Joining the Resistance E-Book

Carol Gilligan

• Herausgeber: John Wiley & Sons
• Kategorie: Geisteswissenschaft
• Sprache: Englisch

Seitenzahl: 255

Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2013

Beschreibung

Since the publication of her landmark book In a Different Voice, Carol Gilligan has transformed the way we think about women and men and the relations between them. It was ‘the little book that started a revolution’, and with more than 800,000 copies in print it has become one of the most widely read and influential books ever written on gender and human development.

In her new book Joining the Resistance Carol Gilligan reflects on the evolution of her thinking and shows how her key ideas were interwoven with her own life experiences. Her work began with the question of voice: who is speaking to whom, in what body, telling what stories about which relationships? By listening carefully she heard a voice that had been held in silence, and in the process realized the extent to which we – both women and men – had been telling false stories about ourselves.

In her subsequent work Gilligan found that adolescent girls resisted pressures to disengage themselves from their honest voices, and by joining their resistance she opened the way for the development of a more humane way of thinking about personal and political relationships. For the central conviction of her work today – and the central thesis of this book – is that the requisites for love and the requisites for citizenship in a democratic society are one and the same. Both voice and the desire to live in relationships inherent in our human nature, together with the capacity to resist false authority.

Combining autobiographical reflection with an analysis of key questions about gender and human development, this timely and highly readable book by one of America’s greatest contemporary thinkers will appeal to a wide readership.

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Joining the Resistance

Carol Gilligan

JOINING THE RESISTANCE

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Contents

Introduction

1  Looking Back to Look Forward: Revisiting In a Different Voice

2  Where Have We Come From and Where Are We Going?

3  Free Association and the Grand Inquisitor: A Psychoanalytic Drama

4  Identifying the Resistance

5  Resisting Injustice: A Feminist Ethic of Care

Acknowledgments

References

Introduction

In the summer when I was two-and-a-half, my mother, a forward-looking woman interested in the latest developments and invested in raising her child, took me to Clara Thompson’s institute at Vassar College designed to impart psychoanalytic wisdom to the parents of young children. Like many such experiments, it was conceived with the best of intentions: the children would attend nursery school while the parents learned about child development. Though set in the midst of American society, it was organized like a kibbutz: the children would live in one building or dormitory while the parents lived in another. It was an arrangement my two-year-old self could not imagine, despite the careful preparation. I loved the nursery school and my teacher whose name I remember to this day, but when it came to bedtime, I wanted my mother, not some metapelet, to put me to sleep. And so, at a very young age, I discovered the power of voice to bring about change. Like Joshua with his trumpet at Jericho, I found that by crying loud enough and long enough walls can come tumbling down. The rules gave way and my mother was summoned. An exception was granted: she could put me to bed and sing me to sleep. I never learned what Clara Thompson thought of this breach in practice and can only imagine what was said about me to justify this irregularity, but my mother, God bless her, always cherished this display of spirit on my part, whatever embarrassment it may have caused her, and it’s possible that the other children also enjoyed her singing.

Years later, I found an ethical rationale for what at two was a protest against resignation. It was the late 1960s, I had completed my Ph.D. in psychology, and being the mother of three young children, I was looking for part-time work. At a party given by a friend, I was introduced to Lawrence Kohlberg. His theory of moral development captured the passion for justice that had inspired me along with many members of my generation to take action on behalf of civil rights and to protest what we saw as an unjust war. When he offered me a job as a research assistant, I accepted and thus became involved in the lively discussions provoked by his claim, following Socrates, that virtue is one and its name is justice. Moral development follows a single path, leading beyond self-interest and societal conventions to a principled understanding of justice as fairness. It was a theory that captured the spirit of the time, providing a justification for civil disobedience.

For a long time, I did not see the connection between my early experience at Vassar and the questions about voice and resistance that have inspired my research. It explains my optimism about the possibility of having an effect, even against considerable odds. Yet what strikes me more particularly is that my resistance to losing a ground of relationship I had taken for granted was a resistance I would see again in four- and five-year-old boys and in adolescent girls. And even at these later ages, when the issue was not wanting their mother, it brought them up against institutional structures that seemed firmly entrenched.

Over the past forty years, a confluence of evidence in the human sciences, coming from developmental psychology and sociology, neurobiology and evolutionary anthropology, has shown that we are, by nature, responsive, relational beings, born with a voice and into relationship, hard-wired for empathy and cooperation, and that our capacity for mutual understanding was—and may well be—key to our survival as a species. When I say this on a panel in the fall of 2010, I am contradicted by my two co-panelists, both distinguished academics—told in no uncertain terms that by nature we are aggressive and competitive, driven by evolution to the pursuit of self-interest. What accounts for this disparity?

In her artist’s statement for her exhibition “Proud Flesh,” the photographer Sally Mann identifies herself as “a woman who looks.” Photographing her husband of forty years, “let[ting] the sunshine fall voluptuously on a still beautiful form,” the two of them “still in love, still at work,” she is aware of the risk she is taking:

Within traditional narratives, women who look, especially women who look unflinchingly at men, have been punished: Take poor Psyche, punished for all time for daring to lift the lantern to finally see her lover … The act of looking appraisingly at a man, making eye contact on the street, asking to photograph him, studying his body, has always been a brazen venture for a woman, though for a man these acts are commonplace, even expected.

I remember standing in the Gagosian gallery on Madison Avenue on a rainy Thursday afternoon, the luminosity of the photographs like light from a distant star. I had never seen a man photographed in this way before, with an eye so loving, so insistent on seeing. Alone in the quiet gallery, I realized that Mann had broken a taboo.

It’s true that the mythical Psyche was punished for breaking Eros’s injunction against her seeing him or speaking about their love. When she lifted the lantern, she was planning to kill him, having been told by her sisters that he was a monster, intent on devouring her and their child. What stilled her hand was his beauty, and also his humanness, his vulnerability. The stories about him turned out not to be true. What she saw was what she had known about him in darkness and silence: he was a tender and responsive man. And although Eros does carry out his threat to leave her if she tries to see him, and Psyche is subjected to all manner of torments and trials, the story has a happy ending. Joined as equals in a just and everlasting marriage, Psyche and Eros become the parents of a daughter named Pleasure. It’s easy to forget this ending, because the path leading to happiness seems so improbable.

Like Mann, I have lived in a long marriage, still in love and still at work. My husband and I have raised three sons. My mother loved men and I grew up loving two fathers, my father and also his father who lived with us through most of my childhood. When I went back to Harvard after graduate school to teach part-time, I gravitated to Erik Erikson and Lawrence Kohlberg whom I recognized as intelligent and sensitive men, with a playful side like my grandfather and an ethical sensibility like my father. Knowing them personally, I could see the roots of their work in their lives. Erik had named himself Erikson after discovering that he had grown up not knowing that he was the son of a Danish man; Kohlberg had been caught as a child in the moral dilemma precipitated by his parents’ divorce: should his mother give up custody of him in order to enable him to secure his inheritance from his wealthy father? Both men became fathers to me in the sense of showing me a way into psychology that engaged my interests, and by their example encouraged me to pursue my own questions. I did not anticipate that by following in their footsteps (as they had followed Freud and Piaget), I would find myself in forbidden territory. It was one thing to bring men’s lives into history and generalize from men’s experience. To do so with women broke a silence.

To paraphrase Mann, I am a woman who listens. My research began with questions about voice: Who is speaking, and to whom? In what body? Telling what stories about relationships? In what societal and cultural frameworks? My ear had been caught by two things: a silence among men, and an absence of resonance when women said what they were really thinking and feeling. By inquiring into what men were not saying and by providing some resonance for women, I heard a voice that had been held in silence. It was like shifting the frequency and suddenly hearing a station that had been jammed. I wrote In a Different Voice to make sense of a dissonance between women’s voices and the voice of prevailing psychological theories. In the process, I realized the extent to which we, meaning both men and women, had been telling false stories about ourselves.

In the tale of “The Emperor’s New Clothes,” it is a child who says that the emperor is naked. In Hawthorne’s novel, The Scarlet Letter, seven-year-old Pearl sees what the Goodwives and Puritans cannot discern: the connection between her mother and the minister. In my research, it was an eleven-year-old girl who responded to my saying “this interview is just between you and me” by adding “and your tape recorder.” When I went on to explain that the tape would only be listened to by other members of the research group, she asked, “Then why don’t they just all come into the room?” Disruptive questions. I needed her to take what I said at face value so I could get on with my work, and in fact, she agreed to my terms, choosing a name she wanted us to use in place of her own. But from then on, she sounded depressed. The price of staying in relationship with me was to not say what she was seeing and to act as if what I had said made sense.

I couldn’t listen to children and go on working in the same way. What stopped me was the realization that I was becoming complicit in overcoming their resistance to not saying what they saw or knowing what they knew. At Halloween, in a fifth-grade classroom, I watched the girls look up at the ceiling as their teacher read story after story in which a woman was strangled or otherwise mangled. They loved their teacher, who was a woman; they knew she didn’t want them to notice this.

The resistance that gripped my attention was a resistance to dissociation. In coming of age, the girls were aware of but also resisting pressures to disengage themselves from their honest voices. Exploring their resistance, I saw how it challenged an initiation that was both culturally sanctioned and socially enforced. In many ways, it was adaptive if not essential to praise the emperor’s new clothes and not see that the minister who professed to love the truth, was, in his own words, “living a lie”—as the minister says in Hawthorne’s novel.

I had not remembered that the word “patriarchy” appears repeatedly in The Scarlet Letter. I had read the novel as a tragic love story and a cautionary tale about the wages of sin. But there it was, right on the page: “patriarchal privilege,” “patriarchal deacon” (pp. 199, 200), along with the confession:

I used to watch and study this patriarchal personage [the Father of the Custom-House] with, I think, livelier curiosity than any other form of humanity there presented to my notice. He was, in truth, a rare phenomenon; so perfect in one point of view; so shallow, so delusive, so impalpable, such an absolute nonentity, in every other. (p. 16)

I had associated patriarchy with anthropology and the study of ancient tribes, and also with a feminism that saw men as monsters. Yet in writing a play inspired by The Scarlet Letter, and turning the play into a libretto for an opera called “Pearl,” my son Jonathan and I were repeatedly struck by the depth of Hawthorne’s insights into what is not usually thought of as the American dilemma: the tension between the radical Protestant vision of an unmediated relationship with God (who can be worshipped by anyone, anywhere—at home, in the forest, as well as in church) and the continuation of an all-male clerical hierarchy; between the vision of a democratic society, a shining city on the hill, and the continuation of patriarchal power and privilege. In an aria for the opera, we ask: “If God is love, how can love be sin?”

I had taken Shakespeare & Company’s month-long actor-training workshop to learn from Tina Packer and Kristin Linklater what theater people know about voice. I began to experience how voice lives in the body, how it is connected to breath and the physical world of sound and vibration, as well as to language and culture. I discovered how dissociation can be enacted through the body, how precisely it can come to pass that, as sixteen-year-old Tanya reflects, “The voice that stands up for what I believe in has been buried deep inside me.” Buried, not lost. Having seen girls resist self-silencing and noting the conflicts that followed, within themselves and in the adults around them, I realized that in order to understand what I was seeing, I had to ask: resistance to what?

My work branched out in two directions. To explore dissociation or dissociative processes, to understand how it is that we can separate ourselves from parts of ourselves and come not to know what we know, I entered psychoanalysis and the more associative world of the arts where emotion is not walled off from thought. I began to focus more on the physical voice, hearing it as an instrument of expression as well as a concept or metaphor for the self. I continued to work in the theater, co-directing an all-women Shakespeare company and writing a play as well as a novel. An invitation to join the Social and Political Sciences faculty at the University of Cambridge and subsequently to teach in the law school at NYU provided opportunities to explore the politics as well as the psychology of resistance and to plant my study of resistance more firmly in a social and political landscape.

I had come full circle, joining my interest in psychology with an ongoing commitment to the arts and to political activism, but, the times were a changing. My work became more radical and more incendiary. In the 1990s, for the first time since suffrage, women’s votes elected the president, and in the contested presidential election of 2000, the largest divergence between men’s and women’s votes was recorded (with more men voting for Bush and more women for Gore). In the U.S. health-care debates, an ethic of care was countered by death threats; the word “patriarchy” was dismissed as archaic even as its manifestations became more apparent in the rise of religious fundamentalism and the attacks on Hillary Clinton; and the death of feminism was repeatedly proclaimed.

The inspiration for this book crystallized in 2009, prompted by three events: the French publisher Flammarion revised their original translation of In a Different Voice and published a new edition, and Fushoka, the Japanese publisher, decided to re-translate the book; a cover story in The New Yorker asked “Why is feminism still so divisive?”; and, in a realization of what in the ’60s had simply been a dream, Barack Obama was inaugurated as president of the United States.

The actual writing began on a Saturday in May. I was standing on the Rue Monge, having come to Paris to celebrate the publication of the revised French translation. My husband and I were spending the month in a rented flat, and I had gone for a walk to allay my anxiety about speaking at the public seminar organized by the scholars who had called for the revision and sponsored by the formidable Icole des hautes études en sciences sociales. Images came flooding back of previous presentations to the academy: of the time shortly after In a Different Voice was published, when I was invited to face my critics at the Society for Research in Child Development. The all-women panel was held in the hotel ballroom and introduced by Eleanor Maccoby, a distinguished scholar and expert on sex differences. She began her remarks by quoting a colleague, “male of course,” she said, who had stopped her to say: “See you at the shoot-out at the OK Corral.” She then went on to override her linking of shoot-outs with men by stating that there was no evidence of psychological sex differences, a position she would later gracefully retract. I remembered my gratitude at the time to Catherine Snow, the last of the women to speak on the panel and a scholar of language development, who pointed out that to establish the existence of a different voice, all I needed was a single example. Gender was a red herring, but it was also a powerful lens.

Standing on the Paris street, a cacophony of voices rang in my ears, some encouraging, others grating. My research findings had been described as ground breaking but also, at the height of the 2000 Gore vs. Bush campaign, as providing the ground for a “war against boys” (on the assumption that my conclusions would lead to resources being diverted away from boys and toward girls). I found that my responses did little to dispel such attacks.

I had met Sandra Laugier and Patricia Papperman, the moral philosopher and the sociologist who organized the seminar, in a café across from the Luxembourg Gardens. We had talked about care ethics and care work, the subjects of their research. They did not shy away from the politics of gender or the word “feminist.” As Sandra had written, “theories of care, like many radical feminist theories, suffer from misrecognition … because contrary to general ‘gender’ approaches, a veritable ethics of care cannot exist without social transformation.”

And perhaps it was finding this resonance for my deepest intention, coupled with the joy of being in Paris, that spurred my desire to re-enter a conversation that had become mired in the “justice vs. care debate.” A fleeting wish that my new French colleagues would now speak on my behalf gave way to what in that moment on the street in Paris felt like a revelation: who better than I to speak to the misunderstandings and mistranslations of my work. I returned to the flat with fresh energy and a clear intention: I would address the misconceptions and give voice to my present concerns about the need for an ethic of care, the situation of women and men, and a potential for social transformation that lay in our midst.

The writing I began in Paris continued over the ensuing year. Circling back over the past, I came to my current take on the major themes of my work. Certain themes and topics recur as I approach them from different angles or see them in a new light as part of a larger pattern. For example, I will return repeatedly to the research with girls because that was the opening—the way into a mystery in the lives of not only girls and women but also boys and men. The voices of girls had struck a resonant chord, the changes observed could readily be seen, but the implications deepened when subsequent research revealed similar patterns in boys’ development, and findings in evolutionary anthropology and neurobiology also challenged longstanding assumptions about human nature. What had seemed an aberration or particular to girls now appeared as a manifestation of a more general resistance to losing the grounds of our humanity.

My title, Joining the Resistance, comes from the Tanner Lecture on Human Values that I gave at the University of Michigan in 1990. There, for the first time, I spoke publicly about the psychology and politics of resistance. I have expanded the lecture and given it a new title, including it here (Chapter 4) to recall the voices of the girls and women who first led me to see that the requisites for love and for citizenship in a democratic society are one and the same. Both voice and the desire to live in relationships inhere in our human nature, along with the capacity to resist false authority.

The optimism I took from my summer at Vassar about the possibility of having an effect (even against considerable odds) and the insight that a veritable ethics of care “cannot exist without social transformation” came together in the recognition that the seeds for such transformation lie within ourselves.

1Looking Back to Look Forward: Revisiting In a Different Voice

In the course of editing In a Different Voice, in the days before computers, Harvard University Press sent out the manuscript to be re-typed. Some weeks later, I went to pick it up. The typist, a young woman, lived in a brown, three-decker house in a working-class neighborhood of Somerville. I waited while she retrieved the manuscript, which she was so taken with, she explained, that she had given it to her cousin to read. Standing on the porch, I registered my delight in the realization that the appeal of my book was wider than I had imagined.

Some months after the book was published, the sales rep from the Press took me to lunch. As we waited for coffee, he asked the question that was clearly on his mind: Why is this book selling? I thought of the typist and her cousin who lived upstairs. People whose voices were dismissed felt heard.

Looking back now, it is perhaps easier to see that my title, In a Different Voice, calls for a new way of speaking, a change in the very terms of the conversation about ourselves and morality, women and men—about the human condition. In the old conversation, our ears were accustomed to hearing “He was an interesting talker; a man who had traveled all over the world and lived in half a dozen countries,” and “Well, Susan, this is a fine mess you are in.” I had borrowed these sentences from Strunk and White’s The Elements of Style (where they demonstrate the correct use of semi-colons and commas) to illustrate a point of view so widely assumed that for a long time we did not notice it. Once seen, the point of view shifted. In the newly illustrated 2008, fiftieth anniversary edition of The Elements of Style, the interesting talker has become “she” and Susan is pictured as a basset hound.

At the time I wrote In a Different Voice, I was aware of a problem in psychology that was in part a problem of method (the selection of boys and men only for studies of human development) and partly a problem of theory (a point of view from which men’s lives appeared interesting and women’s more or less of a mess). Clearly there was a problem, but in some ways the most interesting thing—at least to a psychologist’s eye—was that it had not been seen. Since I was among those who hadn’t seen it, despite the fact that I was teaching psychology, I asked: How could this have happened? In one sense, I was discovering the obvious.

Gender proved the tell-tale clue, not by locating the problem in women or men, but by pointing to where all this was coming from. A colleague in anthropology used to say that culture appears in the unspoken. Culture is the way of seeing and speaking that is so much a part of everyday living that it never has to be articulated. Fish don’t know they are swimming in water, until they are a fish out of water. It is when culture shifts that we recognize the ocean in which we have been drenched. What we had taken as natural or taken for granted becomes instead one way of seeing and speaking. By the 1970s, I along with many others had come to John Berger’s realization: “Never again will a single story be taken as though it’s the only one.”

In the changing culture of that time, in my early days of teaching, I heard myself respond to a woman’s question by saying, “That’s a great question, but it’s not what we’re talking about here.” And then found myself wondering, who is this “we” and what are we talking about? Reasonable questions at any time, but at the height of the women’s movement, I realized that I had aligned myself with a cultural standpoint from which women’s questions, however great, were for the most part beside the point. Writing In a Different Voice, I broke this alignment, divorcing myself from ways of speaking that portrayed men as humans and women as different. Recognizing the extent to which I had been swimming along as if it made sense to title a book The Psychological World of the Teenager: A Study of Normal Adolescent Boys, as Daniel and Judith Offer had done, or to move seamlessly from The Seasons of a Man’s Life to Stages of Adult Development, as Daniel Levinson had done, again in collaboration with his wife, I realized that neither men nor women were noticing the omission of girls and women, or seeing it as a problem. Psychologists had assumed a culture in which men were the measure of humanity, and autonomy and rationality (“masculine” qualities) were the markers of maturity. It was a culture that counted on women not speaking for themselves.

And here morality came into play. Not in the usual sense of establishing right and wrong, good and bad, but by enforcing women’s silence in the name of goodness. The good woman cared for others: she listened to their voices and responded to their needs and concerns. In itself, a good thing to do. But this ethic of feminine goodness was holding in place so-called normal, everyday conversations in which men spoke as if the omission of women was irrelevant or inconsequential and women overlooked or excused the omission of themselves.

Once it is clear that the different voice with its ethic of care resists these divisions, it becomes easier to grasp the reasons for common misunderstandings and mistranslations of my work, to recognize how parts of my original text contributed to these misunderstandings, and also to see how these misinterpretations reflect an assimilation of my work to the very gender norms and values I was contesting. And seeing this focuses the questions I want to raise in revisiting my 1982 book. Given the value of care and caring and the costs of carelessness, why is an ethic of care still embattled? What is the justice vs. care debate about? And what is the relationship of all this to women? Why are women’s voices still in the forefront in bringing these matters to our attention?

If anything, an ethic of care is more pressing now than at the time I first wrote about it, almost thirty years ago, and questions of gender are in some respects more difficult to raise and discuss. We live in a world increasingly alert to the reality of interdependence and the costs of isolation; we know that autonomy is an illusion—that people’s lives are interconnected. In 1963, the Reverend Martin Luther King Jr. had observed: “We are caught in an inescapable network of mutuality, tied in a single garment of destiny. What affects one directly affects all indirectly.” We understand more about trauma, its neurological as well as its psychological effects. In his first address to Congress, President Obama spoke about carelessness—its effects on health, education, the economy, the planet—and the need to replace an ethos of individual gain with an ethic of care and collective responsibility. But during the 2008 presidential campaign, where racist comments were not tolerated, it was still okay for media pundits to say that they instinctively crossed their legs at the mention of Hillary Clinton’s name, or to refer to her as a “hellish housewife,” witchy, bitchy, a “she-devil.” As one Fox News commentator put it, “When Hillary Clinton speaks, men hear ‘take out the garbage’.” Obama’s call to understand and then transcend longstanding and embittered conversations about race was not met with a similar call for a new conversation about gender. Why?

Indeed, why is the ethic of care still embattled? What is the academic debate over care vs. justice about? And what is its association with women and more generally with people’s lives? I cannot go further in talking about gender—a word I associated with Latin vocabulary—without speaking about its relation to patriarchy, an order of living based upon gender: where being a man means not being a woman and also being on top. The gender binary and hierarchy are the DNA of patriarchy—the building blocks of a patriarchal order. The word “patriarchy” means a hierarchy or rule of priests in which the hieros, the priest, is a pater, a father. In a patriarchal family or religion or culture, power and authority descend from a father or fathers, and human qualities designated masculine are privileged over those gendered feminine. By elevating some men over others (separating the men from the boys) and all men over women, patriarchy is an order of domination. But in separating fathers from mothers and daughters and sons, and bifurcating human qualities into masculine and feminine, patriarchy also creates rifts in the psyche, dividing everyone from parts of themselves.

In the gendered universe of patriarchy, care is a feminine ethic