Separation with Heart E-Book

S.B.

• Herausgeber: Books on Demand
• Kategorie: Ratgeber
• Sprache: Englisch

Seitenzahl: 37

Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2023

Beschreibung

The separation from your partner, possibly from the father of your children, is an enormously drastic phase in your life. In addition to all the emotions you have to endure and deal with, however, it is also important to handle all the legal and administrative aspects in a businesslike manner. The goal must be to find an acceptable solution for everyone as quickly as possible. For both partners and the children, things need to get back on track after the separation! I have written down what I consider to be the most important points for you in my book. Always with the goal of a ‘good separation’ in view - a separation with heart, that is. We as a family have managed - with a lot of patience, and by keeping these important points in mind - to solve this task in the best possible way. I am proud of all of us. And I know today that it is possible, regardless of the history that led to the separation, to make this new start, strengthened and enriched by all we have been through.

Leseprobe

It took me a while before I summoned the courage to undertake this book project. From a little distance, in terms of time, and with a view that was no longer so emotional as before, I found it possible to compare what had been wishful thinking just a few years ago with the experiences I had gained, to filter out the result and write it down. I knew that despite the separation we would always remain a family, we would always remain parents. And both I and my ex-husband had our clear ideas about how we wanted to lead our lives after the separation, together with the children. Not in a way tied to locations or objects, but from a purely emotional, familial and friendly point of view.

A separation usually involves at least one heartbreak and a lot of broken crockery. Two people have come together out of love, friendship, respect and confidence. They have experienced a lot together over the years, perhaps started a family and certainly have many wonderful memories. Sadly, all that is often forgotten far too quickly. Then only destruction remains, and a whole family and a whole lot of feelings are caught up in the train wreck. Especially when children are involved – no matter what age they are – this must not be allowed to happen! Every adult should consider what his or her goal is; yet more anger and grief, or just possibly, a constructive ‘togetherness’? It is imperative to distinguish the couple level from the parent level. Even if you no longer have much sympathy for the father or mother of your children because you have been betrayed or hurt, that very person can still be a caring father or loving mother. It takes a lot of strength, patience and the power to walk the path ahead not out of revenge, but always with the aim of making the best possible use of the situation for everyone. I will try to make the path to this goal a little easier for you here, in these short, simply formulated chapters.

I dedicate this book to those who were hit the hardest by our separation: my two incredible children, who showed me that they can rise above themselves in the most difficult times. Then to my ex-husband, because without him we would not have been able to go through this time so constructively. My mother, who despite her advanced age has been an incredible support. She has such an understanding of the younger generation, I can take a huge leaf out of her book. And then all the rest of the family, as well as all the patient, tolerant and loving people who have accompanied me and us as a family on this path, and are still by our side today.

About me: I was born on 22 October 1964 in Zurich, and have lived on Lake Zurich for almost half my life. It was always clear to me that I wanted to work despite having children, and I am very happy about this decision today. The balance between family and career is ensured, and personal and financial independence helps you in all situations of life.

Table of Contents

ACCEPTANCE

ACTION

BLAME

BRAVO

BUDGET

CHANGE

CHILDREN

CLARITY

COMPASSION

COURAGE

DILEMMA

DISTANCE

EGOISM

ENVY

FAMILY

FEAR OF LOSS

FRIENDS

FUTURE

GOOD ADVICE

GOODWILL

GRATITUDE

HAPPINESS

HARMONY

HEALTH

HEART

HELPLESSNESS

HONESTY

IDEALISM

INSULTS

JEALOUSY

LAWYER

LETTING GO

LOVE

LYING

MONEY

PARENTS

PAST

PICTURE

PREPARATION

RESPECT

ROLE MODEL

SELF-CARE

SELF-PITY

SOCIETY

STRUCTURE

SUPPORT

TOLERANCE

VICTIM

WALK

ZERO HOUR

AFTERWORD

ACCEPTANCE

You are very clear about your family situation and your relationship, and you know that a separation is imminent or already in progress. You are also aware that it does you no good to fight against it. It robs you of energy and takes you off your path. Accepting your situation helps you to feel less pain and sadness. Acceptance does not mean resignation. You simply accept the situation as it is and try to make the best of it.

ACTION