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- Herausgeber: John Wiley & Sons
- Kategorie: Ratgeber
- Sprache: Englisch
- Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2012
The bestselling wedding planning guide--now updated! Congratulations, you're planning a wedding! Besides obtaining a fancy tuxedo and a stunning gown, organizing a wedding ceremony takes creativity, planning, and diplomacy. The whole ordeal can seem overwhelming at first, but with lots of guidance, you'll plan a wedding people will remember for ages. Wedding Planning For Dummies demystifies and simplifies all the details that go into the Big Day, providing inspiration and innovative ideas to personalize your wedding celebration and, of course, make it fun for everyone--especially you! Expert wedding planner Marcy Blum walks you step-by-step through everything you'll encounter as you plan your wedding, from choosing a reception site to picking a photographer--and everything in between. * 20% new and updated content * Keep track of expenses with a wedding budget * Negotiate contracts and surf online for wedding deals * Get those pesky financial technicalities out of the way * Plan a weekend wedding, a themed wedding, same sex wedding, and other celebrations * Plan for various wedding customs and rites * Throw a great reception with music, food, drink, and cake * The 4-1-1 on the latest and greatest trends in wedding registries, rings, photos, and the honeymoon Packed with tips for saving money and common kitsch you should avoid, this is the ultimate guide to satisfying everyone on the Big Day--while making all of your fairytale dreams come true.
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Wedding Planning For Dummies®, 3rd Edition
by Marcy Blum
Wedding Planning For Dummies®, 3rd Edition
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ISBN 978-1-118-36035-4 (pbk); ISBN 978-1-118-43567-0 (ebk); ISBN 978-1-118-43568-7 (ebk); ISBN 978-1-118-43569-4 (ebk)
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About the Author
Marcy Blum has been creating wonderful, memorable, magical weddings for 27 years. Her sane and humorous approach to entertaining in general and weddings in particular has made her a nationally sought-out wedding and party planner. Marcy is credited with being among the first to offer couples elegant, fun, and stylish alternatives to the cookie-cutter wedding. In addition to her work as an “eventiste,” Marcy is also a sought-after speaker and consultant for businesses in the wedding and special-event field. She has been a guest on The Oprah Winfrey Show, The Today Show, and The Nate Berkus Show and was a contributing editor for Modern Bride magazine. She has also been a guest on several wedding shows in Japan but has no idea what was said to her.
Dedication
For Destin, who keeps me remembering what really matters.
Author’s Acknowledgments
Thanks a million to my agent, Sophia Seidner at IMG Literary, for picking up the ball and keeping it in play with such grace and tenacity. Gratitude to my shockingly smart agent Alexandra Machinist, at Janklow Nesbit, who will definitely harass me into finishing my novel soon.
Heartfelt thanks to Stacey Lutz, who was so helpful in using her ample brains to keep this on track while I was swamped with weddings. And to Lea Brumage, who attends to so much of our business so I can get some writing done.
Thanks also to my project editor, Alissa Schwipps, for staying several steps ahead of me and being such a sweetheart. Thanks for the expertise of my friend Terry DeRoy Gruber in helping me sort out how photography has changed since the last edition.
This is the first edition of Wedding Planning For Dummies that was written without my friend and co-author, Laura Fisher Kaiser, whose other writing projects are keeping her quite busy these days. It’s fun to note that her own nuptials (to “the most wonderful man in the world,” according to fact checkers) were planned chapter by chapter — and quite successfully — as we collaborated on the first edition. I’m sure that all her logistical wedding know-how is coming in handy for her blog, Secret Science Geek, not to mention her forthcoming book, a history of leprosy. (You read that right; even I can’t make this stuff up.)
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Introduction
A wedding, whether it’s a quiet civil ceremony in a judge’s chamber or a pull-out-all-the-stops extravaganza, requires equal parts creativity, planning, diplomacy, and nerve. Often, what should be a joyously happy time in one’s life is looked back on as one long stress test. Keep calm, carry on, and start reading.
The mission of Wedding Planning For Dummies, 3rd Edition, is to demystify and simplify myriad details that go into the Big Day, inspire you with wonderfully innovative ideas to personalize your wedding celebration, instill confidence in you to bring off a memorable ceremony and reception (no matter what your budget or wedding style), educate you on all the new tools you can use to help you, and hopefully enable you to have some fun while doing it.
About This Book
Wedding Planning For Dummies, 3rd Edition, isn’t just for brides. Because a wedding (not to mention a marriage) is a joint venture, I recommend that the couple participate equally in its creation. I’ve also noted from the feedback on previous editions that Wedding Planning For Dummies has been an invaluable reference tool for mothers and fathers of brides and grooms, as well as friends helping out with a wedding, and that truly delights me. Whatever your role is, if you’ve done zero planning, I’ll get you up and running. No matter what stage you’re in, however, I won’t make you go back and start over because you’ve done something wrong. Generally speaking, no single right way exists. Whatever makes the bride and groom happy is the right way for their particular wedding.
I’ve organized this book to make planning your wedding as stress-free and logical as possible. Having been a professional wedding and party planner for more than 27 years, I know just what it takes to produce a happy, hassle-free day. I’ve built a career of escorting couples through the exhilarating, step-by-step process of creating a joyous wedding that expresses their personal style and commitment.
Packed with wit and wedding know-how, Wedding Planning For Dummies, 3rd Edition, helps you figure out your own wedding style and guides you through each stage of the planning process. What size wedding is right for you and your budget? Where is the best place to have the ceremony and reception? How can you make sure everybody will show up at the church on time? How can you save money without looking cheap or completely sacrificing style? Whatever the wedding-related issue, the answer is here in an easy-to-use reference.
Each chapter is divided into sections, and each section contains useful information, such as
Advice on setting up a budget and sticking to it
Tips for evaluating prospective venues for the ceremony and reception, whether for a local or destination wedding
Thoughtful ways to make guests feel welcome
Ideas for creating memorable menus, music playlists, and party favors
Info on how to keep your wedding day running smoothly by creating a no-surprises schedule
Although some wedding guides love to dictate timelines about when to do what, I find that contrived deadlines produce more anxiety than efficiency. A wedding can be two years or two months in the making. Rather than lay out a strict protocol or chronology, I’ve organized this book according to what makes sense for real brides and grooms, for many of whom the demands of work, school, or family leave little time for wedding planning. I say: Let your priorities determine the timing for everything from setting the date to ducking out for the honeymoon.
The great part about this book is that you decide where to start and what to read. It’s a reference you can jump into and out of at will. Just head to the table of contents or index to find the information you want.
Conventions Used in This Book
To help you navigate through this book, I’ve set up a few conventions:
I use italic text for emphasis and to highlight new words or terms that I define.
I use boldfaced text to indicate the keywords of bulleted lists and the action part of specific steps.
I use monofont for website addresses.
Foolish Assumptions
Every book is written with a particular reader in mind, and this one is no different. As I wrote Wedding Planning For Dummies, 3rd Edition, I made a few assumptions about you:
You’re a newly engaged couple (or someone helping a newly engaged couple), and you’ve just begun really thinking about the kind of ceremony and reception you want to have.
You haven’t had much experience with planning weddings or even large parties, and yet you know you don’t want a cookie-cutter wedding.
You want basic information — tips from the pros — but you don’t want to be bombarded with minutiae.
No matter what size your budget, you’re starting to feel panicky, wondering just how much the wedding of your dreams is going to cost — and how you’re going to afford it.
I can’t tell you what kind of wedding to have — that decision is completely up to you. But I can tell you how to make the most of your resources and budget. I realize that you want to know not only the traditional ways of celebrating your big day but also, in some cases, innovative ways to tweak the official rites and rituals. I can help you figure all that out. And, dare I say, make the process fun.
How This Book Is Organized
You have to plan so many aspects of a wedding simultaneously that picking a starting point is a difficult task — one of the reasons I’m not a fan of dogmatic timelines. I set up this book in a way that I think makes sense: big-picture visualization and budget matters upfront — plus the all-important question of where to hold the wedding — followed by party-planning strategies (invitations, weekend/destination weddings, scheduling, pre- and postwedding events, and flowers), ceremony details, reception matters, and such miscellaneous topics as registries, attire, rings, photos, and the honeymoon.
Part I: First Things First
These initial chapters hit some of the biggest concerns upfront. Chapter 1 explains what happens from the moment someone proposes, providing a logical, step-by-step process to making your dream wedding fit your reality. In Chapter 2, I focus on the financial picture. I help you keep track of expenses with a wedding-budget spreadsheet and provide valuable tips on tipping, negotiating contracts, and surfing for deals online. Chapter 3 gets all those legal and financial technicalities out of the way, from blood tests to prenuptial agreements.
Part II: Be Our Guest
This part covers many aspects of planning the event and providing hospitality, starting with finding the perfect venue for your celebration, which I help you do in Chapter 4. Then, in Chapter 5, you start thinking about invitations, from formal to creative, do-it-yourself styles. Chapter 6 tells you how to plan the increasingly popular weekend wedding. Chapter 7 alone is worth double the price of this book, as it reveals how to design a comprehensive schedule for a snag-free wedding day. In Chapter 8, I cover other kinds of celebrations, from theme weddings to encore weddings, as well as showers, rehearsal dinners, and morning-after brunches.
Part III: Ceremony Survival Guide
The pivotal moment of all weddings is the ceremony, and in this part I detail how to make yours as special as possible.
In Chapter 9, I help you select the wedding party and explain what you can and can’t expect of them. In Chapter 10, I get to the emotional center of a wedding — the ceremony — with clear explanations of various customs and rites, helping you determine the service sequence, suitable vows, and meaningful readings. I also give examples of wedding programs — a lovely guide and memento for the day. In Chapter 11, the subject is roses and whatever else your nose and eyes desire. I explain how to work with a florist to get the decorative effect you want for both the ceremony and the reception. Ceremony music is so important that I devote all of Chapter 12 to it, from choosing the songs you like to finding the right musicians to play them.
Part IV: A Rousing Reception
This part focuses on the reception, helping you decide what to serve, what to wash it down with, how to decorate, whom to hire, and what to listen to throughout.
Chapter 13is devoted to the element that sets the tone perhaps more than anything else: the music. I include a primer on putting together a winning playlist of favorite songs for the band or DJ. Then, on to my favorite subject — food! — in Chapter 14, where I help you determine the style and scope of the nuptial feast, among other tasty topics. In Chapter 15, I order up a round of advice on what to serve in the beverage department. The wedding cake requires a chapter unto itself, hence Chapter 16. Chapter 17 focuses on making everything look stunning — décor, lighting, and tables.
Part V: Gifts, Garb, Pics, and Trips
In this part, I examine several key aspects of getting married — before, during, and after the wedding.
Chapter 18 covers gifts and registries. Then, on to Chapter 19 for choosing a bridal ensemble. You won’t be fully dressed without a ring, so Chapter 20brings you into the loop on wedding bands, diamonds, and engagement rings. In Chapter 21, I help you hire the right photo and video professionals. Finally, that hard-earned honeymoon requires planning, too, and in Chapter 22 I arrange the particulars of a blissful getaway.
Part VI: The Part of Tens
A favorite among For Dummies fans, this part rounds up critical information for quick reference.
In Chapter 23, I offer you some tricks to staying on budget (whatever your budget is). Chapter 24 lists some tacky trends that I implore you to avoid.
Icons Used in This Book
Icons are the nifty little pictures in the margin of this book. They each grab your attention for a different reason:
Contrary to what some fools think, even in a “traditional” heterosexual partnership, the bride and groom should be responsible for pulling the wedding together. Of course, a natural delineation of duties may occur, but some decisions require input from both parties. These entwined wedding rings signal a matter on which you should consult each other.
Yes, I realize that your Aunt Myrtle graduated with honors from the TJTWID (That’s Just The Way It’s Done) Etiquette Academy, but I’m here to tell you that times have changed, and so have certain ironclad rules of decorum. When you see this icon, expect either an alternative way for handling a sticky wedding situation or simply a heads-up on a modern approach to making everyone feel comfortable.
Although I don’t advocate being a slave to calendars and endless to-do lists, every now and then a timely reminder or heads-up is in order. When you see this symbol, adjust your personal wedding timetable accordingly.
No matter the budget, anyone planning a wedding wants to get the most bang for the buck. This symbol means I’m about to impart vital information regarding a practical money matter. Although many times I tell you how to save money, I just as often explain why pinching pennies in a particular area may not be wise. I also use this icon to flag information that may save you precious time.
Weddings, like life, can be unpredictable, but you can easily avoid certain mistakes, pitfalls, and tacky traps if you know what to look for. Defuse these little bombs before they explode.
Where to Go from Here
You may find that you need to fast-forward to the reception chapters because the space you want gets booked a year in advance. No problem. This isn’t a Stephen King novel — you can jump around all you want without missing any major plot twists. Check out the table of contents to find a topic that suits your fancy.
If you’re just getting started, you may as well turn to Part I. Chapter 1 starts you off easy. Before you know it, you’ll be planning like a pro.
Part I
First Things First
In this part . . .
Congratulations on your engagement! Now it’s time to get down to business. These first three chapters help you organize a game plan that will carry you through the whole wedding-planning process. First, you need to figure out what kind of wedding you want, whom to invite, and how to pay for it. I help you create a realistic budget and stick to it. I provide valuable tips on negotiating contracts and tipping, and I give you a heads-up on new smartphone apps to assist you. I also include information on getting your marriage license, changing your name, and considering a prenuptial agreement, all aspects of your planning that are best to figure out early on.
Chapter 1
First Steps to a Wedding to Remember
In This Chapter
Starting the planning for your big day
Considering the help of a wedding consultant
You came home once to find that his black cat had redecorated your white living room, and instead of pitching a fit, you thought it was hilarious. He not only wasn’t embarrassed but also found it endearing the night you became violently ill on margaritas at your firm’s Christmas party. This must be it then, you both realize — true love. And what comes next is the big step.
In this chapter I guide you through the beginning of the wedding-planning process. I also help you decide whether to hire a professional wedding planner or do things on your own (hint: I favor hiring a planner).
The “Ize” Have It
In spite of what you’ve heard, the time between your engagement and your marriage need not go down in the annals of your relationship as the Dark Ages. What follows is a series of “exercIZEs” to kick off your wedding planning and set you on the right track to pulling off the wedding of your dreams. As you familarIZE, fantasIZE, prioritIZE, and so on, the goal is to figure out what’s important to both of you and to achieve your vision with as little acrimony and heartburn as possible. Okay — I admit this IZE thing is corny, but it really works.
Familiarize: Spreading the news
After you and your beloved decide to get married, I recommend that you demonstrate respect and courtesy by telling your parents first. This isn’t the time, however, to ask them to foot the bill. Give them oxygen. Let them bask in the glow a bit. (If there’s no glow in sight, proceed directly to Chapter 22 and start planning your honeymoon — it may be time to elope.)
Lesen Sie weiter in der vollständigen Ausgabe!
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