The 85% Solution E-Book

Linda Galindo

• Herausgeber: John Wiley & Sons
• Kategorie: Fachliteratur
• Sprache: Englisch

Seitenzahl: 241

Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2009

Beschreibung

A guide to personal accountability-the fundamental key to leadership success With the toughest economic downturn in recent history, the issue of accountability has taken center stage. However accountability is often confused with punishment, fault, blame and guilt. In this book, the author argues that the only true accountability is "personal accountability" and the only way to achieve it is to take responsibility for the outcomes of your choices, behaviors and actions. The 85% Solution reveals that to be truly accountable, leaders must accept no less than 85% of the responsibility for the outcomes of your actions; Empower themselves to take the risks and actions you must in order to get what they want; and Show they are willing to answer for the outcomes that result from their choices and actions. * Offers a practical guide to personal accountability and reveals how this leads to personal and business success * Guides readers to take the risks and actions to reach their goals * Contains self-assessments for determining personal accountability index The author is an experienced consultant who works with organizations, teams, and individuals to improve their personal and work lives.

Leseprobe

Table of Contents

Praise

Title Page

Copyright Page

Dedication

Foreword

Introduction

PART I - Responsibility

The Queen of Victims: A Fairy Tale

It’s My Responsibility

You Are Responsible: A Before-the-Fact Mind-set

Planet What Is

Put the 85% Solution to Work for You

Get Off of Planet Guilt

No Fault, No Guilt, No Blame

“I Am Not Lazy, I Just Pretend I Am”

A Good Reason Not to Share

All for One, One for All

Follow the Leader?

The Accountability Quotient, Part 1

INTERPRET YOUR SCORE

PART II - Self-Empowerment

Make a Splash

Empower Thyself

The 85% Connection

What’s Your Point?

BULLY FOR YOU

The Choice Is Yours

Empowerment in Real Numbers

Your Unique Definition of Success

Spread the Word

Go for the Goal

Empower Your Attitude

SELF-EMPOWERMENT STRATEGY #1: LIGHTEN UP

SELF-EMPOWERMENT STRATEGY #2: WHAT’S DONE IS DONE

SELF-EMPOWERMENT STRATEGY #3: ME, ME, ME

Empower Your Time

SELF-EMPOWERMENT STRATEGY #4: SAY NO

SELF-EMPOWERMENT STRATEGY #5: SCHEDULE CONSERVATIVELY

SELF-EMPOWERMENT STRATEGY #6: MAKE AN APPOINTMENT

Empower Your Words

SELF-EMPOWERMENT STRATEGY #7: I’M OKAY; ARE YOU OKAY?

SELF-EMPOWERMENT STRATEGY #8: HAVE A “YOU-ECTOMY”

SELF-EMPOWERMENT STRATEGY #9: THE MAGIC OF “AND”

SELF-EMPOWERMENT STRATEGY #10: GET OFF THE GOSSIP-GO-ROUND

The Accountability Quotient, Part 2

INTERPRET YOUR SCORE

PART III - Personal Accountability

It Goes Both Ways

Stand Up

What You’ll Give Up

Tell the Truth

What If You Don’t Get Caught?

Own Your Choices—Right or Wrong

Crystal Clear

Write It Down

THE CLEAR AGREEMENT FORM

A Clear Risk

Floating in We-We

Just in Time

Rolling Heads

Sticks and Stones

Holding Others Accountable

HOLDING OTHERS ACCOUNTABLE

To Thine Own Self Be Clear

The Accountability Quotient, Part 3

INTERPRET YOUR SCORE

Epilogue

The Author

Index

Praise for THE 85% SOLUTION

“Now, more than ever, we all need to know that we can’t blame the economy, weather, Wall Street, etc., for the situation we are in. We need to stop pointing the finger, look in the mirror, and muster up the courage to realize and admit it all starts with our thinking about personal accountability, which eventually turns into our reality and results. The 85% Solution masterfully demonstrates that a mind-set of personal accountability is where it all begins! The message is now ingrained in my brain and has changed my life!”

—Irene Perez Zucker, president, Verbacom Executive Development

“This book gives practical advice for your personal and professional development, pertinent in today’s world. Galindo inspires you to choose your attitude and behavior and to live with those choices.”

—Stephanie Grenfell, nurse manager

“In an engaging and humorous style, The 85% Solution provides the key to finding and defining success and living the life you’ve only dreamed of.”

—Janet Buchanan, Buchanan Consulting

“You feel like you are there as you read Linda Galindo’s examples, like someone filmed your life and showed it to you and suddenly it all became oh-so-clear why the misery and frustration in your life is of your own making.”

—Andrew Thweatt, president, SKS, Inc.

“Change your life! Follow Linda’s lead in moving from the Queen of Victims to a life of accountability. This book is written in a way that anyone can understand, enjoy, and most important, get the results you want, be happier, and lower your stress.”

—Jona Raasch, president, the Governance Institute

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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

Galindo, Linda A.

The 85% solution : how personal accountability guarantees success : no nonsense, no excuses / Linda Galindo; with Versera Performance Consulting ; foreword by David A. Costello. p. cm.

Includes bibliographical references and index.

eISBN : 978-0-470-53552-3

1. Business ethics. 2. Responsibility. 3. Leadership. I. Title. II. Title: Eighty-five percent solution.

HF5387.G35 2009

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2009025594

HB Printing

To Mike, Lea, and Kayla You inspire me every day to live accountably, learn enthusiastically, and laugh when I need to.

Foreword

I watch the news, read the papers, and follow the Websites. They’re all full of distressing failures, disappointing behaviors, dire economic results, and doomsday commentary.

Are you yet growing weary of the widespread irresponsibility, abuse of power, and accountability vacuum so prevalent among us? I am! And if you are, I invite you to join me in an exciting journey of responsibility restoration, self-empowerment awareness, and accountability makeover leading to your success and joy in your work and play.

Linda Galindo’s book, The 85% Solution, is our starting point . . . and what a great orientation to an exciting journey.

In a style that reminds me of Ben Franklin’s Poor Richard’s Almanack, Galindo suggests that success is at least 85 percent of my doing, my attitude, and my being whom I should be.

The 85% Solution’s practical guidelines for true success include:

• Responsibility: “Responsibility is not something you do; it’s a way of thinking and a way of being.”

• Self-empowerment: “Take the actions and take the risks that you need to in order to ensure that you achieve the results you desire.”

• Accountability: “Accountable people put a ‘who’ with every ‘what.’”

A refreshing and enjoyable distinction made by Galindo is the three-part assessment of the accountability quotient: responsibility, self-empowerment, and personal accountability. When completed, the quotient indicates one’s strengths and areas for improvement and is a personal road map for achieving 85 percent and beyond in our quest for an accountability lifestyle.

With all the books at your disposal about success and responsibility, why in the world would you want to read The 85% Solution?

One reason is the author, Linda Galindo, a nationally recognized author, educator, speaker, consultant, and expert in executive leadership development. She knows what she’s talking about because she lives responsibly and accountably.

Another reason for reading the book is the very practical guidance you receive in real-world settings and the void-filling encouragement you find on every page.

The 85% Solution not only answers the question, “How much of your success depends on you?” but it also places you on the journey of joy in achieving success more fully.

July 2009 David A. Costello, CPA President and CEO, National Association of State Boards of Accountancy President, NASBA Center for the Public Trust

Introduction

You’re lying on your stomach on a cold, metal gurney in an operating room, woozy from the anesthesia that will, in just a few moments, render you unable to speak or feel or react.

Four others are in the room, too: the orthopedic surgeon who will repair the errant disk in your back; the anesthesiologist who is monitoring your reaction to the medicine she just gave you; a circulating nurse who will watch out for your safety; and a scrub nurse who will pass sterile instruments to the doctor.

Through your haze you hear the two nurses arguing. One is chiding the other because she thinks the scalpels and clamps on the sterile tray have not been sufficiently cleaned.

“Mind your own business,” the scrub nurse retorts.

“I know how to do my job.”

The circulating nurse takes her worries to the anesthesiologist.

“Leave me out of it,” the anesthesiologist tells her. “That’s not my responsibility.”

So the nurse turns to the surgeon, but before she can speak, he snaps to the bickering group, “Quiet! It’s time to start!”

As you lose consciousness, the scrub nurse hands a scalpel to the doctor, who uses it to cut your back.

Which of those four professionals is responsible for the safety of that scalpel?

Is it the scrub nurse whose job it is to sterilize it? The circulating nurse in charge of looking out for your safety? The anesthesiologist who rendered you unable to be responsible for it yourself? Or the surgeon who used it to slice through your skin?

Suppose you wake up from the surgery with a painful infection from the cut. Now who do you think is responsible? Which member of the surgical team will you hold accountable?

The scrub nurse? He believed the instruments were clean.

The anesthesiologist? She isn’t in charge of the instruments.

The circulating nurse? She tried to tell everyone.

The surgeon? He didn’t know anything was amiss.

If just one of these people is responsible, does that mean the others aren’t?

Perhaps each of the four is one-quarter responsible for your infection.

Sound good? Next time you need surgery, will it be good enough to know that each person participating in a procedure that involves cutting your skin, touching your organs, or removing a diseased body part is willing to take one-quarter of the responsibility for making sure you don’t die on the table?

I didn’t think so.

Here’s the only acceptable answer: Each conscious person in that room is 100 percent responsible for the success of the surgery, right down to the squeaky-clean sterility of the instruments.

If the scrub nurse was 100 percent responsible, he would have recleaned the instruments just in case the circulating nurse was right.

If the circulating nurse was 100 percent responsible, she would have prevented the doctor from cutting you with a dirty instrument by interrupting the surgery, even though the doctor told her to be quiet.

If the anesthesiologist was 100 percent responsible, she would have insisted that the scrub nurse resterilize the instruments as soon as she learned there might be a problem.

If the surgeon was 100 percent responsible, he would have invited the circulating nurse and the other team members to air their concerns before assuming it was okay to start the surgery.

Next time you need surgery, how responsible do you want each person on your surgical team to be for your well-being?

One hundred percent—each. No question about it.

Now apply that to yourself. Next time you agree to do something, how much responsibility will you take for it?

Here’s the only acceptable answer: 100 percent.

When you work as part of a team at your job, be 100 percent personally responsible for the outcome of the effort—good or bad.

If you and your spouse have divided the household chores, be 100 percent responsible for how well your household runs, not just for your part.

In every relationship with family, friends, and coworkers, be 100 percent responsible for the harmony and health of that relationship, not just for half of it.

Even when you’re working on something whose outcome matters only to you, be 100 percent responsible for it. Don’t leave your success up to anyone or anything else.

Own it.

Not somewhat. Not partially. Not pretty much. Not, “I guess so” or “as long as.” Own it 100 percent. No wiggle room.

I can safely guess that this is not how you operate today. Most people don’t.

Most people believe they’re responsible only for “their part” of a job, and that if someone else screws up and the project fails, it’s not their fault. So why be responsible?

Let me tell you why: Whether you admit it or not, you are accountable for everything you’re involved with, whether it turns out good or bad, whether it fails because of something you did or because of something your partners did. The outcome belongs to everyone who touched the project, not just to the ones who made mistakes.

You share or take all of the credit when all goes well. And like it or not, you are implicated in the blame when it doesn’t, even if you’re not the one who messed up.

It’s just how it is.

Once you realize up front that the result is going to be yours no matter who does what to cause that result, you’ll get better results—because you’ll make better choices. And you’ll be in control of your own success.

This shift in mind-set isn’t easy, but it’s worth the trouble. It will help you

• Get things done more effectively and with less stress

• Feel a sense of accomplishment in your job

• Develop stronger, more positive relationships

• Improve personal productivity and satisfaction

• Change your organization or your family for the better

You already have this ability, and you already have the responsibility; everybody does. But most of us either don’t realize—or aren’t willing to admit—that we alone have the power to live our lives how we want to.

No other person or unforeseen circumstance can do that for us or to us.

We can give other people and outside conditions power over us, but that’s a conscious choice. It doesn’t happen without our permission.

This message—this book—is important right now because we are bombarded every day with messages from guilty officials, celebrities, and even the media, who tell us that outside conditions have the most to do with what happens to them—and to us.

Keep reading. I’m going to convince you that you—and nobody or anything else—are accountable for what happens to you.

If you believe the environment, the universe, politicians, or other people are responsible for your success, good luck.

If you believe you’re responsible for your own success, your luck is bound to improve.

Change your mind-set. Be responsible.

The truly good news is that each of us has 100 percent personal responsibility available to us as a mind-set.

If it is to be, it’s up to me.

It’s total personal responsibility. It’s mine. I own it. There are no trap doors.

The critical factor missing from most of our lives is a mind-set of commitment and ownership to a result before we set out to do something, whether it’s to get through our day, finish a home improvement project, or do our jobs.

What is your mind-set?

Your response to the following question will reveal the truth about you:

How much of your success is up to you, and how much of it is determined by outside conditions, like the environment, other people, or just plain bad luck?

What’s your answer? Forty percent you, 60 percent environment? Half and half? One hundred percent you, forget the outside world?

What your answer reveals is how successful a person you are.

If you answered 85 percent (or higher) you, 15 percent (or less) outside conditions, that says you believe that you are responsible for your own success. And I’ll bet you’re successful.

On the other hand, if your answer is 50-50 or anywhere less than 85-15, be honest: Are you as successful as you would like to be?

Or does it seem that other people, situations, and influences seem to always stand in the way of your getting ahead?

Deep down, do you know that they’re not the ones to blame when you don’t finish a project, achieve a good result, or come through when people are counting on you?

Deep down, do you know you alone are responsible for everything you choose to do?

Would you like to solve—or prevent—your problems? Would you like to be more successful? Would you enjoy feeling happier, more confident, and less burdened by worry and regret?

Here is your solution: Acknowledge, believe, and act on the fact that you, and you alone, are 100 percent responsible for your own successes, opportunities, and happiness. Just you and your choices, you and your mind-set. Not anybody or anything else.

Likewise, you, and you alone, are 100 percent responsible for your own failures, problems, and bad mood. You and your choices.

Too big a leap? Start at 85 percent.

Can you acknowledge that you are responsible for at least 85 percent of everything that happens to you, and that other people and conditions beyond your control are responsible for no more than 15 percent?

That’s a mind-set that will help you improve your life so vastly that you will strive to be 100 percent responsible.

That is the 85% Solution.

Right now, you might think you know someone who could benefit from what I’m telling you: your spouse, a colleague, your best friend.

Go look in the mirror. That someone is you.

Stop blaming your problems and failures—big or small—on the people around you. Stop using “circumstances beyond my control” as the scapegoat for your own choices, behaviors and actions.

The 85% Solution will show you how.

In The 85% Solution, I guide you through a three-step process that will help you own your choices—all of them.

The 85% Solution will give you the tools you need to fully own your actions. It will offer you a tremendous opportunity to change the outcome of your work, your relationships, your career, and even your life by taking charge of yourself and then accepting the consequences for doing that.

To get there, you will have to take these three important steps:

1. Be responsible for the success or failure of everything you do—for your choices, behaviors, and actions—before you know how it will all turn out. Own all of it, even if you’re working for or with somebody else.

2. Empower yourself to succeed. Take the actions—and take the risks—that you need to in order to ensure that you achieve the results you desire.

3. Be accountable for your actions. Demonstrate your willingness to answer for the outcomes that result from your choices, behaviors, and actions, without fault, blame, or guilt.

Responsibility, self-empowerment, accountability. These are the keys to taking control of your own success.

I ought to know.

PART I

Responsibility

The Queen of Victims: A Fairy Tale

Once upon a time, I was the Queen of Victims, with a shiny scepter, a sparkling crown, and a plush velvet robe, walking up and down the runway of Poor Me. Life didn’t work for me. My boss was a jerk. My parents didn’t encourage me. My husband was controlling. I got divorced. I complained and whined.

One day, a good and smart friend put a stunningly quick stop to it by asking me a revealing question that stung me like a slap in the face.

“Have you ever noticed that all the bad things you complain about happened when you were in the room? Have you ever considered that you might have something to do with your own rotten luck?”

I hadn’t.

This so-called friend must have lost her mind. “What kind of friend are you, anyway?” I pouted.

Honestly, it never occurred to me that I might be inviting sadness, heartache, confusion, and struggles with the way I was behaving: irresponsibly. Every time I hit a rough patch, I had someone to blame: my boss, my parents, my ex-husband, my fair-weather friends, my hairdresser, my dog.

My good and smart friend’s point was this: Bad things were happening to me because of my own actions, my own behavior, and my own pitiful Poor Me thinking, but I was crying so hard I couldn’t see it through my tears. I had so many excuses about why my life was a mess, and so many people to blame.

After all, I did have an unhappy childhood; that couldn’t be my fault. My boss was always yelling at me for something I supposedly did wrong—a clear sign that he needed a personality transplant. There’s nothing I could do about him.

So at first, I thought my friend was nuts, or worse—I thought she was mean. Maybe she was jealous of me or had it in for me for some reason—with my luck, it wouldn’t surprise me.

So I tried to prove to myself that what she said wasn’t true.

I couldn’t possibly be perpetuating my own failures. It was my boss’s fault, my parents’, my ex-husband’s, not mine.

I clung to my status as Victim. Queen of Victims. Proud Queen. Right, not wrong. Always right, but never happy. Poor me.

Eventually, though, I could no longer deny that my friend was right, not jealous (why would she be jealous of someone whose life was a train wreck waiting to happen?), even though it hurt my feelings to hear her question and stung my pride to admit it was true.

When the wisdom of her comment finally sunk in, my life slowly started to change. I realized that more of what “happened” to me was due to my own choices than I was claiming or even willing to admit. Much more.

All of it.

I realized that I needed to own those choices, own my actions, and own the results of those choices and actions.

I needed to stop being a victim, turn in my crown and scepter, and understand that bad things don’t just happen on their own; rather, they’re the result of poor choices and thoughtless actions.

I had to realize that consequences flow from my own choices, actions, and behaviors. I needed to take control of myself, to be the leader of my own life.

I needed to realize that I wasn’t my parents’ or boss’s or ex-husband’s victim. I was my own. I needed to stop victimizing myself.

In short, I needed to be responsible for my life by being responsible for my choices and my actions—and the consequences that flowed from them.

I’ll admit it was a little embarrassing to confess to my friend and even to myself—and eventually to everyone—that I had been sabotaging my own success and happiness, all the while blaming it on others so nobody (including me) would know what I was doing.

I was like those promising young marathoners who suffer one injury after another from overtraining and never win their races—but they have a built-in excuse for their failure: “It’s not my fault.”

I never accepted responsibility for my failures because I always had someone or something else to blame, and my excuses sounded legitimate (at least to me). I could say it wasn’t my fault, and that excused me from being responsible for those failures. Or so I thought.

That smart friend of mine is a truly good friend. She told me what I needed to hear: that I’m in charge of this life of mine.

That means standing up and being responsible for my failures as well as for my successes—and, in fact, doing that before I know whether my choices and actions will result in success or failure.

It’s easy to claim responsibility when things go well, but it’s hard when they don’t. A truly responsible person is responsible either way.

The most amazing part is this: The more I am responsible for my actions and choices, the fewer failures I suffer, and the more successes I enjoy. The more I am responsible for my own actions and choices, the better I enjoy the life I lead, going full-throttle or cruising or stopping short—whatever I decide.

I don’t go a day without saying out loud: “I own this.”

I’m responsible for my choices, my actions, and their consequences. It makes every day so much smoother, so much more directed, so much more likely to end without massive stress or upset.

Now I’m going to pass my friend’s good deed along to you. I’m going to tell you what you need to hear: that it’s time for you to be responsible and accountable for everything you do, even if it turns out that you did the wrong thing.

What are you blaming on others: rotten luck, lousy job, money problems, spoiled kids, failed marriage?

Were you in the room when any of those problems started?

Admit it: You are responsible for everything in your life. The choices you have made have resulted in these outcomes.

Own it: Every choice, every behavior, every action you take is yours. They’re nobody else’s fault.

Do it: Commit to accountability. Watch it rock your world.

It’s My Responsibility

We stood in front of a black sign with white letters that read, “Please Wait to Be Seated,” and we waited.

I was hungry and impatient, and not in any mood to wait.

Two couples who arrived ahead of my weary four-woman group waited, too, even though at least half of the tables in the restaurant were empty.

I took that as a sign that the restaurant’s staff was slow and incompetent. That made me more impatient.

When we were seated and our food arrived, I lost it.

“You call this a fresh fruit salad?” I chided Lindsay, the nineteen-year-old waitress who delivered a bowl of faded honeydew and overripe cantaloupe that the kitchen had, for some reason, thought I would eat.

I expected Lindsay to tell me it wasn’t her fault because she didn’t make the salad. But she stunned me.

“No,” she agreed, “it doesn’t look fresh at all. The kitchen is just about out of fresh fruit. I’m sorry.”

It’s not often that I’m speechless, but at that moment, I didn’t know what to say. I knew it wasn’t her fault. Yet she apologized.

As my mouth hung open, Lindsay directed my attention to the plump, red strawberries that garnished the sandwich platters my friends had ordered.

“How about a big bowl of those?” she offered. I closed my mouth as it started to water.

She returned in a hurry, eager to salvage my supper. But steps away from our table, she stumbled over a kink in the carpet and released the bowl, sending strawberries flying all over my dinner companions and me. They landed in our hair, on our shoulders, on our laps, and even in our purses.

Speechless. Again.

“Did everybody get some?” Lindsay asked, and she started to giggle.

It infected all four of us. We howled.

This teenage ray of sunshine helped us pick berries out of our hair and sped back to the kitchen to slice up some more. This time, I got to eat them instead of wear them.

We left her a huge tip, this young woman who spilled food all over us.

As we left, I pulled her aside. “You didn’t get upset because I didn’t like my salad or even when you tripped. You didn’t blame the kitchen or the carpet or us for arriving so late. You just handled it. How do you do that?”

Her response was mature beyond her nineteen years.

“I’m responsible for making sure you come back,” Lindsay explained. “You’ll base your decision on my actions.”

She was responsible for every mess she made. She was responsible for serving me the wilted cantaloupe. She was responsible for tossing strawberries all over my friends and me.

I asked Lindsay one more question before I turned to leave: “Why were so many people waiting to be seated when we arrived, even though so many tables were empty?”

She replied, “They wanted to sit in my section, so they had to wait for tables to open up. You were just lucky to get one of my tables.”

I hope I’m as lucky next time I eat there.