Bang Like a Porn Star E-Book

Winston Gieseke

• Herausgeber: Bruno Gmünder Verlag
• Kategorie: Ratgeber
• Sprache: Englisch
• Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2019

Seitenzahl: 185

Beschreibung

You learn the piano from a music teacher. A tennis coach helps you better your serve. When you want to improve your skills in the bedroom, who do you turn to? Naturally, people who "do it" for a living. "Bang Like a Porn Star" is a comprehensive how-to on everything from hooking up to getting down and dirty. Featuring tips from some of today's hottest gay adult talent like Grabby Award–winners Rocco Steele, JJ Knight, Deviant Otter, Dallas Steele, and others, this is the book every gay man will want to read in order to learn what to do—and what not to do—when providing oral pleasure, going for gold, navigating oversized equipment, creating your own home sex video, and keeping it safe. This lavishly illustrated volume is the guide book you've been waiting for!

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Bang Like a Porn Star

Beginning his career as a television writer, Winston Gieseke penned episodes for shows like Wildfire and Hollywood Off-Ramp as well as the made-for-cable movie Romantic Comedy 101, which starred Tom Arnold and Joey Lawrence. He composed tantalizing copy for various adult entertainment companies (including Penthouse.com and Napali Video, home of “big boobs and catfights”) and served as the final editor in chief of both Men and Freshmen magazines before honing his journalistic skills as managing editor of The Advocate. He is the editor of the anthologies Indecent Exposures, Daddy Knows Best, Straight No More, Blowing Off Class, Whipping Boys, Until the Sun Rises, Out of Uniform, Hired Hands, and the Lambda Literary Award finalist Team Players.

Winston Gieseke

BANG LIKE A PORN STAR

Sex Tips From the Pros

PHOTO CREDITS

CockyBoys (CockyBoys.com): 50 / Deviant Otter (DeviantOtter.com): 20, 140, 145, 171 / Falcon (FalconStudios.com): 16, 31, 40, 45, 64, 73, 77, 80, 89, 93, 94, 106, 119, 122 –123, 127, 131, 155 / Hot House (HotHouse.com): 11, 32, 61, 66, 86, 91, 98, 133, 139 / NakedSword (NakedSword.com): 55, 79, 143 / Raging Stallion (RagingStallion.com): 12 –13, 18, 23, 28, 35, 39, 43, 49, 57 – 58, 62, 71, 82, 85, 96, 101, 105, 113, 114, 116, 121, 129, 136, 150, 159, 162, 169 / Titan Men (TitanMen.com): 15, 25, 26, 37, 46, 56, 69, 111, 125, 147, 165, 172

BANG LIKE A PORN STAR

1st edition

© 2018 Bruno Books

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Text: © Winston Gieseke

Cover photo: CockyBoys.com (Model: Boomer Banks)

Printed in Germany

ISBN 978-3-95985-382-8

Many thanks to Jim, Greg, Kay, and John for their invaluable help with research, interviews, and proofreading.

Extra special thanks to all the performers who took time to speak with me and trusted me with their stories. Without their input, this book would have been called simply Bang. Which wouldn’t have been nearly as interesting.

CONTENTS

Introduction

COME TOGETHER

I Love It When We’re Cruising Together

Life Imitating Porn

What’s Your Type?

Social Skills

Hookup Apps

Luring People In

Turn-ons and Turn-offs

Preparation

Making a Quality Experience

Webcam Sex

Hookup Etiquette

Escorts

When Bad Hookups Happen to Good People

CUM TOGETHER

Oral Pleasure

Rimming

Anal Sex

Bottoming

Bottom-Ready

What Makes a Good Bottom?

Just a Tip

Topping

Bright Red Buttons

To Wear or Not to Wear: Cock Rings

Right to Be Tight?

The Second Hole

Size Queens

The Penis Doesn’t Carry Me

Keep Your Peen Clean

Versatility

What’s In a Name?

Performance-Enhancing Drugs

Get Your Freak On

Ready for Your Cum Shot?

Rocco Me, Amadeus

CUM AGAIN

Smarter Sex

Yummy Spunk vs. Funky Spunk

I Don’t Want to Be That Guy

So You Think You're a Porn Star?

Making Videos

Fetishes

Embracing All Body Types

Toys

Toys for Boys

Public Sex

Group Sex

Best to Be the Guest

Party and Play

The Up- and Downsides of Meth

Open Relationships

Blurred Lines

CONCLUSION

Introduction

“When I was in my twenties, I didn’t know a lot. I didn’t know you had to clean out your hole to get fucked. I would watch porn—before I’d come out and started having experiences with guys—and these guys would just stick their dick in a hole, and it would be clean. I never had friends to tell me, ‘Dude, they need to douche first.’ Over time and over years of having experiences, you learn all these things.”

— Rocco Steele, 2016 Grabby winner for Hottest Top

In the days before the internet, a seemingly unfathomable era in which water was free but porn wasn’t, gay men weren’t able to learn about sex simply by exercising a few keystrokes on their laptops. Pre-Grindr and Rentboy, men couldn’t get immediate sexual gratification by browsing an online catalogue of dicks or asses and then ordering in sex the way they can today. (Yes, there were personal ads in now defunct magazines like Advocate Men, but this often involved snail mail and was far from instant.) Instead, they learned as they went, which usually involved studying and following elaborate underground procedures like putting a certain colored handkerchief in a certain back pocket of their trousers. (A dark blue handkerchief in the left pocket meant you were looking to top someone; a mustard colored one in the right meant you were seeking a guy whose cock was eight inches or more). It was quite elaborate—especially for the color blind—and the colors often varied from city to city. Misunderstandings could be wonderfully adventurous or downright disastrous. Putting the wrong color in the wrong pocket could lead to you getting fisted by a big-handed little person instead of sucking the big, fat cock you’d been craving.

Those in major cities often had underground gay bars or bathhouses to go to, but if you lived in Hicksville, the pickings were usually pretty slim. Residents of smaller towns often had to venture to known cruising spots and walk around giving furtive glances to other guys who were walking around giving furtive glances. (Generally speaking, no glance meant no interest. Who knew? Apparently sometimes people just want to go for a walk.) In the best-case scenario, you’d get lucky and find a hot and equally horny guy to play with. Other times, if you were unlucky, you might encounter someone hot and seemingly receptive only to find out he’s a cop who’s being deceptive. This usually led to a trip to the hoosegow, which presented altogether different options for man-on-man sex.

Thankfully, these sorts of hookups—as well as the “hanky code”— have for the most part gone the way of the dodo. But as a young Rocco Steele learned after his entrée into gay sexual practices via porn, there’s a lot more to homo sex than meets the little eye.

We’ve come a long way, baby. Today’s gay guys have access to much more information about what goes where and what feels good than did the closeted, pre-internet men of the 1960s and seventies, who were often reduced to having sex in the wee hours of the morning behind a bush. (These days if you want a bush, you have to fuck someone older than 40.) In addition to there being infinite options for getting your rocks off—not to mention the fact that swallowing another dude’s dong or having yours swallowed by someone’s ass is no longer punishable by law—we’re now more than ever before able to be open about our sex lives and share our experiences. This, coupled with the strides we’ve made toward legal equality and mainstream acceptance, has led to us being a very sex-positive community. Gone is the gay shame of fifty years ago. Now, being gay is so cool that even some straight guys are wanting in on the action, which has led to bromances, bro jobs, and bud-sex (which is often referred to by its participants as “relieving urges” or “helpin’ a buddy out”).

Fun fact: Gay men in 1930s London used a secret language to communicate in public without fear of arrest. Known as Polari, a variation of it was originally spoken by merchant seafarers and those who hung out in late-19th-century pubs near the city’s docks. The verb “nosh” meant to perform oral sex, anal sex required “starters” (lube), and a “randy comedown” was the urge to have sex as drugs were wearing off.

Nowadays we’re bombarded with sex, and there’s an abundance of how-to sources for every possible act. The internet has made experts of all of us. Post something, and it’s presumed to be true. For the uninitiated gay male, there are tons of websites to peruse, books to read, and podcasts to listen to. But how do you know you’re getting the right 411? Accurate information is always best obtained from a licensed professional or someone who lives and breathes the subject. Or in this case, blows the subject.

So, to whom should you go for the best information on how to fuck? How about someone who does it for a living? How about following young Rocco’s example and turning to porn stars for information— only with a twist? That’s right: Instead of watching and having to fill in the blanks yourself, we’re going right to the horse’s mouth.

It makes sense: You learn how to play the piano from a music teacher. A tennis coach helps you better your serve. When you want to improve your skills in the bedroom … or in the darkroom … or at the truck stop … why not turn to the pros—people like Rocco Steele, Tim Kruger, Conner Habib, Boomer Banks, Adam Killian? These are the guys you enjoy watching and wish you could get naked with. These are the guys who have sex the way you want to have sex. Who better to inform you?

This book is a how-to guide on everything from hooking up to getting down and dirty—not to mention keeping it safe—as told by some of today’s hottest gay adult talent. Direct from the mouths—or the cocks, holes, or armpits, whatever the case may be—of these “experts” comes advice on what to do and what not to do when providing oral pleasure, going for gold, navigating oversized equipment, creating your own home sex video, and more.

The porn stars quoted throughout this book are your guides to a more photogenic sex life. You’ve jerked off to them. Now it’s time to listen to them.

Note:The views and opinions presented in this book are those of the individuals giving them and do not necessarily reflect the views and opinions of the author or publisher.

Do you need help navigating this equipment?

Come Together

“Sex is a really great communication tool, and I like to be fluent in it.”

— Bruce Beckham

I Love It When We’re Cruising Together

Before you and Mr. Right-Now can cum together, you must first come together. Luckily for you, the song “It’s Raining Men” is not hyperbolic. There are horny guys looking to hook up literally everywhere. All you have to do is find them. And regardless of whether you’re in the mood for a hot one-off or a meaningful relationship, the methods for coming together are pretty much the same. Don’t roll your eyes; I know plenty of committed couples who met in sex clubs or in an airplane lavatory. (If the latter is your thing, just be sure you don’t generate so much heat that you’re tempted to tamper with, disable, or destroy the smoke detector, because that’s a federal crime.) No matter what you’re into, there is no shortage of places to meet guys—unless, of course, you live in Podunk, USA. But even if you do, all you need to get your rocks off with the dude of your dreams is the internet and some reliable transportation.

Whether you’re a horny technologist using sites like Grindr and Scruff or an old-fashioned type who prefers lurking in public restrooms—no judgment—there are guys looking for sex everywhere you go. Some are super obvious, and some are not so. (And if the idea of sucking off some guy in a filthy bathroom stall seems repellent to you, keep in mind that, as stated in the Introduction, prior to gay liberation, bathhouses and public johns were among the only options guys had for hooking up. Besides, plenty of people find it hot.)

Let’s say you’re into the spontaneity of random sex with a stranger. What types of places make the best cruising spots? Falcon Studios exclusive and Grabby Award–winner (for Hottest Bottom and Hottest Duo [with Ryan Rose], 2015) Johnny V—who, alongside boyfriend Joey D is the founder of porn site American Muscle Hunks—says he enjoys the action at the gym. “I love watching dudes strut their stuff and check themselves out in the mirror,” he says. “Or better yet, when they check me out in the mirror and then try and hide it—even when they’re caught red-handed.”

Do you live around here?

His boyfriend agrees. “The gym is the best cruising spot,” Joey D says, “because everyone is checking each other out whether they’re interested in talking or not.”

What’s also great about the gym is that most of the guys you encounter aren’t wearing much. Muscle shirts provide terrific visual access to what’s underneath. Short shorts and/or bulging spandex are not uncommon. Neither are loose basketball shorts worn by freeballers. Don’t be afraid to look. If the hot guy on the bench press next to you didn’t want you staring at his huge cock, he wouldn’t be wearing form-fitting bicycle shorts that show off every delicious vein.

See anything you like?

Spotting the dudes who are there to cruise is pretty easy. Look for the ones who do more walking around than exercising. Or the ones who seem more focused on the room than on their workout. In other words, look for the guys who are doing exactly what you’re doing.

Another perk of cruising the gym is that you don’t have to work very hard to see guys naked. If someone catches your eye, wait for them to finish their workout and then follow them into the locker room. If you’re lucky, they’ll strip down and step in the shower. Or the sauna. Or the steam room. (You might want to avoid the hot tub, though, as people often jerk off in them and shoot their loads, which is not something you should be marinating in.) Take off your clothes and follow. If you like what you see—and he likes what he sees—you’re good to go.

Elsewhere.

Which brings us to a word of warning: Like bars, the gym is for cruising, not for sex. Despite having wet areas, the gym is not a bathhouse. Standing in the shower and stroking your cock while intently staring at someone who simply wants to wash off is inappropriate—and potentially annoying if the person is straight or super religious (or both and has a temper). Equally inappropriate is reaching over and touching someone in the sauna. Even something as simple and easily misunderstood as a gentle hand-under-your-own-towel stroke can get your membership revoked. And getting kicked out of your gym is not only bad for your waist size, it’s bad for your reputation. Who wants to fuck some troll who got kicked out of the steam room for touching himself?

There’s definitely an art to good gym cruising. Slutty-and-proud self-made porn star Deviant Otter (who can be seen doing all kinds of unapologetically sexy things on his site, DeviantOtter.com), says, “I’m really into locker room cruising. I like going to different gyms just so I can see what the locker room is like. And if I get caught, it’s not a big deal because it’s not my gym.”

Porn stud, GayVN and Cybersocket Web–award nominee, and occasional underwear model Antonio Biaggi says he prefers parks.

The look-but-please-don’t-touch-me type.

Fun Fact: In 2003, the United States Supreme Court finally ruled that long-on-the-books anti-sodomy laws were unconstitutional when applied to consenting adults. Sweden, on the other hand, legalized homosexuality way back in 1944 after a man called in sick to work, saying he was suffering from homosexuality, which at the time was classified as a disease.

“I also get lucky a lot in truck stops. Usually the park, the beach, and truck stops.”

Truck stops. These are designed for truck drivers to get a bite to eat, use the restroom, brush their teeth—and/or ram their cock down someone’s throat. Or treat their colon to a throbbing hog tickling. Over time, truck drivers have been gay-stereotyped as hot Average Joes who get lonely on the road and turn into super-masculine sex maniacs whenever they park their big rig. (If you’re lucky, you can get a big rig parked deep in your ass while inside a big rig.) But this is not true across the board: Not every trucker is horny, and not every trucker wants you to swallow his semen.

“I started going to truck stops last summer when one of my buddies took me,” Deviant Otter says. “And I kind of got hooked on it. Some of the guys are just sitting in their cars, but you can see the condom trails. Usually there are people jerking off in the woods, and you can get a quick blow job from one of them.” As for whether or not these guys are gay, Otter says, “I have no clue. I don’t ask. They might have a wife and a kid at home. I just like the anonymity. I like to play a story in my head.”

Here’s some truck stop etiquette: If a guy is sitting in the dark, casing the various goings-on, he just might be looking for action. If the two of you make eye contact, give him a nod and see if he nods back. If he does, he could be interested or he could just be friendly. However, if he then opens the door to his truck, slides his chair into the recline position, and rests his hand on his bulging crotch, chances are he’s thinking what you’re thinking.

Truck me.

Walk up to the door and engage. (It’s always a good idea to have a cover line, just in case you’ve completely misread his signals. “I’m looking for a light” usually works, so long as you have a pack of cigarettes on you. If not, try “I’m looking for a smoke.”) Say hi, and ask where he’s headed. If he’s into you, he’ll likely keep the conversation going and somehow work in how horny he is. If he asks what you’re all about, say something like “I’m looking for trouble,” and throw in a subtle wink. This opens the conversational door just enough without locking you in the room. If he asks what sort of trouble you’re looking for, tell him your goal is to get a stomach full of semen before the day is out and ask if there’s any way he can help with that. If he says yes, help yourself into the truck and get to it. If he reacts in any other way, turn and run away as fast as you can.

Here’s another thing to look out for: If a guy’s taking a piss between his rig and the trailer, he might have ulterior motives. (On the other hand, it’s possible he just has to piss and there's a line inside.) Stroll on over, making plenty of foot noise as you go—after all, you don’t want to startle him. If he quickly finishes and zips up, he’s not interested. If he keeps his dick out or even waves it around a little or strokes it, he’s more than likely looking for someone to suck on it. Look him up and down and ask, “Do you need help with anything?” while reaching for his cock. Bon appétit.

Many of these men, especially if they’re straight, will only let you blow them before they beat it—out of the truck stop. Keep in mind that these are working men with schedules to keep who’ve only got so much time to stop. Don’t be offended if they shoot a load down your throat, take back their cock, zip up their pants, and hustle.Also, don’t spend too much time trolling the truck stop in between trysts—someone may think you suspicious and drop a dime on your ass (no, this is not a sexual thing; it means to call the police).

Have fun. And keep on truckin’.

Life Imitating Porn

Hung Latino Boomer Banks, 2014 Grabby winner for Hottest Cock and Performer of the Year, fondly remembers a favorite cruising fantasy.

You see these situations on Tumblr all the time: “Someone was in the stall next to you …” or “Someone was peeing next to you …” Well, I had an awesome fantasy come true for me once after MAL [Mid-Atlantic Leather Weekend] in D.C. I was taking the train back to New York, and I was using the bathroom in the train station. There was this beautiful bearded man who was taking his time at the urinal. And he kept looking over to me, so I moved over to the urinal next to him. He was rock hard. Then he started stroking his cock, so I did, too.

My favorite type of penis is the kind that goes straight up when it’s hard. Even if you’re standing, it kind of lays on your tummy. It’s really hot. His dick did that, and it was so hard. I tried pulling it away, but it would always go right back to his tummy. Then he started kissing me; he had this beautiful beard, and I was like, Oh my God. This is what happens in the movies I make—and it’s actually happening.

Then he came.

And then he left.

I didn’t want to fuck with the fantasy and be like, “Hey, can I have your number?” I just let it go. But I’ll have that in my memory forever.

Public sex is super hot. I wish it happened more. I’m booked all over the country throughout the year doing appearances, so I’m at an airport every weekend. And I always go into airport bathrooms thinking that’s going to happen again, but it never has.

Public sex is super hot.

What’s Your Type?

When it comes to hooking up, most everyone has their preferences. If you don’t, you’re probably an ATM (anything-thatmoves) kind of guy. Which is OK. Some have a specific physical type, be it ethnic or dependent on hair color, while others prefer a certain shape, personality trait, or just a nice bubble butt. Self-monikered “anti-porn star” Bravo Delta, whose porn titles for CockyBoys include Penetralia, Answered Prayers: The Bully, and Boys to Adore Galore