A Woman's Guide To Personality Development E-Book

Seema Gupta

• Herausgeber: V&S Publishers
• Kategorie: Ratgeber
• Sprache: Englisch

Seitenzahl: 85

Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2018

Beschreibung

An effective self-grooming guide for woman

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© Copyright: ISBN 978-935-05731-3-6Edition: April 2011

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Dedicated to

My MotherThe Late Mrs Savitri GoyalAn Epitome of Perfectionandto all those who wish to explorethe World of Self-confidence and Perfection

Acknowledgements

Thanks to my friend Rima Sehgal, a renowned psychologist, for her useful suggestions in compiling the Question and Answer sections.

To my husband, AK Gupta – for being my pillar of strength, throughout.

To my daughter, Aashima – for her undying faith and support. Her expertise in computer processing has also been of immense help.

Contents

I am a Woman

My Personality

I Wear My Attitude

Are You an Introvert or Extrovert?

Making Adjustments in Life

I am a Rational Person

My Trousseau

My Career

Fighting Stress

Cool that Anger

My Sensitivity

My Self-esteem

My Perception: Optimism/Pessimism

Am I a Loner?

Take it Easy

I Exude Warmth and Understanding

My Body Language

Psychological Growth and Self-actualisation

My Learning Experience

My Emotional Aptitude

Nagging Anxieties

God is My Guru

The Joy of Living

Weaving Dreams

I’m a Romantic

My Words Reveal My Inner Self

My Drawbacks and Guilt Quotient

My Charm, Poise and Grace

My Strengths, My Relationships

The Desire to Prove Myself

My Fears and Phobias

Perfection Personified

25 Tips for the Final Touches

The Portrait of a Perfect Woman

Preface

“She sings like the windShe laughs like a riverShe sleeps like a fower…”

When God created the Universe, He created Adam. When Adam felt lonely, God took one of Adam’s ribs and turned it into Eve. God created both Adam and Eve with equal love and perfection. But Adam thought that since Eve had been created from one of his ribs, she was inferior to him in every way. What he did not realise was that he was a step behind Eve. While Eve was a perfect creation of God, it was Adam who was a rib away from perfection!

A woman is delicate and sensitive by nature. On the other hand, man is strong and impassive. There is no denying that physically a man is stronger than a woman and we all know that ‘The mighty hold the reins’ – which holds true even today. So in this man’s world, a woman has to carve a niche for herself in every walk of life.

We talk of equality and women’s liberation, but are we really there? To create a place for herself a woman has to slog and make many sacrifices. The poise and grace of a suave woman can take her places. She can be charming, endearing and sweetness personified. All she needs to do is develop all these positive qualities that are hidden beneath her shy demeanour.

This book is here to help you develop a charming personality, keeping in mind both traditional as well as modern values. After reading this book you should be able to slip into the role of today’s Perfect Woman with ease. This book will boost your confidence and turn you into a successful and Perfect Woman who is in perfect harmony with different phases of life.

This Perfect Woman fears nothing and enjoys everything in life through successes and achievements in all her endeavours.

I am a Woman

Am I a child or an adultNo, not one or the other nowOne pace in front of childhoodAnd one behind an adultSoon I shall stride into a new world…The world of adult life.

—Margaret Lawrence

Being a woman is a beautiful feeling. A woman is God’s most enchanting creation. Be it the paintings of the Ajanta and Ellora caves or the sculptures of the Konark and Khajuraho temples, Kalidas’ Shakuntala in Abhigyan Shakuntalam or the Juliet of Shakespeare, the touch of a woman has turned them all into immortal creations.

Women are tender and their character can be portrayed vividly and beautifully in various artistic styles. This world is incomplete without a woman’s touch. All creations of art appear dull and empty without the presence of female characters.

A woman’s journey is a long one. From childhood to teenage to adulthood, a woman passes through so many phases in life with such ease and expertise that it is truly astonishing.

We have all grown with the times and acquired a personal self-image. Our self-image is made up of many self-perceptions acquired during our formative years of growth. The people who play a significant role in our lives and become our role models mostly influence this self-image. The opinions of our parents, peer group and near and dear ones help in formulating our aspirations, ideals and values. If their demands are unrealistic and increasingly cumbersome, we may tend to suffer from a low opinion of our self. But if and when we are unable to live up to our ideal self, or when our aspirations and others’ expectations prove to be excessive or unrealistic, it is more appropriate for us to modify our ideal self as a way of furthering our self-esteem.

It is also necessary to check on your own level of growth. To check on your perceptions, answer the following questionnaire, which is an exercise to measure the balance between your self-image and your real self.

Scoring Procedure

Here are 10 items that represent your self-image. Make two separate columns, one for self-image and the other for an ideal image.

Write the score for the self-image (that is, what you actually are) in the Self-image column. Then answer this questionnaire once again and, in the Ideal Image column, write down what people expected of you. Consult the scoring key at the end of the questionnaire.

1. I am a self-centred person.a. Neverb. Sometimesc. Always

2. I need to be assured. I have a strong need for approval time and again.a. Neverb. Sometimesc. Always

3. I take life too easy.a. Neverb. Sometimesc. Always

4. I am over-anxious. My anxiety hampers my growth.a. Neverb. Sometimesc. Always

5. I consider myself superior to others.a. Neverb. Sometimesc. Always

6. I don’t mind being dishonest (like accepting and giving bribes). I believe in moving with the fow.a. Neverb. Sometimesc. Always

7. I don’t mind exploiting the female status to my advantage.a. Neverb. Sometimesc. Always

8. I am tongue-tied in a group.a. Neverb. Sometimesc. Always

9. I am over-ambitious.a. Neverb. Sometimesc. Always

10. Everyone dislikes me because they feel I come on too strongly.a. Neverb. Sometimesc. Always

Scoring Key

For every question you answered ‘a’, give yourself 5 points. For every question you answered ‘b’, give yourself 2 points. And for every ‘c’ answer, give yourself 0 points.

After you have awarded marks in both columns, add them up in each column separately. What you have before you is your real self-image and your ideal image. Now find out the difference between the sums of the two columns. This difference is the deciding factor as to how far you have been able to achieve what was expected of you in life.

Interpretation

Score in each column

Between 30 and 50 marks: An ideal score. You have great values in life. Although you may be an idealistic person, you have your feet firmly planted on the ground.

Between 10 and 30 marks: Your values in life are certainly different from the usual norms. But you are a practical person. And a practical person never loses any battle in life.

Between 0 and 10 marks: You are here for all the wrong reasons! You need to do a thorough overhaul of all the traits you have acquired over the years.

Score for the difference in both the columns’ sums

Score – 30 and above: It indicates a low correspondence between your self-image and an ideal image. High ideals were expected of you, naturally. Unfortunately, you could not fulfil them. However, a high score difference in your real image and ideal image does not necessarily mean that you have problems. It only indicates that people around you need to be more realistic.

Score – below 30: It indicates a high correspondence balance between your self-image and ideal image. This indicates that you are living an idealistic life and have groomed yourself in ways that others appreciate. You have all the qualities of adjustment and will grow manifold in life.

My Personality

Sometimes you find yourself in tricky situations so different from everyday life. At such times, you are at a loss and cannot decide on what course of action to take. In such situations, your personality plays an important role in handling them.

Most of the time, our thoughts, actions and motives are governed by our subconscious. So we may not always be aware of the reason behind our own behaviour. But a reasonably secure conscious mind leads to a confident and emotionally secure personality. This security gives us a level of confidence and decisiveness that leads to a healthy and charming personality.

Take a bird’s-eye view of your personality, your self-confidence, decisiveness and determination through the following questionnaire and gain an understanding of the hidden features of your behaviour and personality. To gauge your own level of confidence and sense of security, answer each question with either ‘a’ or ‘b’ and discover the hidden facts about your personality.