How to Get the Guy E-Book

50MINUTES

• Herausgeber: 50Minutes.com
• Kategorie: Geisteswissenschaft
• Serie: Health & Wellbeing
• Sprache: Englisch

Seitenzahl: 42

Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2018

Beschreibung

Change is only 50 minutes away! Find out everything you need to know about flirting with this straightforward guide.

Flirting does not come naturally to everyone – some people seem to have been born with a silver tongue, but asking someone out can be a daunting prospect to others. In this helpful guide, you will learn about the fundamental role body language plays in our conversations, find out how to read the tell-tale signs that reveal that a guy is interested in you, and discover a variety of ways you can boost your self-confidence so that you can chat up guys with ease.

In just 50 minutes you will be able to:

• Understand the importance of clear communication
• Strike up a conversation with someone you are interested in
• Boost your self-confidence for more effective flirting

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HOW TO GET THE GUY

BEAT THE NERVES AND FLIRT WITH CONFIDENCE!

Problem: shyness and a lack of self-confidence can make it very difficult for some women to approach the men they are interested in.Aim: to boost your self-confidence and improve your verbal and non-verbal communication skills so that flirting comes more naturally to you.FAQs:How can I start a conversation?What are the tell-tale signs that a man is interested in me?How should I ask for his phone number?I have kids – should I be upfront about this?What is the best way to cope with rejection?When it comes to dating sites and apps, how should I approach a man whose profile interests me?What precautions should I take with online dating?What is the best way to plan for a first date?What kind of clothes and makeup should I wear for a first date?

Making the first move is never easy. Even when you see the object of your affections every day at work, say hello to him first thing every morning and exchange pleasantries with him during the coffee break, daring to ask him out on a date or even overtly showing interest in him can seem like a daunting prospect.

So how can you take your relationship with him to the next level? Maybe another colleague has told you that he has recently broken up with his long-term girlfriend, and you have been telling yourself that it is time to make a move. Maybe he just has that “special something” that drives you wild. In any case, how can you stack the odds in your favour, overcome your fear of rejection and make sure that you do not scare him off?

This short guide is here to lend a helping hand and to give you the confidence boost you need to approach men with ease. Lack of self-confidence, fear of rejection, shyness and fear of making a fool of yourself can all hold you back when you get the chance to make a move. This guide will teach you how to read a person’s body language and figure out whether or not they like you back, how to ask for someone’s phone number and how to prepare for a date. No more excuses – it is time to get that guy!

SILENT SEDUCTION: USING YOUR BODY LANGUAGE

This first chapter will cover the ways you can flirt using your physical behaviour and mannerisms. In any conversation, both of the people involved will always subconsciously be paying more attention to the other person’s body language than to what they are actually saying, so you should never overlook it! This chapter will also help you to identify the tell-tale signs that suggest that your crush might return your feelings, allowing you to put your nerves aside and start flirting in earnest.

“I always pay a lot of attention to what the other person is saying – both with their words and with their body – during a first date. I think it’s very important to understand what kind of person they are and what they think of me so that I know what I can and can’t do. Plus, if I’m aware that there’s some mutual attraction, then it gives me a better idea of how I can win them over. And every move they make is a clue – the way they speak, their intonation, the words they use, their mannerisms, even the way they hold themselves.” (Greg, 30)

Body language can be defined as all the non-verbal aspects of a conversation. Facial expressions, glances and gestures are all subject to interpretation; many psychological studies even suggest that the essence of any conversation is conveyed via non-verbal communication.

THE RIGHT SMILE

The first thing any would-be seductress should learn is that a winning smile can be a lethal weapon: it makes you seem more attractive by making you seem nicer, builds a sense of affinity and has a calming effect. Men have a weakness for women who smile a lot, and see them as more attractive than women who rarely smile.

However, be careful not to start forcing your smiles, as false smiles are very easy to spot. Lastly, remember that where there is mutual attraction, smiles become contagious: if you are talking to someone who smiles a lot while they look at you, it is very likely that they are far from immune to your charms.

THE RIGHT GESTURES

According to Susan Krauss Whitbourne’s article Are You More of a Flirt Than You Think? (2016), people have a habit of touching their own body more frequently when they are around someone they are attracted to.