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- Herausgeber: John Wiley & Sons
- Kategorie: Ratgeber
- Sprache: Englisch
How to become an NLP practitioner?or supercharge your coaching skills with NLP One of the most popular methods for helping people achieve their life aspirations?Neuro-Linguistic Programmming, or NLP, holds the key to remaking one's future. NLP encourages users to re-create the thought patterns common to those who excel, a process that helps gradually weed out negative or habitual thinking. Using the key elements of NLP?developing a coaching relationship, shedding light on patterns, managing emotional states, and shaping an agenda for change?this practical, inspiring guide offers the tools for helping your clients upgrade the quality of their personal or professional lives. * Reveals ten powerful coaching questions, ten traps to avoid in coaching, and ten ways to enhance your coaching skills * Offers tips on laying the foundation for success and quick win sessions * Insights on how to tap into passion and purpose?and making goals come alive * Methods for coaching yourself or your team and coaching through conflict * Other books by Burton: NLP For Dummies, NLP Workbook For Dummies, and Building Self-Confidence For Dummies Ideal for those working towards becoming an NLP practitioner or master coach, Coaching with NLP For Dummies is a guidebook to life transformation?for both client and practitioner.
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Coaching with NLP For Dummies®
by Kate Burton
Coaching with NLP For Dummies®
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About the Author
Kate Burton is an international NLP master coach, author and workshop leader whose aim is to give all her clients the space to become consciously aware of how they truly want to live and work, and make the change they desire. She thrives on supporting people in boosting their motivation, self-awareness and confidence.
Kate’s business career began in corporate advertising and marketing with Hewlett-Packard. Since then she has worked with varied businesses across industries and cultures on how they can be great communicators. What she loves most is delivering custom-built programmes. Her key corporate workshops and coaching centre on the themes of Leader as Coach, Boosting Confidence through Change, and Energy, Performance and Potential. She also runs private retreats in beautiful locations with amazing views.
Coaching with NLP For Dummies is her fifth book. In addition to co-authoring NLP For Dummies and NLP Workbook For Dummies with Romilla Ready, she co-authored Building Self-Confidence For Dummies with Brinley Platts. Her book Live Life, Love Work is published by Capstone, an imprint of Wiley. Contact Kate via her website at www.kateburton.co.uk.
Author’s Acknowledgements
When the Dummies team approached me to create Coaching with NLP For Dummies I knew I was in good hands once again. My editorial team, led by Rachael and Brian, worked with incredible attention to detail and enthusiasm to refine my chapters: they naturally adopt a coaching style with their powerful questioning and respectful support.
The content of this book is based on more than a decade of learning about and practising the art of coaching and NLP that builds on many more years in business. All my teachers in the personal development arena have my special thanks for their wisdom, including so many coaches I’ve connected with over the years. To my amazing clients I always appreciate the endless opportunities to do the work I love and learn from every interaction with you. To Bob and the family, your love and support for me in the background makes all the difference. And finally my thanks to the many thousands of readers who have shown their appreciation by buying the books. In the wish that some of the words in this book make their mark, I leave you with a quote from a fellow coach that: ‘We never touch people so lightly that we do not leave a trace.’
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Introduction
Coaching and Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP) are both exceptionally powerful. Bring them together and you have a winning combination. So welcome to Coaching with NLP For Dummies,which I trust fires up your enthusiasm to do amazing work.
We live in uncertain times. No one can accurately predict what today’s developments in technology, globalisation, demographics and climate change mean for tomorrow, let alone a few years from now. Unsurprisingly, more people than ever are turning to coaches to guide them through life and career transitions as they seek to own their destiny. People need wise, independent sounding boards. They want inspiration and motivation for working lives that are predicted to last longer than ever before. Leaders in organisations are calling on their managers to coach their people, equipping them for a future with more fluid working patterns in which commanding and controlling employees is no longer appropriate.
Whatever your interest in coaching, armed with this practical and fun book, you have a wealth of ideas to get out there and coach at your best.
About This Book
Coaching is a creative partnership between two people that inspires new thinking and leads to change.
Typically in the coaching world, professional coaches refer to the coach and coachee as the two key people in the relationship and the client as a customer who holds the purse strings in an organisation. In this book, I’ve deliberately chosen the alternative word client for the person being coached to give you a stronger distinction between the two key players involved.
I wrote this book for readers interested in the role of the coach. Yet in every example, the client can be you, so play with the exercises to coach yourself as well as others. Whatever made you pick up this book, you’re going to discover more about yourself and others. Get ready to open new doors and explore the fascinating world of being human through the coaching relationship.
My aim in every chapter of this book is to cut through any jargon. Top-quality coaching needs to be accessible to all and to that end, I offer practical and relevant tools for you to make your own.
Conventions Used in This Book
To help you navigate throughout this book, I set up a few conventions:
Italic text is used for emphasis and to highlight new words or terms that are then defined.
Boldfaced text is used to indicate the action part of numbered steps.
Monofont is used for website addresses.
Sometimes I talk about the client and coach as him and other times as her. I’ve aimed to vary thegender to give you a fair representation when you read the entire book.
What You’re Not to Read
For Dummies books are hugely popular with busy people keen to get to the heart of a subject quickly because you can capture the wisdom between these yellow and black covers fast. To that end, you can easily identify the material you can skip through. This information is the stuff that, although interesting and related to the topic at hand, isn’t essential for you to know and includes:
Text in sidebars. The sidebars are the shaded boxes that appear here and there. They often share personal stories and observations or bits of history and background information.
The stuff on the copyright page. No kidding. You find nothing here of interest unless you’re inexplicably enamoured with legal language and reprint information!
Foolish Assumptions
I assume, and correct me if I’m wrong, that you:
Have a good reason to be reading Coaching with NLPFor Dummies without the desire to wade through all the possible books and courses on the topic.
Are interested in discovering and applying new coaching and NLP ideas for yourself as well as clients.
Want to enhance your NLP-related skills.
Need to get stuck in with your coaching to tackle real issues immediately.
Want to develop a practical set of coaching tools.
Know that you can benefit from coaching yourself as well as coaching others.
Are committed to being proficient and professional in your coaching activities.
How This Book Is Organised
I divide this book into six parts, with each part broken into chapters. The Table of Contents gives you more detail on each chapter, and I even throw in a cartoon at the start of each part for your amusement.
Part I: Introducing NLP Coaching
In this part, I paint the overall picture for you, demonstrating where coaching and NLP come together to create choice and change for your clients. You get a feel for what is possible as you build greater rapport and get beneath the surface of the initial coaching conversation. You see how to get a coaching partnership off to the finest start by the way you contract competently and sponsor your clients’ innate expertise in their own lives.
Part II: Building Core Coaching Skills
Get ready to allow the magic to begin, opening your coaching elegantly with a clear intake process and shifting step by step forward while knowing how to close a session with equal elegance. In this part, you develop your fundamental skills in questioning, listening and goal setting while holding on to a clear agenda for your clients.
Part III: Deepening Your Awareness
This part gets even more interesting as you explore coaching at the higher logical levels of values and purpose. You see how to encourage the flow states in your clients in which they can be at their very best with greatest ease. You recognise more about the patterns that drive habitual behaviour and how to break unhelpful ones. In this section I also share the benefits of bringing NLP modelling into coaching to make your clients more effective in any area where they want to develop.
Part IV: Working Through Dramas, Decisions and Dilemmas
Part IV focuses on the more challenging questions that arise in coaching conversations around living and working with others when the going gets tough. How can you build strong relationships, especially with difficult and demanding people? How do you get teams to work well together? You find out how to support your clients through conflicts and disappointments, including grieving for loss. On the career front, I show you how to ensure your clients can navigate the ups and downs of their working lives with confidence and strong communication skills.
Part V: Advancing Your NLP Coaching Repertoire
In this part, I encourage you to build more NLP techniques into your sessions, from time lines and submodality work to anchoring and parts integration. All these approaches become crystal clear as you work through the exercises laid out step by step in each chapter. You don’t need to be an NLP expert to capture the benefit of these tools to make your client’s exceptionally resilient.
Part VI: The Part of Tens
If you’re impatient to get going quickly, start here. This part takes you straight to some powerful coaching questions and ways you can develop as a coach. In addition, I offer warnings of pitfalls you want to avoid. This part of the book is for anyone who, like me, simply can’t resist checking out the end of a book before deciding which are the most interesting pages to devour in the middle.
Icons Used in This Book
A series of icons guide you to the heart of the book.
This icon indicates real-life experiences of NLP coaching in action. Although based on real clients, the people often have their names changed unless they gave me permission to feature them in the book. Some anecdotes are based on composite characters to portray familiar themes that people raise in coaching.
This icon highlights NLP terminology that may sound like a foreign language at first yet has a precise meaning to an NLP-qualified coach.
This icon is a friendly reminder of important points to watch out for.
Keep your eyes on this target for insightful practical advice.
This icon suggests ideas and activities to give you tools for coaching and food for thought.
Where to Go from Here
Jump straight into any chapter that calls to you – the choice is yours. You don’t have to work through the book from cover to cover, although you may want to check the table of contents first to see what grabs your interest. For example, if you’re keen to get some quick wins, check out the models in Chapter 5. Or if you’re working with clients who struggle with relationships, you may want to fast-forward to Chapter 12. Dipping and diving is the name of the game as you build your coaching repertoire based on what you already know and what truly interests you.
Part I
Introducing NLP Coaching
In this part . . .
You find out what makes NLP coaching different and why so many people are raving about this approach. From seeing the impact that professional coaching makes, to diving straight into the NLP fundamentals, you’ll get ideas about how you can build trusting coaching relationships that get the best from everyone you coach. Very soon, you’ll be set up and raring to get beneath the surface issues that clients first talk about.
Chapter 1
Combining Coaching and NLP for Great Results
In This Chapter
Noticing how coaching and NLP overlap
Looking at a career in coaching
Getting up to speed on NLP
Tapping into the potential for powerful change
One isn’t necessarily born with courage, but one is born with potential. Without courage, we cannot practice any other virtue with consistency. We can’t be kind, true, merciful, generous, or honest.
–Maya Angelou
Coaching – like living an authentic life to its fullest – involves the courage to be honest and true to yourself in order to reach your potential. Welcome to a journey of exploration that encompasses two exciting, rewarding and fascinating worlds: coaching and NLP!
Coaching and NLP are not the same thing, as I explain in this chapter, yet they do make for happy bedfellows. With their common foundation in the service of the client, NLP and coaching naturally complement each other.
Whether you desire a specific type of change, or stability while the world around you is changing, coaching and NLP have much to offer you and your clients. The aim of this chapter – and indeed, the entire book – is to support your development as a person and a coach by sparking new ideas and introducing you to some tried and tested ways of coaching with NLP.
Establishing the Differences between Coaching and NLP
People often ask me what the difference is between working with a coach and working with an NLP Practitioner or Master Practitioner. Employing a coach is a creative and collaborative relationship that focuses on incremental and continuous change. Coaching works with subtle fine-tuning to encourage a different way of thinking, being and doing. Hiring an NLP practitioner is more likely to be for a one-off session to address a particular issue around personal change. An NLP client may experience a dramatic breakthrough at a single intensive session, while coaching tends to have its ups and downs over a period of sessions. Indeed, an individual coaching session may not seem important at the time, yet it contributes to some deeper understanding in the longer term.
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