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- Herausgeber: Carl Stephenson Verlag
- Kategorie: Gesellschafts- und Liebesromane
- Sprache: Englisch
- Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2016
Becoming a perfect DOMINATRIX … her long red fingernails leaving visible marks on his skin, which he will feel for a long time yet and will always remind him oft he feeling of boundless horniness. He is lying on his back his hands fixed above to the metal bedstead, his ankles restrained in the same way. He is helpless - and loves being at the mercy of his beautiful mistress! She is playing with his lust, turning him on more and more … Many men dream of being treated like a slave by their dominant partner in bed and of submitting to her kinky desires. Fittingly, women also have lustful S/M fantasie: they would like to slip into the role oft he strict dominatrix an spoil their partner with sweet torments. In this book we will show you the ropes of this exciting game of dominance and submission and what makes a perfect dominatrix. We will introduce you to special S/M techniques and implements, kinky fetish wear and furniture, after which we will abduct you into the world of perverse firsthand reports and hot book excerpts we selected for you. Conclusion: Put your will into her strict hands and she will teach you the pleasure of pain!
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Inhalt
1. Introduction:
Dominance & Submission
Sadomasochism: Theory & History
Sadomasochism: Practice
2. I want to be your Slave!
Setting the Mood & Preparation
Special Techniques & Implements
Utensils for Flogging, Bondage & pleasurable Torments
Fetish Wear
S/M Furniture
3. Pleasure trough Pain & Submission
Excerpt from the non-fiction books
4. Epilogue:
S/M: Sweet Addiction
1. Introduction:
Dominance & Submission
Pleasure and sexual gratification through dominance and submission – many people may dream of it, but only a few actually fulfil their erotic dream. To put into action that with which our sexual fantasy is driving us crazy, with which our erotic cinema of the mind is sending exciting shivers of pleasure through our bodies, this taboo is evidently too high a barrier for many of us. Too bad, because they’re missing out on some very pleasurable experiences.
And it doesn’t always have to be the classic power hierarchy of dominant man/submissive woman that’s rattling around in our heads and makes our genital area tingle. The fact is: many men dream of being treated like a slave by their dominant partner and of submitting to them sexually; and the potential to slip into the role of a dominatrix and take control in bed lies dormant in most women to all intents and purposes. Many women have erotic dreams in which they are being served by their submissive partner according to their special erotic desires and needs and experience the greatest pleasure and sexual fulfilment together with him in this role – but only a few of them will admit it.
Of course sexuality is and will always be something very personal and intimate, which every person will experience differently; and it is exactly in such special areas like the variety of pleasurable games described here, where countless imaginative ideas can make the game even more interesting. In short: there is no tried and true method, no fixed pattern to help you and your partner get to experience this new kind of pleasure. Each person is different, bringing with him individual desires and experiences and, what’s more, has different needs from day to day. That’s why there can be [and must be] no fixed guidelines when it comes to experiencing this kind of pleasure in the partnership. It’s all a game – and an incredibly lewd one at that! –, which lives above all from spontaneity. He never knows when it will be time again and she will make him her slave once more. He can never be sure when at long last he may be her humble servant again and may be allowed to satisfy her very special desires; or when his dominatrix will turn him on again as she sees fit and will make him wait unbearably long for his climax. This uncertainty, as tormenting as it may be, is a big part of the appeal.
As I said, there are no fixed guidelines for those who want to enrich their partnership with the special allure of the dominatrix-slave relationship. Everything depends on the individual situation. But you can get tips and advice, important basic information and suggestions as to what a game like this can look like – mind you, can look like! Because one thing is sure: here the motto everything is possible, nothing’s a must applies. Basically it’s important to slowly increase the intensity of S/M games instead of going for the maximum right away. And each couple will have to decide for themselves what in this book suits their personal situation, for example, if they prefer the somewhat softer varieties or if they dare to get into the somewhat harder techniques later on – the range of pleasurable possibilities with S/M is enormously great!
She is a goddess, he is her slave who has to deserve her favours first – this book is trying to help the reader reach this level. She plays with him and holds out the prospect of his sexual gratification again and again – without necessarily granting it; she alone decides if, when and how he will be satisfied. After all, it’s not his lust but hers that’s at the centre of the game – and he’s the one helping her in this, be it by letting himself be used by her so she can satisfy her dominant inclinations in many different ways, or by indulging her according to her sexual desires. For example, she may leave him naked and bound, lying on the bed for hours, or she may order him to kneel in front of her and service her orally until she reaches a climax. His gratification is only of secondary importance – and that’s exactly what turns him on!
The dominant woman always has absolute control over the situation and decides what will happen. That also goes for generating arousal and its eventual gratification. The slave may only touch her with her permission, and she is the one who decides where and how. This psychological and physical submission provides the greatest pleasure for both sides. Verbal abuse adds another appealing touch – up to which level varies from person to person, of course – as does humiliating the slave by telling him what he may and may not wear. For example, she may call him her dirty slave and may order him to go about certain chores wearing only a leather bridle while she is leaning back comfortably, watching him; or she may hit him from time to time with a small, handy crop if he doesn’t carry out her orders to her satisfaction – there are no limits to the imagination! In this book you will find numerous possible varieties of how the game between dominatrix and slave can be played out in reality.
The right appearance is also very important for a venerable dominatrix. Of course there are no hard and fast rules as to what she should wear, because each woman inclined to domination, or dominatrix, has a different taste and feels more confident wearing certain clothing; this confidence she then also radiates to the outside. It’s important that she should never wear a special outfit for her submissive man because he wants her to. It must always be clear that you are wearing what turns you on – then he’ll be automatically turned on, too. He must never think that you are wearing a certain item of clothing because you know that he likes it so much. Even if it’s true you should never let on, because that would mean your authority is being undermined! You would then be doing something to please your slave, and that goes against your respective roles.
Conversely, he should always be wearing what you want him to wear. You decide if and when he has to undress and in which item of clothing you may want to see him, like a leather jock strap or waist and crotch harness, for example. Teach him that his whole posture must be one of humility, for example kneeling in front of you with lowered head and waiting for your orders.
This brings us to the subject of body language: a perfect dominatrix is the epitome of self-confidence, every one of her gestures speaking of power, control and the strength to subdue – regardless of her size. The tone of voice is also important. A dominatrix speaks slowly with a deep, emphatic and clear voice. She underscores her authority with clear words and precise instructions. Strength and aloofness are further attributes describing the demeanour and charisma of a perfect dominatrix – even if it’s only a façade. The slave must never be able to discern whether she isn’t a little nervous or uncertain inside, after all!
In this book we will show you the ropes of this exciting game of dominance and submission and what makes a perfect dominatrix. We will give you examples of steamy rituals and sessions and want to inspire you and your erotic mistress to experiment and use your imagination. Then pain and pleasure will become an intoxicating blend of ecstasy for you, too …
Sadomasochism: Theory & History
What’s actually going on in the mind of a submissively inclined man and a dominantly inclined woman or a masochist/sadist, and what’s the sexual appeal for both of them?
The submissive partner voluntarily surrenders to the dominatrix. He savours the feeling of submission. From this moment on he doesn’t need to have a will of his own anymore, he is being led by his mistress, and that’s how the submissive partner gets his kicks. Because he himself is only an instrument; he is being acted upon, so to speak, and no longer acts autonomously but according to the will of his mistress. The burden of making his own decisions has fallen from him; everything he now does or is done to him – even the most perverse things – no longer lies within his responsibility. He can fully concentrate on his pleasure. That’s one side of the appeal.
The other, of course, consists of enjoying physical pain and psychological torments. The masochist transforms this pain into sexual pleasure. Of course this requires a certain predisposition; not every person is amenable to these kinds of stimuli. Where this disposition comes from is hotly debated, that is by scientists. Is someone who in childhood was often chastised by strict parents more likely to become a masochist than someone who has never been beaten as a kid? Does someone who often has to be strict and dominant because of the position he holds in his profession sooner look for sexual compensation in the form of submission and pain? While there may be some things supporting this theory, one really can’t generalise. The fact is: there is no scientific proof pointing to clear factors and external circumstances that contribute to someone becoming a masochist. For example, it may just be sexual curiosity and openness which tempts a person to dip their toe into the world of sadomasochism. Perhaps he will find this borderline experience so appealing and tempting, that afterwards he will come back to this kinky kind of sexual gratification again and again. Of course the same is true for sadists.
The dominatrix subjects the slave to her will. She enjoys the feeling of power. The sadist becomes greatly aroused by being able to direct the actions of others through orders or by sexually manipulating others, torturing and tormenting them – ultimately with their approval! As was said before: the slave submits to his mistress voluntarily. He has a choice before transferring the decision making power over his body and his actions to his mistress – after that everything else happens only according to her wishes. The dominatrix leads her slave. She uses him as an instrument for fulfilling her own sexual desires. This subjugation and humiliation of others – to whatever degree – makes up the special erotic appeal for the dominatrix. Exercising power turns her on!
But the mistress must have control of herself at all times, because she bears the responsibility for everything that happens. The submissive man, on the other hand, can simply let go. He only does what she tells him to. S/M games have a lot to do with trust, devotion and a sense of responsibility, and both sides must live up to these conditions. In the ideal case the dominatrix should therefore have the right mix of authority, a sense of responsibility, a sadistic inclination and nastiness – not all that easy! The ability to cope under pressure, a strong and mature character as well as emotional stability are all very helpful here.
