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- Herausgeber: Alan D. Weber (Ph.D.)
- Kategorie: Ratgeber
- Sprache: Englisch
Self-esteem is the internal way we see ourselves and assume that other people see us as well. Whether these views are correct or not is another story. Dealing with low self-esteem can make life difficult as you will spend too much time focusing on little details that aren’t that important rather than enjoying new activities and experiences because they sound fun. If you have low self-esteem, this is not cause for worry.
This guidebook has all the tips and tricks you will need in order to take care of your low self-esteem. This book is going to start out with some of the basics about self-esteem. We will take the time to learn what self-esteem is and what helps to form this in each person. There is also a bit of discussion on why your self-esteem may be so low. It goes on to talk about how you can silence your inner critic. Often we are much harsher on ourselves and hold onto things much longer than necessary. When others have long forgotten, we still remember when we said something wrong or embarrassed ourselves. To truly work on your self-esteem, you have to learn how to silence that inner critic.
We will also cover the importance of having a positive lifestyle, how you need to take good care of yourself before you can raise your self-esteem. You need to understand how you are important and take some time to work on your thoughts and feelings. Whether this is on your own or with some professional help doesn’t matter as long as you take the time to better yourself in the process. Give this book a try and see how much easier it can be to take control of your life and really enjoy it with confidence.
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Alan D. Weber (Ph.D.)
Understanding Self-Esteem
Table of contents
Introduction
Importance of Self-esteem
The Effects of having a Low Self Esteem
Common Signs of Low Self-Esteem
Improving Your Self-care Can Lead to Higher Self Esteem
Habits and How to Use Them for the Good
Adopting A Lifestyle That Is Positive
Visualization: Open Up Your Mind to It
Talking To Yourself
Adding Boundaries to Your Life
Learning to Say “No”
Why Saying “No” Makes a Difference to Self-Esteem
Fix what you don’t like
Learning To Trust Others
Seeking Help in Understanding
Keeping A Positive Attitude
Effects of Negative Self-Criticism
Turbocharge Your Self-Esteem
Taking Baby Steps alone
Conclusion
Introduction
Importance of Self-esteem
The Effects of having a Low Self Esteem
Common Signs of Low Self-Esteem
Improving Your Self-care Can Lead to Higher Self Esteem
Habits and How to Use Them for the Good
Adopting A Lifestyle That Is Positive
Visualization: Open Up Your Mind to It
Talking To Yourself
Adding Boundaries to Your Life
Learning to Say “No”
Why Saying “No” Makes a Difference to Self-Esteem
Fix what you don’t like
Learning To Trust Others
Seeking Help in Understanding
Keeping A Positive Attitude
Effects of Negative Self-Criticism
Turbocharge Your Self-Esteem
Taking Baby Steps alone
Conclusion
Introduction
What is self-esteem?
Several people have defined self-esteem over the years. One school of thought suggested that self-esteem is all about being aware of the value of one’s own dignity or personality. This definition is more from the ethical and philosophical standpoint.
There is another definition, which made the rounds in 1980, according to which; self-esteem is nothing but the satisfaction or dissatisfaction with oneself. This is purely based on our perception of successes and losses. We tend to feel happy when we succeed and feel shameful when we fail. Going by this, our self-esteem is determined by our successes and failures, which will result in us feeling satisfied and dissatisfied respectively.
Over the years, self-esteem has been regarded as the feeling of appreciating oneself, in the field of psychology. Several psychologists have come up with different theories about self-esteem. However, it is not possible to restrict the meaning or definition of self-esteem for it has several facets to it.
Self-esteem is the internal way we see ourselves and assume that other people see us as well. Whether these views are correct or not is another story. Dealing with low self-esteem can make life difficult as you will spend too much time focusing on little details that aren’t that important rather than enjoying new activities and experiences because they sound fun. If you have low self-esteem, this is not cause for worry.
This guidebook has all the tips and tricks you will need in order to take care of your low self-esteem. Give this book a try and see how much easier it can be to take control of your life and really enjoy it with confidence.
Thanks for downloading this book. It’s my firm belief that it will provide you with all the answers to your questions.
Importance of Self-esteem
Now that we have gone over the basic aspects of self-esteem, let us look at the importance of self-esteem. We do not realize the important role it plays in our life. This is why we don’t address any issues pertaining to our self-esteem. Let us look at the several benefits of having a good self-esteem in this chapter. This will perhaps help us analyze where we stand and the necessity to deal with our self-esteem related issues.
You can be yourself
When you have a good self-esteem, you do not have to worry about being yourself. You will learn to appreciate yourself as a person. You are not scared to let others know your opinions or thoughts. You will not feel the necessity to please others or subscribe to others’ views or opinions. You can be an independent individual who has strong convictions about his values and opinions.
You learn to accept disagreement
We all get irritated when somebody disagrees for no reason. It is often people with low self-esteem who do that. As I mentioned earlier, they often believe that any criticism that comes their way is a personal attack. They take every argument personally and feel victimized. This is perhaps why they cannot deal with disagreements in a positive way. On the other hand, when you have a healthy self-esteem, you will be able to accept the different opinions of others with so much ease. You don’t feel threatened by any another person’s opinions or disagreement with your opinions. You firmly believe in your convictions and this belief is not shaken just because others disagree with you. This does not mean that you turn out to be an arrogant person when you have a healthy self-esteem. On the contrary, you find it easier to accept others’ disagreements with grace, without feeling offended.
You are capable of articulating your view
Often people find it difficult to articulate their views and opinions when they are put on the spot. They find it challenging to speak their mind. Now imagine how would someone feel when they are put on the spot for believing in certain things or for possessing certain values? If you are a person with low self-esteem, you find it extremely difficult to defend yourself, let alone your views and opinions. You will not be able to articulate your beliefs in such a fashion that the other person buys it. This is because you will be too engrossed with your imagination that you were put on the spot in the first place as a part of a personal attack.
On the other hand, if you have a healthy self-esteem, you will not be threatened if someone chooses to question your beliefs. You would be more than happy to defend your beliefs and opinions in a civilized fashion, without being overtly defensive or hostile to the other person. Simply put, you will not be scared of conceding defeat. This lack of fear actually helps you engage in a healthy conversation, when it comes to your beliefs and opinions.
You are open to new challenges
When you have a healthy self-esteem, you will not be scared of newer challenges and opportunities. You would be more than excited to accept an interesting task, as you truly believe that every opportunity can help you showcase who you really are. You take up every opportunity that comes your way with sheer confidence and optimism and see through it.
If you were a person with a very low self-esteem, you would think twice before stepping out of your comfort zone. You are not comfortable in taking risks. You are always plagued by the fear of failure. This fear affects your morale as well. You are simply not motivated to do something new because you are scared that you will fail miserably in it. Another reason why this fear affects a person with low self-esteem is that, they strongly believe that failures will make them look little in the eyes of others. Since they are forever trying to look good in everybody’s books, these failures may have an adverse impact. In order to look good all the time, they end up taking only those tasks that are well within their comfort zones. This is perhaps why people with very low self-esteem seldom succeed in their lives.
On the other hand, people who are successful are those who can make the best use of a lucrative offer that comes their way. They are well aware of the changes that go hand in hand with an opportunity. They are not scared of these changes. On the contrary, they are more than excited to handle these changes with a bright smile plastered across their faces. Such is their confidence when it comes to their skills and talent.
You do not fear uncertainty
Change is the only constant in life. All of us are aware of it. But how many of us actually can accept this simple truth of life? Our self-esteem plays a very important role when it comes to accepting changes. When we have a low self-esteem, we detest changes. We do not have confidence in our capacity to adapt to these changes and survive. This is one of the important reasons why we do not look forward to changes. We feel threatened when something occurs out of the blue. As I mentioned earlier, people with low self-esteem are perfectionists. They expect everything to go according to the plan. They expect every little detail to be perfect and they expect every other person around them to conduct themselves in the perfect manner possible. In other words, they do not make room for uncertainty. They do not consider for a minute that their plans may not turn out to work in the perfect fashion, as anticipated by them. Simply put, they are not prepared for uncertainty. This is pretty much why they feel flustered when things don’t work out in the perfect fashion.
On the other hand, if you are a person with a high self-esteem, you are not worried about uncertainty. In fact, you account for the element of uncertainty in all your plans. This does not mean that you expect everything to not go according to the plan. It simply means that you are prepared to face any unforeseen events that might happen. Your confidence helps you to prepare even for the worst. As I mentioned earlier, a person with high levels of self-esteem has complete trust in their problem solving skills. So uncertainty can never throw them off guard.
You are more resilient
As I mentioned earlier, people with a low self-esteem criticize themselves a lot. They dwell too much in the past. They blame themselves a lot even for the smallest of mistakes. They find it difficult to move on, once a problem is solved. They would rather prefer to dwell over it and lose their happiness. They think that they are solely responsible for all the problems in their life. In other words, problems tend to weaken them. Their self-esteem gets shattered more and more, with each new problem.
On the other hand, when you have high levels of self-esteem, you learn from each problem. You accept the fact that nobody can ever be perfectly happy all the time. You come to terms with the fact that problems are always going to be a part of your life. Instead of brooding over them, you actually regard each problem as a learning experience. You come out stronger every time a hurdle is thrown at you. You find it relatively easier to deal with your problems when you have a healthy self-esteem. You are capable of doing what it takes to resolve the problem and get things back on track.
You do not need approval
When you are a person with low self-esteem, you always seek the approval of people around you. You are forever trying to please the people around you and get their approval. This may actually be a futile and a tiring exercise. You will be able to get so many things done when you are not wasting time trying to get others’ approval.
When you have high self-esteem, you are not dependent on others to feel happy. You believe in yourself and you believe in your values more than anything. You don’t need someone’s approval to tell you that your beliefs are right. You don’t waste time trying to please others. Instead you will be able to utilize the time for something productive. You do not let others’ disapproval deter your beliefs or values.
You know that it is completely fine to not know everything
When you have high levels of self-esteem, you are well aware of the fact that it is not humanely possible to know everything. Our knowledge is limited and it is not possible for anyone to be an expert at everything. When you have a healthy self-esteem, you are aware of this fact. Hence you will not be too hard on yourself when you come to know that you don’t know something.
On the other hand, if you are a person with low self-esteem, you find it difficult to accept this fact. Being the perfectionist you are, you expect yourself to be an expert in everything. When you come to know that you are not aware of something, you criticize and blame yourself for not knowing it. You belittle yourself for not being aware of it in the first place.
Similarly, when you are in the middle of a problem, you are troubled by the fact that you do not have an immediate solution to it. This troubled feeling takes over your mind and prevents you from actually finding out a solution for the problem. On the other hand, when you possess a healthy self-esteem, you are not troubled by the fact that you do not have an immediate solution to your problems. Instead, you would spend time trying to resolve the problem in hand.
You are more committed
People with low self-esteem are often pessimistic in nature. They are forever doubting everything that comes their way and do not know to appreciate the little things that can change their lives. Their pessimism affects their quality of work as well. The individual is not committed enough to their work because their pessimism lets them think that their actions have no positive impact on their lives. They do not have tall goals or challenging ambitions in life. They prefer taking the easy route, as they believe that taking the difficult route would spell failure for them.
However, if you are an individual with high levels of self-esteem, it won’t come as a surprise that you are an optimistic person. You look at everything around you with a positive mindset. You look for opportunities and challenges in everything around you. You are motivated by the smallest of things. When you have a positive mindset, you will be motivated to take up more responsibilities at work. In other words, your commitment increases as your optimism increases. You will find yourself setting challenging goals with the confidence that you will be able to achieve it. As you can see, a positive mindset can do a lot of difference to your professional growth very easily.
You do not feel the need to be perfect
As mentioned earlier, people with low self-esteem often resort to perfectionism. They truly believe that perfectionism will enhance their self-esteem without knowing that it will have the opposite reaction on the person. For instance, let us assume that you have to give a speech in front of hundred people next week as a part of your company’s campaigning. If you were a person with low self-esteem, you would prepare for the speech thinking that everything will go the perfect way. You do not plan for any sort of deviations from your perfect plan. On the day of the speech, let us assume that a handful of things have gone wrong. You would be perplexed by the fact that certain things went wrong. While you are busy being perplexed and out of words, you will have made a fool out of yourself in front of hundred people. This will not improve your self-esteem in any way.
On the other hand, a person with high levels of self-esteem is well aware of the fact that nothing is perfect in this world. They do not strive for perfection in whatever they do. They are well aware that perfectionism is a myth. Hence they would not waste time or energy, trying to make things perfect. They are happy with the way things turn out to be, irrespective of the fact that they may not be perfect.
When you aim to have perfection in everything, you are simply preparing for failure. Since we all are well aware of the fact that it is not possible for things to happen in the perfect way we expect it to happen, trying to get the perfect results is nothing but you preparing for failure. If you are a person with low self-esteem already, I can very well say that these failures won’t sit well with you. These failures will in fact shatter your self-esteem even further.
When you are a person with high self-esteem, you would rather focus on giving your best when it comes to any task that you undertake. You are not scared that you will be making bad decisions. In fact, you are prepared to make bad decisions. This mindset, in fact, helps you decide wisely and do what is best for you and the people around you. You will be able to learn from your past mistakes without any inhibitions.
You accept that you and others are fallible
Nobody is perfect and anybody can make mistakes. When you have a healthy self-esteem, you would be able to accept this fact. It does not mean that you endorse mistakes. But you are well aware of the fact that anybody can make mistakes, including you. This helps you in developing an open mindset when it comes to dealing with mistakes in general. You do not end up being defensive when you come to know that you have committed a mistake. Instead, you would be more than happy to own up to your mistakes and take corrective actions. As I mentioned earlier, confident people have immense trust in their problem solving skills. They are not threatened or deterred by mistakes. They end up figuring a way out despite all odds.
On the other hand, when you are a person with low self-esteem, you resort to perfectionism. You do not make room for any errors when you plan something. You strongly believe that people can work without making any trivial mistakes. When you have this mindset, even the smallest mistake committed by someone around you will look magnified. You will end up blowing it out of proportion and condemning the person unnecessarily. This will paint a very hostile image of you amongst others. On the other hand, if you realize that you have committed a mistake, you will be too critical and blame yourself for committing the mistake in the first place. This is not healthy, as it is human to err. Life is all about accepting these mistakes and moving on.
You will learn to respect yourself
Respecting oneself is very important. When we don’t respect ourselves, we will not be in a position to command others’ respects. When we don’t gain the respect of others, we feel that there is nothing worth your attention. When you have high levels of self-esteem, you will realize your own worth and respect yourself. You will be able to appreciate yourself. When you respect yourself enough, you will not be going behind others for their approval, when it comes to your ideas or opinions. You will respect your decisions and views as well when you learn to respect yourself.
If you are a person with low self-esteem, you will have very little respect left for yourself. You find reasons to belittle you. You look for the different faults in you, which make you hate yourself. You may be a person with a lot of positive traits. But you are only on the lookout for your setbacks. You do not respect yourself because you believe that you do not deserve any respect because of your setbacks.
You don’t feel the need to compare
Comparisons are capable of dampening our motivation in ways that we can never imagine. Every time our comparison yields a negative result, our motivation and morale gets affected to a great extent. We don’t like it when others compare us with someone else and belittle us. If you thought that was harsh, think about people who constantly compare themselves with others and subject themselves to disappointment on a regular basis? People who do not value themselves enough are the ones who constantly compare themselves with others around them. They do not appreciate their traits or values. Instead, they feel the need to draw parallels with things around them, in an attempt to find fault. It is very clear that the entire exercise of comparison is done only to find faults with their personality and feel bad.
People who value themselves do not find the need to compare themselves with others. They are proud of their talents and traits. They respect their individuality. They have belief in their values and opinions. They are proud of their problem solving skills and their ability to handle anything that comes their way. This is perhaps why they don’t need to compare themselves with another person to understand that they are better. Simply put, an external comparison is not required to tell them that they possess a personality which deserves to be respected and valued, for they know their worth already.
You have a sense of direction and control
All of us need to have some purpose in our lives. We all have various ambitions and goals. What makes some successful and others not? People who are successful are focused on achieving their goals. This focus gives them the perseverance to achieve these goals no matter how many hurdles are put on their way. An important reason for this focus is the individual’s confidence.
When you are a confident individual, you will not shy away from dreaming big. You have utmost trust in your goals. You believe that they can be achieved. This confidence adds a sense of direction to your life in the form of goals. On the other hand, if you are a person who is not so confident, you will find it difficult to believe in your goals. You will not dream big for you are not sure of you achieving these goals. Even if your goals are completely achievable, you will not be able to achieve it because of your lack of confidence. In other words, your life lacks the much-needed direction.
Your confidence also lets you take control of your life. You are clear about every decision that you make. You are completely aware of the different aspects of your life. Simply put, you will not be the person who wonders how your productive years in life had flown away, without you noticing it.
You are an independent individual
When you have high levels of self-esteem, you are not dependent on others’ opinion for everything. You rely on your judgment the most. You are a strong and independent individual who is capable of taking all the important decisions in your life. You assume responsibility for your goals, decisions and your life. You do not count on others to make your decisions for you. Your goals are devised based on your desires. You do not blame anyone else for your failures. At the same time, you give yourself enough credit for your successes.
You are content
When you are an individual with a healthy self-esteem, you will be content with yourself. You appreciate your values, talents, traits and personality. You are happy for your convictions and beliefs. Simply put, you find reasons to love yourself.
On the other hand, when you are an individual with very low self-esteem, you will seldom find reasons to love yourself. You will be busy trying to find faults in your personality. You do not appreciate your worth enough. You are never happy with what you have. Your flaws always bother you. You are forever criticizing yourself. You find it difficult to look past all these setbacks and appreciate your personality. You can never be satisfied with what you have. This disappointment adds on to your already low self-esteem. In other words, it is a vicious circle.
You can take feedback in the positive way
When you have a healthy self-esteem, you are capable of taking others’ feedback in a positive way. You learn from these constructive criticisms. You try to rectify your actions based on these feedbacks. You are not threatened by the fact that somebody has an opinion about your work. This is because you are aware of your potential.
On the other hand, if you do not have a healthy self-esteem, you will not be able to take others’ feedback in a positive way. As I said earlier, people who do not value themselves enough do not know how to deal with constructive criticism. They believe that the other person is personally attacking them. Even if the feedback is genuine, you will not be able to appreciate it, if you have a very low self-esteem. This is because you do not have confidence in your talent or work. When you have enough confidence in your work, you will not be offended by the constructive criticism provided by others. On the contrary, you will be grateful for the fact that they provided valuable feedback, which will give you an opportunity to improve your skills.
You have healthy relationships with others
When you value yourself enough, you will not be envious of others. You are not offended by the fact that somebody around you is happy or in a better position than you. As I mentioned earlier, when you are an individual with high levels of self-esteem, you will be content with yourself. When you are content with what you have, you will not be miffed with what the others have around you. Your relationships with others will be a healthy one. You friends and peers will love you for your confidence. Your positive attitude and outlook makes the people around you respect you and value you. A relationship filled with mutual respect is always a healthy one.
On the other hand, when you are a person with a very low self-esteem, you will find it difficult to stay in a healthy relationship with anyone around you for the following reasons:
- Since you are not satisfied with yourself, you will never be able to appreciate the value of others in your life. When you don’t appreciate a person enough, they are not motivated to stay in your life.
- You do not have belief in your traits or talents. You always feel that you are not success material. When you see people around you succeeding, you will not be able to appreciate their success. You will, in fact, be jealous of their success. This jealousy prevents you from actually having a healthy relationship with the other person.
- You tend to look up to someone as the ideal person because you believe that you are flawed. This admiration will soon turn into an obsession and you will end up imitating the other person. If you come to know that they are flawed, you are shattered by it. At the same time, if the other person knows that you idolize them way too much, they are capable of taking advantage of your naivety.
Hence it is important that you have a healthy self-esteem to appreciate the relationships you share with others.
You make healthier life choices
When you value yourself enough, you will be concerned about your physical wellbeing as well. You give importance to your health. You make it a point to stay healthy and fit. You spend enough time exercising and engaging in other activities that help you stay fit. You think twice before spoiling your health by eating junk foods. You keep a tab on your dietary habits at all times to ensure that you don’t consume anything unhealthy. Similarly, you will not let your stress or work load affect your mental health. You try to keep yourself calm and serene at all times. You pay a lot of attention to your mental health as well. You do not let stress affect your sleep patterns. You try to sleep well almost always. Simply put, you do not let your worries consume your happiness.
On the other hand, if you do not value yourself, you will not be bothered about your physical or mental health. You do not think you are precious enough to be cared. You hardly pay attention to your health. In fact, you let it go for a toss. Apart from this, you will also have a tendency to hurt yourself for your flaws. A person with low self-esteem can go to the extreme of committing suicide because they are not happy with themselves.
You do not tolerate ill treatment
When you value yourself enough, you will not let others treat you in an ill fashion. As I mentioned earlier, a person with high self-esteem does not consider anyone as superior or inferior. This belief of yourself will not let anyone get away with ill-treating you.
On the other hand, when you don’t value yourself enough, you believe that you deserved to be treated in an ill fashion. You think that these punishments are a means to correct your flaws. This attitude of yours lets everybody take advantage of your vulnerable state.
You will not waste your energy
When you are a person with very low self-esteem, you are forever trying to please others. When you come to know that you have displeased anyone, you will try to gain their forgiveness and try to get back into their good books. In other words, most of your time and energy is spent on penance. Similarly, when you are met with a problem, instead of trying to solve it, you spend your energy crying over it. You keep apologizing to the people affected by the problem when you could have set things right by actually solving the problem.
On the other hand, when you are a person with high levels of self-esteem, you will not waste your energy regretting. When faced with a situation, you will spend your time and energy trying to fix the problem instead of moping over it. Similarly, if you come to know that you have offended someone, you will try to reason with them and apologize. If the other person is not willing to have a civilized conversation, you will not bend backwards to please anyone.
These are some of the important benefits of having a healthy self-esteem.
The Effects of having a Low Self Esteem
Low self-esteem is an issue that can affect us at every stage of our lives. There are several examples around us where children, teenagers and adults have all struggled to cope with the repercussions of their low self-esteem. This negative personality trait should be taken seriously and efforts should be made to counteract this problem as much as possible. In order to understand the extent of the damages caused by low self-esteem, let us see how it affects our lives as children, teenagers and adults.
Low Self Esteem in Children
Having a healthy childhood both physically as well as mentally is very important. The foundation that is built in your early years should be strong and provide a solid foundation for your growth all through your life. Therefore it is important to realize the impact of low self-esteem on children.
As we discussed above, having low self-confidence breeds negative traits of anxiety, fear, self-doubt, depression and other diverse effects that can be crippling for a child’s mental growth. Studies have revealed that a child with low self-confidence struggles to cope with his/her studies. They become socially reclusive and struggle to make any real friends in school. They struggle to perform tasks that require teamwork such as sports. These children rarely take part in school plays and debating competitions. The cause behind such behavior can be found hidden in the subconscious of the children. Most of the time, children with low self-esteem are often publically scolded by their parents for any mistakes that they might have made in the past. Similarly, some parents shun their children from becoming overly expressive in family gatherings. This traumatic experience is registered in the subconscious mind of the child. And thus any time they are required to address an audience, for example, their subconscious remembers that it is not supposed to open up as it is a bad thing. Hence, the child struggles to find words as they panic and are left red faced.
These children might also develop obsessive-compulsive disorders as a consequence of low self-esteem. Especially those children with a disapproving father or mother. Children who are afraid of making mistakes often resort to lying in order to avoid angering their parents. This is a very bad habit to have and it destroys the credibility of a person if he/she is caught lying.
Low Self Esteem in Teenagers
In the teenage years, it is often said that a person is ruled by his/her emotions. It can be a difficult time for some as there are a lot of physical and mental changes to cope with. Hence, a person needs to be mentally strong in order to come out of this phase unscathed. Unfortunately that is not the case for everyone.
Experts suggest that adolescent girls are more vulnerable to low self-esteem issues than boys during their teen years. However this may vary from place to place. For example, in developed countries like the United States, girls may become overly concerned with their physical appearance as they are exposed to fashion magazines that contain pictures of swimsuit models and fitness celebrities. This leads them to compare their own bodies and critique their looks. This might lead to confidence issues. Their studies can also suffer as a result. Surveys have revealed that over 70% of the girls between the ages of 15-17 in the United States avoid school activities because they feel bad about their looks. Low self-esteem is also known to be the cause of increase in teenage pregnancies.
In the developing, male dominated countries like India, adolescent boys can be affected just as much as girls of their age. In such countries the number of male students is much greater than the number of female students. Hence, teenage boys with low self-esteems develop a complex about their looks. They start to doubt themselves and envy those that have a good relationship with the opposite sex. These boys often struggle to communicate with their female classmates, often feeling flustered and annoyed with themselves. These young adults might resort to the use of steroids in order to develop their bodies and appear more appealing to the opposing gender.
These are some of the major issues that plague teenagers and immensely hamper their development.
