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- Herausgeber: John Wiley & Sons
- Kategorie: Ratgeber
- Serie: In A Day For Dummies
- Sprache: Englisch
Take positive steps to develop your confidence in all areas of your life Boost Your Confidence In a Day will help you to discover your confident self and become more effective in your day-to-day life. Designed to contain a day's reading, this handy guide helps you to assess your current confidence levels, identify the obstacles that are holding you back, and to connect with your emotions and values to help you live a happy, confident life. Open the book and find: * A reminder of the key ingredients of confidence * Practical guidance for assessing your confidence levels * Ways to move on from the grip of negative emotions * How to handle your emotions and identify your values * Top tips for living a powerful, confident life
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Boost Your Confidence In A Day For Dummies®
Table of Contents
Boost Your Confidence In A Day For Dummies®
by Kate Burton and Brinley Platts
Boost Your Confidence In A Day For Dummies®
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Introduction
Confidence is one of those odd things in life that turn out to be surprisingly difficult to tie down (beauty and quality belong to this strange, subjective group too). You may think that you know what it is, and you may feel certain that you can recognise it when you see it, but you may struggle to define exactly what ‘it’ is.
Confidence is an everyday experience, something you have quite often, except on those all-important occasions when it seems to leave you and you could really use more of it – whatever ‘it’ is. However, when you really need to dig deep, you’ll find you’ve amazing internal strength to draw on from your toughest life experiences.
What You Can Do in a Day
As part of the In A Day For Dummies series, we designed this book to contain about a day’s reading (or a couple of days if you’re taking your time). We focus on some of the key skills and the mindset required to boost your confidence – all of which can be easily digested in a day. You should have enough information to be able to immediately evaluate and boost your confidence levels.
Foolish Assumptions
We make a few assumptions about you. We assume that you’re a normal human being who wants to be happy and confident. You’re probably interested in becoming more effective in various parts of your life and in becoming more comfortable when you face demanding situations and people. Although you’re probably already acting confidently in many areas, you may lack the power and skills to perform the way you want to in some others.
This book is for you if you want to:
Identify what’s holding you back
Restore or develop your self-confidence
Feel confident that no matter what life throws at you, you can find a way to deal with it
Icons Used in This Book
Icons emphasise a point to remember, a danger to be aware of or information we think you may find helpful. Those points are illustrated as:
This icon brings your attention to a personal story you may find inspiring or useful.
The bull’s-eye highlights practical advice you can use to boost your confidence immediately.
This icon indicates an exercise you can use to broaden your understanding of yourself and your own confidence issues.
Information to take note of and keep in mind as you apply your boosted confidence in the world is indicated with the finger and string.
This icon does what it says and gives you a clear definition of terms that may not be familiar to you.
This icon indicates that more information to help you develop your confidence is available at www.dummies.com/inaday/boostyourconfidence.
Chapter 1
Assessing Your Confidence
In This Chapter
Identifying the key ingredients of confidence
Rating yourself on the confidence indicators
Celebrating your good points
Visualising the super-confident new you
Welcome to the start of your confidence-building programme. It’s great to have you on board for what we promise will be a wonderful and transformational journey. With confidence comes more fun, freedom, and opportunities to do what really works for you.
In this chapter, we lay the foundations for our travels together, starting with some definitions of confidence and a practical, nuts-and-bolts assessment of where you are today.
Here you start flexing your confidence muscles – and we know from experience that you’re already in a much more confident shape than you may give yourself credit for. You can also celebrate what you’re already good at and imagine the new super-confident you on the horizon as your confidence-building work progresses.
Then, it’s about getting tooled up and ready for action. After all, what’s the point of hiding your talents when there’s so much important work to be done in this world?
Defining Confidence
When asked to think what confidence means, most people have a feel for it but find it quite difficult to tie down precisely. After all, confidence is not some miracle pill or wonder food you can buy in a shop.
Before you dive into this book on how to be more confident, we invite you to explore the definition of confidence. A good dictionary provides at least three definitions for confidence, and you need to understand each aspect as it’s easy to muddle them up:
Self-assuredness: This definition relates to your confidence in your ability to perform to a certain standard.
Belief in the ability of other people: This definition focuses on how you expect others to behave in a trustworthy or competent way.
Keeping certain information secret or restricted to a few people: This definition concerns the idea of keeping a confidence.
We’ve found that an even better definition exists. One that’s more useful to you in everyday life. One that’s true no matter how tough a situation you face, or how comfortable you feel about it. Our definition:
At its heart, confidence is the ability to take appropriate and effective action in any situation, however challenging it appears to you or others.
Confidence is not about feeling good inside, although it’s a bonus if you do.
What it is in practice
Now, how does confidence show up in daily life? Well, have you ever started something – perhaps an exercise session or presentation at work – even though you didn’t feel like doing it at that moment, only to find that when you got going, you started to feel okay about it and even glad you tackled it? This kind of shift in how you experience a situation gives you a taste of what confidence is in practice. It’s your ability to reach beyond how you’re feeling in the moment in order to take action that leads to the outcome you want.
Anish is an accountant turned management consultant who’s travelled the world on international assignments for large corporations. Now running his own partnership, he leads complex projects and presents a calm, rational and focused image in business meetings. When deadlines are pressing and tempers rise in project teams, he’s the one who patiently exudes confidence that delivery can and will happen on time.
