Accepting and letting go E-Book

Primin Lötscher

• Herausgeber: Giger Verlag
• Kategorie: Ratgeber
• Sprache: Englisch

Seitenzahl: 226

Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2022

Beschreibung

Due to a long lasting illness the author involved himself at a young age with the fundamental questions of the purpose of life, where we come from and where we are going. With a deep understanding for the spiritual world and it's connections to life, he began to write his first moving book. Here, the author describes how to, with inner balance, lead a fullfilled life. "In the moment of acceptance and letting go, we experience absolute and unconditional love. It is the foundation and expression of creation, being, and the harmonious self". With a variety of examples and exercises Pirmin Loetscher simply and effortlessly leads the reader to an examination of their own personality, the meaning of life, dealing with fear and doubt, and to find real answers for thier lives.

Leseprobe

Pirmin Loetscher

ACCEPTING AND

LETTING GO

Pirmin Loetscher

ACCEPTING AND LETTING GO

Finding Fulfillment

Through Inner Balance

English translation

by G. Maximilian Knauer

Giger Verlag

This book was first published in German 2013 under the title:

Meine Erde by Literaron Verlag, Munich.

New edition 2015 under the title Annehmen und Loslassen

by Giger Verlag, Altendorf Switzerland.

1st English edition 2015

© Giger Verlag, CH-8852 Altendorf

Tel. [phone]

www.gigerverlag.ch

Cover: Hauptmann & Kompanie, Zurich, Switzerland

Layout: Roland Poferl Print-Design, Cologne, Germany

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ISBN 978-3-905958-81-3

Content

How it Starts

Moment

My First Moments

Harmonious Self or Ego?

How I Developed My Imbalance

First Steps Back to Balance

Simple Exercises for Being in The Moment

Consciously Experiencing The Moment in Everyday Life

Accepting and Letting Go

My Body and My Outward Appearance

Expressing One’s Personality

The Expression of Our Personality Through Our Profession

The False Self-Image

The Behavioral Patterns

Let Go of Wasting Energy

Doubt and Fear

Death

Unconditional Love

Unconditional Self-Love

Unconditional Love of the Neighbor

Unconditional Love for One’s Partner

Unconditional Love for The Family

Unconditional Love for Objects and Ideas

Your World

Acknowledgments

About the Author

How it Starts

It can’t be a coincidence that underneath this stout tree there is a massive wooden table covered with a cerulean table-cloth, which is neatly spread day in and day out by Daniel, the head of our house. We may be six people spending our holidays here, but there are only two chairs standing at the table; one at the long side, facing the open vista and the water, while the shorter, left side of the table is placed at such an angle that from there you can observe the other seat and the tree under which the table is standing. If the two chairs were placed across from each other, this would necessitate a dialogue but in this manner, with the second chair being placed to the side, I feel that someone is standing – or rather sitting – by my side.

I have been seeing this arrangement for two weeks, but only became conscious of it in this very moment. I have always imagined that writing a book would be like that. It has always been a desire of mine and I knew there would be a day when I would start, far from the hubbub of everyday life, nurtured by nature, by the strength of a tree and close to the water. I know, these are many desires all at once but I think that’s the way it should be.

For years, there has been something seething within myself, something constantly telling me, “Go ahead, start writing!” For years I have been postponing the starting shot with lame excuses, but now the situation which I subconsciously imagined so strongly is at hand, the situation which I just have to face. You can’t just project these ideals of being a typical writer out into the universe for years and then pretend that nothing happened once you get the huge tree at the water and the table. “Hey, Pirmin, this is your earth and you have created it for yourself.”

So I start writing and am already beginning to feel during the first lines how fulfilled I am by finally doing this. I can feel myself opening up, letting go, and everything else is losing importance. There used to be things which always seemed to be more urgent, things which I had to keep under control, things I wanted to deal with by reason. My head with its constant thinking always found a reason to postpone writing this book.“Just let me write this email, then I’ll start …” How often have I told myself lines like this without ever starting to write? Somehow I put up a resistance until my ideal became reality and I grasped it within one moment.

Now that I have become aware of it, it’s crying out within me to finally let it all out and put it down on paper. The fact that there is a second chair at the table is not surprising to me at all. I know I won’t be writing this book alone, Dani will be writing it with me. Throughout all our lives we have been connected on a very special level and since he also wanted to write this book but didn’t have enough time left to do it, he has decided to whisper these lines to me. I may not be able to hear him but I do understand him. It is just as in a merely human relationship. Quite often people don’t need to speak at all and still understand each other. That’s the way things are between Dani and myself. Fortunately, I don’t hear the voices of the dead, but I comprehend what they tell me and that’s how I am able to understand Dani. Sounds crazy, doesn’t it? But it isn’t. Believe me when I say that for a long time, only those things which I could see or touch were real to me. Some profound experiences in my life by now have disabused and helped me to let go of these rigid thought-patterns. That’s how I learned to listen whenever Dani wants to tell me something. Every person has this ability and with just a little training we all can learn to listen once again.

But more on that later, after all I don’t want you to throw this book into a corner or to get the desire to burn it at the stake! But if you do, please try to make it a nice fire, then at least the paper wasn’t produced in vain. If you should decide to read on though, it might be best if you just become reconciled to the fact that certain things I will be describing may not be to the liking of your reason and it may try to baulk. But this is normal, for many of these lines haven’t been written through the use of reason and therefore may be unfamiliar, maybe even terrifying. So give your reason time to become able to accept these things, sometimes things which have been laid down in words make sense only in hindsight. But there is no pressure, time works in our favour.

But before I can further confuse you, let’s go back to Dani for a moment. He will help me with this book, sometimes a little more, sometimes a little less. He doesn’t take himself that seriously after all and makes about as many silly jokes as me. Sometimes we really have to get ourselves in check, but with lots of assiduity and fun we have made it through together. Th erefore this book is also his book, so if you don’t like what you read here, please don’t blame me exclusively, Dani has been part of it from the start.

With everything that follows I will use first person perspective for the sake of reading flow. I won’t write “Dani and I” but when I say “I,” I mean us both. Furthermore, I will address you directly, like “you should” or “if you do this, it will help you!” Primarily, this serves the flow of reading, for if I were to write every time,“you have the opportunity to try this for yourself,” the book will become unnecessarily long and I don’t want to bore you or force anything on you. Much rather, it is advice for a possible attempt. In the end, you have your own earth and it is your responsibility what you will do with it. Also, for the sake of the reading flow, I am using only the male form which is not supposed to mean that I would want to exclude women from this book. I love women and was born on Women’s Day.

Before I go for it in earnest, I would like to acquaint you with the most important point of this foreword. I am neither enlightened nor a saint, nor do I believe myself to be better than you. I am worse at tennis than Roger Federer and my calculating skills are lower than those of Albert Einstein. My grades in school were never above average, I am lazy when it comes to theories and I am trying not to disappoint society, but do not always succeed.

I was born under the sign of Pisces, ascendent Aries, am extremely libertarian and will always try to break free if someone tries to hold me down. Sometimes I throw long parties and drink alcohol. I have tried different kinds of mind-altering substances and had sex with various women when I was younger, even though I had a steady partner. Last but not least: I have tattoos on different parts of my body even though I am not a pirate, so you could say that I am not your ideal son-in-law.

What else in me could be judged by the rules of society? I am sure there are quite a few things, but it’s my life and I love it. I am a completely normal young man, so I firmly claim, who wants to show you with reference to his experiences that you are the creator of your own world at all times. The great part about it is this: you don’t have to turn your life upside down or plan a trip to a highly spiritual country to make that happen. No, in fact it is beginning right now, in this very moment and all you have to do is become aware of it. Or, to put it differently: you neither have to wait for a spiritual shift of consciousness nor for a savior. No, it’s up to you, right now, to become once again the conscious creator of your own world using a few practical tricks.

What makes this book such a practical tool is, among other things, the fact that you don’t have to study or go through some sort of training to make use of its content. Everything I’ll write is basically old news and neither challenging nor novel for you. For anything you will read on the pages to come you already know, the knowledge of these things is already inside you. It has, so to speak, been put into your backpack at your birth. But over the last few years your backpack has been filled with several other things which seem to be more important than your creative knowledge and therefore superimpose over it. Now we have to go to the very bottom again to dredge it back up. Piece of cake, don’t you think? I have subdivided the book into three parts to structure the content. The division, though, was only made to facilitate the comprehension of the content. Be aware that all the topics are connected when you read it.

One more thing: I don’t presuppose that my knowledge and the words I write are relevant for everyone. But I can assure you that I have put down everything in all conscience, speaking from my personal life experience in interacting with people. I don’t rely on theories which I can’t experience myself. There are dozens of other books by now, dealing with these topics and describing them. That’s why I want to state clearly that I am conveying my life experience here and drawing my own conclusions, free from religions or communities of faith. It is well possible that you have heard about some of the theories in this book from other books, films or lectures. As I said, this knowledge is inside all of us but everyone is giving different accounts of it; you will be able to find parallels, for these are the laws of creation. Therefore, Dani didn’t feed me spiritual secrets from the afterlife but helped me to structure everything going on in my head, to put it down on paper and see things differently than I was used to.

It is always up to you what you’ll do with the content of this book. I definitely don’t want to give you the impression that I found the solution to every problem and everyone should now conform to it. Each person has their own perception of things and makes their own experiences but I am convinced – and this is the very reason I am writing this book – that each man should share his knowledge and in this way enable others to profit from it, at least from the parts they find useful. Each self-appointed master, guru or other demigod should do this, in my opinion, since creative knowledge isn’t meant exclusively for the highest ranks of masters but for every master like you and me, never perfect but perfect still. And by the way, this book isn’t perfect either, I continue to live my life and make further experiences. But one thing is sure as hell: you and I will never reach our goal since we’re already there in this very moment!

This book will be the most honest thing I can give you. I cannot do more. A pinch of humor won’t be missing from its pages though, for I love life, I love human beings and I love laughing. Most of all I love laughing together with others, for this is the most beautiful expression of life.

So, here we go!

Moment

A moment exists neither in the past nor in the future.

It is the only point of our reality granting us access

to being and creation.

Moment! The word is brimming with energy. At no time, neither in the past nor the future, can we experience more truth, more purity, consciousness and connectedness with our own being and creation. If you translate “moment” from Latin, you can say foundation, influence, movement or genesis. That is why I translate moment with the term creation, for each moment is part of the creation of our being and our world. No matter if we meditate and make use of the moment of silence or create music in a moment of creativity. Being in the moment means accepting something consciously from a foundation, an influence or a movement and becoming creative. As soon as we are conscious that we sow the seeds of our future within the moment, we will handle it with care. We are born in one moment as people with a body on this earth and are connected to unlimited being. As infants, we are never sad for more than a moment, when we bump our head we cry then laugh again as soon as the pain has passed, for we receive the moment and let it go, to be able to receive again the next moment. But things don’t stay like this, at some point we begin to drift away from the moment, to identify with the past, to miss almost every moment and start to seek ourselves in the future – and the meaning of our lives along with it. But let’s start at the beginning and reach back to understand what it means to be born as a human.

The question “Who am I?” is probably one of the best known questions we can pose ourselves. With only three words we split ourselves in two parts, that is:“am” (being) and “I.” We are born from unlimited being which can also be compared to a seed. The seed already contains the complete knowledge, the potential to grow and unfold from within. In the course of our human growth, unlimited being creates our understanding and our “I” along with it, that is the second part of our question “who am I?” This happens when our understanding identifies itself with our body and creates spatial perception. From this moment, we perceive ourselves as separated from unlimited being.

Since our understanding or conscience can observe the development and change of our body, it begins to perceive events within a temporal structure. Thanks to this temporal perception, the past is created with which our limited self identifies, therewith creating our personality. As soon as we say, “This is me” (at the latest) we have identified ourselves with our personality and confirm our fictional separation. Our sense of self therefore arises through the perception of our body and through our perception of the past. Unlimited being is our primordial nature, the seed of all genesis; everything that is, is created from unlimited being. This does not only concern us human beings; when I say everything, I mean it in the literal sense of the word.

In the course of our lives we may pose the question to ourselves, “who am I?” and may begin to look for an answer. But since we perceive ourselves as separated from our body, most of the time we start looking outside ourselves. We may even strike it rich when we start out assuming that we are connected to everything, that all is one. This would mean that the inside and the outside are the same. But due to the separation created by our understanding, we are searching in the wrong places, at least far away from ourselves. The true answer, first and foremost, is within ourselves, within our unlimited being, the seed of our existence.

Everything we need to know is already within us but we have split it in two and so it can happen that both parts are overly pronounced. In most cases, this concerns the limited self. If the limited self gets overly pronounced, we become unable to consciously perceive unlimited being and sooner or later we start asking ourselves the question, “Who am I, truly?”

Our overly pronounced sense of self (or ego) can present us with quite vicious antics and badly throw us off our course every now and then, so that we are hardly able to recognize ourselves. Wanting to throw off the limited self in such a way while our body is still alive is not the right way to find the answer to our question. In this case we would lose our reason and our personality, our human perception, the physical and emotional experience of this marvelous planet. Isn’t it pointless to restrict the perception of our own limited being in order to bring human consciousness on earth back into absolute being during our human life-span? For me, this sounds like, “Hey, let’s go down to earth, the first to come back wins.”

In my experience, we are able to answer the question “Who am I” by recognizing the core of our existence and – with its help – bring balance to our ego. In this way, it becomes possible to experience a life with all the perceptions and emotions created by our limited self and still stay true to the values of unlimited being. It would be irreverent to our human experience to simply deny and repel all the skills we have developed over the past few million years.

We have created a mind and thanks to it we have recognized the beauty of limited beings like plants. Therefore, we should also be able to recognize how to responsibly handle beauty, how to lovingly nourish it instead of destroying the flower due to an unconscious way of living and an over-developed self. We are able to develop a mind which is sort of a masterpiece. But we are unable to use it in a masterful manner and use it in accordance with creation. We have set ourselves a task along with the creation of our mind and finding a solution will be easiest if we manage to balance our unlimited being and our limited self, to learn to accept and let go and in this way experience unconditional love and create everything through it.

This may have been a lot to take in at the very beginning and maybe your mind will already be rebelling because of these initial theories. Well, at least in my head there is quite a storm going on! But this first theoretical part was necessary, otherwise the following pages would be difficult to interpret. You don’t have to fully understand this theoretical bit just yet, in the course of this chapter you will find several explanations for it. I am not saying that you don’t understand it already, it’s also about defining these terms for my own use – an important task. As I said, I am writing many things that I already know but which my mind is still processing, so many things were put down that not even I understood when reading them at first.

To facilitate understanding for both of us, I will add some examples from my life to these statements. Maybe you’ll find your own examples or don’t like some definitions when it comes to my terminology and prefer to use different ones which you understand better. You are welcome to substitute the concept with different ones so things get easier for you to understand as you read. For example you can substitute “self” by the word “ego”. Just write over it with a red marker. Hey, I don’t care, it’s your book, after all.

My First Moments

Hard to believe, but I also was born as a human being within the moment, connected to unlimited being. I grew up in a nice house at the edge of a forest in a beautiful village overlooking a lake and mountains. My parents, my brother and many kind people surrounding us made me the gift of – to my eyes – a perfect childhood. We spent lots of time outside in nature or helping out at the neighbor’s farm. I was a merry child, always ready to laugh and happy with things as they were. From my perspective, we never lacked anything. I lived from moment to moment and accepted everything that happened. This included things you normally wouldn’t wish for a child. For example, I can remember bumping my head or other body parts quite a few times and several of these wounds had to be stitched up. I also broke my right shinbone once, jumping over a self-made snow ramp with skis. That was the moment that I realized I probably wouldn’t win Olympic gold in ski-jumping. I was the best in many things I did but my self wasn’t developed enough yet to make this very exciting news for me. Admittedly, the self adopts character traits quite early and easily from its genetic heredity, as well as behavioral patterns that are observed in its surroundings, but until I reached school age, this wasn’t very strongly developed within myself. Since I wasn’t surrounded by many kids until I was five years old, I played by myself or helped out at the farm next door – both things I liked immensely – I wasn’t confronted with direct rivalry at this early age. I didn’t see adults as rivals, they were grown ups, after all. Until I reached school age I hardly had any contact with material things or the concept of rivalry. My parents taught me that we live with each other, not against each other.

But when I entered school, I had to realize that there was actual rivalry going on, be it during the lesson due to the grading systems or on the schoolyard where most of the time we played soccer. I was told that I was sent there to learn everything that was necessary. I had actually been looking forward to that, since I wanted to learn and know much, if not everything. Life seemed so exciting and there was so much to discover. But no one told me that I would have to constantly measure myself against others if I embarked on this venture. Suddenly, I was no longer good enough the way I was.

It was not that I couldn’t handle the situation, but that this constant competition seemed quite unnatural to me. I wanted to learn many things, but why did I have to conform to a norm while doing so? Why would they not let me be good enough just the way I was? Why was no one nourishing my talents? Until that moment, I had been loved unconditionally, including everything I was, everything I could do and also everything I could not do. I hadn’t been loved more or less just because I had been better or worse than average. And anyway, who defines this norm? Who said that it is at all necessary? Why was love suddenly defined according to achievement?

Of course, my parents and my brother loved me anyway, even when I came home with bad grades, but I should say that the lack of unconditional love in society seemed quite alien to me. Until that point, I had only experienced unconditional love without pressure to perform. Of course, I didn’t ask these questions or have these thoughts back then, but subconsciously I assumed things had to be like this and eagerly played along. The longer I engaged in competition, the more my self cultivated the hope to regain that unconditional love which I had missed since my first encounter with this sort of rivalry. I continued to experience lots of love but it was no longer unconditional in every regard. My limited self developed and suddenly also wanted to be better than the others and own things which before had never been important to my balanced self. I wanted to be captain of the soccer team, to have a cool bike and ride a cool bob sled (even though I didn’t win Olympic gold there either,) wear designer clothes and own other things which didn’t have anything to do with my harmonious self.

A slow process set in where my limited self took over the shaping of my life more and more and I could hardly feel my true self, except for maybe some small parts of it. The constant competition and the ongoing integration into the system of our society and economy seemed to confirm my ego. Seen from the outside, after all, everything seemed to run smoothly. I accomplished the things against which society would measure me, my highly defined sense of self was satisfied over and over again in this process and grew stronger along the way. In the end, it is a great feeling to be accepted by society, to be praised by people because you meet or even surpass their standards. It provides you with the impression that you are on the way to someday regain the unconditional love you have been missing so much. That is the reason why it is so difficult to determine if the development of the harmonious self is proceeding or if there is an imbalance and the limited self is being developed too strongly for our own good. Of course we receive the right kind of recognition within our society, but quite often only if we meekly play along. An overdeveloped self can cause personality-disorders of different severity. This can manifest in small things that cease to work properly or develop into a severe psychological trauma. Excuse me, but I have to interrupt my biography for another theoretical part. I hope it won’t take long!

Harmonious Self or Ego?