Embrace Your Life E-Book

Wilfried Nelles

• Herausgeber: Edition Innenwelt
• Kategorie: Ratgeber
• Serie: Edition Neue Psychologie
• Sprache: Englisch
• Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2013

Seitenzahl: 197

Beschreibung

Regardless of how grown up we feel and present ourselves in many aspects of our lives, our child feelings and behavioral patterns deeply impact our daily lives, especially where emotions come into play. We may act as adults, but we feel like children. And yet we all come with an inner vision into this world, a very specific and unique potential that wants to unfold through us during the course of our lives. But through our internal life struggles, we often forget it and lose touch with it. Using the Life Integration Process, Wilfried Nelles introduces a constellation method to help us see and feel our life's inner vision and thereby guide us to our psychological maturity and adulthood.

Leseprobe

First Digital Issue 2013

Cover Design: Silke Bunda Watermeier, www.watermeier.net

Translated by Samar Nahas, www.samar.info

Copyright© 2012 Wilfried Nelles

All rights reserved.

Print and photomechanical reprint in any form or partly

only with permission of Innenwelt Verlag GmbH.

www.innenwelt-verlag.de

ISBN 978-3-942502-72-6

WILFRIED NELLES

EMBRACE

YOUR LIFE

ADULTHOOD AND THE TRANSITION

TO PSYCHOLOGICAL MATURITY

Translated by Samar Nahas

TABLE OF CONTENTS

1. “I Want to Finally Be an Adult.”

2. Stages of Maturity

In the Womb–Symbiotic (Unconscious) Unified Consciousness

Childhood–Group Consciousness

Adolescence–Ego Consciousness

Adulthood–Consciousness of the Self

3. The Individual vs. Universal (Collective) Consciousness

Traditional Society: Adulthood as Role Play

The “Death of God” and its Consequences

The Role of Science

Adulthood Today

4. So What Can Help?

Why?–On Cause and Effect

“I can’t” and “I don’t”

“How do I get rid of my anger?”–A Case Study

Perspectives

Trauma

Jung’s Neurosis

The Therapeutic Principle and Approach to Psychological Trauma

What can you do for yourself?

Life Heals

5. Embrace Your Life

Seeing Yourself

Constellation Work

The Life Integration Process (LIP)

A Small Exercise

Our Life’s Inner Vision

We Are Not the Children of Our Parents

The Child in the Family

The Adolescent and the Young Person

Touching Your Own Being

Appendix

The Methodological Approach in Constellation Work

Chapter 1

“I WANT TO FINALLY BE AN ADULT.”

The concern of psychology is solely that the individual becomes what he is, regardless of what that may be in any given case.

Wolfgang Giegerich1

The woman next to me pulled a serious face and her voice sounded determined. It was the voice of someone who had finally made a decision after a long period of contemplation: “I want to finally be an adult.” She was a pretty, medium-sized, slender, blonde woman with big blue eyes, and full sensual lips. Her make-up was discreet and she was always perfectly dressed. Her expression was usually more dreamy than resolute and her engaging smile was an irresistible magnet, drawing you in whenever she looked at you. It wasn’t difficult to imagine her as a child who could easily wrap her fingers around her father, and how difficult it must be for most men to resist pleasing her and fulfilling her wishes.

A woman-child, both attractive and unhappy. She was well aware of her weapons, wearing them like a second skin, and though she used them well (though unconsciously and automatically) she also hated them.

She sensed that even though they gave her the control, using these weapons meant she would always remain the child. She had become fed up of living the life of this woman-child and so began a year earlier to uncover her issues in family constellations and individual one-on-one sessions. All that work gradually culminated in her decision: I’ve had enough; I no longer want to be the cute little girl. I want to finally be an adult!