Grief Counseling Homework Planner E-Book

Phil Rich

• Herausgeber: John Wiley & Sons
• Kategorie: Fachliteratur
• Serie: Practice Planners
• Sprache: Englisch

Seitenzahl: 194

Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2017

Beschreibung

Help bereaved clients deal with and work through a difficult time in their lives Grief Counseling Homework Planner provides you with an array of ready-to-use, between-session assignments designed to help clients better understand their grief and the grieving process. This easy-to-use sourcebook features: * 63 ready-to-copy exercises covering the most common issues encountered in grief therapy * A quick-reference format-the interactive assignments are organized around the most typical stages of the grieving process * Expert guidance on how and when to make the most efficient use of the exercises * Homework that enables clients to work through the issues surrounding their loss through reflective thought, personal management, problem resolution, and self-healing * Access to download of all assignments in the book-allowing you to customize them to suit you and your clients' unique styles and needs

Leseprobe

Table of Contents

Cover

Wiley Practice

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Series

Title Page

Copyright

Wiley Practice

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Series Preface

Introduction

Why Homework?

About

Grief Counseling Homework Planner

For Whom is

Grief Counseling Homework Planner

Intended?

Using

Grief Counseling Homework Planner

in Therapy

About the Homework Exercises

Repeating Exercises

Caution in Using Exercises

The Organizing Model: Three Stages of Grief

Directions for the Therapist

Therapists’ Use of

Grief Counseling Homework Planner

Working at the Client’s Skill Level

Conclusion

Section I: Stages of Grief

Exercise I.A: Stages of Grief: Getting Located

Exercise I.B: Identifying Your Feelings

Section II: Accommodation and Adjustment

Exercise II.A: These Early Days

Exercise II.B: Expressing Yourself

Exercise II.C: This Loss in My Life

Exercise II.D: Barriers to Adjustment

Section III: Acceptance

Exercise III.A: Rite of Passage

Exercise III.B: I Still Can’t Believe It

Exercise III.C: Remembering the Day

Exercise III.D: I Choose to Overcome Grief

Section IV: Support

Exercise IV.A: The Day After

Exercise IV.B: The Right Help at the Right Time

Exercise IV.C: Recognizing Support

Exercise IV.D: Checkpoint: Support

Section V: Sharing

Exercise V.A: The Faces of Sharing

Exercise V.B: The Faces of Your Community

Exercise V.C: The Gift of Sharing

Exercise V.D: Checkpoint: Sharing

Section VI: Understanding Feelings

Exercise VI.A: Your Feelings

Exercise VI.B: Your Thoughts About Your Feelings

Exercise VI.C: How Do You Feel Right Now?

Exercise VI.D: Triggers

Exercise VI.E: Watching Your Feelings

Exercise VI.F: Owning Your Feelings

Section VII: Coping with Feelings

Exercise VII.A: How Do You Cope?

Exercise VII.B: What You Do Is Who You Are

Exercise VII.C: One at a Time

Exercise VII.D: Checkpoint: Coping

Section VIII: Finding Meaning

Exercise VIII.A: The Quality of Life

Exercise VIII.B: Meaning in Your Life

Exercise VIII.C: The Ingredients of Meaning

Exercise VIII.D: Personal Meaning

Exercise VIII.E: Fragments of Meaning

Exercise VIII.F: A Fridge Poem

Section IX: Biography

Exercise IX.A: I Want the World to Know

Exercise IX.B: A 10-Minute Biography

Exercise IX.C: A Quick Sketch

Exercise IX.D: An Important Possession

Exercise IX.E: Checkpoint: Biography

Section X: Shared History

Exercise X.A: Our Relationship

Exercise X.B: I Remember

Exercise X.C: An Important Day

Exercise X.D: Life Markers

Exercise X.E: I’ll Never Forget

Section XI: Memories and Remembrances

Exercise XI.A: Telling Tales

Exercise XI.B: A Scrapbook

Exercise XI.C: A Trip in Time

Exercise XI.D: A Visit Through Time

Exercise XI.E: Commemorating Your Loved One

Section XII: Unfinished Business

Exercise XII.A: Thinking About Unfinished Business

Exercise XII.B: Expressing Your Feelings

Exercise XII.C: Regrets

Exercise XII.D: Unfinished Business

Section XIII: Relationships

Exercise XIII.A: Current Relationships

Exercise XIII.B: Evolving Relationships

Exercise XIII.C: Remaking Relationships

Exercise XIII.D: Moving On

Exercise XIII.E: Checkpoint: Relationships

Section XIV: Moving On

Exercise XIV.A: Decisions, Decisions, Decisions

Exercise XIV.B: Making Decisions

Exercise XIV.C: If Only You Knew What's Inside of Me Now

Exercise XIV.D: A Goodbye Letter

Exercise XIV.E: I've Learned…

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INTRODUCTION

Homework provides many benefits for both the therapy client and the therapist. Therapeutic homework extends treatment experiences outside of the session, keeps alive the ideas and feelings expressed during sessions, keeps clients thinking about and focused on therapeutic issues, allows clients to take more responsibility for their own growth and development, and empowers clients to discover their own strengths and limitations. Therapy homework allows for a meaningful extension of treatment that simply cannot take place during the limited time allowed by an individual session. Homework allows clients virtually unlimited time to work on and more fully develop ideas raised in therapy, to contemplate their own thoughts and feelings, and to reflect on and plan for future sessions. Homework thus extends the benefits and power of the therapy far beyond the traditional therapeutic hour.

WHY HOMEWORK?

In an era of time-limited (and often managed) treatment, the Homework Planner adds an additional dimension to therapy and helps make it more cost-effective and focused by the following means:

Providing a developmental and linear framework for therapeutic grief work

Directing clients to think about what they want to concentrate on and get out of therapy

Assigning therapeutic tasks for clients to work on between and before planned sessions

Preparing clients for individual therapy sessions

Helping clients develop

contemplative

and

processing

skills

Allowing clients to develop self-management skills and recognize that they are capable of problem analysis and resolution on their own

Providing clients with a permanent and important record of the issues they have addressed in treatment and a set of self-reflection skills they can turn to and depend on after their therapy has ended.

ABOUT GRIEF COUNSELING HOMEWORK PLANNER

Grief Counseling Homework Planner is designed to help bereaved clients deal with and work through a difficult time in their lives. It provides information about grief and the grieving process and provides a way for bereaved clients to work through the issues surrounding their loss, teaching the skills and techniques of reflective thought, personal management, problem resolution, and self- healing.

FOR WHOM IS GRIEF COUNSELING HOMEWORK PLANNER INTENDED?

There are many causes of grief, and many forms. Although Grief Counseling Homework Planner is intended primarily for those experiencing grief resulting from the death of someone close, it can nevertheless help clients deal with loss no matter what its source. Many individuals grappling with grief issues of any kind can benefit from a homework approach to grief work and the resolution of grief issues.

Many people experiencing grief will neither seek out nor require therapy. Many others, however, will already be in a therapeutic relationship or will seek out counseling of some form. Although Grief Counseling Homework Planner can be used entirely as a self- help book, it is intended to augment individual therapy, not replace it.

USING GRIEF COUNSELING HOMEWORK PLANNER IN THERAPY

Homework exercises, regardless of whether they are intended for use in direct conjunction with therapy, prompt exploration and discovery. The process of completing the homework exercises can itself prove an effective means of gaining insight and achieving growth.

When used in conjunction with individual, family, couples, or group therapy, homework exercises both strengthen and are strengthened by the treatment. The process of completing homework exercises can echo and guide the phases of individual therapy. In addition, the use of homework exercises as part of therapy promotes discussion of issues of trust, honesty, and the therapeutic relationship. Clinicians can gauge their clients’ willingness to open up or explore areas where the alliance needs strengthening, based on the degree to which the clients are willing to complete and share their homework exercises.

In addition, Grief Counseling Homework Planner provides important information that can help clients better understand the grief process and the process of grief work. It also provides a means for clients to identify, address, and work through grief-related problems and issues.

Each section of Grief Counseling Homework Planner contains several blank homework exercises to teach, direct, and foster self- expression and self-reflection. However, homework exercises vary in technique as well as content, and different homework exercises are appropriate for different problem sets and stages in grief work. Part of the art and skill of conducting therapy lies in knowing when and how to help clients tackle the issues they are facing. In the case of Grief Counseling Homework Planner, this means knowing which exercises to select and when. Accordingly, therapists using Grief Counseling Homework Planner must be familiar enough with the homework exercises to know when they are likely to be useful, and when they may be counterproductive. Once therapists are familiar with Grief Counseling Homework Planner, they will adapt it to their own theoretical approaches and styles of therapy.

ABOUT THE HOMEWORK EXERCISES

Homework exercises in Grief Counseling Homework Planner are never intended to provide answers for clients or to steer them toward the “right” answers. Each of the exercises is intended to teach the skills of self- reflection, exploration, and expression and help clients create their own answers and questions and bring them back to therapy. Clearly, homework exercises push clients into particular directions, but the goal is both self-discovery and the enhancement and extension of in- person therapy sessions.

The type and format of the homework exercises change often. Some exercises are built around checklists, some are very structured, and some provide little structure or are open ended. Most exercises can be completed independently of the others, although within each section it makes most sense to complete the homework exercises in the order presented.

REPEATING EXERCISES

Many of the exercises in Grief Counseling Homework Planner are intended or appropriate for multiple use. These exercises can be used by clients repeatedly, either to explore different aspects of their lives, thoughts, and feelings, or to revisit the same treatment issues over and over as they come to understand and process treatment issues more thoroughly. In many instances, clients should be encouraged to complete the same exercise again, or be reassigned the same exercise, whenever it will assist in better understanding an issue, feeling, or thought. In some cases, the exercise should be reassigned if clients have not put adequate effort, energy, time, thought, or honesty into their work.

CAUTION IN USING EXERCISES

Any homework exercise may evoke strong feelings in the client, given the very nature of grief. Nevertheless, some homework exercises are more basic than others and are unlikely to evoke especially difficult emotions in the client. Others, however, drive deeper and may touch emotionally painful areas. In these cases, there is a risk that clients may not be ready for such exercises, or a particular homework exercise may be contraindicated at that point in the treatment process.

THE ORGANIZING MODEL: THREE STAGES OF GRIEF

Grief Counseling Homework Planner is built on a developmental model of the grief process, in which grief work is conceptualized as a three- stage model. The organization of the Homework Planner follows this model, which is briefly reviewed here, and is explained to clients in more detail on the “Setting Perspective” page in Section I.

Stage 1: Acclimation and adjustment.

In this first stage, the tasks largely involve dealing with the initial emotional shock and disorientation often brought by death.

Adjusting to changes brought by the loss

Functioning appropriately in daily life

Keeping emotions and behaviors in check

Accepting support

Stage 2: Emotional immersion and deconstruction.

In Stage 2, although the initial impact of the death has passed, emotions are often deeply felt. During this stage, bereaved individuals must face and deal with the changes that the death has brought, and often face challenges to their beliefs about the way things should be.

Contending with reality

Development of insight

Reconstructing personal values and beliefs

Accepting changes and feelings and letting go

Stage 3: Reclamation and reconciliation.

In this final stage many issues about the death have been resolved, and the bereaved more fully begin to reclaim and move on with their lives.

Development of social relations

Decisions about changes in lifestyle

Renewal of self-awareness

Acceptance of responsibility

Even though Grief Counseling Homework Planner was designed to be used in a straight-line sequence following this three-stage model, each section is written as a stand-alone item that can be used independently of other sections, and the same is true of most homework exercises within each section. This allows clients and therapists maximum flexibility to select sections and homework exercises that most fit the immediate situation.

DIRECTIONS FOR THE THERAPIST

Each section opens with a brief description of the type of exercises in the section. Within the section, each homework exercise is preceded by a “Therapist’s Overview” subsection, which includes a brief overview of the exercise and its purpose, types of situations for which the exercise may be most useful, and suggestions for processing the exercise with clients. Individual homework exercises immediately follow the therapist’s overview.

Preceding the actual homework exercises, the material and homework in each section is briefly explained to the client in a “Setting Perspective” subsection, generally on a single page. This material provides a basic description that will help clients understand the focus of the exercises, and also the ideas and grief work to be developed and worked on through the exercises and this stage of treatment. Therapists should become familiar with the setting perspective material in each section and encourage clients to read the material prior to completing homework exercises.

THERAPISTS’ USE OF GRIEF COUNSELING HOMEWORK PLANNER

The sections and homework exercises in Grief Counseling Homework Planner were designed to be used in sequence, following the three-stage grief model previously described, and exercises within each section are connected and often interrelated. But, if familiar with the book, therapists may choose to create their own sequences of connected exercises. Used this way, therapists may ask clients to work on specific homework exercises that seem to fit a need at that moment in therapy, or assign a connected series of homework exercises.

Alternatively, some therapists may build their entire treatment around Grief Counseling Homework Planner, following the three-stage grief model and sequence of the book, by asking clients to use what they learn about themselves through homework exercises as the basis for sessions.

However, although Grief Counseling Homework Planner is intended as a direct adjunct to therapy, some therapists may choose simply to recommend Grief Counseling Homework Planner to their clients as a source for self-expression and personal growth, independent of what happens in therapy, in effect using it as bibliotherapy.

WORKING AT THE CLIENT’S SKILL LEVEL

Grief Counseling Homework Planner