Raise Your Game E-Book

Peter J. A. Shaw

• Herausgeber: John Wiley & Sons
• Kategorie: Fachliteratur
• Sprache: Englisch

Seitenzahl: 214

Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2009

Beschreibung

The pressure's on... * You've just won a big promotion and your new boss has high expectations. * You have an important meeting and want to make a constructive impact. * You're thinking of restructuring the team and need to show clear leadership. * You know you're capable of so much more and need to grasp the opportunity. Meanwhile, you're drowning in a sea of unanswered email and voicemail... How can you raise your game and achieve your full potential? Peter Shaw, professional coach and author, shows how combining self-belief with practical action creates the basis for powerful change, helping you step up to the next level. Learn how to identify your strengths, take bold but calculated risks, build your network of supporters, convert your critics, live your values and find fulfilment and joy.

Leseprobe

Table of Contents

Title Page

Copyright Page

Dedication

Acknowledgements

Foreword

Introduction

The issue for you

Being and Doing

Next Steps

Section A - Take Stock

Chapter 1 - Develop Your Strengths

Why are strengths important?

Recognise your strengths

Grow your strengths

Look after your strengths

Chapter 2 - Understand Your Least Strong Areas

Why is it important to understand your least strong areas?

Develop your least strong areas

We all have feet of clay

Is this about least strong areas or preferences?

Recognise your least strong areas

Seek to grow in your least strong areas

Chapter 3 - Embed Your Values

Why is embedding values important?

Recognise your values

Live your values

Bring self-awareness about your values

Know your values

Look after your values

Chapter 4 - Create an Equilibrium

Why is creating an equilibrium important?

Recognise what holds you in equilibrium

Retain your perspective

Clarify the right equilibrium in different roles

Look after your equilibrium

Know your rhythms

Section B - First Steps

Chapter 5 - Address Your Self-Doubt and Your Fears

Why is understanding self-doubt and your fears important?

Living with self-doubt

Recognise your fears

Understanding your fears better

Moving on from self-doubt or fears

Keeping clarity about your self-doubt and your fears

Chapter 6 - Believe You Can Do Difficult Things

Why is believing you can do difficult things important?

Collect the evidence

Wear the badge

Tackle difficult things with confidence

Chapter 7 - Know Who Your Supporters and Stakeholders Are

Why is it important to know who your supporters are?

Build an effective relationship with your boss

Building effective relationships with key colleagues

Building supporters among your staff

Building a network

Communicate effectively with your supporters and stakeholders

Chapter 8 - Take Some Risks

Why is it important to take some risks?

What sort of risks are you prepared to take?

How do you respond to risks?

What happens when you avoid taking risks?

Section C - Up the Pace

Chapter 9 - Stretch Your Muscles

Why is it important to stretch your muscles?

How far have you come?

What does stretching your muscles mean?

Where might you stretch your muscles?

Chapter 10 - Influence Others and Convert Your Critics

Why is influencing others and converting your critics important?

Develop your influencing skills

Build new partnerships

Building support from colleagues for a decision you want to make

Engaging critics

Chapter 11 - Understand How You Respond to Problems

Why is it important to understand how you respond to problems?

Increase your self-awareness

Recognise how you cope with conflict best

Negotiate effectively

Holding firm when courage fails you

Chapter 12 - Warm Down Thoroughly

Why is warming down thoroughly important?

Know how to look after yourself

Grow your vitality

Manage your time effectively

Coping effectively with stress

Section D - Grow the Momentum

Chapter 13 - Keep Your Focus

Why is keeping your focus important?

What sort of focus are you looking for?

Ensure effective action

Take hard decisions

Ensuring an effective focus for communication

Chapter 14 - Grow Your Resilience

Why is growing your resilience so important?

Build resilience

Recover from mistakes

Building resilience for the future

Chapter 15 - Build Your Team

Why is focusing on building your team important?

Getting the best out of your staff

Bringing a healing touch

Chapter 16 - Renew Your Freshness

Why is renewing your freshness important?

Staying open-minded

Enhancing the skill of forgetting

Coping with disappointment

Keep nurturing your successors

Section E - Where Next?

Chapter 17 - Keep an Open Mind

Why is keeping an open mind important?

Know when to step back

How good are you at stepping back?

Be honest about your options

What are the breakpoints?

Be ready to be surprised

Chapter 18 - Recognise When the Tide Turns

Why is it important to recognise when the tide turns?

Go with the flow

Stand up to the waves

Avoid drowning

Recognise the ebbs and flows

Come up for air

Move to a different bay

Is the tide turning a good thing or a bad thing?

Chapter 19 - Know What Matters to You

Why is it important to know what matters most to you?

Where does ambition fit in?

How important is recognition?

Where does financial security fit in?

Embracing the freedom to choose

Chapter 20 - Renew Your Vision

Why is renewing your vision important?

Observing others renewing their vision

When is reinventing yourself important?

What about when you start a new job?

Renewing your vision partway through a role

Enabling others to renew their vision

Section F - To What End?

Chapter 21 - What Is Fulfilment for You?

Why is it important to be clear on what fulfilment means for you?

Recognising what you are driven by

What does making a difference mean?

What is your life purpose?

Where does faith or belief fit in?

Chapter 22 - How Do You Want to Be Remembered?

Why is it important to reflect on how you want to be remembered?

What do you want to be remembered for?

What is your legacy as you move on from a particular job?

Getting it all into perspective

Chapter 23 - What About Family and Friends?

Why is it important to focus on family and friends?

Where does love fit in?

Do you love yourself enough?

Chapter 24 - Where Does Joy Fit In?

Why is it important to know what gives you joy?

What is joy?

Where does the sense of fun fit in?

Can you create a sense of joy in your team?

Conclusion: Next Steps

Selected Bibliography

About the Author

Other books by Peter Shaw

Index

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Dedicated to our daughter Ruth, who through her encouragement and practical wisdom enables others to build effectively on their strengths, to grow in confidence and to take on bigger challenges than they had ever thought possible.

Acknowledgements

One of the greatest joys of coaching work is seeing people raise their game and step up to take on bigger and more demanding roles successfully. All the people I work with have influenced my thinking. I am grateful to them for giving me the privilege of spending time working with them and giving me the joy of seeing them grow and develop.

I have talked to many people about ideas in the book. Those who have had a particular influence include Paul West, Brian Leveson, Julie Taylor, Louise Tulett, John Suffolk, Mel Zuydam, Kevin White, Una O’Brien, Tom McLaughlan, Andrew Hudson, Tony Dean, Finlay Scott, Archie Hughes, Judith Macgregor, Melanie Dawes, Anna Walker, June Milligan, Gordon MacDonald, Hazel Mackenzie, Jane Frost, Martin Oakley, Martin Sinclair, Adele Townsend, Jeremy Oates, Sarah Walker, Oliver Rowe, Chetan Patel, Fiona Spencer, Sunil Patel, John Pritchard, Dominic Jermey, Penny Ciniewicz, Jonathan Slater, Paula Higson, Lesley Strathie, Hugh Taylor and Igor Judge. I take full responsibility for the views in the book but the perspectives of those above have been especially influential.

I am grateful to a number of people who read the manuscript and gave me clear comments. The observations of Mairi Eastwood, Heather Dawson, Zoe Stear and Hilary Douglas have been invaluable in ensuring the text is clear and structured.

I am grateful to Suma Chakrabarti for contributing the foreword to this book. I have always found Suma a constructive and thoughtful leader who has stepped up through a sequence of demanding jobs to become one of the most influential Permanent Secretaries in government. I have always been grateful for Suma’s encouragement both when in government and now in coaching and writing.

I am grateful to John Wiley for their practical support. Sarah Sutton commissioned the book, Emma Swaisland has taken it forward to publication and Jenny Ng has looked after the detailed arrangements for publication.

My Executive Assistant, Claire Pratt, has managed the diary with considerable foresight to ensure that I have been able to slot in conversations with a wide range of people in preparing the book. Jackie Tookey and Tracy Easthope have typed the manuscript, slotting it into their other work. They have always been cheerful and helpful.

I am grateful to my colleagues at Praesta Partners who always bring practical advice and a level-headed approach. We learn a great deal from each other because of our diverse backgrounds and different approaches.

My family are an important source of encouragement in the writing. It has been such a joy for Frances and me to see our children step up to take on a wide range of different responsibilities in their chosen spheres. This book is dedicated to our daughter, Ruth, who is always perceptive and wise. Her generosity and kindness have been an encouragement to many friends and colleagues as they have been raising their game to cope with new and demanding situations.

Finally, raising your game is not just about your own efforts. It flows from the encouragement, support and stretch of others. Those who have particularly helped me raise my game in my second career of coaching and writing have been Mairi Eastwood, Robin Linnecar, Liz Walmsley, Paul Gray, Hilary Douglas and Claire Pratt. To them, and all the people I work with, I say a big thank you.

Foreword

When I observe an individual growing success fully into a larger role I am delighted. Seeing an individual fully realise their potential is one of the biggest satisfactions of leadership. Why do some people raise their game successfully while others appear to struggle?

Peter Shaw has written a definitive guide to raising your game and achieving your full potential. He suggests that progress results from a blend of belief that comes from inner confidence and clarity of values, alongside practical action that is realistic, determined and planned. He talks persuasively of the balance between being and doing. Being is about thinking yourself fully into the role and doing is the practical behaviour and action that underpins success.

The book draws on a wealth of examples from individuals in different sectors. Peter’s approach is as relevant to a junior manager as a chief executive. The sequence of short, focused chapters conclude with suggested practical actions that are always rooted in reality and ambitious. One of the distinctive contributions of the book is the list of questions that readers are invited to ask themselves under each theme: a few minutes’ reflection on the questions in each chapter will always be worthwhile.

Peter draws on a wealth of experience as a director general in government and as an executive coach and facilitator. He brings both clarity and humanity into his coaching and his writing. Peter and I first met 15 years ago and our paths have crossed many times since. He has always been a source of encouragement to me. I know from those he coaches that his supportive and yet stretching approach is greatly appreciated. Many speak warmly of his coaching and as a result have raised their game in ways beyond their expectations.

Raise Your Game is the latest in a sequence of books by Peter that encapsulates the approach he uses in coaching in such a way that a wider audience can benefit. I commend this book wholeheartedly and I am sure that many will raise their game effectively as a result of putting ideas from the book into practice.

Suma Chakrabarti, Permanent Secretary, Ministry of Justice

Introduction

We live in an ever more demanding world. The speed of change is relentless. Global economics and new technology mean that decisions are taken ever more quickly. Success and failure are close companions. Shocks and surprises come in many different shapes and sizes. Long-term values and expectations are continually being questioned.

Today, the environment for everyone in every sector is tougher and more challenging than it has been for many years. We sort out one challenge and then there is another one to address. How can we be at our best in challenging times? When it is really tough over an extended period, what will keep us going so that we can make good decisions, give our best and be creative at work, and make a contribution to other spheres of life that are important to us?

How can you best raise your game and achieve your full potential when the pace of change is fast and the demands on you are considerable? Personal growth and survival depend on how you handle relentless challenge. You can feel at the mercy of external pressures. It can seem like three steps forward and two steps back. How do you raise your game when you feel frustrated, buffeted, ignored and weary?

The pace of change creates opportunities as well as frustrations.

Those who are able to raise their game can become influential beyond their expectations. Those who can rise above turbulence and provide focused, measured and calm leadership can create a new sense of direction and renewed energy.

Success comes from taking control of what you can control while accepting what you cannot control. It is recognising when you do have a choice, even if it is only the choice of what you think about an issue. Success flows from keeping a positive frame of mind and not wallowing in misfortune.

The issue for you

So how can you ensure that you step up and raise your game effectively? How can you build on your strengths and ensure that you can get a grip on your responsibilities quickly and smoothly? Sometimes you feel daunted and there is an element of self-doubt. What are the next steps you need to take? How do you up the pace and keep a life?

Maybe you are about to start a new job, which you are looking forward to. Maybe your job is going faster and faster and you have to run to keep up. What will make the crucial difference to your skills, your behaviour and your attitudes to help ensure that you will step up successfully and enjoy those further responsibilities?

This book will enable you to become more confident so that you learn and thrive as well as enjoy what you do. It provides a practical tool kit for raising your game and stepping up successfully. Do you resonate with the experiences of Miranda, Mary or John?

The Newly Promoted

Miranda was a confident and successful manager. She had grown in self-assurance during three years in her role and had been seeking promotion. Following a successful promotion board, she felt both excitement and apprehension. She was thrilled to have been promoted and knew that she would be able to do the job well. But there was a touch of apprehension, which she saw as positive as it would keep her alert to the expectations of those around her. Miranda knew she would need to step up and was keen to ensure that she found the best way of doing so successfully.

The Confidence Factor

Mary knows she has a great deal to offer. She has a good degree, excellent professional qualifications, a mentor who believes in her and a track record of success, but there is a continual sense of frustration. In meetings her confidence seems to evaporate. She experiences a touch of self-doubt and she becomes hesitant. Her strength of conviction is dissipated and the resolve she had when she entered the meeting seems to disappear out of the window. How can she raise her game so that she makes the impact she knows she is capable of?

The Overlooked Potential

John feels that his life is a continual struggle. He works hard but he seems to get nowhere. One day he is praised and another day he is ignored. John doesn’t seem to be able to make the impact he wants. He yearns to know how to step up successfully so that he can turn his ideas into successful business outcomes. He wants to raise his game, but he doesn’t always know how best to do so. He is aware that if he doesn’t do something soon to make a difference, he may well be overlooked for promotion or, worse still, forced out.

Being and Doing

I suggest that the way forward is a powerful blend of two key concepts:

• Self-belief that comes from a combination of inner confidence and clarity of values; alongside

• Practical action that is realistic, determined and planned.

At the heart of this book is the balance between being and doing. Being is about becoming comfortable in your skin whatever role you are in. Doing is about the practical behaviours and steps that underpin success.

Being is thinking yourself into the role so that you fill the space of the leader or manager you want to be in a confident and effective way. Doing is about techniques that enable you to do this effectively.

Being is about:

• Embedding your values

• Knowing your strengths

• Believing you can step up

• Being confident in yourself and your role

• Keeping an open mind

• Being clear what matters to you

• Knowing what difference you want to make

• Knowing what will give you joy

Doing includes:

• Developing your strengths

• Understanding your least strong areas and knowing how best to live with them

• Creating an equilibrium in the way you work that is successful for you

• Building your network of supporters and stakeholders

• Growing your resilience

• Knowing how to use your time well

• Being practical in using your energy in a focused way

Both the being and doing dimensions are crucial to success. The interplay between them is also vital.

In addition, this book considers six phases that occur as you raise your game:

• Take stock, which looks at developing your strengths, understanding your least strong areas embedding your values, and creating your equilibrium.

• First steps, which involves addressing your fears, believing you can do difficult things, knowing who your supporters and stakeholders are and the learning that comes from taking some risks.

• Up the pace, which embraces stretching your muscles, growing your supporters and converting your critics, understanding how you respond to problems and warming down thoroughly.

• Grow the momentum, which includes keeping your focus, growing your resilience, building your team and renewing your freshness.

• Where next, which embraces keeping an open mind, recognising when the tide turns, knowing what matters to you and renewing your vision.

• To what end, which covers the difference you want to make, how you want to be remembered, the relevance of family and friends and where joy fits in.

The combined effect of taking forward the being and doing dimensions is to create the prospect of a sequence of step changes that mean you will raise your game and achieve your full potential. What is so important is embedding your learning and thinking it through with colleagues, a mentor or a coach.

Next Steps

The book draws from the practical experiences of individuals in a variety of different spheres, embracing the private, public and voluntary sectors. The common advice from all of them is:

• Be active in identifying and building on your strengths.

• Know what your values are and test your actions against those values.

• Be willing to take risks and be bold and adventurous in your approach while being rooted in practical realism.

• Set your sights high while recognising that the journey will be one step at a time.

• Recognise the choices you have.

• Build a network of supporters who will give you encouragement and constructive challenges.

• Be self-aware enough to know when you are being driven in a way that is more likely to take you to ‘death rather than glory’.

Paul West, the Chief Constable of West Mercia Police, summarises what he observes in people who step up successfully as:

They can understand strategy and are able to simplify it and make it relevant for their staff. They are capable of taking a corporate view and avoid ‘silo’ working. They are willing to delegate but do not abdicate responsibility. They are skilled in networking and managing relationships. They are good at coaching and developing others and are open-minded to things being done differently. In terms of their own performance, they are receptive to constructive criticism, advice and feedback.’

As you articulate your thoughts and actions they become embedded.

You can read this book from start to finish or by looking at specific sections that relate to your needs and circumstances. I strongly encourage you to use the book as a basis for discussion with a friend, a colleague, a mentor, a coach or within your team. Even if the best way of learning for you is to reflect on something inside yourself, it is as you speak your thoughts and actions to someone else that you embed them and commit yourself to take them forward. Do enjoy this book as you raise your game and step up to take on new and different challenges successfully.

Peter Shaw Godalming, January 2009

Section A

Take Stock

This section is about taking stock. You need to start by being honest with yourself:

• Develop your strengths

• Understand your least strong areas

• Embed your values

• Create an equilibrium

As you read through each chapter, do reflect on where you are in relation to each of these themes and what might be the next steps for you. You may need to identify the strengths you want to build on further; understand your least strong areas more fully, which allows you to decide how you want to address them; crystallise your values, which can give you greater confidence in difficult situations; or be clearer about what equilibrium works best for you to enable you to use your time and energy to best effect.

Chapter 1

Develop Your Strengths

Knowing your strengths provides a sound basis for building for the future. They are the best basis on which you can build. You need to recognise your strengths, grow your strengths, observe your strengths and look after your strengths. Strengths need nurturing and cannot just be taken for granted. Strengths are not just what we perceive about ourselves but are what others perceive about the particular qualities we bring.

Why are strengths important?

There is a danger that you are not accurately aware of your strengths and talents. Often, as people grow, they become experts in describing their own weaknesses and spend time trying to address these faults rather than building on their strengths. As a result, some of their strengths can lay hidden and ignored, with the consequence that they are undeveloped and dissipate over time.

When you are fully aware of your strengths and confident in them, you are able to do things that you might have been much more hesitant about in the past. As you use your strengths you become ever more confident in their value and application.

Recognise your strengths

A good starting point is to articulate what you think your strengths are. You can supplement this by honestly summarising what you think other key people, such as your family, colleagues and boss, would regard as your strengths.

I recently asked one leader what he thought his strengths were. He said:

• Good awareness of the environment around him

• Good at building on different strengths in others

• Good at problem solving

• An empathy for the emotional reactions of other people

• Good technical and professional skills

• A good ambassador for the organisation

He said that his family would regard his strengths as:

• Putting them first

• Having a strong family commitment

• Showing financial prudence

He thought that the people who worked for him would describe his strengths as:

• Accessibility

• Decisiveness

• Clarity of what he wanted from them

• Setting high standards

• Giving people confidence

• Being somebody whom others could talk to in confidence

He thought that his boss would describe his strengths as:

• The ability to carry a heavy load

• Effective problem solving ability

• Providing a safe pair of hands

• Being a good representative and a dependable professional

Looking at your strengths through different perspectives allows you to begin to see yourself as others see you