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- Herausgeber: The O'Brien Press
- Kategorie: Ratgeber
- Sprache: Englisch
- Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2021
New updated edition. Congratulations, you're having a baby. Yes, that's right, you're expecting too! David Caren delivers a long 'overdue' practical, straight-talking pregnancy guide for Irish expectant dads – all from a dad's perspective. Combining real-life experiences from a fraternity of Irish fathers, tried-and-tested tips and expert views, with highlights including: - Testing, Testing: Scans and Checks - What's Up, Doc? Monitoring Mum - Prams, Trams & Automobiles: Choosing the Right Wheels - Lights, Camera (Maybe?), ACTION: The Delivery - Gone with the Sleep: Surviving Sleep Deprivation Accessible, entertaining, reassuring – everything an expectant and new dad needs to know! Fully reviewed and updated.
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The Irish Dad’s Survival Guide to Pregnancy (& Beyond …)
‘Just the book to see “Daddy” through.’Maternity & Infant magazine
‘We frequently get asked by our mums (and dads-to-be) where they can find information that’s aimed at men about pregnancy and parenthood, and we’re delighted to say we have found just the book … A really wonderful resource.’ mummypages.ie
‘David Caren may become the male equivalent of Gina Ford, with every father-to-be hanging on his every word.’ schooldays.ie
‘A down-to-earth, practical guide.’ Books Ireland
‘Refreshing … accessible … Answers all those questions many fathers-to-be would never utter in the light of a pre-natal class.’ Sunday World
‘A fantastic read!’ Mums & Tots magazine
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For E, R, A & D
Acknowledgements
Sincere gratitude to the fraternity of fathers who at first bolted at the idea of contributing frank and honest accounts, but who eventually succumbed − providing their surnames were omitted!
To Michael and Ivan O’Brien, Susan Houlden, Nicola Reddy and my O’Brien Press family for their enthusiasm and continued support. ‘What’s up, Doc?’ − Dr Tony Foley, for casting his experienced medical eye over my shoulder throughout the entire writing of this book and Lorraine Andrews, Lecturer in Midwifery in the School of Nursing and Midwifery in Trinity College Dublin for her invaluable contribution.
My thanks and appreciation also to Brian Byrne, Steve Boyd, Colin Cooper, Tracy Donegan, Tom Finn, Conor ‘Ironman’ Fitzgerald, Friends of Breastfeeding, Dr Yvonne K Fulbright, Jamie Harding, David Hickey, Home Birth Association of Ireland, Flor McCarthy, Miscarriage Association of Ireland, Brian O’Leary, Colin MacNamee, Lorcan O’Toole, PND Ireland, Ivan Santry, Ed Scow, Martin Thompson, Mary Tighe, Treoir, Paula Tunney and Dr John Waterstone of The Cork Fertility Clinic.
A special mention to a few of my dad pals who were always generous when it came to giving their opinion and feedback on pregnancy and fatherhood: Adrian, Bernard, Brendan, Darren, 6Ian, Jason, John, Martin and Nick, and to the countless mums who were open (too much so at times!) about what it was like having an expectant dad around during the pregnancy.
To my bookstore friends – thank you so much for racking it out, now if there’s any space on the shelf be sure to face the cover out front! To Ted & Mags, aka Mam & Dad, for teaching me the number 1 rule of parenting.
To my gorgeous and supportive wife Ellen and my three wonderful and distracting children, who gave me a little time off from being dad to write about becoming a dad!
Contents
Congratulations …
Becoming a dad is one of the most important, life-changing events to occur in a man’s life, one that comes with its own catalogue of emotions exclusive to expectant dads, the very centre of which is man’s search for reassurance. Reassurance that whatever he is feeling is perfectly normal, that whatever he is going through other dads have gone through the same. There will be times when you will feel sidelined, out of your depth, powerless and confused. Including the accounts and experiences of other Irish dads within this book shows that any doubts or feelings you may have are all par for the course.
In early 2009, I launched dad.ie – Ireland’s first website for Irish dads and dads-to-be. Watching over my wife’s expectant shoulder at her flitting from one mum website to another, I quickly realised that there was no Irish home on the web for expectant dads. The popularity of the site led me down the route of bringing out the first pregnancy title for Irish dads. Having spent several years as a bookseller, I noticed a gap on the shelf for a pregnancy title aimed at Irish expectant dads − written from a dad’s perspective.
The Irish Dad’s Survival Guide to Pregnancy (& Beyond …) is an easy, practical read, written by a dad for dads, filled with real accounts from a ‘Fraternity of Fathers’, expert advice and an array of useful tips that fall under the banner of ‘iDad’. Words, terms and phrases 13commonly associated with the pregnancy feature as ‘Bumpedia’ throughout the book.
The Irish Dad’s Survival Guide to Pregnancy (& Beyond …) is NOT a book with page after page of comprehensive medical text, diagrams of lady parts, or any type of flippant laddishness which undermines the greatness of the event.
I do not suggest you rush through this book from cover to cover. Pop it in your locker at work, leave it on your bedside table or in the glove compartment in the car, dip into it when you can, and, in reading, try to stay a few weeks ahead of where your partner is in the pregnancy; this way you will be prepared as to what is happening next and how best you can help her and yourself.
During the writing of this book, I fell in line with the mystery surrounding the sex of the baby and alternated between the sexes in the text. Regarding your own relationship with the mum-to-be, I felt it best to play it safe and go with ‘your partner’; after all, its definition does set the tone of the pregnancy: ‘one that is united with another in an activity of common interest which affects both the parties involved’.
This is a very exciting time for you. I thank you for choosing The Irish Dad’s Survival Guide to Pregnancy (& Beyond …) and am privileged to accompany you on your wonderful journey. All that is left for me to write before you start on your new chapter is: Congratulations, you are going to be a dad …
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‘It is much easier to become a father than to be one …’
Kent Nerburn
Introduction
You’re going to be a dad …
It All Started with the ‘Late Late’ Show
Tell-tale signs that she’s pregnant!
‘I’m late.’
‘No, you’re standing right in front of me, dear.’
‘No, I’M LATE, LATE!’
No other word repeated twice has the power to command man’s full undivided attention, and no other statement has earned itself a more fitting response than ‘how late?’
Something’s amiss
More often than not, a missed period is a positive indicator that your partner is pregnant, especially if her menstrual cycle is as regular as clockwork. However, if your partner is not so ‘regular’, then she may notice other symptoms of pregnancy before it becomes clear that she has missed her period. While we are on the subject it is quite common that a light bleed (spotting) around the time she is due her period can be misinterpreted as being the start of her period when in fact it can indicate that she is pregnant. 16
Handle with care
If you catch her wincing when your hands gently head north, take note: tender, swollen and enlarged breasts are another giveaway that she may be with child. Tender breasts are caused by the surge of hormones in her body; the good news (for you too!) is that this feeling of tenderness does pass as her body becomes accustomed to the new hormone levels.
Make up your mind
Frequent visits to the loo are another tell-tale sign that something is not right, unless of course she has a kidney infection! Pregnancy hormones are the Jekyll & Hyde of babyland. One minute they’ll have herself dashing off to the toilet more times than she can say Andrex, the next minute they’re rendering your nearest and dearest incapacitated, unable to go at all. Unfortunately, constipation is not only a sign of pregnancy but a symptom which usually only gets worse as the pregnancy progresses.
Down and out
Lack of energy, tiredness and dizziness are other common signs of pregnancy. Feeling tired can be attributed to the change in hormones in her body, which usually disappears as her body adjusts to the new hormone levels. ‘Hormones’ can be blamed for a lot of the misdemeanours that occur in the pregnancy.
Is it something you ate?
Morning sickness is not a pretty or pleasant experience for your partner, or for the supportive gent who has to clean up the shortfall that didn’t make the bowl, and though it can last the entire pregnancy (yikes) it is often one of the more obvious signs that your partner may be pregnant. While we are on the subject of what comes out of her mouth, what she puts in her mouth can also be a sign to start 17thinking about baby names. Keep an eye out for any unusual cravings – gherkin and chocolate sandwiches are a dead giveaway – and if she all of a sudden becomes repulsed by any of your favourite aftershaves and goes around sniffing the air like Teen Wolf, then it’s time to pay the chemist a visit.
Stay positive
The home pregnancy test is the ‘mother’ of all pregnancy indicators. I’m sure, by now, you know how they work; it’s not as if you put them in your ear. However, wouldn’t it be nice to know a little more about the four-inch plastic device that can decide a man’s fate in less than 300 seconds?
In a nutshell:
the home pregnancy test
Q. What do they look like?
A. A toothbrush without the bristles.
Q. What do you do with them?
A. ‘You’ don’t do anything with them; your partner places the stick in her urine stream.
Q. How do they work?
A. They detect if a hormone called human chorionic gonadotropin (hCG) is present.
Q. When are they used?
A. At the time her period is normally due; however, more accurate about a week afterwards.
Q. What is the best time of day to use one?
A. Her first pee in the morning.
Q. How long do we have to wait?
A. Usually around five minutes, depending on the brand.18
Q. What do I do?
A. Stay calm, yeah right! In the interest of fair play you could agree that, after your partner does the business to see if we are ‘in business’, she could replace the cap over the pee-y end and join you outside of the bathroom for the ‘wait’ – this way you’ll be together when you go back inside to see the result.
Q. How do we know?
A. A result will appear in a small window with the word ‘pregnant’ or a symbol such as a plus sign, line or smiley face. Even a faint line is an indicator of a positive test. Recognising that this can be a ‘testing’ time for couples manufacturers have produced a range of digital tests that go as far as to spell out ‘pregnant’ or ‘not pregnant’.
Q. How accurate is ‘accurate’?
A. If instructions are followed to the letter and the test is taken at the correct time, then we are talking 1 to 2 per cent shy of 100.
Q. Can my partner be pregnant but still get a negative test?
A. She may well be, especially if she takes the test too early on in the pregnancy.
BUMPEDIA: HUMAN CHORIONIC GONADOTROPIN (hCG)
Pregnancy tests are designed to detect if a hormone called human chorionic gonadotropin (hCG) is contained in a sample of urine or blood. Also known as the pregnancy hormone, hCG is produced shortly after your partner’s fertilised egg implants, or attaches itself to the inside of the womb (uterus). After this occurs, the levels of hCG rise rapidly, doubling every two to three days.
It is identified in the blood and urine within ten days of 19fertilisation and, for this reason, forms the basis of all pregnancy tests. It is often suggested that a first morning urine sample provides a more concentrated presence of hCG, and that taking liquids before collecting a sample may dilute the presence of hCG.
iDad: PEE LIKE AN EGYPTIAN
Whilst many of my school pals opted to do mechanical drawing or art, I lined up for Classical Studies – it was a short line! Who would think that what I learned one day would come in useful for a book on pregnancy for Irish dads. Herewith follows a nugget of information that I learned during one double period of CS:
One of the earliest records of home pregnancy testing can be found from ancient Egyptian times. A historical document described a test in which a woman who might be pregnant could urinate on wheat and barley seeds over the course of several days: If the barley grew, it meant that she would bear a boy, and if the wheat grew, a girl. If both did not grow, then she would bear no child.
For keepsake!
You may as well know this now: throughout the pregnancy your partner may collect and save keepsakes by which to remember the whole experience.
According to a survey commissioned by the makers of the Early Pregnancy Test brand, the top three pregnancy keepsakes are ultrasound photos, items from the actual delivery (including wristbands and blanket) and finally the home pregnancy test which confirmed the pregnancy. Yes, you are correct, a USED pregnancy test. One can only imagine that it is stored away for when little Johnny gets married and Dad would stand up to say a few heartfelt words, pull out a suspicious pencil-like relic from the noughties and say, ‘when Johnny was very small …’20
iDad: IT’S A DATE!
The actual day you both find out that you are expecting is an important date in itself, and one that should be recorded for future times, so to celebrate the date of finding out the news. Why not consider going out for a meal or buying a small gift for mum-to-be?
When my wife told me the news that we were going to be parents, I can honestly say I was hit by a wave of emotions the likes of which I had never experienced before. The range and variety of the feelings and thoughts that bombarded me was matched only by the intensity of the feelings. I have a number of friends who admit to the same experience. I have other friends who claim to have reacted with nonchalance when they were told. I’m not sure I really believe the latter group. The initial emotions were ones of absolute joy. As far as we were concerned, this was the greatest piece of news we had ever had. I remember thinking I would never have the same contentment as I had the day the news was broken to me. I was, of course, proven wrong when upon the delivery of my daughter I felt the same joy once again.
Darren, Dad of 2, Wicklow
We were on our holidays with all our friends and my girlfriend wasn’t well on the journey over, which I put down to travel sickness, but on our first night over there 21she left the bar early to go back to the apartment. To be honest, I didn’t think much of it until the next morning when I heard her throwing up in the bathroom. When she came out I was already sweating and not from the heat! We knew what we had to do, but as it was a Sunday, finding a pharmacy wasn’t going to be easy. We eventually found one open at around lunchtime. Up to this point, we had to carry on as normal in front of our friends. When my girlfriend came out of the toilet with the test in her hand, nodding, my first reaction was to say, ‘Did you just pee on that and now you’re holding it?’ Obviously this didn’t go down too well and my girlfriend burst into tears. If I’m to be honest, I was secretly hoping that it was negative. We had both just started in new jobs and life was great. Now here we were on the second day of our holidays, with over ten to go, with friends who had no children of their own. We didn’t tell our friends while we were there and, though it was difficult to take in at the time, we actually became much closer on our holidays. Two years on I have a baby son and I have to admit my life is better for it.
Tom, Dad of 1, Dublin
My wife came off the pill on our honeymoon. I thought it would be simple; in the next six months we would be expecting. It didn’t happen. Our GP recommended we consider fertility treatment. After two rounds of IUI we became pregnant. I tell you, the day I found out was the second-best day of my life, the best being seeing the birth of my daughter nine months later.
Tony, Dad of 1, Cork
We had been trying for a while; my wife was meticulous in pinpointing when she was ovulating. She’d even call me in work to say to come home immediately afterwards. It all seemed a bit clinical to me, but I loved 22her so much and I knew how important it was for her to have a baby. The next time she called me in work, frantic, I cut her off, saying that I couldn’t come straight home, that I had to work late, but this was not why she was ringing – she had just done a test and it came up positive. My first thought was ‘damn, I wish I was there when she’d done it’. I seemed to be more overjoyed for her as it felt as though this was something she had done on her own. It didn’t really hit me until I saw our unborn baby on the ultrasound scan; that’s when I felt that I had let her down. I made it up to her throughout the pregnancy and hopefully afterwards.
Paul, Dad of 1, Roscommon
I remember saying to my girlfriend when she told me she was pregnant that I was too young to be having a baby. We had not been together long and I didn’t know if our relationship would even go the distance. It didn’t mean that I would just up sticks and leave her all alone either. It’s been tough, but even though we are no longer together I still make sure my son doesn’t go without and I see him nearly every day.
Michael, Dad of 1, Dublin
When my wife told me we were having a baby we were sitting in a restaurant in town and she’d just come back from the ‘ladies’. She was very flush when she sat down so I put it down to the drink until I noticed she hadn’t taken a sip throughout the entire evening. When she blurted out the news I can recall getting an onset of butterflies, then feeling very cold and then hot, then scared and elated, and finally emotional and dumbstruck – I didn’t know what was happening to me. This must have all happened in slow motion because 23my wife left her chair to kneel beside me to ask if I was alright. I must have looked like a right fool. I will never forget the time and the place when I found out; my wife says she’ll never forget the look on my face when she told me!
John, Dad of 1, Galway
IUI had worked for us on two occasions. We were very grateful and counted ourselves fortunate to have two great kids and so we decided that our family was complete. That is until one morning my wife – who was two weeks late, which wasn’t at all strange really – announced, ‘wouldn’t it be funny if I was pregnant’. My wife had a stockpile of pregnancy tests left over from before. I can remember replying: ‘only last week we said that’s it’. Ten minutes later and our reflections in the bathroom mirror said it all – elated, astonished, disbelieving, confused but naturally delighted. When we told our parents they were not impressed at all that we kept it a secret that we were going again with another round of IUI. Safe to say, when they discovered we hadn’t, they too were delighted.
Roy, Dad of 3, Dublin
Any father who has undergone IVF will testify as to how emotionally and physically draining it can be on your partner. A baby was the one thing most in life my wife craved; I would try to maintain a laid-back approach, in an attempt to apply a bit of reverse psychology, in the hope that my wife would not become too obsessed or frantic were we not successful on the second try. Inside however, I desperately wanted a child of our own, but I felt that I was better served reminding my partner that there were always other avenues we could explore if it didn’t work out. When we discovered we were expecting twins I collapsed on the spot. My wife tells me I was banging the ground with my 24fists and crying at the same time. I have no doubt I was; whatever had built up inside of me needed to escape. After convincing my wife that this was actually a display of happiness, we booked a table in our favourite restaurant where we spent the whole night talking baby names.
John, Dad of 2, Kerry
BUMPEDIA: THE EDD
That very moment you find out that you are expecting can bring on a sudden mixed bag of emotions: excitement, apprehension, anxiety and uncertainty (as in, will we do another test?). When realisation eventually does settle in, one thing is for sure, you will both be desperate to know when it is exactly that you can expect to welcome your new baby (or babies!) into the family fold.
Determining the Expected Date of Delivery or EDD is often based on the last menstrual period (LMP) method. This method uses the date of her last menstrual period in order to find out when she is most likely to deliver, though bear in mind that our lady’s menstrual cycles can be irregular.
The EDD is calculated by adding one year, subtracting three months, and adding seven days to the first day of a woman’s last menstrual period (LMP). In other words, in the region of 280 days (40 weeks) from the LMP.
When you attend the first scan the obstetrician will be able to give you a better picture of the age of your baby, and therefore the expected date of delivery.
A Game of Three Parts
Trimesters
It doesn’t take a PhD to figure out that the word ‘trimester’ has something to do with three parts. So when I tell you that in the context of the pregnancy that it means ‘three months’, I’m sure you are going to think ‘well, that was pretty obvious’. Obvious it may be, yet it is important to note that each trimester will bring its own different emotional and physical surprises to your partner, and that as an expectant dad you will have your own role to play throughout the different stages of the pregnancy.
When we talk about a full-term pregnancy we are equipped with the knowledge that it is nine months, and therefore the concept of trimesters fits in quite well in describing that a pregnancy has a beginning, middle and end part – totally man-proof!
But since we are on the topic of matters relating to women, it’s not as simple as it sounds. You see, typically a normal pregnancy is in or around 40 weeks long, which
I admit is a bit longer than the suggested nine months. In the case of trimesters, the first trimester is commonly defined as from conception to week 12, the second trimester from week 13 through to week 28, and the third trimester from week 28 to the birth. This can vary between 38 and 42 weeks.
Confusing it can be, and that is why I have steered clear of a detailed week-by-week analysis of the pregnancy and opted for the more expectant-dad-friendly three-part trimester guide, or more specifically: we’ve had the news, we’re taking in the news, we have some good news …
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‘There are three stages of a man’s life: He believes in Santa Claus, he doesn’t believe in Santa Claus, he is Santa Claus.’
Author Unknown
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The First Trimester
Times they are a changin’
Trimester 1: Weeks 0–12
The first trimester is renowned for taking no prisoners. Just when you have stopped bouncing about with excitement with the prospect of becoming a dad, she starts crying and throws up on your good suit.
Womb with a view
A baby starts out as a few cells called an ‘embryo’ until it reaches its eighth week and becomes a ‘foetus’− I know it sounds a bit too clinical so we’ll stick with the name ‘baby’ from here on in. Your baby’s development kicks off the moment the fertilised egg attaches itself to the wall of the uterus – this is called ‘implantation’. Organs develop at lightning speed and will all be in place by the end of the first trimester.
Baby talk
‘By the end of this trimester I can curl my toes, since they are separated, and I can shake a mean fist – both with their own set of nails, I might add. My kidneys, liver, brain and lungs are all working, but as I grow, 28they will continue to mature. You can make out my face, and my eyes have moved into their proper place out front. I can also close my new eyelids. What’s that noise? Oh, that’s my heart beating. I can snack on nutrients coming from my mum, but I’m not so sure if these ‘buds’ in my mouth that go on to become my baby teeth are of any use to me yet. Now, if I could only reach down, I could tell you if I’m a boy or a girl – you’ll just have to wait for the scan!
‘I have grown in size from a poppy seed to the size and shape of a cashew nut − we are talking cement block to skyscraper progression in the babyworld. Impressive, no? By the end of the first trimester I measure about 3−4in (7.6–10.2cm) long and weigh about 1oz (28g). My head makes up nearly half of my size. Just as well that I’m safe in a cushion of amniotic fluid, I wouldn’t want to go banging it off something.’
Mum’s the word
Expectant mums can sometimes be over-cautious when it comes to eliminating from their lifestyle what it is they feel may be a danger to their unborn baby. Her being pregnant does not necessarily mean that any exercising or sporting activity that she enjoyed doing prior to falling pregnant must be put on hiatus for the next nine months.
I have it from a very reliable source (Charlotte from Sex and the City!) that exercise is to be encouraged in pregnancy. Encouraging your partner may take the form of your own active participation in an activity such as walking, jogging, swimming, tennis, golf, dancing and cycling. If your partner is concerned about continuing on an activity, she would be best advised to speak with her GP or midwife.
Getting sufficient exercise and maintaining a healthy diet are essential in the pregnancy. Such a lifestyle will help to improve circulation, energy levels and sleep. It will also alleviate morning sickness, keep weight gain reasonable and reduce the possibility of postnatal depression. Your partner should also consider taking prenatal vitamins that contain folic acid.29
The first trimester can be an exciting and daunting time for expectant parents: the first prenatal visit, choosing the right type of maternity care and the unfortunate worry of a miscarriage, which is more common in this period and leads many couples to hold off spreading their news until the 12-week safety marker.
Symptom sympathy
Due to the physical and emotional demands that being pregnant places on your partner’s body, this will be a difficult stage for her as her body begins changing and adjusting to a growing baby. She may be feeling a tad emotional and tired. On top of this she may have to contend with heartburn, wind, indigestion, and possibly constipation. And just so she doesn’t go thinking ‘this is a piece of cake’, let’s throw in some morning sickness for good measure. It is important to reassure her that these symptoms are part and parcel of the pregnancy and ‘most’ will go away as the pregnancy progresses.
She may be hypersensitive to odours and flavours and may be put off by certain foods. Her breasts will be tender, meaning the area could be a temporary no-fly zone.
Shaping up to fatherhood
Pregnancy often presents an opportunity for men to get fit – like we needed a reason! We pull out the runners from under the bed and dust off the gym membership. Our baby’s first view of their dad is not going to be as that fat lump cowering in the corner. It is safe to say that this new fit dad character may have a negative impact on expectant mum. Yes, yes I know what you are doing is admirable but be conscious of the fact that while one of you in the relationship narrows, the other – that being mum-to-be – expands, I mean blossoms. Be sensitive to her condition; the last thing an impregnated better half wants is a know-it-all fitness freak.
It may be time for you to make a few ‘sacrifices’ of your own and join in with the ‘Musketeers’ pregnancy programme. Intimacy 30may have to take a back seat for a while. And speaking of good health, research has highlighted that passive smoking can be just as dangerous to your unborn baby as first-hand smoke, which in itself increases the risk of low birthweight in babies, miscarriage, and Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS) or cot death. Show your support to your partner by limiting your own alcohol intake and joining her on her healthy-eating plan.
The ‘All-Day’ Infliction
Morning sickness
Consider a hangover without the consumption of alcohol, an upset stomach, a banging headache and the feeling of exhaustion for nearly three months. No, not some nasty strain of malaria, the better half has a case of morning sickness.
Although said to be an indicator of a healthy pregnancy (try telling her that when her head is down the toilet!), morning sickness is very common and will affect over 50 per cent of pregnant women, usually in the early stages of pregnancy, starting around week 5 with most sufferers noticing a reduction in their symptoms in week 16. Symptoms can vary from mild nausea to extreme vomiting, requiring hospitalisation in cases of severe dehydration.
Hollywood likes to portray the fairer sex as a type of superwoman throwing up in the middle of a crucial boardroom meeting, only to wipe her mouth with one hand whilst holding a ‘coal and HP sandwich’ (an actual recorded craving!) in the other, and still continuing on with business unaffected.
The reality is somewhat different. Morning sickness can stop your partner dead in her tracks, and assigning the condition a specific time of day gives it an even more cruel twist as it can strike at any time of day.
However, many of our partners will notice that it occurs at the same time of day and that they can, therefore, schedule their day’s 31activities accordingly. There are various theories as to what causes morning sickness, including a change in the hormone levels, low blood-sugar levels, an enhanced sense of smell and sensitivity to odours, excess acid build-up and stress.
The following are various things that you can do for your partner to help alleviate the symptoms of morning sickness:
What you can do:
Encourage your partner to take sufficient rest.
Ensure that there is a dry biscuit or cracker to hand upon awakening. Your partner could try eating this before lifting her head from the pillow and then sit up slowly and take a small drink.
Help with the daily chores, including the cleaning, caring for the children and especially the cooking.
Make family and friends aware of your partner’s symptoms and ask them to keep in regular contact.
Avoid unnecessary conflict (throughout the pregnancy) and accept that intimacy may take a vacation for some time!
