Freeing the Unloved Girl E-Book

Marisa Russo

• Herausgeber: WS
• Kategorie: Ratgeber
• Sprache: Englisch

Seitenzahl: 228

Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2013

Beschreibung

“As parts of my childhood memories returned, I tried to make sense of it all. There were many pieces of the puzzle that started to come together as I retraced my steps. It started to make sense why I experienced high levels of anxiety, panic attacks, felt unsafe, and wanted to lock my bedroom door at night.”

Abused as a child, Marisa Russo feared commitment and fell into a lifestyle of poor choices and negativity. Finally able to reclaim her true identity in her forties, she made it her life’s work to help others in the same predicament. Having founded Forensic Healing, Marisa’s investigative style first attracted praise in her book, Women Breaking Free. In this new offering, Freeing The  Unloved Girl, Marisa helps readers discover and heal past hurts using a combination of examples and exercises, alongside words of encouragement and validation.

What You Will Learn

A 25-step liberating process of self-discovery and empowerment to;

• Remove the effects of emotional and physical abuse along with subtle and obvious conditioning from the stereotypes of being a woman.

• Reconnect to your ability as a woman to feel and know answers, solutions, and guidance that direct you to safety, truth and empowerment.

• Release guilt, negative associations and crippling preconceptions.

• Express yourself fully and feel free to be you, using conversation and expression analysis.

• Rate your relationships using the Positive Energy Index to enhance your personal power network.

• Live a proven, daily system to create a richer, more rewarding, and happier life.

Leseprobe

COPYRIGHT

Copyright 2018 Marisa Russo and 111 Matrix

All rights reserved

No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in or introduced into a retrieval system, or transmitted, in any form, or by any means (electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording, or otherwise), without the prior permission of the publisher. Requests for permission should be directed to [email protected] or mailed to Permissions at Forensic Healing: Suite 408, 585 Little Collins Street, Melbourne, VIC 3000 AUSTRALIA.

First eBook Edition: Nov, 2015

ISBN: 978-0-9875172-8-9

While the author has made every effort to provide accurate internet addresses and other contact information at the time of publication, the author does not assume any responsibility for errors, or for changes that occur after publication. Further, the author does not assume any responsibility for any related or third-party web sites or their content.

Editors

Bryony Sutherland

Conna Craig

Cindy Dockendorff

Belinda McShane

Forensic Healing team

Cover Designer

Andreea Vraciu

Book Designer

Dr. Jay Polmar

DEDICATION

My Forensic Healing sisters who continue to change lives in every corner of our ever-changing world.

I was born innocent, pure, and free

And then my father took that away from me

As he inflicted abuse with anger and hate

He grabbed the belt; it was my fate

I was in a battlefield, I was in a war

He beat me

He molested me

He was the law

Every day I pleaded to God to take away the pain

But he never did, it was always the same

After one day of horror, I shut myself down

I put on a happy face and became a clown

I said, “This is not happening.” I pretended it was fine

I was frozen in pain; I was frozen in time

Life had no meaning; it was wasting away

I was living in fear and living in vain

As I peeled off the layers, I remembered the pain

I dropped to my knees, begging God to end it again

It was in those darkest moments that I connected to source

I found my gift, I found my force

Now I am whole I can help others heal

I finally know what it means to be real

Marisa Russo

ABOUT THE BOOK

Freeing the Unloved Girl is a woman's guide to healing from childhood abuse and conditioning.

“As parts of my childhood memories returned, I tried to make sense of it all. There were many pieces of the puzzle that started to come together as I retraced my steps. It started to make sense why I experienced high levels of anxiety, panic attacks, felt unsafe, and wanted to lock my bedroom door at night.”

Abused as a child, Marisa Russo feared commitment and fell into a lifestyle of poor choices and negativity. Finally able to reclaim her true identity in her forties, she made it her life’s work to help others in the same predicament. Having founded Forensic Healing, Marisa’s investigative style of therapy first attracted praise in her book, Women Breaking Free. In this new offering, Freeing the Unloved Girl, Marisa helps readers discover and heal past hurts using a combination of examples and exercises, alongside words of encouragement and validation.

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN

A step-by-step liberating process of self-discovery and empowerment to;

Remove the effects of emotional and physical abuse along with subtle and obvious conditioning from the stereotypes of being a woman.Reconnect to your ability as a woman to feel and know answers, solutions, and guidance that direct you to safety, truth and empowerment.Release guilt, negative associations and crippling preconceptions. Express yourself fully and feel free to be you, using conversation and expression analysis.Rate your relationships using the Positive Energy Index to enhance your personal power network.Live a proven, daily system to create a richer, more rewarding, and happier life.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

An international award-winning teacher, author, speaker, and healer, for twenty-five years Marisa Russo has been changing lives. With her Forensic Healing approach to therapy, the media refer to Marisa as the ‘Sherlock Holmes of Healing’.

Marisa has a mind that never stops questioning, digging for answers and solutions. She thrives on solving the most challenging health conditions and life circumstances. After working with thousands of clients over the last two and a half decades, Marisa knows the mindset, the healing processes, and techniques that really work to help people heal.

But it wasn’t always this way for Marisa…

“I didn’t always want to be an alternative therapist. In fact, I wasn’t sure I’d amount to anything. I was 40 before I had the first, genuine liberating thought that I might actually have something to contribute to the world!

I was emotionally, physically and sexually abused as a child. I grew up feeling worthless and alone. A raft of addictions masked my pain. I was totally dysfunctional. My body and emotions were riddled with so much suffering that life seemed futile and death a welcome option.

For many years I traveled the globe, desperate to overcome and escape the chronic pain, fatigue, addictions and illnesses that resulted from years of abuse. The unrelenting pain led me to seek alternative therapy only because traditional doctors said I would have to live with the pain for the rest of my life – a prophecy that I wasn’t about to accept!”

Marisa tried many different therapies and studied more than 60 courses. $310,000 later she discovered her healing gift. Through clearing her own condition, her energetic connection had grown so strong that she could read a person’s body to accurately determine the cause of their condition and know how to bring relief.

In 2011, after many requests from clients to learn her methods, Marisa combined all of the alternative healing techniques she discovered into the Forensic Healing home-based and live training courses.

CONTENTS

COPYRIGHT

DEDICATION

ABOUT THE BOOK

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

FREE COMPANION RESOURCE

CONTENTS

Chapter 1: Breaking Point

Time to Get Real

Short-term Gain, Long-term Loss

Sourcing the Power to Heal

Bare Your Scars

The Magic of Being Connected

Are You Ready to Face What Lies Within?

Chapter 2: All Is Within

Pain is Your Indicator to Change

Take the Insanity Plea

Time to Change?

Use Your GPS

It All Begins with Energy

Energy Can Heal or Harm

Read the Clues

Who Makes the Rules?

Your Feelings Do Matter

My Mother Compounded the Problem

My Mind was Wired for Hardship

Your Life Reflects Your Beliefs

Persist—It’s So Worth It!

Chapter 3: Survival

Gather the Clues

The Ghost Story

Survival Mechanisms

Flashbacks

Denial: The Best Defence?

Signs of Disconnection

The Path to Reconnect Yourself

Were You Neglected or Abused?

Asking for Assistance

Freeing Women Exercise: Knowing Yourself

Flashbacks and Revisiting My Home

Chapter 4: Admission

Anger—A Manifestation of Pain

Releasing the Anger

The Five Stages of Healing

Freeing Women Exercise: Express and Feel

The Woman That Was Never Angry

The Apology Story

The Power of Apology

Freeing Women Exercise: The Apology Method

Freeing Women Exercise: The Apology

Chapter 5: Patterns

The Auction

Reading the Patterns

Remember: Life is Your Message

Everything Consists of Patterns

Patterns In Our Connections With Others

Freeing Women Exercise: Changing Your Patterns

Chapter 6: Selfish

The Reasons: Conditioning

Life is a Science

The Power of Thought

Time To Wake Up

History Has Its Scars

Who Has the Answers?

Who's Your Idol?

What is Sacrifice?

Are You Asking for the Wrong Things?

Suffering Bob

What Messages are You Launching Into the Universe?

Melissa’s Mum

Freeing Women Exercise: Cancel Contracts, Vows and Obligations

Waking Up

Chapter 7: Power

The Sinking of the Titanic

The Power of Relationships

What's Your Current “Energy Status”?

You Are Like a Magnet

Make Constructive Choices

Science Proves Emotions Create Outcomes

DNA Phantom Effect Experiment

Remove Weak Links

Negative Emotions

Always Trying to Do the Right Thing?

The Power of Emotional States

Freeing Women Exercise: Positive Energy Index (PEI)

Your Source of Power

Chapter 8: Expression

So Women Have to be Silent?

Top Ten List of Women’s Fears

Freeing Women Exercise: Conversation and Expression Analysis

Empowered Responses

The Handball

Become a Negotiator and Influencer

Chapter 9: Gratitude

Is Karma a Bitch?

Kindness to Self

Karma Follows You

Karma Clearing

The Power of Thought and Good Intentions

Freeing Women Exercise: Karma Clearing

There's Always a Bigger Picture

Understanding the Five Functions of Karma

Research Shows Gratitude Heightens Quality of Life

Ingratitude Has Consequences

There's More Sense in Life Than We Realise

Judgement Day

Words Aren't Necessary

Breaking Free

Karmic Bank Account

Spring Clean

Chapter 10: Becoming Whole

Good Signs and Messages

Finding Answers

What Are Your Blocks Telling You?

Finding a Billion-year Contract

Being Held Hostage By A Contract

Being Sensitive Does Give You An Advantage

Symptoms of Soul Loss

Healing Words to Become Whole

Freeing Women Exercise: Daily System

Conclusion

RESOURCES: Staying Connected

FREE COMPANION RESOURCE

Freeing Women Activation

The healing activation reverses the control and programmed manipulations placed on women.

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Chapter 1: Breaking Point

“Is it just me or does everyone reach a breaking point in their life?

I couldn’t understand why I suddenly burst into tears as I began my 8.00 a.m. shift at work. I enjoyed my job, my colleagues were nice, and everything had been fine the day before. I wasn’t crying over a breakup, I didn’t have a boyfriend at the time and even if that had been the case, I would’ve been cursing and wishing I’d never met him. But here I was, hiding behind my hands, unable to find a single reason for the uncontrollable tears that were making my body shake. I later realised it was the long-overdue opening of Pandora’s Box which, although I resisted with all my might, would never be closed again.

Only hours before, I had routinely gotten out of bed, eaten breakfast, and driven to work. Now, I couldn’t even talk as the emotions poured out of me. My mind flashed back to my thirtieth birthday party two weeks earlier, when I had indulged myself and thrown a traditional ball with a Cinderella theme. I rented an outrageously elaborate pink ball gown, got some friends to dress up as footmen, and danced the night away. Hang the expenses—I wanted a fairytale evening of wishful thinking. I’d decided on Cinderella, as she had a happy ending to a miserable life. Now that’s a clue right there! Having begun my thirtieth year with the promise of a great decade ahead, I thought I was happy—or at least, there was nothing discernibly making me unhappy.

Thank God there was no one in the reception room when I broke down. My job was answering incoming calls at the British Petroleum head office. The next co-worker would arrive at 9.00 a.m., so I had one hour to pull myself together before anyone witnessed what a basket case I had become. I felt like an overstuffed suitcase on its way home from an overindulgent shopping holiday: everything spills out as you push and squeeze the contents tightly into the case, trying to close the zipper without breaking it. It was obvious: my zipper was busted and could no longer hold the contents.

Despite the spillage, my mindset wasn’t to take the day off and go home. I was a hard worker who always arrived early and stayed late. Time off had never been an option for me. My only choice was to soldier on and get the job done, just as I’d been doing my whole life. My emotions were pushed down and buried—not honoured, explored, or considered.

I couldn’t leave my desk to go to the ladies’ room, so I dug into my handbag for tissues and a compact mirror. As I looked into it, the reflection looking back could have easily been mistaken for someone the morning after a heavy night on the town. I closed the compact to avoid looking into my own eyes. I just hoped all the redness and swelling would be gone before anyone walked through the door.

Little did I know this was the beginning of an awakening process that would completely release me from my secret life of unspoken misery. Like the overstuffed suitcase, I was too full to notice what was inside and I purposely avoided looking within by creating days full of people to see and things to do. I was constantly rushing from one event to the next. I signed up for every available committee that would have me. I was dedicated to creating a life of constant distractions so that I never had the time to be still and take a good look at myself.

A few years prior to this unraveling, I had traveled the world, searching for something that I felt was missing in my life. I had left my home in Australia and moved to Italy in my early twenties, where I almost married a handsome Florentine doctor named Marco, just after I joined the Mormon Church. After deciding not to marry him (more about my lunatic behaviour later), I returned to Melbourne and began working for British Petroleum. This is where the repressed contents of my past began spilling out. Nothing I tried could close the zipper on that bulging suitcase of emotions.

I had lived my life as a good citizen. While studying part-time for a health science degree, I was heavily involved in serving others through church callings. I worked hard to give myself a sense of being useful in the world. Yet all my life, my father’s words continued to haunt me: “You’re stupid. You’re an idiot and you will never amount to anything.” I was determined to prove him wrong and banish the damning judgment that echoed in my head.

By the time my thirties rolled around, I was struggling with chronic neck pain after a series of whiplash injuries. I spent a small fortune on traditional therapies that offered only temporary relief. Life continued on autopilot. I was like the robot on the TV series Lost in Space, repeating, “Danger, Will Robinson!” and ensuring that everyone else was taken care of, without ever considering myself. My automated response to addressing my own needs was: “That does not compute.”

Putting other people’s needs before my own seemed like the right thing to do. It was my way of being selfless and, therefore, worthy. I lived my life as most women do, believing my self-worth was associated with how selfless and giving I was to others.

My unexpected crying episode forced me to stop and reflect on my life. I began to realise that I had never felt fulfilled or good enough. Because of that, I attracted people who manipulated and took advantage of me. They reinforced the unworthiness I’d felt since my childhood. I had to finally acknowledge the physical, emotional, and sexual abuse my father had inflicted on me, instilling so much self-hatred that my body was reacting. At last, I was required to change, as the pain was too great to bear. Although I couldn’t imagine it at the time, the long process of healing and changing eventually became a precious gift I could share with other women.

Since then, I have earned my black belt in self-respect. I have opened up to an ability to intuit others’ agendas and intentions. I can feel and read people’s energy fields allowing me to assist in clearing the energy blockages that are preventing them from obtaining the same freedom and happiness I have finally gained in my own life.

Time to Get Real

As you read this book, you might not yet know what’s stopping your success or happiness. You might not be as deep in denial as I was! Maybe, for you, there’s just a vague feeling that something isn’t right, and you want to change. That’s great because even though it’s a cliché, the first step to healing is admitting there’s a problem.

This book will help you identify and work through emotional blocks of all kinds. After two decades of working with thousands of women from all over the world, it seems that in almost every case, women tend to relive relationship dynamics from their past—usually from childhood. The cycle of living and reliving the same pattern prevents them from moving forward. For some, there’s a specific traumatic event that has been suppressed or erased from their memory as a way to cope with the pain.

That is what happened to me. For others, it’s subtler, less obvious, yet can be just as damaging with their experiences continually conditioning them, reinforcing feelings of guilt, shame, and low self-worth. This makes it a lot harder to see the dysfunction, as it’s not so easy to pinpoint one specific event as the cause. It becomes a normal way of life, unless or until someone like me explains how a person’s childhood needs were unmet.

No one ever knew what happened to me when I was a child. Even I was in denial about the abuse until my thirties. I had completely blocked out sections of my childhood so I could survive what felt like a living hell. As an adult, I became so adept at hiding my emotions that my body began to create inescapable physical pain. It was a desperate cry for help.

I eventually learned that my survival technique of shutting down my feelings was a very common reaction to trauma. If you experience sexual, emotional, or physical abuse, you learn to block your feelings in order to survive. It’s not something that happens only with abuse. If you experience violence, war, life-changing accidents, sickness, ongoing stress, emotional neglect, homelessness, or severe economic distress, you learn to toughen up and switch off your emotions in order to cope. This can literally save your life at the time, but if the emotions aren’t released, they will eventually cause emotional and physical dysfunction in your life.

Short-term Gain, Long-term Loss

Women raised in a dysfunctional environment become accustomed to disassociating from their feelings and blocking out their past. Carried into adulthood, this survival technique can manifest as anxiety, depression, and fear. Most of the time, the cause isn’t obvious. Even women who haven’t experienced overt abuse are often faced with neglect from their parents, perhaps because male siblings were favoured, or their parents divorced or became otherwise unavailable, or for other reasons that may even have seemed insignificant at the time. There is a culture that expects women to care for everyone around them without acknowledging their own needs. This makes it difficult to identify the reasons they don’t experience fulfilling relationships and career success later in life.

Over years of working with women, I began to see consistent patterns. If you’re reading this, and relate to the difficulty of living as your true self, rest assured—you’re in good company. The struggle to be acknowledged, valued, and respected for living as your true self and following your heart is something many women must overcome. You get through it by reclaiming your power, and giving yourself the freedom to follow your own inner guidance, or what I refer to as your personal GPS.

Like so many women, by the time I reached my thirties, the stress of living a disconnected life finally caught up with me. I couldn’t spend one-moment longer pretending everything was okay. Something in me had to change.

Even though I had traveled the world and lived in some amazing countries, I was unhappy. I pretended to lead a normal life, but underneath, I knew something wasn’t right. I had a secret wish whenever I came to a red EXIT sign in a public building. I’d pray the door would be the exit from my suffering. Whenever I walked through, I looked up at the God I had always known, the one I believed held all the power, and I felt great dismay that I found myself still living in pain on the other side of the EXIT sign.

Realising I needed to change was the first step toward healing in my life. It took time to peel off the layers, but eventually I regained enough strength to face the pain of the abuse. True healing occurred when my body and mind were strong enough to deal with my past. I worked for years with many therapists and healers and attended numerous courses to heal myself and develop my own intuitive and healing abilities. Gradually, I was able to unlock my gift and heal myself. This experience taught me how to connect and heal women with similar issues. My mission is to enable all women to experience freedom, empowerment, and equality and find their worth through healing from abuse, trauma, judgment, and conditioning.

The most important aspect of healing is the process of reconnecting with yourself. To begin, you must rediscover your trust in the universe, and then surrender, and let go. The prospect of losing control may resurrect fear, anxiety, or other emotions from your childhood. Trust in the process of receiving healing. Use the knowledge I have gained, and apply the methods throughout these chapters, by completing the 25 steps that have been extracted from the Freeing Women’s workshop I conduct. You will be gently led to where you need to be. Surrender and allow yourself to be guided; everything will work out. The universe will orchestrate a journey for you to heal.

Sourcing the Power to Heal

In an attempt to heal or find yourself, have you searched for answers in books, workshops, or meditation retreats yet still felt something was missing? This is why I developed the Forensic Healing System (http://forensichealing.com). It is an alternative therapy healing system that finds the cause of the negative condition and releases it. By breaking down the walls and façades you’ve built up over the years, it reveals and frees your true self in a way that can’t be found elsewhere.

So, what exactly is your true or authentic self? It’s who you’d be if you didn’t spend your time trying to be what others want you to be, trying to be who you think you should be, who you must, or ought to be. It’s who you’d be if you knew that it’s okay to discover what you want in life and go after it. In fact, it’s more than okay: it’s your birthright!

Women have been told countless times and in countless ways that it’s selfish to be who they really are, to take care of themselves, and go after what they desire. The truth is that the world needs strong, powerful, vibrant women who are living passionately.

Think about it: who is most likely to bring about positive change in the world: a shy, timid, scared woman, or a strong, powerful, passionate woman? Think of the women you admire the most. Would you like to be more like them? Read on!

I imagine that reading this book isn’t your first attempt at change? Many times over the years I’ve heard women say, “I thought I was over this. I thought I’d already dealt with this, so why does it keep coming up?” I wrote this book to honour your persistence and let you know there is a way out of the darkness.

To thrive in spite of a painful past, you need to access your inner power and strength you probably don’t know you possess. This exists inside you, right now. It’s the power and strength that comes from survival. It’s true what they say: what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. Your past has stretched and molded you. This book will take you on a journey to transform those painful experiences into freedom and power. These attributes will then become a source of strength that can be used to help achieve whatever you desire.

Bare Your Scars

Your past no longer provides an excuse to be a victim. It’s not going to stop you from reaching your greatness. Similar to a physical scar, your past is part of you. Instead of hiding it away and feeling ashamed, you can reveal its truth. Allow your scars to be seen. No more secrets or hiding your pain and feelings. You will be proud of your scars!

Feel strengthened and empowered because you survived. You are stronger than you realise, and your story is one of triumph and freedom. You are finally going to transform your pain into your power. You will begin to understand how truly resilient you are. I’ve learned over years of working with therapists and listening to my own intuition that true healing and transformation only occur when you’ve completely freed yourself from past conditioning and the experiences that led you to live only half a life.

As you read on, you’ll begin to understand how deeply my own history of abuse was buried. You’ll understand why it took me so many years to get to the root of the issue and then, finally, regain my power. You’ll also understand why I’ve dedicated my life to helping other women become free from crippling, chronic pain and unhappiness. In my story, you may see parts of yourself. It is my hope that you’ll feel inspired by how my life changed once I gained self-worth and became empowered.

It’s your birthright to live your best, most authentic life! You can achieve the freedom and happiness that comes from living in integrity, from living passionately and following your own path. From never again allowing yourself to be controlled by others or by what has been done to you.

Before we get started, I acknowledge the amount of strength, determination, and honesty it takes to heal. I admire your courage for choosing this path. What I bring to the table is the ability to connect with your energy field, in order to help you reconnect with the essence of who you are. You might call this your spiritual force, your authentic self, or your soul. My journey has allowed me to feel energy from others, and connect to their feelings. This ability has given me deep insights on how to identify the individual needs for each woman to heal.

The Magic of Being Connected

Two of the most remarkable outcomes, as you embark on this journey, are that the magic returns and doors begin to open to great opportunities. When you connect to the inner power that’s available to you, you’ll become unstoppable. Once you get a taste of this freedom and empowerment, you’ll never go back. Your eyes will reclaim their original sparkle as they express the joy that radiates from a soaring soul.

A while ago, I was surprised by such a transformation and it still touches my heart to this day. It was relatively early in my healing career that I was invited to speak at various locations in the United States. It was my first American healing tour and I was still unsure of my gift and myself. I saw myself as an Australian jumping out of my little fish bowl and diving into the big, wide ocean of the USA! I wasn’t even sure anyone would turn up to see me demonstrate my healing abilities.

Americans had never met me, so I struggled to see how the tour would be successful. By that time I was married to my then-husband, John, a man who trusted in my gift enough to invest his precious time and our entire life savings to help me reach a wider audience.

John had a sharp business sense and shared my ability to read people and situations. From the moment we met, ours was a natural partnership. His business acumen complemented my healing goals, and we formed a team to expand my workshop capacity and produce online programs for women around the world. I went along with his plans for a US tour despite my initial reluctance.