Influence E-Book

Jonathan Phoenix

• Herausgeber: Anonymous
• Kategorie: Fachliteratur
• Sprache: Englisch
• Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2020

Beschreibung

There are several topics included in this book that relate to influencing others. Some of these can help you master your own emotions and qualities. Others can improve your leadership skills or help you communicate with people more effectively.



Persuading with touch, creativity, words that are powerful and influential, attention span, and subliminal messages are just a few of the subjects that will be addressed. There is a wealth of information here in only a small number of pages.



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Leseprobe

Influence

How to Persuade, Convince, and Impact Others with Authority

By Jonathan Phoenix

Table of Contents

Chapter 1: Depression and the Power of Impact

Chapter 2: How to Influence and Persuade with Touch

Chapter 3: Social Impact About Risk Differs for Teens and Adults

Chapter 4: How Power Influences Creativity

Chapter 5: The Top 30 Affecting Words

Chapter 6: Influence without Authority

Chapter 7: Which Has Greater Impact, Influence or Attention?

Chapter 8: Subliminal Ads, Unconscious Influence, and Consumption

Chapter 1: Depression and the Power of Impact

The critical distinction between influence and control makes all of the distinction to positive self-confidence.

Life is seldom in our own control. We regret this in different ways as we go throughout our day. "Why do I always get the red lights when I leave the house late in the morning?" "I wish I did not need to work such an ordinary job." "I want her to really love me the way I love her." "I want a baby so much. Why can't I get pregnant?" "I don't know what I'll do if the tests show I have cancer." From the minor to the passionately wanted desires we have, it seems so much of our lives are not in our control.

This is truth: No individual manages much in life. Nevertheless, we develop a great deal of torment in our own lives by the desire to be in control. The very idea that we should be able to control a circumstance results in feeling powerless. And if a person has depression, this 'should' intensifies a common troublesome thought process of this disorder. Depressed thinking is usually ruminative: repetitive, unsolved thoughts. Plus, when most people are depressed, helplessness is a main theme of their ruminative thinking. "There's absolutely nothing I can do about it," their brooding brains repeat and repeat till they really believe it totally.

Your brain actually believes what you tell it. O.K., that is extremely simplistically mentioned. But brain science demonstrates that when you repeat an idea, the brain acknowledges the repetition and supports it by reinforcing the structure of the neural path you are illuminating. The brain builds more blood supply provides much faster processing (more glial cell support). With such increased speed, that pathway of thought regarding how defenseless you are becomes a superhighway of helplessness. It gets much easier and simpler to fall into the path of "There's nothing I can do."

When that is a default thought process, depression gets stronger also. It ends up being harder for a person with depression to get rid of the sense that they're ineffective and will not work. Low self-efficacy is a trademark of this disorder. When you want to climb up out of depression, you do have some control, but it is essential to be definitely clear about what control really is.

It is so important to make this distinction when the depressed brain is feeling defenseless. We are undoubtedly powerless when we want people, life, God or the whole universe to give us what we want and wait to see if we get it. Taking no action to influence others is as unlikely to get us what we want as trying to control others to get it. I talk with people every day in treatment who say things like, "I do every little thing for her. Why will not she just do this (thing I want from her)?" Meaning, "I should be in control of what she gives. The more I give to her the more she should give to me." Or "How can I convince her or him to (remain in school, stop using our charge cards, eat better, stop drinking/gaming/gambling, pay attention to me, and so forth) Meaning, "If I just find the right words, I'll get what I want. He or she will do what I want." The fallacy is you can control the other individual's behavior by finding the right words or motivation.

If any of us were indeed that effective, it would mean we could find a way to be less depressed by applying our control over others. We would actually be effective! But we stay depressed, feeling powerless if others don't comply. Well, we're helpless to control others! So by that definition, we're inefficient, undoubtedly.

And that is where the comprehension of influence comes to the rescue. You might not have control but you do have influence. I use the example of trying to force a baby to sleep. If you have ever been wishing an uneasy baby would sleep, you know the powerless feeling. That small individual can keep you up all night and you can't control the kid's sleeping. Nevertheless you can influence whether the kid sleeps. You can make sure the kid is fed, dry and warm and make the environment serene, dark and quiet. Rocking and singing may help influence drowsiness.

Which Circumstances Can You Influence Even if You Cannot Have Any Control over Them?

There are a lot of areas in life where your actions make a real difference.

You can't force your boss to give you a good evaluation, but you can influence it by the way you do your work.

You might be helpless over whether you develop cancer, but you have influence over it by handling diet, stress, direct exposure to chemicals etc.

You cannot force a spouse to want intimacy with you, but you influence intimacy by the generosity, caring or sexual interest you display.

You cannot guarantee an 'A' in a class, but you can influence it by the amount you study or put work into an essay.

You cannot make a person show up for your birthday party, but you can send out an invitation that makes it seem like fun and send a reminder.

You cannot force another person to give you the stats you need to finish your report, but you can send a memo reminding that person you really need their work on deadline.