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A revealing and inspiring interview with a young couple who decided to try Domestic Discipline lifestyle as the ultimate hope for saving their marriage. Is DD abusive? Are you both happier now than you were before? These and lots of other questions will be answered by a mand and a woman that could have made a bad decision. Judge yourself if DD is for you.
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Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2017
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DD INTERVIEW
They saved their marriage
Dedicated to Joe and Carry for their strenght to try.BookRix GmbH & Co. KG81371 MunichIntroduction
Introduction
Are you happy in your marriage?
If your answer is “yes I certainly am and I am sure of it”, you don´t have to go any further. Please give this book to a friend or someone who really needs to reflect about marriage.
But if your answer is “no, I´m not” or “I´m not sure” this may be for you.
The couple we are about to know is real, lives in a small town somewhere in the United States and prefer not to declare their true names for obvious reasons.
They live in Domestic Discipline lifestyle for more than ten years now. Their choice was made after so many conversations and after some advices from me. They looked for me just before their marriage, back in 2001. They had a lot of doubts about themselves, their feelings for each other, the validation of marriage, the commitment they were about to make and other hundreds of questions that used to swim into their minds. They had been school sweethearts for more than 6 years and had to make a decision: get married or split their relationship. During those six years of relationship, Kerry and Joe (these are not their real names) had lots of experiences together. Those experiences whatever good or bad helped them to increase their love and passion for each other.
They were considered as a model couple for friends and families. They were seen as two people made for each other. Everybody could tell they were born to spend their lives together. Everybody had such feelings, but them. They were lost. At the same time they had an extreme desire for each other, they told me that sometimes they (both of them) had second thoughts about their present lives and their future.
One night I got a call from them. They needed to decide what to do quickly and they desperately needed help. As they used to live about 25 miles from me, I accepted to know them and maybe help them on their decision.
In our first encounter, I asked them how they found me and they told me I was recommended by another couple whom I used to mentor that time. They were living a happy life thanks to me (actually not thanks to me, but thanks to their right decisions).
For starters, I told the young couple I was pro Domestic Discipline that all my orientations would be in that direction, since after years of researching, I never found a better way of life or any other way to make a marriage works properly.
Lots of people get in love and get married. That part is easy. The hard part is how to conduct your marriage. Times have changed things happen much faster than fifty years ago and according to my humble opinion we – human beings – could not follow those changes as fast as they were happening.
Anyway, I told them I could not help them. They were too young – approximately 20 years old - and could not assimilate Domestic Discipline principles the same way older couples did it. At that time, I thought that only older couples, mature couples would be more prepared for what I had to offer. At that time, in my mind they should experience a relationship before choosing for that specific lifestyle.
I must confess I had never mentored such a young couple and at the beginning I thought they were not prepared. I had never prepared myself to help people that young. It would be a challenge for me, but I decided to say no.
Choosing to live under Domestic Discipline is a major decision and I always have been pretty serious about it. I was not ready to help them.
It´s a decision that can change a couple´s life for better, but it´s a hard decision to make. Maybe the hardest of a lifetime. There´s prejudice about it. Most of the people do not understand – and worst – do not accept it. Others think about abuse and so many worst things. After all we live in a hypocrite society, I thought they were not ready for it yet.
Domestic Discipline is not for everyone. Men and women should be committed to their marriage much more than a regular couple. Men and women must be sure that that´s the person they want to spend the rest of their lives with. Women must be absolutely sure that her man is the right man to submit to. Men must be absolutely sure if that woman is the one they want to make decisions for. Men are in charge to make decisions, rules and promote the guidance of their wives in Domestic Discipline. On the opposite of what you may think, Domestic Discipline is not about “spanking”. Spanking is just one tool of DD. Men´s responsibility in marriage are huge and infinite. It may be a burden to him.
Well, there were so many things to be reflected and I told them they should come up with their own decision. If there were love, respect, understanding, comprehension, and commitment between them marriage could last forever. It was their call. That was all I could do for them by that time.
I never heard of Kerry and Joe for 2 and half years. Suddenly, they showed up in my house. Out of the blue. They asked me if I remember them, I said yes. They decided to get married two years ago and they were about to getting a divorce. I was their last hope. I invited them in.
They told me about their lives. Joe was from a regular family. He was the older brother and had two sisters. Their families never heard about DD before. Even though, he told me he felt that his mom´s submission to his dad was the reason why they were still together and in love. She had helped him in bad times in the past, including drinking problems and a young lover a long time ago.
Kerry was the middle sister. She had an older sister and a younger brother. She could not affirm with 100% certainty, but she suspected their parents lived in Domestic Discipline. She had been raised in a family that thought her that submission to a man was the best attitude. She always felt she was bottom and needed someone to be her top. Joe didn´t understand that but in the name of their love, he had to make a change and quick.
That moment I realized how wrong I was letting them go years ago. I decided to help them.
I mentored them in regular basis for more than 5 years. Now, they decided to present me with this interview. But why them? Why did I bother to transform what they have to say into this book? Because they simply revealed themselves as a couple who really learned how to live in Domestic Discipline. Not because of my orientation, but because they are two people interested in each other. They love and care for each other. They frequently look for and find out new ways to live the lifestyle they decided to live. They are always improving their relationship and love. Because she know how to submit to him and he has an accurate idea of what it is to be a HOH. I consider them an example to be followed. In so many levels they surprised me with their concept of DD and how they apply it to marriage. It has worked so far and they have my applause. After all, they are a young couple just trying to be happy. What you will read from now on are the confessions of two hearts deeply in love, living a full DD lifestyle and as happy as they can possibly be.
Now, the interview.
