Useful Belief E-Book

Chris Helder

• Herausgeber: John Wiley & Sons
• Kategorie: Ratgeber
• Sprache: Englisch
• Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2015

Seitenzahl: 94

Beschreibung

Positive thinking has had its time -- the new way of overcoming life's challenges is Useful Belief Useful Belief turns the "be positive" industry upside down with a fresh and modern approach to achievement. Sometimes things in life are not positive. Sometimes bad things happen to good people. If you've had a nightmare of a year, the last thing you want to hear is "Be positive!" Instead, you need an actual strategy to dig yourself out, and a truly useful guidebook to show you where to go next. This is that guidebook. Through the engaging tale of a business traveller and the three significant encounters on his journey, this book takes you on a journey of your own -- to self awareness, and an improved approach to business, parenting and relationships. You'll learn how thinking "useful" is better than thinking "positive", and you'll uncover the utility of your past, present and future challenges. You'll undergo a major shift in the way you solve your problems, and you'll learn how to navigate your way out of ambiguity and toward success. If you have challenges at work right now, just deciding to "be positive" will not fix them. Useful Belief and strategy will. This book shows you how to frame your challenges to make them surmountable, and how to formulate an action plan for getting where you need to be. * Learn a simple self-awareness strategy that turns problems into plans * Discover the truth about "truth" and the importance of "useful" * Go beyond positivity to actually fix personal and professional problems * Uncover the valuable lessons you've learned from the challenges you've overcome Everything that has ever happened to you has happened for a reason. It doesn't matter if it's true, because it's useful to believe it is true. Useful Belief leads you toward the self-awareness and strategic outlook you need to achieve personal fulfillment and professional success.

Leseprobe

USEFUL BELIEF

BECAUSE IT'S BETTERTHAN POSITIVE THINKING

CHRIS HELDER

First published in 2016 by John Wiley & Sons Australia, Ltd42 McDougall St, Milton Qld 4064Office also in Melbourne

© Helder Consulting Pty Ltd 2016

The moral rights of the author have been asserted

National Library of Australia Cataloguing-in-Publication data:

Creator:

Helder, Chris, author.

Title:

Useful Belief: Because it's better than positive thinking / Chris Helder.

ISBN:

9780730327417 (pbk.)9780730327424 (ebook)

Subjects:

Self-actualization (Psychology)Self-consciousness (Awareness)Belief change.Success.

Dewey Number:

158.1

All rights reserved. Except as permitted under the Australian Copyright Act 1968 (for example, a fair dealing for the purposes of study, research, criticism or review), no part of this book may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, communicated or transmitted in any form or by any means without prior written permission. All inquiries should be made to the publisher at the address above.

Cover design by Wiley

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Disclaimer

The material in this publication is of the nature of general comment only, and does not represent professional advice. It is not intended to provide specific guidance for particular circumstances and it should not be relied on as the basis for any decision to take action or not take action on any matter which it covers. Readers should obtain professional advice where appropriate, before making any such decision. To the maximum extent permitted by law, the author and publisher disclaim all responsibility and liability to any person, arising directly or indirectly from any person taking or not taking action based on the information in this publication.

Contents

About the author

Preface

Chapter One A useful past

Chapter Two A useful present

Chapter Three A useful future

Chapter Four From useful belief to useful action

1. Time management

2. Coding success

3. Body language

4. Being present

5. Gratitude

6. Energy

7. Taking action

Useful final thoughts

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Guide

Cover

Table of Contents

Preface

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About the author

Chris Helder is one of the most exciting speakers on the public speaking circuit in the world right now. A dynamic presenter, his highly entertaining speeches on influence have transformed how businesses communicate with their clients.

Chris has wowed more than 2000 audiences throughout Australia, New Zealand, Asia, Europe and the United States. He is a frequent TV and radio guest who talks about the power of genuine communication.

Originally from the United States, Chris graduated from Colorado State University and served two years as part of the distinguished ‘Teach for America' program, completing his teaching in Compton, California. A certified practitioner of Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP, INLPTA), Chris has synthesised his work from NLP, human typological analysis, advanced communications, motivational research and behavioural modelling.

Drawing from many different fields of research, Chris has created something simple yet powerful in his keynote talks. His combination of energy, wit, humour and tailored content ensures he relates to every audience member.

Chris Helder's previous titles include the bestseller The Ultimate Book of Influence (Wiley).

He lives in Melbourne, Australia, with his wife, Lucy, and their three boys, Jake, Billy and P.J.

Preface

I am a motivational speaker — but I really don't like that title. I think it labels me in a way that somehow makes me seem like I'm not a regular person, when the fact is I'm dealing with a lot of the same stuff that everyone else is.

From establishing an identity to building relationships, all of us are riding this thing called ‘life'. We all have to deal with the obligations that come with all kinds of commitments in many different areas — financial, business, relationship, parenting, family, friends and health.

Over the past 14 years, I have presented to more than 2000 audiences. I have been a keynote speaker, trainer, facilitator, coach and mentor to hundreds of thousands of people. I have witnessed many people spend endless energy on trying to change things they have absolutely no control over. Even if they don't want to change things, they spend a phenomenal amount of time worrying about them.

My goal in writing this book is to give people a simple tool that will help them focus on what is truly ‘useful' in making the most of their life.

I was at a Christmas party last year when a man (who seemed to have had a few drinks) approached me and said, ‘I heard you are a motivational speaker.' He snickered. ‘Why don't you say something to motivate me?'

I laughed and tried to brush it off, but he persisted. ‘No, seriously, what do you tell people? Do you tell people to be positive? Is that what you say? “Be positive”?'

I hesitated. His tone was quite aggressive. For whatever reason, he was trying to provoke a response.

‘No, I'm serious. What is your thing? Why do you get to talk to people?'

I looked at him and realised he genuinely wanted to know. I suppose what he really wanted to hear was if there was anything new or different he should know about.

‘No,' I said. ‘I don't tell people to be positive. In fact, positive thinking doesn't really work.'

He stopped for a beat. He hadn't expected that, and I could tell that I had his attention.

So I continued, ‘Imagine if you'd just had the worst year of your life and someone came up to you and said, “Hey come on man, you've had a bad year. Don't worry about it! Be positive!” How would you respond?'

‘I'd want to punch him in the face.'

‘Exactly,' I laughed. ‘You see, being positive doesn't really work. Instead, I teach something called Useful. It's an idea called Useful Belief.

‘Here's an example of how it works,' I went on. ‘If you've had the worst year of your life, you don't need me to tell you to be positive. Instead, I would say to you, “All right, you've had a really bad year. You are at ground zero. The question now is, what is the most useful thing for you to do that will take you from zero to one? What is a useful strategy that will lift you from one to three?” Being positive doesn't give you results. Useful gives you a strategy to get out of the hole and get to the next level.'

He looked at me thoughtfully through the haze of Christmas cheer. ‘I like that. Useful. That's good.'

I smiled. It's always good to win over a cynic.

This is a book about Useful. It is based on some simple, practical tools that will give you the power and a strategy to cope with your reality.

I have written the first three chapters of the book in the form of a fable, because I believe this is an effective way to communicate the power of this message. It is an idea that can be applied by every reader. We all face our own reality: this idea offers you a useful strategy for dealing with your particular situation.

Through the tale of a business traveller and three significant encounters on his journey, this book takes you on a journey of your own — to self-awareness, and an improved approach to business and relationships. You'll learn how useful is better than positive, and you'll uncover the utility of your past, present and future challenges. If you have challenges right now, just deciding to ‘be positive' will not fix them. Useful belief and strategy will. This book shows you how to frame your challenges to make them surmountable, and how to formulate an action plan to take you where you need to be.

In the final chapter I draw these ideas together and outline seven key areas in which useful belief can be transformed into useful action.

It is about empowering you and your belief systems.

Whether we are aware of it or not, we all create our own reality. We can write and rewrite our own story. It is amazing how many opportunities break through for us when we have a useful belief.

Chapter OneA useful past

I was waiting for my coffee. They had said they would call my name when it was ready. I was tempted to check my phone — not for anything in particular, but just because that's what I do. That's what we all do. Just stare at our phones. I might look at Facebook, check email, maybe Twitter. Just flick through stuff. Then they called my name.

‘Simon?'

‘Thank you.' I took the coffee. I had ordered a skinny latte — with two sugars, which obviously kills the ‘skinny'. I'm not even sure why I ordered the latte, as the milk bloats me. I should've ordered a long black with no sugar. I would have felt better if I'd done that. The long black tastes terrible, though.

The truth is I was stressed. Random thoughts were spinning through my head. I had been grumpy and very anxious lately. I guess it had been a busy time, at work and in my life. I had been asked to fly from my home in Melbourne to present at our software conference in Barcelona. While I was happy to do it, that's a long way to go to make a presentation. Seemed like something I could have done from my computer. But it was our global conference, and I was pitching the results of the Australasian team — and, after all, it was Barcelona!

It was then that I heard a familiar voice behind me.

I turned around to see two women deeply immersed in conversation. It took me a moment to take in the scene and to recognise Sarah, whom I had gone to high school with many years ago.

‘Well hello stranger!' she said when she noticed me. ‘Simon, how are you? It's great to see you!'

‘You too,' I replied. She was smiling. Her eyes struck me immediately. They always had. Bright. Blue. Awake. ‘Sorry, I didn't mean to eavesdrop. I just heard a voice I knew. This is a definite blast from the past.'