Top Mistakes of Parents E-Book

Guru Gaurav Arya

• Herausgeber: Pencil
• Kategorie: Ratgeber
• Sprache: Englisch
• Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2021

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Beschreibung

About the book:
"Top Mistakes of Parents" is a very useful parenting guide for everyone. Inside this book, you will read the top twenty common mistakes of parents and their explanations. The author also mentioned many bullets points, that will help you repair your mistakes. To understand better explanations of mistakes you will get many family conversations. Sincere parents are always worried about their children's parenting, so this book will help you to remove it. But now the question is that this worry required? So, I think yes! Because children are the mirror of parents' karma. As per the Puranas and Shastras, children are our ancestors or our past birth connection. Many things stress parents and children in between life, like misunderstanding, generation gap, ego, etc. However, this book depends on

Leseprobe

TopMistakesofParents

AGuideofCommonParentingMistakes

BY

GuruGauravArya

ISBN9789355591647©GuruGauravArya2021PublishedinIndia2021byPencilAbrandofOnePointSixTechnologiesPvt.Ltd.123,BuildingJ2,ShramSevaPremises,WadalaTruckTerminal,Wadala(E)Mumbai400037,Maharashtra,[e-mail]dwideNopartofthispublicationmaybereproduced,storedinorintroducedintoaretrievalsystem,ortransmitted,inanyform,orbyanymeans(electronic,mechanical,photocopying,recordingorotherwise),withoutthepriorwrittenpermissionofthePublisher.Anypersonwhocommitsanunauthorizedactinrelationtothispublicationcanbeliabletocriminalprosecutionandcivilclaimsfordamages.

DISCLAIMER:TheopinionsexpressedinthisbookarethoseoftheauthorsanddonotpurporttoreflecttheviewsofthePublisher.

Authorbiography

GuruGauravAryaisanIndianAstrologerandresearcher.Hehasbeenpracticingastrologysince2007.Now,aftercompletingmanycases,providingAstrologicalServicesintheworld.Atthebeginningoftheircareer,hewasaMechanicalEngineer.AfterthecompletionofEngineeringProjects,hestartedAstrologyConsulting.Now,TheGuruGauravAryaisaleadingnameinIndianAstrology.Hewrotemanybooksonspirituality;heexplainedthespiritualsystemsinhisbooks.

GuruGauravAryahasalotofpupilsfromtheworldwhoalwaysgetguidancefromhim.TheChiefMinisterawardedgurumanytimesatUttarakhand.Heiscontinuouslywritingself-help,motivational,fictionbooks.In2018,Guruwrotehisfirstbook,"ShreeShaniSamhita,"thebestbookonlordShanidev,aHindudeity.Afterthat,hewrotemanyspiritualbooksonIndianspirituality.                       

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Contents

>>CHAPTER1<<

TOOEARLYORDELAYEDPARENTHOOD

>>CHAPTER2<<

CHILDRENARETHEMIRROROFYOURKARMA

>>CHAPTER3<<

GIVINGMOREIMPORTANCETOOWNFEELINGS

>>CHAPTER4<<

PARTIALITYBETWEENCHILDREN(FAVORITISM)

>>CHAPTER5<<

NOTUNDERSTANDINGTHECHILDREN'SNEEDS&DEMANDS

>>CHAPTER6<<

DOYOUSCAREYOURCHILD

>>CHAPTER7<<

AREYOUPUTTINGYOURWORKLOADONCHILDREN

>>CHAPTER8<<

NOGUIDANCEFORTHEFUTURE

>>CHAPTER9<<

THEWAYOFCOMMUNICATIONISRUDE

>>CHAPTER10<<

NOHELPWHENTHEYGENUINELYNEEDIT

>>CHAPTER11<<

NOTCONSIDERINGCHILDRENOPINIONS

>>CHAPTER12<<

SHOWINGTOOMUCHCAREANDPAMPERING

>>CHAPTER13<<

NOTSHOWINGANYCARE&LOVE

>>CHAPTER14<<

NOTREADYTOUPDATEWITHCHILDREN

>>CHAPTER15<<

DONOTMAKEYOURCHILDRENWEAK

>>CHAPTER16<<

IMPOSINGYOURGOALSONYOURKIDS

>>CHAPTER17<<

NOENCOURAGEMENTFORHIGHTHINKING

>>CHAPTER18<<

INCONSISTENTDISCIPLINING

>>CHAPTER19<<

ARGUINGINFRONTOFCHILDREN

>>CHAPTER20<<

FIGHTINGINFRONTOFCHILDREN

Epigraph

"EVERYCHILDHASAUNIQUEQUALITY;

JUSTPARENTSNEEDTOIDENTIFYTHEM."

Acknowledgements

TopMistakesofParents

AcompleteGuideforParenting

By

GURUGAURAVARYA

(Astrologer&Researcher,LifeCoach,Counselor)

FirstEdition:2022

Copyright©2022byGuruGauravArya

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Introduction

Thepurposeofthisbookishowyoucandogoodparenting.Aseverybodyknows,today'stimeischangingatafastspeed.Andnoweverythingisgoingchallengingforeveryone,inrelationship-relatedmatters.Oneoftheseistherelationshipbetweenparentsandchildren.Whensomeonebecomesaparent,theythinkmanythingsintheirmindsandfeeltoohappy.Theyfeelanxiousabouttheirchildaswell.

Butnowthequestionisthatthisworryrequired?So,Ithinkyes!Becausechildrenarethemirrorofparents'karma.AsperthePuranasandShastras,childrenareourancestorsorourpastbirthconnection.Manythingsstressparentsandchildreninbetweenlife,likemisunderstanding,generationgap,ego,etc. However,thisbookdependsonmypersonalexperienceandincidentsaroundme.So,I'llendeavortohelpallparentsaskforapromisingcareerandbeapprehensiveabouttheirchild'slife.Maybethisbookhurtsyourfeelingsbecausetoxicparentsneverunderstandtheirfaults.Asanastrologer,Iwitnessedmanyfamilycasesthatparentsareunhappywiththeirchildren.Childrenarealsodissatisfiedwiththeirparents.

So,Ithinksomewhereissomethingproblematicbetweenchildrenandparents.Whatdoyouthink?Areparentslikeagod?So,itistruebecausethecreatorofanythingisGodfortheircreation,butthesecondquestionisthathumanscannotbecomeGodbecausehumansaretheidolofmistakes.

Andthesecondthingisthat,iftheproblemisoccurring,somethingsomewhereiswrong,soIthinkweshouldworkontheirparenting.I'lltrytodiscusswithyoutomakeyouhappybyusingthisbookthatyouwillfacenoissuesaboutparenting.Ihaveseendedicatedparentstochildren,yettheymetconcernsabouttheirparenting.Manythingsmayberesponsibleforthat,likeover-careorpossessivenesstowardschildren.Aftermanyexperiencesdealingwithsuchinstancesinvariousfamilies,Idecidedtosharethe"Topmistakesofparents"namedbook.Ihavementionedtwentycommonmistakesinsidethisbookthatarecommoninsociety.Thisbookwillbeanenlighteningprospectforbothexistingandfutureparents.Ihavenotedmanyfamilyconversationsforbetterunderstanding,andIhopethoseconversationswillhelp.So,comeandstartajourneywithmetocorrectyourwayswherepossibleandbecomegoodatparenting.

>>CHAPTER1<

TOOEARLYORDELAYEDPARENTHOOD

ThepurposeofMarriageistobuildanewfamily,andchildrenareaprominentpartofsuccessfulmarriagelife.Theyfacemanyissues,suchasaboringlifestyle,jealousyfromothercouples,tauntsfromfamilymembers,andirritability.BecauseifyouhaveeverythinglikeaDistinguishedCareer&Goodwealthandgoodnameandfameinsocietyandnothavechildren,thenyouwillthink,whyIamearningandforwhom?Ifyouareaparent,thencongratulations,andalsoyouhavethesignificantresponsibilitytomakeanotherfutureandyourcareer.Sonowtwothingsarethere.Thefirstis,earlierparenthoodsecondislateParenthood.Thequestionisalsoimportantwhattheperfectageofchildbearingis?SoIwouldliketosayitdependsuponyourhealth,financialconditions,&partners'understanding. 

TherearetwofactorsofParenthoodwhichareingeneralcondition. 

DelayedParenthood.EarlyParenthood. 

Youcannotbecomeaparentwithoutchildren,soParenthood'sfirststep;afterthat,Parentingwillcome.Beforeproceeding,weshouldknowwellaboutthedifferencebetweenParenthoodandParenting. 

Parenting willcomewhenyouhavebecomeaparent.Parentinginvolvesrearingachild.Itincludesthetechniques,methods,andskillsyouwilluseinraisingyourchild.Conceptsofbathe,feed,andsoothingyourbabyareallpartofParenting.Providingdirectionandinstillingfamilyvaluesareparentingtasksonceyourchildisolder,teachingvalues,discipline,andresponsibility.  

Parenthood, ApersonentersParenthoodwhentheybecomeaparent.Itmostcommonlyhappenswhentheirchildisborn,butitcanalsooccurthroughadoption,marrying,orbecomingapartnertosomeonewithchildren.Itinvolvestheroleyouaretaking,asamotherorfatherandasaco-parentwithyourpartner. 

ThefirstformsofthewordParenthoodcomefromthe1850s.Thesuffix-hoodindicatesastateorcondition—inthiscase,thestateofbeingaparent.It'susedinthesamewayinwordslikemotherhood,fatherhood,adulthood,andchildhood.Inafewwords,wecansaythatParentingistheprocessofgrowingandeducatingachildfrombirthuntilmaturity,whileParenthoodisthestateofbeingaparent.

DelayedParenthood.

Duringtheastrologypractice,IsawthatcoupleshadcompletedmanyyearsofMarriageandhadnotbecomeaparentsofar.Isawmanypeopleleadthismatterefficientlyandsaythisageisnotperfectforchildplanning,whereastheyhadcrossed35yearsoftheirlives.Withthismentality,manyissuescanoccurlikemedicalproblems,healthproblems,etc.Today'sthedailyroutineanddietofpersonsisnotgood,manyreasonsforhealthproblemslikepollution,stress,hecticscheduleandothermanyfactors.

So,Iunderstandthatacareerhasitsplaceandfamilyhasadifferentroleinlife,andthecouplewhounderstandthiswillneverfeellonelyuntiltheendoflife.Everyoneseekswealthandacareertoenjoylife,likethatchildrenareacrucialpartoflifetoenjoythelife. 

Imeancareer,Marriage,andchildren;thesethingsrelatetoeachother.Youaremakingacareerandassetsbecauseyouwantaluxurylifeandinsuranceforyourfuture,butwhowilltakeoveryourassetsafteryou?Yourchildren.Soyoucanthinkchildrenareanessentialpartoflife. 

Sothefirstthingisthattimingissignificantforchildplanning.Lateplanningcankillyourdreamsofhappinessinthelaterstageoflife.Sodonotmakeamistakelikethat.TheperfecttimingofParenthoodwillgiveyouagoodlife.

WhatarethesignificantissuesyoumayfaceifyoudelayaParenthood? 

Thatisanagefactor.

Nowtrytounderstandhow? 

Supposeyoumarriedabout40yearsofageandyourpartnerisapproximatelyequaltoyouinage,andthenifyouplanforthebabyaftertwoyearsofMarriage. 

Sowhatisyouragerightnow? 

Thatis42-43years,andthenyoumaybecometheparentsin35years.Soifyouareinajointfamilyandyourmotherandfatherarelivingwithyou,youcanfeelcomfortablebecauseyourparentshaveexperiencedandcaredforyourbaby. 

Butifyouarenotinajointfamilyoracouplelivingsingle,thenthissituationisverytypicalforyou.Ifbothareworkingpersonalities,youwillfindamaidorbabycarecenterforthebaby.Maybethisstepisnotsuitableforyourbaby'sfuture,asyouknowverywell.Otherwise,onepersonwillcompromisewiththeircareertocareforthebaby.Butmymainpointistheagefactorbecause,whenyoubecomeaparentthenyourageis43(aswehaveaboveassumed)andyourchildageisafewmonths,butwhenyourageis50yearsold,thenyourchildisonlyfiveyearsold,andwhenyouareintheageofseniorcitizen,yourchildwouldbe17yearsold.AndifyouwilldotheMarriageofyourchildrenaboutin32years,whatwouldbeyourage?Ithink75to76.

Howcanyousupportyourgrandsonorgranddaughter?Atthisage,youmayfacemanyhealthissuesandotherproblemsthatarenotgoodforyourchildrenandyourgrandchildren.Andhowcanyoucareforyourgrandchildrenasyoualsoneedmorecare?Nowtimetoreadsomecasestudies.

CaseStudy 

In2016,adoctorwhogotmarriedat38andwastryingforfamilyplanning;failedbecauseofsomemedicalissues.Thenwhat?Hetreatedthesamemedicalproblems,buthecouldnotbecomeaparent.HegotfrustratedandheldthehandofGodandthenspentmanythingsonastrologers,worship,andotherthings.Afteralongtime,theybecomeparentswithmedicineandGod'sblessings,buttheparentsare43yearsold,andnowyoucanunderstandwhattheyfaceintheirupbringing.Iftheyhadplannedandfeltanymedicalproblemsattherightage,theywouldhavehadenoughtimetoseekmedicalcare.Inoldage,theywilltouchonmanyissuesinParenting.Theywillfeellessenergy,andchildrenwanttheirparentsshouldbeenergeticandhealthyalwaysbecausechildrenhavetheirworldandtheirparentsaresuperheroesofthatworld.

TooEarlyParenthood

EarlyParenthoodisgood,buttooearlyParenthoodisnotgood.Whencouplebondsinamarriagerelationship,theyneedtimetoknoweachother.Womenneedsometimetounderstandthefamily.Ifawomanknowsherpartnerverywell,herpartnerwillsupportherduringthepregnancy.Thisconditionalsoappliestothefamilybecausefamilymembersalsohelpthecouple.EarlyParenthoodmayhavemoredestructiveconsequencesbecauseofitsfeatures;pregnancyismoreoftenunexpected,thefamilyunitrarelyestablishesatthetimeofconception,andtheyoungparentsareatacriticalpointoflife. 

WhataretheharmfulpointsofEarlyParenthood?EarlyParenthoodharmededucationalattainmentandemployment.

Miscarriages.UnplannedBaby.Suddenloadofparenting.Theyneedmorematurity.LossofEducation.HealthProblems.Disturbancesinsexuallife.Careerloss.Theburdenofmoreresponsibility.Financialproblems. 

EarlyParenthoodFacilitateEconomicAchievement?

ItistheopportunitycostexplanationandispotentiallyrelevantformenandwomenconsideringearlyParenthood. EarlyParenthooddecreasestheopportunitiestodevelophumancapitalorworkexperience,asgrowingchildreniscostlyandtime-consuming.However,ifayoungfatherdoesnotacceptresponsibilityforhischild,hisopportunitycostsareunaffectedbyfatherhood.

WillEarlyParenthooddisturbyourpersonallife?

IntheprimarystageofMarriage,lifepartnersneedtimetoenjoylife.Theywanttobuildahousefirst.Afterthat,theyplanforababy.Theywishtotheexcursiontoenjoylife.ButinthecaseofearlyParenthood,theywillmovetowardsthekidresponsibility.Sotheywilllosetheirpersonallifeastheywant.

>>CHAPTER2<

CHILDRENARETHEMIRROROFYOURKARMA

Iremembertheadage,"Asyousow,soshallyoureap."itistrue.Ifyouarenotdoinggoodforsociety,thisKarmawillshowinsideyourchildren. 

WhatisKarma?

Karmaisanactionandreaction.Ifweshowgoodness,wewillreapgoodness.Regardingspiritualdevelopment,Karmaisallaboutwhatapersonhasdone,isdoing,andwilldo.Karmaisrationalaboutpunishmentorreward.Itmakespeopleresponsiblefortheirlivesandhowtheytreatotherpeople.

Theprocessofactionandreactiononalllevels—physical,mental,andspiritual—isKarma.Onemustpayattentiontothoughtsbecausethoughtcanmakekarmas—good,bad,andmixed.

TheUniversalKarmikLawsays,dependingonthekarmiclinkbetweenthesoulsinvolved,thechildcanbefriend,foe,debtor,creditor,advisor,orindifferenttotheparents.  

Somechildrenbringhappiness,success,andwealthtotheirparentsbecausetheyareborntodelivertotheirparents.Thatisthekarmicdebttheyhavetopayoff.Somechildrencauseunendingmiserytotheirparents,costingthemtime,money,anguish,andworriesbecausethatistherelationshiptheyhavetofulfillwiththeirparents.Unlessweknowtheresultsofourkarmas,howcanwesaywhoisafflictingwho?Weacceptthatnatureisdeliveringtherightresultsforourkarmicdebts. 

InIndianAstrology,manyopinionstellhowyourchildrenwillbecomeinthefuture?Itdependsuponyourcurrentlifeorpastlife,Karma.

Supposeacoupledoesnothavechildrensofarmeanstheypunishedotherchildrenordidsomethingwrongwithanotherkid.That'swhytheyarefacinganissue.Secondthingssupposeyoudidnotcareaboutyourparent,somaybepossibleyourchildrenalsodonotcareaboutyou.ItiscalledtheMirrorofKarma. 

AsIamanastrologer,Iwanttogivesomeastrologicalreasons.TheywillspeakaboutyourKarma.YoucanreadyourbirthandcanseeyourKarmaforyourparenting.

InVedicAstrology,the5thHouseshowstheKidsandtheirlifestyle.Ifsomeoneischildless,childlessyogawillbeinsidethenative'sBirthChart,andyouknowtheBirthchartverywellshowsyourKarma.

Know,HowSpiritualKarmawillwork,andhowcanyoufinditinthebirthchart?

SomeAstrologyOpinionsI'mgivinghere.

1.The5thHouseanditsLordarehemmedbetweenJupiterandmalefic,orwhenkarakaJupiterhasamaleficassociation,thenativewillsufferchildloss.

2.Ifthelordorrulerof1st,5th,and7thHousesorBhavasandJupiterareafflictedbecauseoftheaspectoroccupationbyMaleficorwhenwiththem,asimilarfatecanbeexperienced.

3.The5thlordwithoutbeneficialaspectisweak,withamaleficinthe5thHouse.

4.Lordsofthe6th,8th,or12tharewiththe5thlordorwithoutbeneficconjunctionoraspect.

5.MoonandJupiterareplacedinevilhousesorlordsofthe5thfrombirthascendant,andChandraorMoonLagnaisinevilhouses.

6.MarsandSaturnaspectthe5thHouse.Theweaklordofthe2ndorthe7thHouse