What Hides Behind a Gesture? E-Book

Davide Balesi

• Herausgeber: Davide Balesi
• Kategorie: Ratgeber
• Sprache: Englisch

Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2015

Beschreibung

In the past years the author's poor knowledge of body language led him to disappointing relationships, and made him unable to establish good connections with people. How can you seduce a woman if you can’t even understand what she is saying to you? How can you win a negotiation if you can’t even understand which side your interlocutor is on? How can you understand people’s intentions when you are not even sure if they are telling the truth?You can easily lie with words but not with body language.Keep in mind that 90% of communication is nonverbal!There are facial expressions, vocal variations, posture, unintentional gestures and proxemics. Words often hide the real meaning of a conversation.If you learn to read the meaning of nonverbal language, you will also learn to understand yourself better. Have you ever felt uncomfortable in a situation, and made a gesture or stroke an attitude unintentionally? You probably wondered about the meaning of your gestures, am I wrong? This handbook will answer all your questions!Life coach Davide Balesi is one of the leading experts on seduction in Italy

Leseprobe

WHAT HIDES BEHIND A GESTURE?

DAVIDE BALESI

Translation from italian to english by Giorgia Cattaneo

Copyright 2015 Davide Balesi

Copyright © 2015 by Davide Balesi

CHAPTER 1: INTRODUCTION

My name is Davide Balesi, I am a writer and I wrote several handbooks on seduction and on psychology applied to courtship.

I consider myself an expert on interpersonal relationships. My personal background consists of many readings and of four years experience in the dynamics of social relationships among people, especially between men and women.

In the past years my poor knowledge of body language led to disappointing relationships and made me unable to establish good connections with people. How can you seduce a woman if you can’t even understand what she is saying to you? How can you win a negotiation if you can’t even understand which side your interlocutor is on? How can you understand people’s intentions when you are not even sure if they are telling the truth?

If you rest on the meaning of words only, you belong to the 90% of male population, and like this percentage you will never be able to establish empathy with your interlocutors.

I referred to a male percentage because women, for genetic reasons, are better readers of body language. Nature gave women this ability so that they could take care of infants that, by nature, can’t use words to communicate. Women have an innate maternal instinct which allows them to establish empathy with their speakers.

Observing a group of people, a woman could understand the relationships among them in a few minutes. A man couldn’t!

Therefore women, as opposed to men, have an advantage in studying body language!

Many gestures of body language are universally recognized, which means they are accepted by all cultures and thus they are more meaningful than any spoken word: a smile, for example. Other gestures are typical of a specific culture and they can have different meanings for other cultures, for example the sign of the horns.

The study of body language is a science and it must be considered as such. It’s been several years since worldwide famous psychologists have started classifying body signs and studying their meanings; every psychotherapist or psychiatrist is able to understand his patient thanks to his studies on nonverbal communication.

I wanted to write this easy handbook to help you understand people, and therefore improve your social relationships. To make the subject easier, I decided to gather all the main body signs in four big groups:

Man-woman relationship in seduction

Personal spaces

Closed and denial gestures and behaviours

Positive gestures of openness and honesty

Lie or truth signs

Consideration gestures

Exercises to test your learning

I hope that this partition will make your learning process easier.

Remember that you can easily lie with words but not with body language!

Keep in mind that 90% of communication is nonverbal!

There are facial expressions, vocal variations, posture, unintentional gestures and proxemics. Words often hide the real meaning of a communication.

If you learn to read the meaning of nonverbal language you will also learn to understand yourself better. Have you ever felt uncomfortable in a situation and made a gesture or stroke an attitude unintentionally? You probably wondered about the meaning of your gestures, am I wrong? This handbook will answer all your questions!

The best salesmen were trained with specific courses about body language; they have to understand when a client is really interested in buying their product; they know when it’s time to change their attitude depending on the signals that their potential buyer throws, and most of the times they can successfully close their negotiation.

Learning the basics in this field unfortunately is not enough. You have to practice to excel! So, once you have studied this handbook, try to critically observe people and focus on their body language rather than on their verbal language. You will be surprised to realize that people are often in contradiction with what they say!

When you are about to read body language you have to be consistent: you have to consider not only one gesture but a mass of gestures, and above all you have to put them in the right context. A single gesture decoded in the wrong context can lead you to the wrong meaning of the communication!

Enjoy your reading!

Davide Balesi – author of Seduction and Education –