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"Surviving the First Year After Divorce with a Narcissist" is a powerful, compassionate, and practical guide for anyone navigating the emotional and psychological challenges of breaking free from a toxic marriage. Written by Clinton Greene, Ph.D., a trauma recovery specialist and licensed counselor, this book serves as your roadmap to healing, co-parenting strategies, and self-love in the aftermath of narcissistic abuse. Leaving a narcissist is only the beginning. The first year post-divorce is often the hardest, filled with emotional turmoil, legal battles, and relentless manipulation. This book will help you: Break free from trauma bonds and emotional dependence Recognize and counteract post-divorce manipulation tactics Navigate co-parenting with a high-conflict ex without losing your sanity Rebuild self-esteem and reclaim your independence Find joy, confidence, and a future beyond survival With expert insights, real-life survivor experiences, and actionable strategies, this book is your lifeline in the most critical stage of recovery. If you feel trapped in the lingering effects of narcissistic abuse and are searching for clarity, strength, and hope, this book will empower you to not just survive—but thrive.
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Tothesurvivors—theoneswhochosethemselves.
Tothosewhohavewalkedthroughthefireofnarcissisticabuseand emerged,scarredbutstronger.Totheoneswhowakeupeveryday, evenwhenitfeelsimpossible.Totheparentsprotectingtheir childrenfromtoxiccycles.Tothesoulslearningtolovethemselves again.
Thisbookisforyou.Youarenotalone.Youareworthy.Youare free.
YouAreFree—Now,GoLive
“Survivingthemwasthehardestthing you’ve ever done.Thriving without them will be the most powerful.”
—AnaïsNin
Forewordiv
Introduction1
“Ijustdon’tknowwhattodoanymore.”1
WhyThisBookWasWritten2
TheFirstYear:WhattoExpect4
ThePsychologicalFallout5
TheNarcissist’sCounterattack6
Co-Parentingvs.ParallelParenting7
ReclaimingYourLife8
AMessagetotheSurvivorReadingThis9
Chapter111
AcceptingYourNewReality11
TheWeightofDenial11
BreakingFree fromDenial12
UnderstandingTraumaBondsand
EmotionalWithdrawal15
SettingBoundariesforHealing17
Chapter220
TheEmotionalRollercoaster20
UnderstandingtheStagesofEmo-
tionalRecovery21
CopingwiththeEmotionalHighsandLows23
TheRoleofTherapyandSupport24
HealingTakesTime—AndThat’sOkay25
Chapter326
SurvivingtheNarcissist’sGames26
TheSmearCampaign:Destroying
YourReputation27
Hoovering:TheAttempttoPullYou
BackIn28
LegalWarfare:UsingtheCourtSys-
temtoPunishYou29
WeaponizingYourChildren:TheUl-
timateBetrayal30
Chapter432
Co-ParentingWithoutLosingYourSanity32
TheMythofCo-ParentingwithaNarcissist32
HowtoParallelParentInsteadofCo-Parent33
TheCore Principlesof Parallel Parenting34
SettingLegalandEmotional Boundaries34
LegalBoundaries:ProtectingYourself
inWriting35
EmotionalBoundaries:Detaching
fromtheDrama35
DocumentingEverythingtoProtectYourself36
HelpingYourChildCopewiththe
Narcissist’sInfluence37
Chapter539
SucceedingBeyondtheFirst Year39
TheTurningPointFromSurvivingtoThriving39
ReclaimingYourIdentity40
BreakingFreefromEmotionalTriggers41
EstablishingHealthyRelationships42
LettingGooftheNeedforClosure42
BuildingaFutureThatisYoursAlone43
Chapter645
RediscoveringYourself45
TheJourneyBacktoYou45
RebuildingSelf-EsteemAfterNarcis-
sisticAbuse46
RebuildTrustinYourself47
FindingJoyandIndependence Again48
ReconnectwithOldPassions48
CreateaLifeThatFeelsLikeYours49
SmallSteps TowardSelf-LoveandHealing49
PracticeSelf-Compassion49
SurroundYourselfwithSafePeople50
CelebrateEveryVictory—NoMatter
How Small50
Chapter752
MovingForwardwithConfidence52
TheFearofMovingOn52
RecognizingRedFlagsinFutureRelationships53
TheBiggestRedFlagstoWatchFor54
BuildingaStrongSupportSystem55
HowtoCultivateaHealthySupportSystem55
Thriving,NotJustSurviving56
StepsTowardThriving56
Conclusion58
YouAreFree—Now,GoLive58
WhatFreedomReallyMeans59
WhoYouAreNow60
WhatComesNext?60
AbouttheAuthor62
By Dr.James Ellison, Ph.D., Licensed Counselor & Trauma Specialist
Theendofamarriageisnevereasy.Butwhenyouaredivorcing anarcissist,thepain,confusion,andpsychologicalwoundscan feelinsurmountable. Traditionaldivorcerecoveryadviceoften fallsshortwhenaddressingtheuniquechallengessurvivors ofnarcissisticabuseface—gaslighting,smearcampaigns,emo- tional blackmail, and relentless attempts to maintain control long after the relationship has ended.
Ihavespentover20yearsasacounselorspecializingintrauma recovery, personality disorders, and post-divorce healing. In that time, I have worked with countless individuals who, after divorcing a narcissist, found themselves emotionally drained, isolated, and questioning their own reality. Many came to me not just for guidance, but for validation—validation that what they had endured was not “just a bad breakup” but a deeply damaging psychological battle.
This book, Surviving the First Year After Divorce with a Narcissist, is a lifeline for those navigating this difficult journey.It goes beyond standard divorce advice, offering survivors practical strategies, emotional support, and a roadmap to healing.It addresses the reality of post-separation abuse, the challenges ofco-parentingwithahigh-conflictex,and,mostimportantly, the journey of reclaiming your self-worth.
WhatIappreciatemostaboutthisbookisitscompassionate yetrealisticapproach. Itdoesnotpromiseovernighthealingor suggest that “forgiveness” is the only path forward. Instead, it meetssurvivorswheretheyare—whethertheyaredrowningin grief,battlingpost-traumaticstress,orsimplytryingtorebuild asenseofnormalcy. Itprovidestoolsforemotionalresilience, teachesboundary-settingstrategies,andremindssurvivorsthat healingisnotjustpossible—itisinevitable.
Tothoseholdingthisbookintheirhands,Iwanttosaythis: Youarenotalone. Thepainyoufeelnowwillnotlastforever. Youhavealreadytakenthefirstandmostimportantstep—you chosetobreakfree. Andwiththeguidanceinthesepages,you will continue moving forward, one step at a time, toward a life ofpeace,strength,andself-love.
Dr.JamesEllison,Ph.D.
LicensedCounselor&Trauma Specialist
“YouDon’tHavetoWalkThisRoadAlone”
Hervoicewasbarelyaboveawhisper,yettheweightofher wordsfilledmyofficelikeaheavyfog. IwatchedasEmma—a womaninherlate30s,motheroftwo,exhaustedandhollow- eyed—ranherfingersthroughhertangledhair,staringatthe floor.
She had called me two weeks earlier, hesitant at first.Her words had been cautious, guarded, as if she feared that even speaking about her reality would summon some unseen pun- ishment.But today, as she sat in front of me, I could see that somethinghadshifted.Shewasn’tjusttired—shewasbreaking. “I feel like I’ve tried everything,” she continued, her voice cracking.“I’ve begged him to change.I’ve read every book, gonetotherapy,convincedmyselfIwastheproblem.But nothing is ever enough for him. One day, he’s sweet—almost
likethemanImarried. Then,thenext,he’scold,distant,cruel. It’slikeheenjoyswatchingmestruggle. Hemakesmefeellike I’mcrazy,likeeverythingismyfault.AndwhenItrytoleave…” She exhaled sharply. “That’s when he’s the worst.”
She looked up at me, her eyes rimmed with tears.“Dr. Greene…HowdoIleavesomeonewhohasconvincedmethatI’ll neversurvivewithouthim?”
Itookaslowbreath.Ihadsatacrossfromthissamescene moretimesthanIcouldcount—women(andmen)trappedin the cycle of narcissistic abuse, terrified of leaving but equally terrifiedofstaying. Thefirstyearafterdivorcinganarcissistis not just about legal battles or custody agreements—it’s about reclaimingyourmind,youremotions,yoursenseofself.
Anditstartsrighthere,withthehardeststepofall:breaking free.
Divorcinganarcissistisnotlikeanyotherseparation.Itisnota simplematteroftwopeoplegoingtheirseparateways,signing a few papers, and healing over time.No—when you leave a narcissist,youarenotjustendingamarriage.Youareescaping a psychological battlefield, one that has left you emotionally drained, mentally exhausted, and questioning everything you once believed about love, trust, and even yourself.
Ifyouareholding