The Student EQ Edge E-Book

Korrel Kanoy

• Herausgeber: John Wiley & Sons
• Kategorie: Bildung
• Sprache: Englisch

Seitenzahl: 230

Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2013

Beschreibung

THE STUDENT EQEDGE STUDENT WORKBOOK

The Student Workbook is a companion to the book The Student EQ Edge: Emotional Intelligence and Your Academic and Personal Success . The Workbook offers you a hands-on resource for gaining a clearer understanding of emotional intelligence and is filled with practical exercises for developing your emotional intelligence. Filled with case studies, self-assessments, activities around movie and television clips, and reflection and discussion questions, the Student Workbook will give you the skills and confidence you need in order to succeed in college and beyond.

"Success in college is not just a matter of luck nor is it all about being the smartest person in class. The way you approach college matters. The great news in this book is that you can learn how to be successful in college and in your life beyond college."—Randy L. Swing, executive director, Association for Institutional Research

"We have been long aware that academic ability does not necessarily predict college success. This book provides a comprehensive look at emotional intelligence and the role it plays in student persistence. It takes these noncognitive aspects that we know really matter and puts them into a practical, user-friendly guide. This book is long overdue in higher education."—Catherine Andersen, master trainer in emotional intelligence; professor and special assistant to the provost for student success, Gallaudet University

Leseprobe

CONTENTS

Preface

About the Authors

Chapter 1: Introduction to Emotional Intelligence

Emotional Intelligence Overview

A Word About EI Scales and Skills

The Student EQ Edge: Student Workbook: An Overview

Why Reflection?

Chapter 2: Case Studies of Emotionally Intelligent (and Not Emotionally Intelligent!) Behavior

Case Study #1: Why can’t I Make an A?

Case Study #2: 15 Years to Graduate

Case Study #3: But I’m Good!

Case Study #4: Starting College

Case Study #5: Shared Responsibilities

Case Study #6: A Costly Decision

Case Study #7: First Job Jitters

Case Study #8: No Way

Case Study #9: Twins?

Chapter 3: Emotional Self-Awareness

Why Emotional Self-Awareness?

Chapter 4: Self-Regard

Why Self-Regard?

Chapter 5: Self-Actualization

Why Self-Actualization?

Chapter 6: Emotional Expression

Why Study Emotional Expression?

Chapter 7: Independence

Why Learn Independence?

Chapter 8: Assertiveness

Why Assertiveness?

Chapter 9: Interpersonal Relationship

Why Interpersonal Relationship?

Chapter 10: Empathy

Why Empathy?

Chapter 11: Social Responsibility

Why Social Responsibility?

Chapter 12: Reality Testing

Why Reality Testing?

Chapter 13: Problem Solving

Why Problem Solving?

Chapter 14: Impulse Control

Why Impulse Control?

Chapter 15: Flexibility

Why Flexibility?

Chapter 16: Stress Tolerance

Why Stress Tolerance?

An Overview Of This Chapter

Chapter 17: Optimism

Why Optimism?

Chapter 18: Happiness

Why Happiness?

A Note About Depression

References

Appendix A: KISS Strategies for Improving Emotional Intelligence

Appendix B: Movie Selections for Learning About Emotional Intelligence

Cover design: Michael Cook

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PREFACE

One of the authors, Korrel, taught at the college and university level for over 30 years and quickly learned that students rarely read the preface, so we’ll keep this one very short!

There are many reasons (better grades, increased chances of graduating, better career performance) why you may want to take this workbook very seriously. Do the exercises, read more about emotional intelligence in The Student EQ Edge: Emotional Intelligence and Your Academic and Personal Success (Stein, Book, & Kanoy, 2013), and practice your new skills. If you do so, you will reap many rewards in your educational, professional, and personal life.

ABOUT THE AUTHORS

Korrel Kanoy, Ph.D., is a developmental psychologist and served as a professor of psychology at William Peace University for over 30 years, where she won the McCormick Distinguished Teaching Award and the Excellence in Campus Leadership Award. She has taught college-level courses in emotional intelligence since 1998. Korrel designed a comprehensive approach to infusing emotional intelligence into first-year experience courses, disciplinary senior capstone courses, and college and university service offices. She has worked with over 200 college students to help them develop emotional intelligence and has worked with schools to hire the best teachers using emotional intelligence as part of the hiring process. She has published a children’s book, Annie’s Lost Hat, which teaches preschoolers lessons about emotional intelligence through the story. She is a coauthor of Building Leadership Skills in Adolescent Girls.

Steven J. Stein, Ph.D., is a psychologist and CEO of Multi-Health Systems (MHS), a leading international test publishing company. He has authored several books on emotional intelligence, including the original The EQ Edge: Emotional Intelligence and Your Success (coauthored with Dr. Howard Book); Make Your Workplace Great: The Seven Keys to an Emotionally Intelligent Organization; and Emotional Intelligence for Dummies. He has given presentations on emotional intelligence to audiences throughout the United States, Canada, Mexico, Europe, Asia, and Africa. As well, he has appeared on hundreds of TV, radio, online, and print media productions.

For over a dozen years, Dr. Howard E. Book’s area of expertise has been benchmarking and enhancing the emotional intelligence of individuals and groups, as well as developing training programs to enhance the strength of this ability. Dr. Book has also written, lectured, and offered workshops on the importance of emotional intelligence and success in the real world internationally. He is a member of the Consortium for Research in Emotional Intelligence in Organizations, part-time faculty at the INSEAD School of Business in France and Singapore, and a former board member of the International Society for the Psychoanalytic Study of Organizations, and with Dr. Steven Stein he coauthored the book The EQ Edge: Emotional Intelligence and Your Success. He holds the rank of associate professor, Department of Psychiatry, Faculty of Medicine, at the University of Toronto.

Chapter 1

Introduction to Emotional Intelligence

Most of us grew up with a limited view of what it meant to be intelligent. We thought about those tests they gave us in school at the end of the year and the grades we earned. We thought about vocabulary words or math skills or reading comprehension. We took for granted that intelligence was important. And it is. We knew what IQ was about. But what about EQ? Emotional quotient, or EQ, is a measure of another form of intelligence. Intelligence is broader than we once thought and extends far beyond book learning or innate ability; it includes how we understand and use our emotions and relate to others to produce positive outcomes. The more we learn about emotional intelligence or EI (which is what EQ measures), the more we understand that well-developed EI may predict our future success and satisfaction better than our “book” intelligence or grades in school. Chapter 19 in The Student EQ Edge: Emotional Intelligence and Your Academic and Personal Success (Stein, Book, & Kanoy, 2013) outlines the many benefits of EI to students in academic settings. And the influence of EI is equally important in predicting our personal and professional success.

Maybe you already knew how important EI is and that’s why you’re taking this class or participating in this workshop. Or maybe it’s a requirement. Either way, if you are motivated (that in itself is a form of EI!), willing to adapt your behavior based on what you learn (again, another EI skill), and participate fully in all the leader asks (another EI-related ability), you will benefit. How? Here’s one example. Schulman (1995) found that the EI skill of optimism was a better predictor of first-year students’ college GPA than their SAT scores. And in a dissertation project involving 783 college students studied over a five-year period, Sparkman (2009) found the following:

Social responsibility, impulse control, and empathy (all EI skills) were the three strongest positive predictors of college graduation.

Self-actualization, social responsibility, and happiness (all EI skills) were positive predictors of cumulative GPA, but very high independence and interpersonal relationship skills were negative predictors of cumulative GPA (more about that later).

Finally, many employers seek graduates who can work well independently and in teams, control stress, solve problems, change directions when necessary, and relate well both to coworkers and customers. In fact, Shivpuri and Kim (2004) found that employers ranked interpersonal skills as the number one skill they wanted students to possess!

Emotional Intelligence Overview

EI is “a set of emotional and social skills that influence the way we perceive and express ourselves, develop and maintain social relationships, cope with challenges, and use emotional information in an effective and meaningful way” (The EQ Edge, 2011, p. 13). Figure 1.1 shows the five realms and sixteen scales of EI. Consult The Student EQ Edge: Emotional Intelligence and Your Academic and Personal Success (Stein, Book, & Kanoy, 2013) for additional information about each scale.

Figure 1.1 Emotional Intelligence Defined

Source: Reproduced with permission of Multi-Health Systems. All rights reserved. www.mhs.com

We assume you’d like to make good grades, have meaningful and healthy relationships, and graduate and begin your career. Developing your EI will help you accomplish those goals. So let’s get started!

A Word About EI Scales and Skills

The model of EI presented in The Student EQ Edge: Emotional Intelligence and Your Academic and Personal Success and in this companion workbook identifies 16 scales. You can also think of these scales as skills you can develop. For example, assertiveness is both a scale in the EQ-i 2.0 model and a skill you can develop.

The Student EQ Edge: Student Workbook: An Overview

This workbook serves as a companion piece to The Student EQ Edge: Emotional Intelligence and Your Academic and Personal Success and thus covers the same EI scales in the same order. The workbook will help you to gain a better understanding of the EI scales, reflect about your behavior in those areas, and practice some skill development.

Chapter 2 provides you with case studies; observing others’ behavior makes it easier to identify how important EI is in our daily lives.

Self-Perception—In Chapters 3–5 you will gain a greater understanding of who you are, your strengths and limitations, how you process and reflect about your emotions, and how well you have identified meaningful goals and activities for your life.

Self-Expression—Chapters 6–8 will help you understand how effectively you express your emotions, whether you can be appropriately independent in various situations, and how assertive you are.

Interpersonal Relationship—Chapters 9–11 will help you understand how well you connect with others, how well you understand and connect with others’ emotions, and how much you try to contribute and cooperate to make things better for everyone.

Decision Making—Chapters 12–14 cover your decision-making skills. How well do you assess the facts in a situation without over- or underemphasizing them? How do your emotions affect the way you view situations and how you problem solve? Do you problem solve effectively when you are emotionally charged? And can you maintain control over your impulses in a variety of situations so that you think before acting?

Stress Management: Chapters 15–17 will help you understand how well you cope with stress. Are you able to remain internally calm and focused when stressed out? Are you able to change your behavior when circumstances change, or does change stress you out? Do you remain optimistic even when you confront obstacles?

Well-Being: Chapter 18 examines your happiness and overall well-being and how that is influenced by some of the topics covered earlier.

Why Reflection?

Each activity ends with some questions that will help you reflect about what you have learned. Reflection improves academic performance and can be graded based on the depth of your analysis and the quality of your insights. High-quality reflection will help your course grade, but even more important, it will help you!

Consider three possible responses to a question that appears in Chapter 3 of this workbook: “What concerns do you have about developing emotional self-awareness?”

Sarah: “None; I think it will be fun. I love doing exercises and finding out more about myself. It’s always interesting to see how I compare to other students.”

Carlos: “I don’t like talking about my feelings. My girlfriend always wants me to do more of that. I don’t understand what the big deal is about emotions.”

Aisha: “I sometimes find it hard to talk about my feelings. But if I become more aware of my feelings and what causes them, maybe I’ll feel more comfortable talking about them.”

Even though the lengths of the three answers are not different, their depth of reflection is very different. The first student talks only about how much she enjoys exercises. She’s dodged the question. Carlos starts off with some reflection but then ends his statement by challenging the notion that it’s an important question to consider. Aisha, on the other hand, takes stock of her emotions and behavior and reflects effectively about how things might change. Reflections don’t have to be long or even too personal, but effective reflection will help you understand yourself better, ultimately leading to better outcomes.

Chapter 2

Case Studies of Emotionally Intelligent (and Not Emotionally Intelligent!) Behavior

It’s always easier to recognize how others mess things up or what they could have done differently to make a situation better. The case studies in this workbook are based on everyday challenges faced by students or young professionals. Although the scenarios and names are hypothetical, you will probably be able to identify similar situations in your life. Training yourself to think about how EI relates to a situation and coming up with solutions is the first step to improving your own emotional intelligence.

CASE STUDY #1: WHY CAN’T I MAKE AN A?

Briana just found out she made a B on a paper and her two friends made A’s. She understands the professor’s comments and knows that her writing is improving and needs to improve more, but she still can’t shake the negative feelings she’s having. When her friends ask what grade she got, she doesn’t want to discuss it with them. And she doesn’t like hearing how happy they are about their A grades. Later, in math class, she begins thinking about the paper and misses an important formula explanation. She’s too embarrassed to ask the faculty member to repeat the information. After classes that day, another friend approaches her and asks if she wants to go to shopping. Briana declines the invitation and instead goes to her room, puts on her headphones, and listens to her favorite music. Later that evening she attempts her math homework, but she struggles to work problems using the formula covered in class earlier that day. After a few minutes, she closes her book and goes to bed. She’s restless, though, and it takes her a long time to go to sleep.