofhavingapurposelesslife,agoodlifeifyoulookatit,butalwaysleavingmequestioning,"AmIdoingmybittokeepthisearn,theseblessings?"

Imean,imaginebeingbrokensomuchthatIhadahardtimeevenacceptingthegoodthingslifehasblessedmewith.Thisisthelevelofdamagethathappenstoyourself-esteemwhenyoukeeprunningawayfromyourselfandimaginemakingdecisionsfromthisstateofmind! Inmyquestoffindingmeaningtolife,Ihavetriedmyhandatalotofthingsonlytorealise-whatyouwant,maynotalwaysbewhatyouneedinthereallongrunoflife.Ihavegonefrombelievingsomethingtocompletelydisbelievingthatsamething&viceversa.

Here’saquickdisclaimer:Thisbookmaynotbeforeveryoneattheonset.It’sforthosewhoidentifythemselveswithaneeriekindofrestlessenergy,alittletowardsbeingamisfit,butseekingreallybadtofindtheirmerakiwayoflifeandallowingthemselvesthatsecondchance.

Inmystateofbrokenness,Ihadreachedalevelofself-hatredthatdeniedmethecouragetobekindtomyself,togivemyselfthechancetostoprunningaway,tostartfacing,tostartadmitting,tostartaccepting,tostartchanging.

Butsomethingchanged,maybeIchosetochange,maybeitwasmytimetobechosen –whateverbethecase,Ifoundthecourage,tofindmywaybacktobeingmeandIwanttopassthismeraki-batontoyouinthehopethatyouwillpassitontowhoeverisseekingit.

Maybethisishowonechoosestobechosen😊

HappyReading,MerakiReading!

MerakiConversations

1.Lifeline,notdeadline…

2.Happyholicorworkaholic?

3.Getfascinatedwithyourself!

4.BalancetheEffortwithSurrender.

5.MarrytheMoment:D

6.LabelsorExperiences?

7.LostandFound.

8.Areyouinarelationshipwithyourself?

1.Lifeline;notdeadline.

IfeelIhavebeentryingtowritethisbooksinceforeverbuthaven’tfoundtherighttimetogetitright!AndwhenIsay,righttime,allImeanis,checkingoffsomeboxes, like...

WhoamI,really,thatpeoplewillpickthisbook?Ihaven’taccomplishedasmuchthatwillputmeonpedestalforotherstochoosethisbook,justbecauseIhavewrittenit. 

Towriteaself-helpbook,don’tyouhavetohelpyourselffirst?Imean,obviously,right?Ishouldhaveitallfiguredout,ifIclaimto‘self-help’otherpeople.ButIdon’thaveitallfiguredout. 

Ionlyhavethatmuchfigured,rightnow,thatIknow, 

willleadtothenextstepoffiguringout. 

Thisrealization,ratherthissenseofself-awarenessthathascometome (Ihavepaidquiteapriceforit,hasn’treallycometomeeasy)givesmethecouragetotakethisupatastatewhenIamstillawork-in-progress projectmyself.Butyes,progressistheimportantwordhere.

AndLifehastaughtmequiterecentlythat,thatmuchisenough(mostofthetimes);liferevealstoyouonlyhowmuchyoucanhandle.Itmightbehardtoagreetothis,buttryandgivethisathought.Lifeknowsalotmorethanyoudo–whatwillmakeyou,whatwillbreakyou! That’swhyitalwaysthrowsdifferentkindsofchallengestodifferentpeople. Trustinghowmuchyouknow‘inthe moment’ismoreimportant thananythingelse;becausenoonehasitallfiguredout.

Thebiggerforcesknowwhatcanbreakyoutotallyvs 

whatcanbreakyoujustenoughtopushyoutobebetter.

~s~c~m~

LifehasabetterunderstandingofthingsandmostoftentheUniversegivesyouthingsthatyoucandealim-moment.Mostoftenwethink/feelwewantsomething;butwhatweneediswhattheUniverseservesus. 

Sometimes,knowingtoomuchatthewrongtimecandomoreharmthanhelp.So,it’simportantwetrustthattheUniverseknowsbetterandwillserveusandhelpuswiththerightthingsandrighttime.And,mostimportantly;somethingtoalwayskeepinmindasyouproceedreadingthisis;that everyone'stimelineisdifferent. 

Weshouldn’tbechasingdeadlines,whenwhatweactuallyareisatimeline.Therearecountlessexamplesofpeoplewhobeganlate,butaredoingbetterthanmostwhostartedearly;whoacedinschoolbutcouldn’tfareinreallife,whowereaveragebeingsincollegebutareexpertsintheirsegmenttoday.Doesn’tmeanthatonemustprocrastinateand startlateonpurpose;itonlymeansonemustn'tbeatoneselfupforstartinglate.

Thedayyourealize,whatisityouwanttodoinlife,beinlife,istheday

youcanmarkasthestart-pointofthemeasurescale.

Don’tcompareyourselfwithothers,whenyoucan measure yourprogresswithyourself. Sincerecently,Ihavestoppeddwellingonquestionslike,whyamIalate-bloomer,whatIcouldhavedoneorwhatIcouldhaveavoideddoinghadIunderstoodcertainthingsearlierinlife.

Ifitflows,itstays;ifitisforceditbreaks. Iwassofixatedaboutwhyso-and-sowasn’tthewayIwantedit,orwhyIwasn’tlivinguptomyownexpectationthatallmyenergyusedtogetexhaustedonwhathappenedinthepastvswhatIwanttodointheNOW.  

ButIrealizedthat,youstartglowingdifferently,whenyouknow,

whenyouaffirmtoyourselfthat,youareexactlywhereyouneedtobe;

notearly,notlate,ontime!

Withallthegoodand badexperiencesIhavehadinlife,onethingIhavelearntis- Iwillbeguided,allIhavetodo,isbe.

Bekind,notweak. 

Begenuine,notafool. 

Behonest,butdon’thurtanyone. 

Beyourself,seekyourownvalidation. 

AllowtheFORCEStohelpyou,beyou,tohelpyoubewhatyouaremeanttobe. 

Thisiswhatgivesmethecourage,faith&confidencetotakethisup,totakethisupatastage,whereIamprobablynotintheJayShettyleagues,butthisstillismyjourneyandIwouldwanttodocumentmyjourneyasmuchasIwouldwanttocelebratethedestination.

Because,journeyissomethingyouwillspendmoretimewith, 

whiledestinationislikeastop,itwillcome&go. 

There’sthisamazingdialoguefromoneofmyfavoritebollywoodmovies,“Simplehai,kuchlogonkesathsirfwaqtbitanesesabkuchsahihojatahai.”

 Andby‘kuchlog’Imean,thatonepersonwithwhomyouspendmostofyourtimewith–yourself.

Spendsometimealone,believeme,itissassyAF,it’slegitself-discovery. 

Whatoncestartedasadrunk-sessionwithfriends,gavemeananswerIwaslookingfor,foryears.Andastheanswercametome,Irealizedthattherecouldn’thavebeenabettertimingforit.

IfeltIwasledtotheanswerbecauseofthestrongseeking. 

Thequestionwasverysimple-WhoamI? 

WhoamI?

Kettaki.

WhoisKettaki?

Marketingprofessional

AspiringTedExSpeaker

Thesearethekindofanswersweusuallyhave;whenasked‘whoareyou’weoftenassociateitwith‘whatwedo’whichinrealityisjustapartofwhoweare.So,probeyourselfmore.

Whenyouarenotbeingamarketingprofessional,whoareyou?Iamsomeone’sdaughter,someone’spartner,someone’ssister,someone’sinspiration,someone’scolleague,someone’steacher,Iamalsoawriter,Iamalsoadreamer,Iamhope,IamLife,IamMeraki. 

Iamastory.Weallare.

Andwegettochoosewhotobeinourstory.

WhoamI?

IamwhateverIchosetobe:)

Youcanbecomeanythingyouwantonlyaslongasyouarelivingyourfullpotential andthereisnohalfin&halfout-thereshouldn'tbe.

Lifeisaboutliving,andinlivingwefindourbecoming. 

Youwillbeledtotherightthingsattherighttime.Rightforyou,maynotberightforsomeoneelse.Foryouatagivenpoint,therightthingcouldbegettingfiredfromyourjobbecausethat’showmaybeyouareforcedtolookforanotherjobwhichisprobablyfarbetterthanthepreviousoneorthisispreciselyhowyoutake thatlongawaited plungetostartthatbusinessyoualwayswantedtostartortakethatsolotriporanythingforthatmatter.

AllowLIFEtoleadyouwhereyouaresupposedtobeled,topushyouintobecomingwhatyouaremeanttobe.

~s~c~m~

Ihavealsocometobelievethat,UniversewillteachyouwhatyouneedtolearninthisjourneyasaSoul,onlywhenyouare‘readytolearn’-butifyoukeeprunningawayfromthat,thatwhatismeanttobeyourlearningasahumansoul,Lifewillkeepthrowinginyourface,thesameexperiences,overand overagain,untilyoulearn.Thisiswhatwealsocallpatterns.

Areyousomeonewhokeepsattractingacertaintypeofpeopleinyourlifeandthenendupcussingyourselfforattractingthesametypeofpeople,whogiveyouasimilarkindofhurtandeverytimeyoutellyourself-no-Iwon’trepeatthisagainwiththenextperson-butsomehow,it’sthesame!

Samegoesforsimilarkindofexperiences,maybesomethingasseriousas missingoutonanadmissionbyafewmarkstosomethingthathappensonadailybasislikemissingyourusualtrainalthoughyouwereontimetoday,becausethetraincamebyalittleearly.

Ifyouaresmilingatthis,inyourhead,youknowexactlywhatImeanandthetakeawayfromthissmile(thissilent,crooked,half-hearted,callingyourselfanidiot-wala-smile)isthatyouarenotlearningwhattheUniverseistryingtoteachyou.

Yougottositbackandidentifywhatexactlythatis;

whatexactlyyouarerunningawayfrom; 

insearchofthatsomething.

Whatexactlyisyourlanguagewhenyouaretalkingtoyourselfwhenyoumissedthatadmissionorthattrain?Howexactlyisthatpersontreatingmewhensomethingdoesn'thappenasperhis/herwill?Askyourselfthesequestions.

Whenwemeetsomeoneandwehavethisfeelingthatsomethinghasclicked-it’smostoftenyourownvoidthatyouarelookingtofillup,it’smostoftentheemptinessofsomethingortheexcessofsomethinginsideofyou,thatislookingforawayout.

ThereasonIammentioningaboutthishereisthat,youaretheaverageoffivepeopleyouspendthemosttimewith.

Whowemeetdependsonwhoweattractatanenergylevel,whoweattractatanenergyleveldependsverymuchontherelationshipyouhavewithyourself,thepatternsinyoursubconsciousformedduetoyearsofsocietalconditioning,earlystagesofupbringingandyourdialoguewithyourselfthatconstantlydeterminesyoureveryaction.

Thus,peoplecompriseahugepartinyourmakingand breakingandhenceitisimpertinentthatyoumakeyourselfwholeasanindividual–acceptboth,yourweakness&strength–gracefully.

Loveyourselfinentirety–

don’trunawayfromyourflaws,

don’tdenyyourfailures,don’trejectyourfears.

Embraceitallasyou.

Onceyoudo,youwillemergeasabetterperson,asahumbleperson,asanunderstandingperson,asanempatheticperson,asagratefulperson.Andwhenyouhavethesebyyourside,everythingseemseffortless,goalsbecomemerehabits,success&failuresbecomesmerelearnings,happinessand joybecomeyourverynature,youflow.

Trustme,Idon’tmeantosoundpreachy,IhopeIamnot!!!

IsayallthisfrommyexperienceandallIwanttodoissharewithyouall.Thesooneryourealizethis,thesooneryoucanchannelizeit,channelizeinward,beabetterperson,bewhateveryouwanttobe!

But,letmetellyouonemorething,thejourneytowardsself-discoverysucks,

it’safighteveryday!Becauseyoumeetpartsofyourselfthatyouneverthoughtwereyou.

Youmeetpartsofyouthatyouhaveshunawaythinkingit’snotyou,thinkingitcan’tbeyou,