Making a Godly Marriage E-Book

Olugbenga Ojo

• Herausgeber: tredition
• Kategorie: Ratgeber
• Sprache: Englisch

Seitenzahl: 105

Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2025

Beschreibung

Marriage is more than a union between two people—it is a sacred covenant designed by God to reflect His love, unity, and purpose. Yet many couples struggle because they lack the divine foundation needed to build a lasting relationship. In The Making of Godly Marriage, Olugbenga Ojo unveils timeless biblical principles and practical wisdom that guide couples and singles alike toward a marriage rooted in faith, love, and purpose. Whether you are preparing for marriage, newly married, or seeking to strengthen your relationship, this book provides clear direction for aligning your union with God’s plan. You will discover: The divine blueprint for a godly marriage How to cultivate love, respect, and understanding between partners The role of prayer, faith, and forgiveness in sustaining your home Practical steps to overcome challenges and build intimacy Insights on raising a family that honors God With a heart for restoration and truth, Olugbenga Ojo delivers a message that will inspire, equip, and transform your approach to marriage. The Making of Godly Marriage is not just a guide—it is a call to embrace God’s vision for your home and to experience the joy, peace, and fulfillment of a truly godly union. If you desire a marriage that thrives on love and endures through faith, this book is your roadmap.

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OLUGBENGA OJO

The Making of a Godly Marriage

Laying the Foundation for a Christ-Centered and Victorious Relationship

Copyright © 2025 by OLUGBENGA OJO

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This book is dedicated first to our Father in Heaven, who has carried us through every season of our marriage with grace, strength, and unending love.

To our children, who are the fruit of our covenant and the legacy we hope to leave — may your future marriages be even more glorious than ours.

“Except the Lord build the house, they labour in vain that build it…”

— Psalm 127:1a (KJV)

This book stands as a testimony that unless Christ is the foundation, every effort will crumble. But when He is the builder, the marriage will not only stand — it will flourish.

To every reader: build on the Rock. Love sacrificially. Forgive endlessly. Pray fervently. Endure faithfully.

And never forget — God is deeply invested in your marriage.

Contents

Foreword

Preface

Acknowledgments

Introduction

I. PART ONE

Chapter 1

Chapter 2

Chapter 3

Chapter 4

Chapter 5

Chapter 6

II. PART TWO

Chapter 7

Chapter 8

Chapter 9

Chapter 10

Chapter 11

Chapter 12

III. PART THREE

Chapter 13

Chapter 14

Chapter 15

Chapter 16

Chapter 17

Chapter 18

Conclusion

Afterword

Foreword

In an age where the sacred institution of marriage is under attack and its meaning increasingly misunderstood, there comes a need for voices rooted in truth, wisdom, and divine revelation. The Making of a Godly Marriage is one such voice — bold, biblical, and deeply needed in our time.

I have had the privilege of knowing the author, Olugbenga and his wife Precious, not just as writer, but as living testimonies of the very truths they share in this book. Their journey has not been without its trials, but what makes their message so powerful is that they have walked the path themselves — through prayer, patience, spiritual warfare, and unwavering faith.

This book is not just another marriage manual. It is a spiritual blueprint for couples who want more than survival — they want victory. It is a weapon in the hands of those who desire a marriage built on the Rock, not on emotion or convenience.

Whether you are single and waiting, newly married, or navigating the deep waters of long-term commitment, you will find within these pages divine principles, practicalwisdom, and prophetic insight that will guide you toward a thriving, enduring, and God-glorifying union.

I urge you: do not read this book casually. Read it prayerfully. Let it confront your assumptions, challenge your character, and call you higher. For those willing to apply what is written, The Making of a Godly Marriage will not just inform — it will transform.

Preface

This book was born out of personal experience, deep reflection, and the desire to see Christian homes reflect the glory of God. We did not write The Making of a Godly Marriage as perfect people, but as people perfected in process. It was in the fire of our own challenges that God began to reveal the principles we now share with you.

From courtship to commitment, from prayer to purpose, from trials to triumph — our journey has taught us that marriage is not built by emotions, but by covenant. We have seen firsthand how obeying God’s principles can transform conflict into harmony, stagnation into growth, and disappointment into destiny.

This book is a spiritual companion for all who desire to walk in marital success as God defines it. We pray that every chapter will speak directly to your season, your questions, and your heart. As you read, may the Holy Spirit illuminate your understanding and lead you into a deeper relationship with your spouse — and with Christ.

To God alone be all the glory.

— Olugbenga and Precious Ojo

Acknowledgments

We are deeply grateful to our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ, who is the Author of love, the Builder of homes, and the Restorer of broken hearts. Without His mercy, guidance, and instruction, this book would never have been written.

To our spiritual mentors and pastors, thank you for your teachings, prayers, and unwavering example of godly leadership in marriage. Your influence shaped not only our union but our understanding of covenant living.

To our church family and friends who encouraged us to share our story and our lessons — your support and feedback fueled this journey.

To every couple whose testimony inspired us, to every single person whose questions challenged us, and to every marriage counselor whose wisdom we borrowed — we honor you.

Finally, to all our readers: thank you for allowing us into your hearts and homes. May your marriages reflect the beauty of Christ and His church.

Introduction

Unless the Lord builds the house, the builders labor in vain.” – Psalm 127:1 (NIV)

I remember the day vividly. A young man I knew stood at the altar, his eyes full of excitement, his heart pounding with anticipation. His bride stood across from him, glowing in her white dress, the picture of joy. The congregation sang hymns of celebration, and the officiating pastor declared them husband and wife. Everyone clapped. The reception was lively. Photos were taken. Prayers were offered.

But three years later, that same man sat before me, broken. His voice trembled as he spoke.

“Sir, I don’t know what went wrong. We did everything right. We were both born again. We went through premarital counseling. We fasted and prayed. But now, we can barely talk to each other without fighting. I feel like I married a stranger.”

He wiped his eyes, then whispered, “I thought love would be enough.”

This story is not uncommon. In fact, it reflects the silent reality of many marriages today — marriages that started with hope, but are now held together by habit. Some are crumbling under pressure. Others are surviving but not thriving. The truth is: being a Christian alone is not enough to guarantee a godly marriage. It takes intentionality, understanding, spiritual maturity, and obedience to God’s design.

The Making of a Godly Marriage was born from personal experiences, pastoral encounters, and a burning desire to seeChristian marriages reflect the glory of God. My wife and I did not arrive at marital peace without facing our own battles. We’ve had moments of joy, and seasons of testing. We’ve cried in prayer, fought in faith, and grown through godly counsel.

But we learned something vital: marriage is not something you simply fall into — it is something you build. Just as a house requires a blueprint, a solid foundation, and the right materials, so does a marriage. And God, the Architect of the universe, has not left us without a design.

This book is for:

Singles preparing to marry and seeking God’s will.Engaged couples looking to lay a solid foundation.Married couples facing conflict, confusion, or spiritual attack.Anyone longing to understand God’s heart for marriage and how to walk in covenant victory.

We live in a world where the institution of marriage is under intense spiritual and cultural attack. The devil, who knows the power of unity, continually seeks to divide homes. He doesn’t need to destroy society — he only needs to destroy the family, because the family is the backbone of society.

Sadly, even in the church, we see:

Couples united at the altar but divided in purpose.Spouses struggling to forgive, serve, or even communicate.Homes void of prayer, vision, and intimacy.Singles being pressured into marriage without preparation.Wounds from past relationships contaminating current unions.

These realities are why this book goes beyond romantic clichés or cultural advice. It is rooted in biblical truth, tested wisdom, and spiritual clarity.

Every chapter of this book is designed to equip, edify, and empower you. You’ll find:

Scriptural foundations that explain what God intended for marriage.Spiritual strategies for navigating trials, temptations, and delays.Practical wisdom for finances, sex, communication, and parenting.Warning signs and red flags for singles and courting couples.Prophetic insights and prayer points for deliverance and direction.Personal stories and real-life applications to keep the content relatable.

Whether you are waiting to meet the right partner, preparing for marriage, or seeking to revive your home, this book will meet you where you are and help move you toward where God wants you to be.

No house builds itself. It must be drawn, measured, cut, lifted, nailed, and reinforced. The same applies to marriage. God will not build your home without you, and you cannot build your home without Him.

Jesus said, “Everyone who hears these words of Mine and does them is like a wise man who built his house upon the rock.” (Matthew 7:24). That is the goal of this book: to help you build your marriage on the Rock — Jesus Christ.

Let this not be just another book you read. Let it be a manual you follow, a mirror you examine yourself with, and a map that leads you into God’s divine plan for your relationship.

Take a moment to pray.

Ask the Holy Spirit to open your heart. Invite Him to heal any brokenness, confront any pride, and plant seeds of lasting transformation in your soul. Ask Him to restore what may have been lost and reveal what needs to be renewed.

Marriage is not a destination — it is a journey. And this book is your spiritual compass.

Now, let’s begin the journey toward the making of a Godly marriage.

— Olugbenga Ojo

I

Part One

Preparing for the Promise

Chapter 1

Understanding God’s Original Blueprint

Scriptures: Genesis 2:18–25, Ephesians 5:31–32

Every wise builder begins with a blueprint. Before a single brick is laid, the architect maps out every detail—the shape, the structure, the foundation, and even the weight it must carry. If we understand this principle in architecture, how much more should we apply it to marriage, one of the most sacred and complex institutions ever designed?

Marriage is not a human invention; it is God’s idea, established in Eden before sin entered the world. He designed it, defined it, and blessed it. And anything we try to build outside of His design is doomed to falter.

The Purpose of Marriage in God’s Eyes

Let’s go back to the very beginning—the Garden of Eden—where we find God’s original blueprint for marriage clearly laid out.

Genesis 2:18–25 (paraphrased summary):

God saw that it was not good for man to be alone.He created a helper suitable for him.God brought the woman to the man.Adam recognized her as “bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh.”The two were joined together and became one flesh.They were naked and not ashamed—signifying transparency, vulnerability, and intimacy.

1. Marriage Is God’s Response to Human Incompleteness

“It is not good for man to be alone.” — Genesis 2:18

God Himself declared that man’s solitude was not ideal. Adam had purpose. He had responsibility. But something was still missing — companionship. God didn’t give Adam a servant, a clone, or another man. He gave him a woman, fashioned from his rib — not from his head to rule over him, nor his feet to be trampled, but from his side, close to his heart.

This shows us that marriage is God’s gift to fulfill human need, emotionally, spiritually, physically, and purposefully. It’s not about completing each other like puzzle pieces, but partnering together in God’s mission.

2. Marriage Reflects the Image of God

“Let us make man in our image, after our likeness… male and female He created them.” — Genesis 1:26–27

The full image of God is not expressed in the male alone or in the female alone. It is seen in their union