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- Herausgeber: Victor Ehighaleh
- Kategorie: Ratgeber
- Sprache: Englisch
The Salt Value in You introduce a new concept (salt value). It leverage on the goodness in every individual or corporate entity that can lead to accomplishing great things for everyone's good. It is a motivational and inspirational self-help book.
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Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2020
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Victor Ehighaleh
The Salt Value in You
Table of contents
Contents
Introduction
Chapter 1
Chapter 2
Chapter 3
Chapter 4
Chapter 5
Chapter 6
Chapter 7
Chapter 8
Chapter 9
Chapter 10
Chapter 11
Also by Victor Ehighaleh
To God Almighty, the owner of my soul.
I am shamefully and desolately void outside of Him.
To my angels, Victoria and Victory,
and all advocates of global peace.
Contents
Contents
Foreword
Introduction
1 Discovering Your Salt Value
2 Essence of Salt Value
3 Enhancing Your Salt Value
4 Arrival of the Real You
5 Enemies of the Real You
6 A Better You
7 You and Your Mentors
8 Business and Salt Value
9 Peace and Salt Value
10 Dying Empty
11 The Poet and Salt Value
Foreword
The book paints a gloomy picture of a sickly world needing urgent redemption through the salt value in every man or woman. The author gives a series of advice to make the reader relevant in a world of stiff business competition.
The author cautions against laziness and indolence, which can lead to bad habits. Bad company is known to corrupt good manners. He sees challenges as building blocks with which one can lay a solid foundation. He wants all men to beam a search light so as to illuminate our dark world.
Written in a simple language, the book is highly motivational and philosophical. It is a profound source of knowledge for those willing to be propelled to higher ground. The concluding poem depicts hopelessness, which can only be neutralized by “the salt value in you.”
It is a must read for people who want to discover “the salt value” in their existence.
John Olu Adeosun (JP)
Introduction
Salt is so important and critical that you can hardly find any living thing that lacks salt as a major component or constituent. The intrinsic value of salt cannot be quantified in absolute terms. The sea is indeed a major reservoir of salt. In the context of this book, however, salt value is defined as the divinely programmed recipe responsible for achieving all that is good in you. It is that positively coded treasure deposited by God in you but is probably hidden and latent.
This invariably implies that your salt value requires discovery either by you or others, as the case may be. Your salt value, as it were, is programmed to positively impact the world. All negative tendencies are outside of your salt value. Indeed, your salt value is the intrinsic capacity in you to do well in an identified category not determined by you, but by your creator. The isolation of salt in any living organism requires a scientific sequence and process. I do not, however, intend to bore you with the chemistry of salt extraction and purification.
Every individual has an intrinsically coded value embedded in his or her salt value that constitutes the inherent positive potential and attributes of the person in relation to peaceful coexistence. The salt value in you is your true, divinely ordained positive and people-friendly coded value deposited in us by God to enable us to accomplish our purpose on earth. Every individual is born with this value intact and masterfully programmed to evolve. We are indeed created with this potential that may be polished and probably discovered by interaction with others. The earth itself cannot salt you. Any salt that loses grace becomes worthless and is trampled upon by men. The salt value in you is supposed to glow significantly to enable the world see and indeed experience your true value. Unfortunately, millions of salted individuals never glow commensurately with their potential but end up in graveyards without corporately realizing their divinely ordained inherent positive and good potential.
Why do we have a preponderance of such individuals in our world today? This motivational book will attempt to dwell on reasons for this sorry state and significantly propose a way out of the quagmire. Your salt code essentially and potentially enables you to achieve divine purpose as long as you adequately realize and mobilize enough quantity of this unique power resource at the right time in order to achieve purpose. Personally, I am always conscious of the fact that the world is buried inside of me. I, therefore, actively focus on unlocking my potential in order to ultimately benefit my society and the world at large. My ultimate desire is to go into the grave absolutely empty at the appointed time.
Do you know that every individual has a good measure of uniqueness built-in, latent, and seeking exposure? Unfortunately, the urge to copy others oftentimes becloud our ability to realize this hidden truth. You were created, wired, programmed, and adequately but inherently empowered to achieve a purposeful life. You, therefore, need to uncouple the multilevel and various seemingly unnoticed impediments in order for you to resolutely actualize your God-given potentials encapsulated in your salt value. You are greatly endowed to consciously make the world a better place than you met it if only you realize the enormous power deposited in you. As long as you are focused and ready to mobilize this power resource, things that hitherto appear; the seemingly impossible will become achievable almost effortlessly. The knowledge of the existence of this resource will go a long way in solving some everyday problems. This will invariably reduce unnecessary stress loads currently plaguing humanity.
What is that good thing in you that you have inadvertently left consciously or unconsciously dormant? Identify it and ensure you bring it to life in order for you to dwell in the elitist realm of purposeful and dynamic existence urgently required for unlimited successful accomplishments and fulfillment. You were created exceedingly useful and not a relic confined to the dustbin of history. Your interaction and bonding with your environment and other mortals, has the capacity and potential to either bring you to the truth of knowing and enhancing the salt value in you or put a covering in your eyes ultimately to prevent the actualization of your good purpose. Show me your friends or acquaintance and I will aptly predict who you are is applicable here. What do you feed your mind with? This will obviously go a long way in determining your trajectory and destination in life. A lot of destinies are half-accomplished or totally destroyed as a result of negative mind-feeding occasioned by wrong associations, leading to programmed manipulations and brain washing of the individuals involved, culminating in predetermined outcomes, which are largely and significantly incongruent with the dictates of an egalitarian society.
Outside of your salt value, you are like an empty shell. Your whole essence and being is depicted by your salt value. It is therefore a tragedy for you to consciously or unconsciously exist without the knowledge of this most important, positively fruitful and indeed beneficial part of your totality. I am sure that you are obviously and absolutely more than a mere lifeless moron or caricature floating on air, standing on the ground, or buried in the sands of time on planet earth. Your salt value is the real positive and beneficial you. You need to discover it in order to commence the journey to your fulfillment. You need to agree with me and tell yourself and believe that you are more than a drift-wood whose existence and progression is totally subject to the dictates of the waves of time.
You were made and called to be beneficial to yourself, the environment, society, and the world at large. You are a global figure, composed of unique relevance, waiting to be tapped and positively explored. That is the real you. Your circumstance is supposed to pilot you to the next level, rather than your next level being totally dependent on your circumstances. The miniaturized you are a bundle of explosive device, latently waiting to be positively detonated by you, mentors, friends and acquaintances, governments, environments and others, ultimately for the collective good of all. Therefore, do not subject yourself to abysmal and indeed negative consummate tendencies, but rather subject yourself to all that is positively beneficial and good to the majority. You must make the world better than you found it. This is indeed a noble task and mandate that you must accomplish without regression. That potential in you is mirrored in your mind-set. Unfortunately, our circumstance invariably has tremendous impact on our mind-set. Your mind-set can either make or mar you. This part of you is indeed a limiting factor to some generations.
Your generalizations could be myopic and rudely unethical. This is the source of stagnation and regression in some societies and governments alike. The mind-set is a powerful and explosive tool used by people of influence to effectively and efficiently control their subjects. Apparently, whatever controls your mind-set is no doubt your lord. You are simply a slave to the individual or persons as the case may be. This clearly implies that your mind-set could be a dominant and indeed limiting factor to the harvest of your salt value. You cannot, therefore, grow beyond the capacity of your mind-set. Your mind-set limits you very significantly. At full capacity-signified by the incidence and concept of brain washing -attempts to give a counter or unprogrammed directive by someone or group alien to the subject could lead to instant violence. On the other hand, their mentors could achieve same.
This is the reason why it is apparently and extremely difficult to attempt to appeal to people who have been significantly brainwashed to jettison their beliefs and tendencies. Mind-set therapy is therefore the secret required to solve most of the problems poignantly bedeviling the world. Please come along with me and remain comfortably seated on the peace vessel of reality, as we relax and jointly cruise round the world to uncover freshness, newness, and certainly know more about the discovery, essence, need, and use of your salt value. Expect a wonderful and highly rewarding expedition. You are welcome on board.
Chapter 1
Discovering Your Salt Value
You are who you are not by default, but by purpose. A cursory look at your history, apparent likes and dislikes, background, environment, associations and predispositions will most likely reveal the reason and purpose of your existence. Your collective values and location suggest questions that require well-thought-out answers. The vivid and apt answers so provided are pointers to your actual salt value. The types and nature of your dreams may also serve as a pointer to that inherent value deposited in you by God. If you are yet to know your purpose, you can kick-start it by firstly analyzing your dream types, frequency of occurrence, and its dominant factor or factors, as the case may be. This, among others, will rightly equip and enable you to intelligently decipher a microcosm of your salt value. Armed with this realization, you can then proceed to develop it further by seeking interpretations from aptly experienced and competently qualified individuals.
At this juncture, however, kindly permit me to take you on a personal journey to discovering my salt value. Toward the end of the second half of 2000 AD, a corporate colleague and I were returning from an official engagement in Lagos Island in southwest Nigeria. Fortunately or unfortunately, I was driving on the longest bridge in Nigeria at that time - that is, the Third Mainland Bridge. Suddenly, we noticed a bang on the car’s windshield. Pieces of glass littered the interior of the car and all over my body and that of my colleague. We instantly noticed three bullet holes directly opposite my forehead. Surprisingly, I drove the car unhindered to my company’s corporate headquarters and detailed my colleague to inform my boss of the untoward incident while I waited patiently in the car. My boss emerged almost immediately along with a security expert, who instantly inspected the car and concluded that the bullet holes were no doubt from a sophisticated rifle. As far as they were concerned, my unexpected escape was mysterious because there were incidentally no bullets or its shell in the car, neither was there any other exit point for the bullets. My boss, apparently in a state of shock and amazement, walked round the car three times repeatedly soliloquizing that he did not understand how I managed to escape absolutely unhurt. Also another colleague jokingly said that I must have probably used a magical charm to avert the death that was no doubt clear, unavoidably, and convincingly apparent. Understandably, they arrived at the conclusion because the three bullet holes were few inches from my forehead, considering my sitting position in the car.
The next day, I inadvertently listened to the local news on the radio about an exchange of gunfire between the police and armed robbers at a location very close to the incident. This infers that I could have been a victim of stray bullets from the sordid encounter. Going forward, my interpretation of the amazingly mysterious incidence is that God sent his angel to place his hand between the front windshield of the car and my forehead to collect the three bullets that would have otherwise shattered my forehead.
This experience gave me a clear picture and insight into knowing my salt value. It implies that God convincingly has a unique role for my existence, and He has an assignment that is no doubt divine and specifically allotted to me to fulfill without repentance.
In our life journey, your experience can also provide the direction and answer necessary for you to convincingly know your salt value. This tragic and baffling experience has provided the impetus needed for me to discover God’s ordained purpose and love for my life. Although before the experience, I considered myself to be brave and bold. The truth is that I am significantly bolder and fearless with the realization that my life is clearly, expressly, and unambiguously in the hand of God, and no one can successfully tamper with it without the express permission or authorization from my maker. My conclusion, however, is that God needs me for a special assignment that is uncommon and pioneer, which requires extreme boldness and absolute surrender to His will and direction. Therefore, I owe my safety and existence to Him. Do you have an awesome experience such as I have narrated? You had better consider the details quickly and obtain the necessary interpretations if you must achieve your purpose on earth.
A major tragedy that can befall an individual is to come to this world and depart without knowing and achieving his God-endowed purpose encapsulated in his salt value. However, we must note that there are some experiences in life that obviously are ill-programmed and might not be a true representation of one’s salt value. It is absolutely possible that negative supernatural forces can significantly alter one’s trajectory with the aim of deceptively highlighting a purpose that negates divine will. In cases like the aforementioned, you require men and women of wisdom with divine insight to guide you aright. On the basis of this, therefore, interpretations should not always conform to direct, straightjacket principle. We need to highlight and consider the innuendos as well.
Kindly permit me once again to share an experience that further confirms the nature of my salt value. It could equally assist you with discovering your salt value. Naturally, I am a very gentle and peaceful personality who loves to do well to all. Hospitality is my second nature. However, after my first degree, I found myself in the sales and marketing world where I inadvertently developed a passion for the job and resolutely aimed at becoming a key player in the business world. By divine providence, however, I met a professional in the building industry who also doubles as a pastor in Benin, a city in south Nigeria. He had a revelation that I was destined to be a pastor. He said he actually saw me wearing a black suit and ministering on the pulpit. I responded by telling him pointedly and unambiguously that I would not accept his proposition, unless God himself finds a way to convincingly notify me. As far as I was concerned, I am cut out for the business world. For me to make a detour would be a herculean task that could only be accomplished if I am helpless. I was passionately in love with my job.
Five years later, I attended a leadership conference in Ibadan in southwest Nigeria that was organized by leadership lighthouse where I met one of the facilitators, a septuagenarian general overseer of a church I met him three days after the conference at his office situated a few kilometers from the conference venue. He informed me of his intention to discuss an issue we probably were not opportune to discuss at the conference. I eagerly honored the appointment as scheduled. Intuitively, I was expecting a bombshell. At his office, he pointedly told me that I was at a crossroad and that his role in my life was to enlighten and direct me on divine purpose for my life. He proceeded by telling me my spiritual gift and informed me that God had called me to full-time ministry. As expected, I vehemently objected to the idea of full-time ministry. I reasoned that part-time ministry was almost a burden on my part. Full-time ministry, on the other hand, will be overkill. I told him that I had other business interests. He thereafter asked me to pray and fast for three days and that at the end, he was sure God would adequately enlighten me. After the three days of personal prayer and fasting as suggested, God showed me a vision. I saw the explosion of dynamite. As required, I informed my mentor. He promptly implied a confirmation of my call to full-time ministry.
As a trained scientist, the task of convincing me is not an easy one. You must present incontrovertible and verifiable evidence before you can win me over. As far as I was concerned, I could not decipher the relationship between dynamite explosion and full-time ministry. I therefore refused to concur. On a funny note, however, there is a proverb that says, “What an old man can see while sitting down, the young man cannot see even while standing on the highest mountain.” Two weeks later, I found myself in a dream, ministering in a very large stadium in South Africa with hundreds of thousands of people, and there were miracles, signs, and wonders. At the end of the event, I found myself at the back of the stadium where I made a phone call to one of my clients with the intent to supply products to him. The client screamed angrily at me thrice, saying, “No you don’t need this.”
When I woke up, I had no other sensible choice but to accept my fate. The real person in me is finally established and settled. This is indeed my salt value. I find fulfillment and absolute peace in my salt value category. I must, however, point out the fact that I am multi-skilled. This book is a product of my other skills and derived competencies. The real person in me as encapsulated in my salt value is Christian ministry. Another fruitful way of discovering your salt value is family and people’s opinion about you. The society is obviously your mirror. People’s consistent perceptions of you, as long as it traverses locations, civilizations, culture, and others are pointers to your salt value identification. Nobody can truly operate fruitfully, beneficially, and happily in isolation. We need the input of others in our lives in order for the essence of our existence to be truly realized. If people’s perception of us is consistent across the board, then you could consider it a microcosm of your salt value. Also, may I also point out that the following, among others, could be a reflection of your salt value. Your talent and hobbies, likes and dislikes, temperament type, disposition toward your friends, and general behavioral pattern. The list is, no doubt, exhaustive. However, if you consider the aforementioned, I doubt if you will be too far from knowing your salt value. Generally, you could have a vague idea of yourself, but circumstances around you might place you at a crossroad. As such, you are unable to discern your true salt value.
In cases such as this, you are advised to contact people who you know are more experienced and indeed qualified to guide you aright. Such people in some cases could be your destiny helpers. They abound around us, but only those with divine insight can locate them unequivocally. They could even be your next-door neighbor, that fellow you are possibly in conflict with, occasioned by the negative supernatural forces, that gentle and loving elderly fellow you met at an auspicious occasion, a friend to a colleague, your teacher, or your coach. It could even be your boss, a family friend and so on. In fact, it could even be someone unexpected. Sometimes you realize by hindsight that you have come across your destiny helper. However, a true destiny helper has a genuine and unflinching interest to help you without expecting a reward from you. They are explicitly concerned about your well-being, happiness, progress, and fulfillment. They genuinely want to see you succeed. Their interest is to put you on the correct track and pedestal to actualizing your dream. They revel in your progress. They also are able to stand by you, regardless of circumstance. As far as they are concerned, you are a project that must succeed. Destiny helpers are specific. This implies that in most cases, we do have different destiny helpers. You can usually locate them by divine arrangement and providence. After the discovery of your salt value - probably through a mentor or destiny helper - you are further required to develop and polish it to maturity and glittering level. The real journey begins now.Chapter 2
Essence of Salt Value
The essence of your existence is absolutely quantified in your salt value. This implies that you must work to practically discover this essence, which is the coded blue print of your totality. Those who discover this value early enough achieve more successes as compared to others. Your salt value is your true identity, your purpose, your beginning, and your end. In fact, it encompasses all your positive and beneficial qualities. Your empowerment and true trajectory in life is hidden but revealed in your salt value. For a larger percentage of mortals, our salt value, which inherently loves and promotes peace, harmonious relationships, goodness, kindness, benevolence, and other loving attributes, supersede negative tendencies exhibited by people with lack of salt value knowledge.
The knowledge of one’s salt value will save the world from unnecessary brigandage and conflagration of sections of the world in needless conflicts occasioned by ignorance. These negative groups derive pleasure in all that is evil. Unfortunately, the world has apparently - but unconsciously and surreptitiously - adapted itself to the rule of these select few lately. This group has programmed itself to take over governments so as to make it easy to coerce the majority to be afraid and surrender from terror.
The question at this point is why are the select few controlling the majority? The answer is ignorance. Unfortunately, this has enabled the select few to be more aggressive to the extent of coercion. Majority of them have been brainwashed and have sold their soul to the devil and are, therefore, not afraid to die from the ramifications. Some of them, due to programmed ignorance have unfortunately been brainwashed and made to believe the apparent futility in existence. This picture is no doubt gloomy but redeemable. It obviously depends on your side of the divide. There is no responsible individual who does not cherish peace and tolerance. However, in the world of today, this group practically appears to be on the sleeping slope heading for a tragic end. I believe we can stem this tide if we are patriotic enough to realize that this gruesome picture is real. We should be mindful of ignorance cultivated by the receipt of Greek gifts from the overlords. They use coercion to surreptitiously embellish our humanity. A whole lot of us accept their conditions with the hope that they will soon pass away. However, instead of passing away, it has become the cultivated norm and acceptable to our youths. The need to halt this trend is the basis for a peaceful world. We must consciously identify the problem and proactively give it the global attention it truly deserves. These select few must not continue to surreptitiously and coercively determine the end of the majority. We must be mindful of the fact that our destiny is in our hands. As expected, we should do the needful in order to meaningfully benefit humanity. The world cannot move forward without our collective resolve to do what is needed even in our closets. This action will lead to a more peaceful world.
Do you know that there is a significant portion of your salt value that can positively change the world? Do you know that you are a world changer? Why not make recourse to this value in you to write your name in gold in the sand of time. It may interest you to know that absurdities of the recent past have now become acceptable norms of today. The question at hand now is where did we get it wrong? Your answer might be as good as mine. It is culpable negligence on the part of those who are supposed to be more informed, but consciously decided to go asleep by deciding to bury their heads like the proverbial ostrich, thereby allowing time to apparently determine our collective existence. There are things we must pass through in life that will positively impact the future. However in most cases, we prefer to jettison such for a life of instant comfort and pleasure, which will eventually end in a quagmire apparently postponed but certain. This is the hallmark of mediocrity. There are indeed beneficial lessons arising from some tragic experiences. We are required to patiently consider the details and learn the necessary lessons. This action is required if you intend to surmount such challenges. This quality is found only in people destined for greatness.
They ask questions and imaginatively figure out classical, enduring, and evergreen solutions that often time are regarded as out of the planet. In time, such assumptions are discarded, and the great minds celebrate after repeated failures of improvised alternative platforms that are the order of the day at the time. Those who ultimately shape the world are usually ahead of their time. The pictures they see are beyond the ordinary. Their ability to see vision and believe in its possibility and accomplishment stand them out shoulders high above their contemporaries. The salt value in them brings out the legends.
The world has suddenly found itself in a state of endless wars. The average expectation is constant production of conflicts all over the world. A select few, carefully and consciously hatch animated versions of alternate crisis points and sell such to a naive but accommodating majority who can hardly decipher the intent and purpose of the Greek gifts. They fall for it due to ignorance annoyingly devoid of nobility. We witness a whole lot of absurdities in the world today. Our eyes are opened to a world where our true nature has suddenly become latent. We are witnesses to the myriads of wasted journeys and desolate habitations. The luxuriant vegetations suddenly turned arid, the increase in frustration levels and high incidence of journey toward greatness that are unfortunately interrupted by unnecessary insurrection, are pointers to a sick world that requires urgent prognosis and instant fast-tracking, culminating in an isolated but beneficial halt to ensure that sanity prevails.
What is your role in all of these? Are you part of the problem or solution? Let us journey out of being a contributor to the problem to becoming the ultimate, positive, and beneficial solution-provider. The world today is in crisis. We must log on to programs heralding sustainable world peace. The salt value in you is a lover of peace. You obviously need to discover this unique treasure.
Chapter 3
Enhancing Your Salt Value
For those who have discovered their salt value, the next stage is to enhance and indeed polish it to its full capacity. However, some individuals know their salt value category but intentionally refuse to implement it. It is possible that the vagaries and vicissitudes of life have put them at a needless crossroad. Only divine intervention can rescue them from their solo and laborious self-assigned voyage
Enhancement of your salt value can be achieved through various means. First, you need to associate significantly with people in your category, attend conferences, hold one-on-one interaction, read apt materials voraciously, and aim to be the best in your salt value category. At this point, you need to interact with as many people as possible who have had high failure rate in salt value issues. You need to learn from them so as not to dwell on the wrong path. You also need to interact with the highly successful in your category so as to imbibe the success culture. Above all, your aim should be to excel and leave a valuable imprint in the minds of people and an indelible evergreen contribution in your salt value category. This unique and coded specialized quantity of positive resource in you is no doubt required to uplift the world. The inability to discern and practically identify your salt value is a major contributory factor to the backwardness, stagnation, regression, and ill-conceived nature of the unfolding world. The world today is characterized by numerous unfulfilled individuals masquerading themselves abysmally. This group easily finds use in destructive tendencies and general conflagration of established and accepted societal values. The salt value in you is specific and time-bound. It is therefore adapted to suit the advancing world. This implies that a disconnect - no matter how small - invariably has a deleterious effect on the ecosystem and, of course, the smooth projection of the world.
The universe is a collection of ordered arrangement of the animate and inanimate, each referencing each other. For instance, in a society, there are diverse kinds of people. Some are significantly violent and destructive, others could be peace inclined. This is probably ideal. In a situation whereby there is a preponderance of the violent group, such a society is expected to be violence endemic. It is however better for the society to be positively skewed in order for peace to reign. Those who love and cherish peace are supposed to be in the majority. It is indeed very cheap to destroy but undoubtedly expensive to maintain peace in today’s world. This therefore explains the need to have those with peaceful disposition and tendencies in the overwhelming majority and politically relevant in terms of controlling the instruments of coercion. If properly harnessed, the salt value in you is expected to bring the much-awaited peace to the world.
Going forward, the assumption now is that you know your salt value. You are expected and required to expose yourself to your category members as earlier highlighted. You will certainly discover a lot of people in your category who are grappling with the need to further enhance their salt value. You will also encounter those on the upward journey. Ensure you cross-fertilize ideas. Your aspiration and indeed destination should be the peak of your category. You are certainly not endowed or programmed to spend eternity on earth. You should therefore be conscious of the fact that you are time-bound. Unfortunately, the world is astronomically increasing in population. All kinds of vices are emanating from virtually all continents. Idle time is on the increase, occasioned by increasing joblessness and its attendant consequences such as violent dispositions and tendencies. However, if you look around you, opportunities abound for you to adequately function by impacting the world positively through your salt value category. The requirement is for you to ensure that you locate fruitful members of your category and move positively with them. Your ultimate aim should be optimal effectiveness in your category. Be reminded that you have a necessary and specific role to play in your generation, and since this value in you is time-bound and specific, you are therefore required to play your part by being success-driven. You must not fail. Failure creates a gap or lacuna, a disconnect that is ordinarily difficult to remedy. Only the highly effective can attempt to bridge the lacuna so created. Be reminded once again that you are important.
Permit me to use my salt value category as an example to highlight this principle. My salt value category is Christian ministry. Therefore, I am required to enhance it through the following:
1. Attaching myself to mentors
2. Hard work
3. Associating with colleagues
4. Reading appropriate books
5. Attending necessary conferences/workshops
6. Mentoring others
7. Writing books
Attachment to Mentors
Your mentor is interested in your development and success. He or she is requisitely well-informed and experienced in your category. He or she is expected to guide you qualitatively and quantitatively through shared experiences aimed toward coaching you on the high and low points of your category. Your mentor is also expected to highlight the pitfalls obtainable and to generally help you avoid the mistakes he or she had made in the past. Ultimately, you are required and expected to adequately learn and be more successful in your category. Those who do not seek or attach themselves to a mentor usually and expectedly learn the hard way. They are very prone to repeatedly fall into avoidable holes in their category. They become personal pioneers in fields; others have already extensively pioneered and paid the necessary and requisite price. They end up wasting valuable time, making avoidable mistakes, and frustratingly trying to reinvent the wheel. You are no doubt bound to account for your very limited time. Remember you are more than a drift-wood, floating on an endless wave of time. You need to consciously move fast enough and aim at becoming the best in your salt value category. You are also expected to mentor others. It is obviously a cycle that needs completion. You can apparently teach only from the reservoir of your knowledge. In essence, you can only teach what you know. Avail yourself of the necessary knowledge from a mentor in order to significantly enhance your salt value and effectively impact those coming behind you.
Hard Work
Aiming to be the best in your category requires utmost diligence. The lazy and indolent constitute a nuisance value to humanity. The enhancement of your salt value requires a tremendous amount of hard work. Your salt value is highly precious. In nature, precious ornaments or treasures are usually and ideally hidden deeply beneath the earth’s crust or deep down the ocean, as the case may be. Accessing them requires a tremendous but focused amount of hard work. This implies that hard work is a panacea to enhancing your salt value.
Associating with Salt Value Category Members
You need to cross-fertilize ideas. It is said that iron is used to sharpen iron. Interacting with category members will give you the needed impetus to develop faster and be able to ask relevant and insightful questions pertaining to issues bothering you. It is better to obtain the requisite answers to such matters through vibrant cross-fertilization of ideas. It is most likely that you will find some other colleagues who have surmounted your type of challenge. If you need fast and easy solutions to enhancing your salt value, your category members are most suited to help you fill the gap.
Reading Requisite Books
Knowledge is indeed power. Show me an effective modern leader, and I will identify the person as a product of a good reading culture. Therefore, anyone who requires category enhancement must also read requisite literatures. Reading provides you with cheap access to diverse experiences and first-hand solutions to seemingly difficult issues. You are exposed to simple and complex schools of thought, which will shape you and help to further drive and empower your focus toward targeting a desirable end.
Conferences and Workshops
Case studies represent a veritable tool for the enhancement of your salt value category. Frequent and adequate exposure to conferences and workshops will provide answers to a diverse sea of questions apparently generated in your category. You are able to anticipate and learn new things obtainable in your category. This makes you an updated professional. Also, future budding issues affecting your category are also highlighted and possible solution models are considered and eventually ratified. Generally, conferences and workshops to broaden your knowledge, build and improve your capacity, and also enhance and develop your network of category members.
Mentoring
You must agree with me that we are all products of mentors. The right mentor is required in order for you to enhance your salt value. Your quality - both qualitative and quantitative - is mentor-dependent. The fact that you are conscious of the need to mentor others will provide the vigor and indeed enthusiasm required to effectively learn and be proficient enough to be able to impact the lives of others. This realization is the catalyst needed to ensure optimum utilization of resources available to you toward enhancing your capacity and transferring such to your mentees - that is, those you intend to mentor. There is indeed great joy and satisfaction derived from positively impacting the lives of others and seeing a miniaturized you blossom to maturity and fruition. Being ready to give birth to the next generation is unimaginably glorious indeed.
You must be mindful of the fact that your positive contribution to humanity is not complete and enduring enough outside of replicating a better you in someone else or people. Your real essence and benefit of enhancement is found in your replication program, significantly powered by mentoring. Just like a father will be gladly fulfilled when his children are a success story, so also is a mentor fulfilled at seeing his or her mentees succeed. Mentoring, therefore, conclusively ensures a completed cycle of positive and desirable impartation of knowledge to the next generation. Herein lays your relevance.
Writing Books
Anyone who apparently and conclusively lacks a reading culture cannot venture into the written craft. Writing books is knowledge-driven. You can only dispense what you have. Writing books is not a magical art. You must be real to venture into it. The art of writing books gives you the privilege to transfer knowledge back to society; that is, recycle knowledge. By so doing, you are helping to shape, model, and endow the world positively.
As mentioned earlier, books are a veritable tool for transferring knowledge endlessly from one generation to the next. After the demise of the author, the book remains a visible and cogent testament of the relevance of the author to the world at large and humanity in general. Generations yet unborn will most likely benefit from such erudition. The written craft is therefore the most reliable legacy and testament we can bequeath to the next generations, particularly in our salt value category. Ideally, our collective desire should be to make the world significantly better than we found it. You can desirably accomplish this ideal by positively and consciously affecting lives almost endlessly through the heritage of books. You can lead and set an agenda for the world, even after your demise, through the instrumentality of your books. Ideas and visions that probably do not have relevance at the point of writing your book might find relevance in the future. This undoubtedly implies that you can help to solve intractable problems or challenges.
Chapter 4
Arrival of the Real You
The real you is that unique and original portion of you that is essentially an advocate of peace. It is a part of you that radiates goodness, joy, happiness, beauty, tranquility, serenity, orderliness, tolerance and hospitality. The salt value in you has programmed you to naturally desire helping others, giving hope to the hopeless, food to the hungry, shelter to the homeless, cloths to the naked, water to the thirsty, comfort to the afflicted, health to the sick, beauty to the ugly, sight to the blind, education to the uneducated, joy to the sad, light to darkness, peace to the world, newness to the stale, coolness to the hot, patience to the impatient, development to the underdeveloped, beauty for ashes, goodness to the bad, strength to the weak, speech to the speechless, life to the dead, growth to the young, peace in times of war, freedom to the imprisoned, braveness to the timid, boldness to the shy, riches to the poor, love to the unloved, helping hand to the helpless, treatment to the untreated, rescue to the unreached, road to the lost, love to your enemies and employment to the unemployed.
Beloved, this is the real you encapsulated in your salt value. That part of humanity that rejoices in the wrong, constantly and unrepentantly promoting evil, dishing out violence and anguish, stirring up war and other forms of conflagrations, rejoicing at evil, replacing light with darkness, selling sorrow, causing death, eliciting terror and fear, promoting deception, promoting hatred and genocide, supporting racism and bestiality, and others is not to be encouraged. You are more than a caricature who is totally and helplessly dependent on evil. The amalgamation of the salt value in you is too precious to be jettisoned on an altar of violent conduct and evil. You are indeed too important to be ignored.
At this point, dear friend, you now know the real you. You were born and infallibly programmed to be competent in your salt value category. You are supposed to bring newness and freshness to humanity and the world at large. Your competence level is critical to actualizing your full potential. I want to assume that you are requisitely competent. Your competence will no doubt attract commensurate and dynamic followership. This will culminate in a network of people requiring your services for the ultimate benefit and growth of positive indices of the world. Also at this point also, your relevance and contributions in your salt value category should be highlighted in order for the world to optimally reap from you. Personally, I desire to be the best in my salt value category. This entails subjecting me to everything necessary for me to actualize my dream.
The world today is filled with a lot of people who are not ready to pay the price in order for them to effectively attain true greatness, but prefer to dish out negative influences, deliberately programmed to dissuade others destined for the top to fully achieve or attain their potentials. This is absolutely ludicrous and inherently mischievous. This is no doubt unacceptable. It should therefore be discouraged. The totality of the real you is encapsulated in your desire to positively impact the world in your salt value category. This hunger in you to discover and mentor others is the cardinal impetus required to propel you to your relevance. It is akin to the fuel required by a car to remain relevant. You therefore need to ensure that you associate with those you consider relevant toward the attainment of your goals. I must admit that there are lots of destiny killers out there awaiting their “game.” The graveyard is exceedingly rich with individuals who failed to attain their full potential as a result of lack of vision and associating with the group or groups destined to fail. Virtually all families contribute to this category of failed existence. You must therefore make up your mind to die empty. To die empty simply means that all the good, positive, and beneficial part of you is replicated by you in the lives of others. The arrival of the real you is succinctly signaled by the attributes below:
1. Resourcefulness
2. Competence
3. Strong desire to impact lives positively
4. Mentee appreciation
Resourcefulness
Show me a peak performer with the vision of a genius, and I will identify the fellow as resourceful. Some individuals are complacent in all ramifications. They are satisfied with their low and abysmally frustrating static existence. They are not ready to make progress, but are determined to deliberately hinder others from moving forward. They see life as a right that must be enjoyed to the fullest. Eating, drinking and general merriment is their indefinite pastime. They wallow ridiculously in it.
Unfortunately, the population of these public nuisance groups is daily increasing at an alarming rate globally. They do not contribute to making the world better, but rather constitute a nuisance value. They are seemingly oblivious of making the world a better place. Their interests and aspirations are simply to perpetually indulge in pleasurable existence regardless of their impactful nuisance value. A large percentage of them are functionally mediocre. Their actions are annoyingly plaguing the world. As expected, they are clogs in the wheel of sustainable progress. Backwardness is their second nature. They expect the select few who desire to positively impact the world in diverse fields to continue in their self-assigned voyage and projections. As far as they are concerned, they are satisfied with their “failed existence.” Though their eyes are opened, they have consciously decided to act otherwise. This action excludes them from meaningful contribution to humanity. They are a major source of underdevelopment and increase in crime levels and attendant consequences.
A resourceful person, on the other hand is conscious of the need to seek improvement in all facets of life with the intention of making a worthwhile and noble contribution toward ensuring that the world benefits from their existence. Their penchant for seeking solutions to otherwise insurmountable problems makes them stand out as role models whose indelible contributions to humanity are forever sacrosanct. On the other hand, a lazy and indolent person cannot be resourceful. The path of individuals destined for greatness is bereft of lazy and indolent fellows whose pastime is negative-living, time-wasting, and pleasure-seeking. Your existence is not powered by pleasure attributes, but the desire to solve problems. A world changer is a compendium of resourcefulness, vision, and determination strategically induced and apparently programmed to succeed. Those who find relevance in their salt value category are not people interested in pleasure as reason for their existence, but pleasure as a by- product of their collective experience and existence.
A society lacking resourcefulness cannot experience newness. In fact, such a society is like a collection of heads whose cranium is domiciled by cotton wool otherwise masquerading as a brain. You could also like such a society to a group of heads, negatively endowed with malignant tumors. They indeed constitute a nuisance value. They are ever ready to consume without an iota of producing anything useful. Therefore, an individual who is not resourceful in his or her salt value category is unlikely to make a meaningful impact, but he or she will constitute a clog in the wheel of progress of the society at large. This implies that you can only begin the journey of the arrival of the real you when you rightly consider yourself as resourceful in your salt value category.
Competence
Anyone who dreams or intends to attain a paramount position in any area of life must earnestly desire and indeed seek competence. It enables you to do things proficiently and professionally. Competence is an attribute highly required for utmost effectiveness in your salt value category. The competent, being a solution provider, is highly regarded and sought after. Ideally, your level of competence will determine the types and number of associations and interests you attract. Mediocrity will attract same and lesser mortals. Comparatively, competence elevates you to significantly higher pedestal of the value chain of human endeavors. On the long run, it is relatively cheaper to aspire to be competent than to be incompetent. Competence is the hallmark of advanced countries of the world. They do things rightly, promptly, and efficiently. They focus on the need to maximize resources available to achieve the best outcome. Anyone who intends to reach the pinnacle of his or her salt value category must, by necessity, imbibe competence as an important attribute.
The havoc caused on a daily basis around the world as a result of incompetence is indeed monumentally innumerable. Lives have been lost as a result of incompetence. Very precious time is wasted as a result of this malaise. Incompetence induces the need to seek for shortcuts to life issues. An incompetent fellow is a visible vine of half-baked realities, frustrations, jealousy, inordinate ambitions, and destructive tendencies. He or she is significantly a power house of retardation due to their focusing on going around in circles repeatedly without making progress.
The incompetent assumes moving round a circle implies making progress. Their myopic predispositions are a major cause of underdevelopment in many societies. Competence enables you to explore the real you toward attaining all that you can be in your salt value category. Show me a competent fellow and I will identify him or her as someone who has paid the price. For you to be effectively competent, you must follow the necessary procedures, which are required for your category. This will ultimately prepare and launch you to the altar of competence. There is significantly no real shortcut to attaining competence. You must be a possibility-thinker, desire to learn from mistakes, rise up after a fall, be hard-working, and pay the necessary price.
Strong Desire to Impact Lives
One of the indicators to the arrival of the real you is the continuous generation of strong desire to replicate yourself in identifiable substrate. At this point, you are significantly interested in leaving an indelible mark on the sands of time. You derive increasing satisfaction in improving the lives of others and watching them implement the lessons. You revel tremendously in such accomplishments.
It is expedient for you to give back to the society that has significantly contributed to your uplift. Your success is significantly measured by the number and level of lives you positively impact. At this juncture, your interest is not in monetary gains, but service rendered. The humanity in you easily finds an expression. You suddenly discover an irresistibly strong desire to replicate yourself selflessly. Your resourcefulness and competence are significantly brought to light to ensure you achieve the desired result. This successful positive impartation of lives serves as a catalyst, which seamlessly propels you to do and desire to continually do more for the benefit of the world at large.
Mentee Appreciation
You find lasting, enduring, and sustainable satisfaction when mentees appreciate your contribution to their success in life. Mentoring is an ordered process of imparting skills into the lives of others - usually positively - in a chosen field. When you discover a tremendous show of appreciation to you by people you have mentored, it signifies success.
The world can only get better when you create better versions of you in others. This is undoubtedly required in order to tackle the ever increasing, complex, and sophisticated challenges obliterating the focus of today’s world. Ideally, you do not mentor people because you expect them to appreciate you. However, genuine appreciation serves as a true signal that you are effective.
If you are fortunate to witness generations of lives you have positively changed, then you are indeed accomplished. On the other hand, when you discover that mentees do not appreciate your efforts and are not successful in their salt value category, this implies lack of competence on your part. You cannot be said to have arrived. Your true success is determined by the success rate of your mentees. Show me an excellent fruit and I will signify that it is a product of an excellent tree.
Chapter 5
Enemies of the Real You
Undoubtedly, as you aspire and attain a position of relevance in your salt value category, detractors and giant killers will begin to erupt to your consternation. There are two unambiguous divides or schools of thought in human existence. The first class or school of thought is the good value. The other is the bad value. The two divides are perpetually in competition. The good is interested in swallowing and decimating the bad. The bad is also constantly plotting to consume the good. Eventually, the stronger will have its way.
As for me, the good is more delectable and should be embraced. The good, certainly depicts the real you. The bad is constantly plotting to ensure you do not attain your full potential. In a situation where you succeed, you must continually remain on your toes in order not to be caught unawares.
The following are considered as enemies of the real you:
1. Competition
2. Yourself
3. Complacency
4. Lack of Needed Exposure
5. Lack of Sustainable Innovation
6. Location
7. Lack of focus
8. Lack of Enthusiasm
9. Impatience
10. Rigidity
Competition
In all facets of life or human endeavor, competition is paramount. Surprisingly, even among your salt value category, you will find colleagues who apparently desire to surmount your towering achievements. Therefore, they will do all within their power to undermine. You must not succumb to shenanigans; it is expected. As long as you are in this world, such situations will continue to arise. You need to remain focused in order for you to continue to blossom in your salt value category.
The activities of the bad school of thought are supposed to spur you to attaining and achieving greater heights. Their collective activities in your life should be considered as necessary stepping stones on the way to the top of your category. Ensure you remain focused.
Yourself
Surprisingly, however, the prime silent enemy of the real you is yourself. Attitude problems such as laziness, predisposition to violence, unfavorable application and use of technology, time-wasting, and lack of focus will ultimately affect the growth and manifestation of the real you encapsulated in your salt value.
Those who remain on the success plateau are individuals who are always and ever determined to pay the price repeatedly in order to maintain the enviable height. You must be proactive and watchful. Ensure you do not underrate competition. Always strive to continually improve and excel in your salt value category.
Complacency
Remember that learning and the concept of improvement is a lifelong process. You must therefore not give room to complacency in all ramifications. The complacent are like the flowers of grass which are seasonal. They beautifully unfold and evolve into an inviting and flagrantly associated entities, but soon complete their cycle of relevance and intrinsic usefulness. Frustratingly, they become a shadow of their glowing and inviting past. The inviting suddenly goes forlorn and desolate. When a conspicuously inviting gift suddenly goes forlorn, it ends almost gracelessly. What a life. I am sure you do not want to go on like the flowers of a grass. To be forewarned is to be forearmed. Reject complacency.
Lack of Needed Exposure
Another significant enemy of the real you is inability to get the right exposure that will culminate in the fruitfulness of your salt value category. If you imbibe the spirit of Do It Yourself, then you cannot attain astronomical height in your chosen field. You must graciously learn to involve others, through the cross- fertilization of ideas to generate significant and enduring models that can stand the test of time and remain evergreen. As a matter of policy, you must cultivate the habit of fruitfully interacting with others in order to acquire much-needed exposure to be relevant in your salt value category.
Lack of Sustainable Innovation
Another very significant enemy of the real you is lack of sustainable innovation. If you do not seek improvement through innovation, your relevance in your salt value category might be short-lived. Innovation energizes and positions you for the peak of industry. If you do not innovate, you will soon find yourself in the city of oblivion - hungrily desiring attention that in reality has almost taken a permanent flight. Apparently, no one wants to take the risk of associating with such a fellow. Anyone lacking in innovation will soon inadvertently transit into becoming a relic of our time. Going forward, if you do not want to be left behind, the secret is simple. Continuously innovate.
Location
Another intrinsic factor that could be an enemy of the real you is location. Wrong location can inadvertently hinder the actualization of your full potential. Usually, there are specific locations that can maximally enhance the development of the real you. Sometimes, your intuition could play a leading role in this regard. Consider or analyze your journey so far with the intention of determining your location impact.
Lack of Focus
You must consciously determine your end point and be resolutely committed to remain on course. You do not need to painfully embark on the rigmarole journey. An individual, who is unrepentantly focused, cannot be easily influenced to apparently jettison his or her destination in view. On the other hand, individuals who lack focus are prone to unnecessary influence inimical to their progress.
Lack of Enthusiasm
If you are not passionate, resolute, committed, and enthusiastic in arriving at the ultimate destination of the real you, circumstances and unexpected situations can propel you to unfavorable alternate destination you never envisage. You need to believe in yourself and constantly generate the can-do spirit in order to remain relevant in your salt value category. Energize yourself daily with the spirit of newness. This implies enthusiasm.
Impatience
Another major hindrance to actualizing your true identity and an enemy of the real you is impatience. The world today is consistently in a hurry to get things done. As far as most people are concerned, the end justifies the need. The need to consider patience as a worthy companion is to mention the least apt. Patience invariably enables you to naturally consider details meticulously. To be technologically advanced, time is obviously a factor. The mad rush elicits the opening of stop gaps that creates a disconnection that significantly hinders the actualization of our true intentions. Impatience leads to loss of valuable man hours and of course depreciation of values.
The tendency to arrive prematurely generally leads to a painful repeat of the task at hand. This constitutes time- wasting. It is better to arrive safely and successfully at the right time, than to arrive fast but too early to make a meaningful impact. This is no doubt frustrating. You can learn from the ants. They devote time, energy, and numerous resources, within their disposal to accomplish a particular task. If you place an obstacle along their path, they patiently build a bridge or alternate road over the obstacle. They remain absolutely focused and are never truly in a hurry to accomplish set goals, although they are always precise. The ants are ever mindful of the fact that impatience leads to loss of energy, useful resources, and many hours that will lead to starvation and ultimately decimation if not promptly checked.
Rigidity
The only permanent thing in life is change. It therefore behooves on you to ensure that you are amenable to change. If you are faced with or identify better ways to achieve more functional results, it is expedient that you adapt accordingly. To be rigid at this point is no doubt foolish. Being rigid when you require flexibility can cause untoward repercussions that are deleterious to the actualization of the real you. Being unduly rigid could also lead to obsolescence. However, there are convincing situations, whereby rigidity may be desirable. You should be wise enough to identify and correctly discern such situations. If you are undecided, you could consult members of your salt value category to offer useful suggestions as the best way forward.
Ignorance becomes a major setback when you deliberately refuse to be enlightened by those who are better placed to assist you. At this point, pride is counterproductive. There is a thin line between pride and foolishness. The fact remains that pride and foolishness will effectually hinder the actualization of the real you. These are the by-products of undue rigidity.
Chapter 6
A Better You
At this level, you have discovered and known your salt value. You know the essence of your salt value. You have enhanced your salt value. Your real you is already in manifestation, and you are now very conversant with the enemies of the real you. It is now time for a better you to evolve and flourish. Apparently, the bulk of those in the grave were not fortunate to arrive at this point. You are indeed privileged to come to the realization of evolving a better you. At this point in your developmental stride, you must be unrepentantly slow to anger and progressively resilient as regards facing life challenges. You have acquired the requisite professional skills to solve evolving challenges. Also at this point, you are fully conversant with the need to be proactive and considerate. You equally become unassuming and accommodating. You routinely dispense empathy skills, and you are highly focused, result-oriented, and graduated to the level of forming ideal character. You are also resolutely hungry to impact lives positively.
A better you is indeed amenable and receptive to new ideas. You develop increased tenacity in the art and science of replicating yourself. Your mentoring skills are also handy at this level. A better you is able to coordinate and effectively manage your salt value issues due to your highly developed problem-solving skills. Your approach is pragmatic, and you are not negatively and unduly irritable. Your approach to solving problems should be apt and legendary. Your resolve should be excellence focused. Be reminded that the road to becoming a better you is fraught with lots of underlying embellishments. The euphoria so created by the nature of your situation could present a picture of pseudo success, which is no doubt misleading. You must avail yourself of the need to remain focused and perpetually work toward becoming a better you in order to avoid salt value cataclysm. A better you is far from being myopic. You must take the bull by the horn and project yourself convincingly outside the box of pseudo success. You need to separate the real substance from mere shadows. Your discerning skills are highly valuable at this point. So also is the requisite application of knowledge to effectively maintain your path. A better you cannot be separated from constant need and desire to seek improvements in all facets of your operation. Your methods and processes should be continuously and optimally put to the test with the sole intention of perpetual improvement. If you do not avail yourself of these requirements, you will soon realize - though belatedly - that pockets of resistance usually present themselves repeatedly and cunningly on the road to actualizing a better you. If you intend to reach your goal, vigilance should be your watchword.
There are individuals out there who started brilliantly and intentionally headed for the peak of their careers but are soon distracted by the ugly heads of interloping family and personal issues that ultimately result in loss of concentration, focus, and vision. Anyone who is genuinely committed to becoming better in his or her salt value category, must avoid unnecessary lacunas and occupational hiccups on the path of progress. Apparently, the driving force in any successful enterprise is the resolve and desire to finish strong coupled with a resounding commitment to excel. A better you can obviously not manifest on an altar of excuses and abandonment of work challenges. You must see every obstacle as an opportunity and suitable platform required to producing or evolving a better you. If you observe critically, you will discover that challenges are the actual building blocks of a better you. This implies that the tried and proven sailor is the one who has weathered numerous catastrophic storms successfully and not the one who has spent the longest time at sea without getting the opportunity to be tried, proven, and tested.
You cannot attain a better you by chance. You must pay the requisite price. There is no genuine shortcut to becoming a better you. A good number of individuals who occupy peak positions in their categories are mostly those who have been sharpened by numerous mistakes, failures, and incredibly daunting challenges. They successfully adopt the can-do spirit in order to positively overcome the challenge. Those impediments have made them who they are today. Challenges are ultimately required to create and maintain a better you. Your successes do not functionally move me. What move me are your failures. Failure gives you the enablement and indeed the impetus to seeking alternate and better ways to achieve success. In essence, failure drives innovation. You will agree with me that innovation is the cardinal tool that drives improvement and by interpretation, the advancement of any enterprise. Those destined for the top view failure as mere oil that lubricates the engine of advancement. Failure therefore must not be regarded as an end, but a starting point. Your tenacity must be fruitfully explored at every bus stop of failure. You must reassuringly, consciously, and deliberately board the next bus headed for progress.
You must not remain glued to your failure location. As long as your blood cells are not frozen or dead, there is sustainable hope at the end of the failure gate. All that is required is for you to come to this realization, pick up every bit of yourself, and believe you can do better. In a long-distance race, it is possible to have a horrendous fall and still end up winning the race. All that is required is determination on your part. Believe in yourself that you can make it. You will be surprised that your body will release the required volume of adrenaline to accomplish your desire. You must remember that boys are boys and men are men. A better you is a man, not a boy. I am sure you know the difference between a boy and a man. A boy is largely dependent on his parents. A man, on the other hand, fends for himself. A real man is an encyclopedia of experience, both bitter and pleasant. The bitter experiences, however, are the hallmark of an ideal man. The man is better sharpened by the bitter experiences. The ingenuity in him is usually exposed after an episode or a cacophony of such experiences. On the long run, however, the man is suitably positioned to view such unpleasant experiences with nostalgia. You progressively feel a sense of accomplishment, and you begin to wonder where you would have been, devoid of such experiences. The better you are now effectively positioned to convincingly desire replicating yourself in others. Your values would have changed significantly and positively. You find yourself in a sea where the intrinsic need to help others accomplish all that is good in them is born in you.
