Seasons of Waiting E-Book

Betsy Childs Howard

• Herausgeber: Crossway
• Kategorie: Religion und Spiritualität
• Sprache: Englisch

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Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2016

Beschreibung

We're all waiting for something. For some of us, it's a spouse. For others, it's children. For still others, it's physical healing. Unfortunately, when things don't go as planned and we end up having to wait, it's often hard to trust God's timing. But while there will always be delays and disappointments in this life, there is still hope; God has a purpose and a plan for every season of our lives, even when it feels like he just keeps saying no. In Seasons of Waiting, Betsy Childs Howard points us to examples of waiting from Scripture that teach us to understand our waiting as a parable of God's unfolding kingdom. In the process, she shows us how the gospel informs our response to unmet longings and delayed dreams—directing our attention to the day when Christ will return and all our waiting will be over.

Leseprobe

Seasons of Waiting

Walking by Faith When Dreams Are Delayed

Betsy Childs Howard

Seasons of Waiting: Walking by Faith When Dreams Are Delayed

Copyright © 2016 by Betsy Childs Howard

Published by Crossway1300 Crescent StreetWheaton, Illinois 60187

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Trade paperback ISBN: 978-1-4335-4949-6 ePub ISBN: 978-1-4335-4952-6 PDF ISBN: 978-1-4335-4950-2 Mobipocket ISBN: 978-1-4335-4951-9

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Names: Howard, Betsy Childs, 1981–

Title: Seasons of waiting : walking by faith when dreams are delayed / Betsy Childs Howard.

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Identifiers: LCCN 2015045056 (print) | LCCN 2015037140 (ebook) | ISBN 9781433549502 (pdf) | ISBN 9781433549519 (mobi) | ISBN 9781433549526 (epub) | ISBN 9781433549496 (tp)

Subjects: LCSH: Expectation (Psychology)—Religious aspects—Christianity. | Trust in God—Christianity. | Waiting (Philosophy) | Patience—Religious

aspects—Christianity.

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Crossway is a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers.

To B.N.,

who was worth waiting for and is a joy to wait with as together we long for Christ’s appearing

Table of Contents

Cover PageTitle PageCopyrightDedicationPreface 1 The School of Waiting 2 Waiting for a Bridegroom 3 Waiting for a Child 4 Waiting for Healing 5 Waiting for a Home 6 Waiting for a Prodigal 7 Sustained While We Wait 8 When the Waiting Is OverConclusion: What Are We Waiting For?AcknowledgmentsNotesGeneral IndexScripture IndexBack Cover

Preface

What does your heart long for?

If you’ve picked up this book, there’s a good chance you didn’t have any difficulty answering that question. Most women are waiting for something, but some women are waiting acutely. The thing missing from their lives is in such sharp focus that they aren’t sure they’ll ever feel complete without it.

If that describes you, you know the truth of the proverb, “Hope deferred makes the heart sick” (Prov. 13:12). It’s much easier to stop hoping than it is to have your dream deferred again and again. Of course, those who have been born again in Christ have the sure and certain hope of fullness of joy in God’s eternal presence, but we aren’t there yet. What do we do in the meantime?

This book is meant to help you answer that question. I hope you will read all the chapters, not just the one or two that apply to what you are waiting for the most. I firmly believe that to flourish in our many seasons of waiting, we need support from women in other stages of life who have different struggles and different strengths. I encourage you to seek out other women who are waiting, to find mutual encouragement and help each other to wait well.

This book talks about “seasons” of waiting, but I fully recognize that your waiting season may not end in this life. Even if that is the case, if you are a believer in Jesus, your waiting will still only last for a season, because this life on earth is only the anteroom of your life to come. It is right that we should long for that day. I hope this book will stir in you a desire to wait with eagerness for the return of Jesus and the fullness of God’s kingdom.

1

The School of Waiting

To those who have seen

The Child, however dimly, however incredulously,

The Time Being is, in a sense, the most trying time of all.

W. H. Auden, “For the Time Being”

Betty’s husband, a teacher in his early sixties, just lost his job. They aren’t financially ready for retirement, but few schools want to hire a teacher who is over sixty. They are praying for God to provide a new job, but they don’t know when or where that might be.

Grace and her husband are both eager for a baby. It is taking longer than she would like. She has a history of thyroid problems, and it’s possible that this will affect her ability to conceive. She doesn’t know whether her longing for a baby will stretch on for years or whether her next pregnancy test will be positive.

Catherine has cerebral palsy. She’s been relatively independent for most of her life, but now she is wheelchair bound and has recurring problems with a wound on her foot that will not heal. She spends her time going to different doctors, none of whom have been able to cure her painful, debilitating wound.

These women are all friends of mine.1 Their life situations are very different, but they are each waiting on God for something. None of them knows how long their waiting will last or why God is asking them to wait. They are students in the school of waiting.

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When I was in school, I was a conscientious student. I tried hard to do my best and learn my lessons because students who learn please their teachers and advance to new assignments.

When it comes to my life, there’s a part of me that wants to please God in the same way I tried to please my teachers. When a trial comes my way, I assume that God has sent it and that he wants me to learn something from it before moving on to the next assignment. This kind of thinking helps me trudge forward in the hope that the trial will end shortly if I play the role of attentive student. But this kind of thinking does not serve me well when God takes me into the school of waiting.

You see, for God, the goal of this school is not that I should learn my lesson so that I don’t have to wait anymore. God wants me to learn how to wait so that I can wait well, even if my waiting continues for the rest of my life. While my plan is to keep a chipper attitude and show God that I’m a good student so he will bring my waiting to a close, God wants something even better for me. Rather than end my waiting, he wants to bless my waiting.

In his book Waiting on God, Andrew Murray explains God’s gentle instruction:

At our first entrance into the school of waiting upon God, the heart is mainly set on the blessings which we wait for. God graciously uses our needs and desires for help to educate us for something higher than we were thinking of. We were seeking gifts; He, the Giver, longs to give Himself and to satisfy the soul with His goodness. It is just for this reason that He often withholds the gifts, and that the time of waiting is made so long. He is constantly seeking to win the heart of His child for Himself. He wishes that we would not only say, when He bestows the gift, “How good is God!” but that long before it comes, and even if it never comes, we should all the time be experiencing: it is good that a man should quietly wait. “The LORD is good unto them that wait for him.”

What a blessed life the life of waiting then becomes, the continual worship of faith, adoring, and trusting His goodness. As the soul learns its secret, every act or exercise of waiting becomes just a quiet entering into the goodness of God, to let it do its blessed work and satisfy our every need.2

God is working in our waiting.

You may have picked up this book in the hope that it will help you learn your lesson (and thereby bring your waiting to an end). My hope is that it will help you learn to love waiting, to want to wait well, and to see that God has a beautiful kingdom purpose that he is bringing about through (not in spite of) your waiting.

The Purpose You Already Know About

I doubt that the idea that waiting on God can be purposeful is a new one to you. If you are familiar with the doctrine of sanctification, you know that God can use any experience to make you more and more like himself. For example, in the book of James, we are commanded to count trials as joy, knowing that the testing of faith produces steadfastness (James 1:2–3). Waiting can certainly be a test of faith, and these verses promise that waiting can produce a steadfast character.

Likewise, the letter to the Hebrews talks about the sanctifying work of God’s discipline. It says that discipline leads to holiness, and that it will produce “the peaceful fruit of righteousness” (Heb. 12:9–11). Waiting is part of discipline, isn’t it? The discipline of a little child involves teaching him to wait his turn or to wait for dessert. It is not good for a child to get everything he wants. In the same way, God’s discipline through waiting is good for us and will lead to deeper peace and good fruit in our lives.

Waiting exposes our idols and throws a wrench into our coping mechanisms. It brings us to the end of what we can control and forces us to cry out to God. God doesn’t waste our waiting. He uses it to conform us to the image of his Son.

But sanctification is not the only purpose God has in mind when he takes us into the school of waiting. When we wait, God gives us the opportunity to live out a story that portrays the gospel and serves as a kingdom parable.

Every Story Whispers His Name

Families around the world have grown to love The Jesus Story­book Bible, a children’s Bible by Sally Lloyd-Jones. I confess that, though I don’t have children, I have my own copy and have benefited greatly from it. In The Jesus Storybook Bible, Sally Lloyd-Jones writes:

There are lots of stories in the Bible, but all the stories are telling one Big Story. The Story of how God loves his children and comes to rescue them.

It takes the whole Bible to tell this Story. And at the center of the Story, there is a baby. Every Story in the Bible whispers his name. He is like the missing piece in a puzzle—the piece that makes all the other pieces fit together, and suddenly you can see a beautiful picture.3

One story at a time, Lloyd-Jones shows how each of the stories found in the Old Testament points in some way to Jesus. Not only does the ram in the thicket provided for Abraham point to the Lamb of God, the Tower of Babel and the healing of Namaan point to Christ as well!

One reason I love The Jesus Storybook Bible is that it depicts the Old Testament’s future-oriented thrust. Old Testament stories do not stand alone, rather they unfurl like a red carpet rolled out to welcome a king. Jesus is the sacrifice pictured at Passover, the deliverer foreshadowed by Moses, and the King prefigured by David.

Waiting figures prominently in many of the stories of the Old Testament. Moses waited for Pharaoh to let God’s people go. Joseph waited in a prison cell. Hannah waited for a baby. These stories are true stories, but they are also small-scale versions of the bigger story: Israel was waiting on God to fulfill his promises.

God fulfilled his promises to send a deliverer, the Messiah, by sending his Son, Jesus. Even so, God did not stop using stories of waiting to tell his story because the waiting isn’t over yet. Jesus died and rose again, and then he ascended to sit at the right hand of God where he is to this day. The New Testament portrays the ascended Jesus as the Bridegroom who has gone away but will return (Matt. 25:1–13; Mark 2:20). Our waiting is different this side of the cross. We know now whom we are waiting for, but the waiting isn’t easy. There should be a future thrust to our faith, just as there was a future thrust in the stories that make up the Old Testament.

We are still waiting in the same ways that our favorite Bible characters waited. Some of us are waiting for a bridegroom. Some of us are waiting for a baby. Some are waiting for a home. Some are waiting for a prodigal child or a prodigal spouse. Some await healing and an end to pain. Above all, we are all waiting for the return of Jesus.

Until the Messiah came, Scripture’s stories of waiting reminded old covenant believers that all was not right with the world. Marriage covenants were broken. Wombs were empty. Israel needed reconciliation with God.

In the same way, our waiting should remind us and all new covenant believers that all is not right with the world. While Jesus has died and risen, he has not yet come again. Paul describes the second coming of Christ this way: “Then comes the end, when he delivers the kingdom to God the Father after destroying every rule and every authority and power. For he must reign until he has put all his enemies under his feet” (1 Cor. 15:24–25). We are still waiting for that victory.

Shouldn’t I Be Content?

If your waiting is characterized by painful longing, you may feel guilty about that. We are supposed to be content with the life God has given us, right? If I am consumed by desire for something he hasn’t given me, that must be sinful discontentment, mustn’t it?

Yes and no. Yes, our waiting should be undergirded with a firm confidence in the goodness of God. We should believe steadfastly that God is our loving Father who only gives us what is good (Matt. 7:7–11). We can know with certainty that his “divine power has granted to us all things that pertain to life and godliness” (2 Pet. 1:3). Like the apostle Paul, our contentment must be based in the sufficiency of Christ, not in satisfactory temporary circumstances (Phil. 4:10–13).

In spite of these truths, a persistent longing does not mean that you are indulging in sinful discontentment. The same Paul who wrote that he had learned to be content in every circumstance wrote that he had “great sorrow and unceasing anguish” (Rom. 9:2) when he considered his fellow Jews who had rejected the gospel. Waiting well doesn’t mean waiting without pain.

What if Hannah had resigned herself to childlessness instead of pouring out her prayers to God with her tears? What if the father of the Prodigal Son had dried his eyes and moved on, rather than watching and waiting for his wayward one to come home? What if Hosea, instead of grieving over his wife’s unfaithfulness, had proclaimed that this was God’s will and he was probably better off without her?

If these biblical characters had suppressed their pain and put on a happy face, we would be missing the deep bass notes that give the gospel such sweet resonance. If there are no tears, then the promise that God “will wipe away every tear from their eyes” (Rev. 21:4) would not be necessary.

Your Waiting Is a Parable

In this book, I will talk about five life situations that involve painful waiting. I’ve chosen these five areas because they are prominent biblical themes, but they are also scenarios that are still common to God’s people. If you are waiting for a spouse that has yet to appear, for a pregnancy that you haven’t been able to conceive or carry, for healing that may or may not come, for a home that you never have to leave, or for a prodigal child or spouse to return, you are living a parable. A parable is a story with a point. The story of your waiting can portray—to you and to others—God’s salvation history, both up to this point and still to come.

If that sounds strange to you, consider some other life scenarios that are commonly recognized as depictions of the gospel. How many weddings have you been to at which the minister told the couple that their marriage represents Christ and the church? This idea comes straight from the Bible itself, specifically Ephesians 5:22–23. Paul tells the Ephesians that the love a husband shows his wife—a love that places her needs above his own—represents the love that Christ has for the church. Conversely, a wife who submits to her husband portrays the church’s trusting submission to the headship of Christ.

Or take adoption. In Romans 8:14–17, Paul explains that those who believe in Jesus have been adopted by his Father into the family of God. We’ve been given the right to call on him, and he has made us his heirs. Adoption gives a child all of the rights and privileges of one who is born into a family. Adoptive parents powerfully portray the love of God by choosing to make their own that which was once not their own. They are a parable of our God who took a people (Israel) and made them his own and who takes people (us) and makes them his beloved children.

Throughout the Scriptures, God uses different analogies and word pictures that portray waiting on the Lord. In the book of James, he compares waiting for the Lord’s return to waiting for a harvest:

Be patient, therefore, brothers, until the coming of the Lord. See how the farmer waits for the precious fruit of the earth, being patient about it, until it receives the early and the late rains. You also, be patient. Establish your hearts, for the coming of the Lord is at hand. (James 5:7–8)

Every time a farmer sows his field, weeds his garden, or waters a crop that is not yet bearing fruit, he is a living picture of how we should wait on the return of the Lord. We must be patient, and we must hope in what we do not yet see.