Chapiadora E-Book

Luis M. Espinosa

• Herausgeber: BooxAi
• Kategorie: Geisteswissenschaft
• Sprache: Englisch

Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2022

Beschreibung

A gold-digger is often associated with a marriage or attractiveness based on high status and wealth. Images abound where an alluring woman (or women) is seen in loving embrace with her well-off, older (sometimes much older) beau, fiance or husband. It is notably a relationship grounded on avarice and false love, rather than on true love. It is precisely here where the similarities with a "chapiadora" begin and end in this book, since I provide a rather different, more nuanced conceptualization of this personality.

To delve into the world and mind, and heart of a "chapiadora" is to transcend a particular country, culture, subculture, gender, and even class or age. What is revealed in this book points to a much more complex and often harmful world phenomenon that too many of us are unwilling to discuss out of fear or embarrassment.

This short story purports to be a true-to-life account. It takes a deep look into the behavior and mind-set of a "chapiadora", which, when studied side by side, I call the "Anatomy of a chapiadora". It is my sincere hope that this short account will be useful in averting emotional and economic upheaval in people's lives.

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Luis M. Espinosa

Chapiadora

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ISBN: 978-965-578-071-0

CHAPIADORA

Anatomy of a Gold Digger

Luis M. Espinosa

This book was inspired by true events.

People’s names have been changed due to literary purposes and any resemblance to actual persons is entirely coincidental.

In loving memory of my Dad, "El Puro", who instilled in me the values of family, honesty, spirituality and love. This self-help book would not have been possible without his guidance from heaven.

Contents

INTRODUCTION

Part I

The Landing

Part II

The Man of the House

Part III

Emergencies, Manipulations, Lies, Ego, Trust, Other Tools, Accomplices

Part IV

The End

Part V

After the End

CONCLUSION

INTRODUCTION

According to Urban Dictionary, the term chapiadora or chapeadora originates in the Dominican culture. Chapiadora commonly refers to a woman seen as a gold digger, or more precisely, anyone whose main goal is to procure as much as they can from their targets. That is to say; they are opportunists, swindlers whose primary concern is money. The most notorious cases in the United States were Porfirio Rubirosa in the 1950s and, in the 1990s, Anna Nicole Smith. In Cuba, they call them sharks (tiburonas) or jineteras. In other parts of Latin America, they are known as hustlers (joseadoras).

While I agree with the fundamental aspect of interest in money, I do not entirely agree with the definition above because it is too strict or inflexible. For example, heterosexual women or anyone from the LGTB community are often victimized by scrupleless individuals who feign true love to take advantage of them. And, it is immaterial to the chapiadora whether you are a native or a foreigner, young or old, single or married, rich or working class.

Furthermore, apart from money or perhaps an engagement ring, they are also interested in gifts, vacations, favors, and whatever else they can get from the relationship. In all instances, the anatomy of a chapiadora is the same, as are the nefarious consequences. People are often emotionally and economically torn apart when they allow themselves to be drawn in and deceived by these highly astute individuals. So, to be clear, when I refer to a chapiadora, I am referring to a universal type or archetype of a prostitute, which I will analyze and illustrate using a WhatsApp chat format, and not to some specific gender, sexual persuasion, or culture.

I want to clarify that it is neither my intention nor my desire to judge, offend or denigrate a particular individual or culture. I confess that I take full responsibility for my decisions, actions, and errors. Nobody put a gun to my head and forced me to be such a blind idiot!

I use the term chapiadora in the title because the events occurred while I was intimately involved with a woman from the Dominican Republic, where the term originated. However, throughout the book, I also reference another relationship in Cuba, where a similar story occurred. In the end, though, I found this metaphor catchy, so I adopted it, period.

Unlike other simplistic accounts or manuals of what it means to be a chapiadora, this book attempts to cover all matrices, with all their complexities and nuances as I experienced them. On occasion, I also refer to interviews I conducted or a plethora of informal conversations with experts in immigration, prostitutes, flight attendants, and other persons who have gone through the same experience or know someone who a false lover victimized. Whenever I confessed or related what had happened to friends, family, or even perfect strangers, the response was, “You should write a book about this.” or “People seeking a genuine and committed relationship should know about this.”

To this end, one of the primary objectives of this book is to unmask the chapiadora. The other is to discuss a social phenomenon that knows no borders and is prevalent, often resulting in awful consequences for the victim and their families. Many out there have fallen victims to the notorious chapiadoras. Yet, few are ready or willing to talk about it due to fear or embarrassment. By writing this book, I found a way to report on and publicize this somewhat worldwide mini industry, propelled by social media and cheap airfares. The final objective of this book is to open a dialogue or debate on this critical subject, free of taboos or fear. I know that each of us has preconceptions and will make individual interpretations and reach personal conclusions.

Beyond the essential underlying condition of greed, a chapiadora may be motivated by other factors as well, such as:

Economic difficultiesEnvyContempt towards a specific person (or group)EgocentrismLow self-esteemSeeking attention or fame in social circles or on social mediaSocial/cultural pressuresLooking for greener pasturesInadequate emotional/financial support from spouse or partnerTrauma from sexual, physical, or emotional abuse, including abandonmentSubstance abuse/addiction to drugsNeed for love and caringPowerShe likes what she does and does what she likes, period

In no way, shape or form does all this mean that in exceptional cases, true love cannot bloom with a chapiadora, as they may have a genuine change of heart and make the conscious decision to change their ways. Time and behavior will dictate whether this is true, although one must be vigilant at all times. However, if their mind is bent on gold-digging, you will be perceived as nothing more than a dollar sign, and they will try by any means necessary to suck you dry.

You can rest assured that your well-being, peace of mind, or happiness means nothing to them. To avoid these traps, we need to explore how their minds operate along with an analysis of their behavior, which, when combined, I call The Anatomy of a Gold Digger.

Finally, a chapiadora is not necessarily the epitome of evil and not even a gold-digger in the strict sense of marrying older and wealthy with little or no emotional investment. Still, I must emphasize that they are involved in harmful and dishonest practices. If you fall for one of the more astute and experienced ones, hang tight because you may be in for a rough ride and a rude awakening!