Influence E-Book

Warren Cass

• Herausgeber: John Wiley & Sons
• Kategorie: Fachliteratur
• Sprache: Englisch

Seitenzahl: 285

Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2017

Beschreibung

Stand out in a sea of "average" and start achieving your goals

Success is not only a matter of what you know and who you know, it's also a matter of who knows you; by becoming a trusted contact and a source of answers, your influence expands – and so do your opportunities. This book will show you how to build influence from the ground up. You might already know that communication is key, but do you understand how different people communicate and how you should respond? Discover the power of networking and gain valuable advice for building the right relationships with the right people – and how to leverage those relationships where it counts.

Influence is a powerful asset based on a simple concept, but the actual skills required to achieve it don't come naturally to most. However skills can be learned and this book provides expert instruction with real-world application to help you get to where you want to be.

• Master the art of communication and build rapport
• Raise your profile and manage your reputation
• Develop strategic relationships and grow your network
• Become the trusted go-to person in your field

If you're ready to get more out of your job, your career and your life, Influence gives you the guidance and motivation you need to get moving.

Leseprobe

Table of Contents

COVER

TITLE PAGE

ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS

INTRODUCTION

WHY READ THIS BOOK?

SO WHY ME?

MAKING THE MOST OF THIS BOOK

1 WHAT IS INFLUENCE?

INFLUENCE IN A CHANGING WORLD

SETTING OBJECTIVES FOR INFLUENCE

THE PRINCIPLES OF INFLUENCE

2 P IS FOR PEOPLE

YOUR NETWORK

THE LAW OF RECIPROCITY

BECOMING A CONNECTOR

CREDIBILITY BY ASSOCIATION

IDENTIFYING AND APPROACHING INFLUENCERS

THE POWER OF PARTNERSHIPS

CREATING ADVOCACY

BECOME A STUDENT OF PEOPLE – START WITH YOU

3 I IS FOR IMAGE

DRESS TO IMPRESS

COLOURS THAT INFLUENCE

REPUTATION MATTERS

YOUR IMAGE ONLINE

THE IMPORTANCE OF SOCIAL PROOF

4 C IS FOR COMMUNICATION

EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION STARTS WITH GOOD INTUITION

IT'S NOT WHAT YOU SAY IT'S HOW YOU SAY IT

ACTUALLY, IT’S ALSO WHAT YOU SAY . . . AND WHAT YOU DO!

WORDS THAT INFLUENCE

5 K IS FOR KNOWLEDGE

DEMONSTRATING EXPERTISE

LET'S START WITH PUBLISHING

INFLUENCE BY PUBLIC SPEAKING

USING PR TO GROW YOUR INFLUENCE

6 Y IS FOR YOU

EFFECTIVE INFLUENCERS ARE AUTHENTIC

EFFECTIVE INFLUENCERS THINK ABOUT THE FUTURE

EFFECTIVE INFLUENCERS LEVERAGE TECHNOLOGY

EFFECTIVE INFLUENCERS ARE COURAGEOUS

EFFECTIVE INFLUENCERS ARE GREAT COMMUNICATORS

EFFECTIVE INFLUENCERS HAVE INTEGRITY

EFFECTIVE INFLUENCERS SHOW HUMILITY

EFFECTIVE INFLUENCERS ARE FOCUSED

EFFECTIVE INFLUENCERS ARE PREPARED

EFFECTIVE INFLUENCERS ARE CONFIDENT

EFFECTIVE INFLUENCERS ARE INSPIRATIONAL

EFFECTIVE INFLUENCERS ARE PASSIONATE

EFFECTIVE INFLUENCERS ARE RESILIENT

EFFECTIVE INFLUENCERS ARE CONNECTED

EFFECTIVE INFLUENCERS ARE DECISIVE

EFFECTIVE INFLUENCERS ADAPT

EFFECTIVE INFLUENCERS ARE CHARISMATIC

EFFECTIVE INFLUENCERS ARE GENEROUS

EFFECTIVE INFLUENCERS HAVE GOOD INTUITION

EFFECTIVE INFLUENCERS ARE PERSISTENT

EFFECTIVE INFLUENCERS ARE DISCIPLINED

EFFECTIVE INFLUENCERS ARE ACCOUNTABLE

EFFECTIVE INFLUENCERS ARE VISIONARIES

EFFECTIVE INFLUENCERS ARE POSITIVE

EFFECTIVE INFLUENCERS ARE GREAT WITH OTHER PEOPLE

EFFECTIVE INFLUENCERS ARE OPEN MINDED

EFFECTIVE INFLUENCERS RECIPROCATE

EFFECTIVE INFLUENCERS UNDERSTAND EVERYTHING IN THIS BOOK

INDEX

END USER LICENSE AGREEMENT

List of Illustrations

Chapter 2

Figure 2.1

Chapter 3

Figure 3.1

Guide

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“Never before have there been so many opportunities to raise your profile and build a reputation. Having influence draws people to you and creates new opportunities. Warren has written an easy to read, easy to implement guide which is a must read for anyone who wants to get ahead.”

Dr. Ivan Misner, NY Times best-selling author and Founder of BNI

“This book is a triumph. A thoroughly relevant, engaging and well-written must read for anyone who wants to win friends and influence people.”

Guy Rigby, Head of entrepreneurial services at Smith and Williamson and author of best-selling book From Vision to Exit: The Entrepreneur's Guide to Building and Selling a Business

“When I first met Warren Cass I was instantly struck by his authentic presence. In Influence, he shares his vast reservoirs of practical knowledge and innate wisdom in a way that's easy for the reader to absorb and apply. If you are struggling to stand out from today's competitive marketplace, this book will enable you to transform your personal impact and allow your message to reverberate within the hearts and minds of others. Warren's honest and easy writing style holds the power to influence your entire life. This book is an absolute must read if you want to operate at an even higher level to create more of the results you want in all aspects of your life.”

Nikki Owen, Global Thought Leader on Charisma, Award Winning Speaker and Bestselling Author

“In an age where building a trusted personal brand matters more than ever before, Warren has created a road map that's packed with ideas and easy to action. Honestly written and teaches skills that are invaluable for life.”

Ren Kapur MBE, Founder and CEO, X-Forces

“Warren was the FIRST person I talked to when I set up my business ten years ago. The fact that he gave me great advice is not the point here; the fact that he had established himself as an influencer in the start-up market, all those years ago, is. Social proof is perhaps even more valid these days than way back then and when Warren talks, I listen. He is the go-to guy amongst professionals and I am thrilled he is now willing to share his wisdom with a wider audience. If you really want to want to learn from someone who has tasted success and setbacks and now tells you in a relaxed yet concise way all you need to know to increase your social proof . . . read this book”

Bill Morrow, Founder, AngelsDen.com, named World's Most Influential figure in Alternative Finance by City AM.

“In a world increasingly focused on artificial intelligence, it is important that we do not lose sight of our emotional intelligence. This book is a must read for anyone who wants to understand their own power of influence to improve the world around them. Every page is thought-provoking with numerous practical applications, even for the most seasoned of influencers. Enjoy the discovery for yourself.”

Barnaby Wynter, Communications Director, Lara Group PLC

“Developing your network and reputation is a must for anyone seeking success in business, who knows you is more important than who you know. In this book, Warren delivers tried and tested techniques that anyone can apply immediately to increase their influence and raise their profile. Essential reading.”

Andy Lopata, International Speaker and Author on the subject of Networking

“At last, a book on influence written post-internet, which contains practical and easy to apply strategies. Whether you just want that promotion or to be a known authority in your field, Warren has created your very own blueprint.”

Nigel Risner, Award-Winning Leadership Speaker and Author

“Whilst Warren admits to making mistakes both large and small, his relentless involvement in small business development allows him to have positive influence and to build one of the world's best assets, available to all; his network. Through his well-organised, well-administered and intelligently applied approach, anyone and everyone is capable of placing themselves in the right rooms, with the right people and being brave enough to step outside their comfort zones to introduce themselves to strangers.”

Lara Morgan, Entrepreneur, Investor, Speaker and Author

“What's really clever about Warren's book is that it invites you to be part of the narrative, contextualising all of the lessons so they are relevant to you. By the time you have finished it you will have total clarity on what you need to do to live a more influential life.”

Geoff Ramm, Author of Celebrity Service and OMG Marketing

“Warren's book is a bang up-to-date exploration of what influence is and how to use the concept to your advantage. It is about using influence respectfully and is free of the old Machiavellian approaches. A must read for anyone trying to get on and make the progress they feel they deserve.”

Robert Craven, Author, Grow Your Service Firm

“Influence is one of those things that everybody wants but nobody knows quite what it is or how to get it. The ability to make people take certain actions, think certain thoughts, say certain things and feel certain ways is a fundamental skill for success. And never has influence been a more desirable quality than in today's crazy world of noise, distrust and confusion. Warren Cass is one of the greatest influencers I know, and this superb book is the blueprint for high level connecting, reputation building and influencing.”

Rob Brown, Speaker and Author of Build Your Reputation

“This book reflects Warren's approach to life. He understands the first principle of relationship building: ‘What's in it for you?' Over the years he has set up so many events to create opportunities for others. Warren's whole attitude is authentically reflected in this book.”

Will Kintish, International Speaker and Author on Networking

“Warren Cass is a thought leader for the 21st century who has put together the perfect guide to influencing and persuading others, in business and in life. There's a new kid on the block for Robert Cialdini fans. Drawing on dozens of examples from real life, Warren covers every conceivable topic ranging from what to wear through to positioning on Google and in social media. Read this book if you want to improve your wealth, your relationships or your reputation.”

Daniel Barnett, Employment Law Barrister, Outer Temple Chambers

'In this comprehensive book, Warren uncovers how you can build your influence in today's technological world.'

Grant Leboff, CEO of StickyMarketing.com, International Speaker and Author

“This book is THE manual if you want to be successful in your relationships (business and personal), your communication, marketing, sales, business meetings or any interaction with other people. Warren has written it from a position of years of understanding, study and practice. It explains every single topic you need to improve your influence with others. It also wonderfully explains all of the principles in many ways including much quoted research, practical world-wide examples, statistics and philosophy. This is my ‘carry around reference book' to dip into before any important meeting or to help with any business project where I need a competitive edge. It should be yours too.”

Andy Gwynn, Business Coach, Entrepreneur, Author and Professional Speaker.

“Warren is one of a kind and his network, passion to help others and charisma is unrivalled. This book captures the essence of who and what he is about, which makes it practical, real, and easy to implement. There are many strategies to build more influence in your life, and you will struggle to find one not in this book. Warren has comprehensively researched what it means to be influential in a digital age (whilst not forgetting good old fashioned face-to-face persuasion), and written the definitive guide. You will gain so much from reading this, and it's a book that you will re-read and pick up frequently.”

Adam Harris, Vistage Chair, Business Coach and Speaker

“Stunning. A brilliant read that will inspire you to maximise your contacts to the full so opportunity comes to you.”

Simon Chapin, CEO Greenstones, Speaker and Author inspiring, challenging and supporting Accountants to be the best they can be.

“If you want to be a more impactful leader and grow your sphere of influence, this insightful no-nonsense book is your step-by-step guide filled with the tools you will need.”

Nicola Cook, Speaker, Author and CEO of Company Shortcuts

“I was so engrossed in Warren's book that I read it from cover to cover in one sitting. What really stood out for me were the terrific personal stories he used to make important points, including stories of when he messed up big time in his younger years; I cringed along with him. Some of the tips he gives to help you dig out your own personal stories to share in blog posts and speeches are brilliant. Warren also shares some superb resources to help get top-class PR coverage. This author gives, gives, gives; the mark of a world-class influencer.”

Christopher John Payne, Effort-Free Media Ltd, christopherjohnpayne.com

“A brilliant book written by a brilliant man to help ambitious people create brilliant success. But then, I am biased. . .”

Susan Manen, Warren's Mum and Biggest Fan

INFLUENCE

How to Raise Your Profile, Manage Your Reputation and Get Noticed

Warren Cass

This edition first published 2017.

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ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS

I have learned from so many people over the last 40+ years – by watching how they interact with others, deliver a keynote, control the sales cycle or entice a romantic interest. Most of the time they were unaware of the lessons they were teaching me, or the influence they were having.

This is the benefit of being a student of people, of being fascinated by folk. Every day is quite literally a school day.

My first real memory of learning influence by observation was watching my father when I was a child. My Dad was a military man from the age of 17 and served with the Royal Air Force. He wasn't a particularly high rank or highly decorated, but he was hugely popular and charismatic.

As a child I would watch proudly as my Dad commanded a room, or was life and soul of the party. People responded to him, he held their attention and they always left smiling.

I have often wondered what he could have achieved outside of the military with his very natural ability to influence.

Anyway, I love you Dad and this book is the result of a journey inspired by you.

Over the years I have started several businesses and worked with some amazing people. It didn't always work out, but every interaction helped me learn more about myself and about human nature.

To all of those I have worked with, thank you.

I am profoundly grateful to have such a rich, diverse and supportive network. People with shared values who freely exchange knowledge and ideas.

If you consider yourself part of my network or my friend, then know I appreciate our relationship.

Lastly, I would like to thank my wonderful wife Janet and two beautiful kids Elliott and Jodie, who give me unconditional support every day. Love you guys!

Warren Cass

INTRODUCTION

As a 17-year-old lad with only one ambition at the time (to own a nightclub), I took a significant step towards that goal by becoming the assistant manager of the largest nightclub in Southwest England at that time.

You see, getting the role in the first place was as a result of a little influence I had already started to build, albeit unknowingly. As a student I had organised a few large parties, and even turned a profit. This got me known, even beyond my crowd or target audience.

At the time I was studying at college, but I was struggling to concentrate; always distracted by thoughts of getting out into the big wide world and making some money.

This hadn't gone unnoticed. One of my teachers realised I was close to leaving my studies. She knew about my parties and she also knew the owner of the nightclub, so she connected the dots and introduced me.

Sure enough I got the interview and, up against more experienced applicants, got the job. The basic skills of persuasion were already there and I certainly wasn't lacking in confidence.

But alas, it was less than a year later that I learned my first hard lesson: I was fired for being a cocky little shit. I had become overconfident, even arrogant. I had started to believe my own hype (never a good thing). Simply put, I had started rubbing people up the wrong way and wasn't showing them the respect they deserved . . . and this naturally had consequences.

I see now that I was just immature. I was 17 years old with 120 staff working underneath me. I wasn't even old enough to have a drink on the other side of the bar. It had all just gone to my head. Needless to say I was heartbroken. But on reflection it was well deserved. I was devastated and embarrassed and now had to face my family and friends as an unemployed, college dropout.

Overnight I acquired a different reputation. Instead of respect I felt ridicule and, what was worse, it was all self-inflicted. You see, the reason I was fired was because I had become too full of myself. My overconfidence masked a lack of any real leadership skills or experience.

It was a fantastic lesson in humility. And looking back I wouldn't change a single thing about it. You see, in that instant I learned that it REALLY matters how you treat people, and so I vowed never to make that same mistake again.

Looking back at my career since then, I can see clearly that every success I have ever experienced was about my influence, or my ability to influence. Sure, I needed to be able to follow through, deliver on the promise or have a good idea in the first place; but without any influence – even with the best ideas in the world – it is almost impossible to succeed.

WHY READ THIS BOOK?

I hope this is a question you ask yourself before reading any book. Time is precious. In today's society attention is a commodity and the competition to grab it is fierce, even whilst our attention spans continue to shrink and our preference is to consume information in smaller bite-size chunks.

Before I started writing, I had to consider my answer to a similar question: ‘Why Write This Book?’

Over the years, as a public speaker, I have been asked continually, ‘Do you have a book?’ Influence is a topic I have spoken about for a long time, and whilst my content was useful to my audiences (largely entrepreneurs and small business owners), my public speaking was just a way of raising my profile and that of my business brand.

I didn't want to write for the sake of writing. I value my own time so much that I needed to be really clear on the desired outcome for anyone reading, before I started to type.

So, let me answer the question and then I will justify my answer.

You should read this book if you:

Want to be more successful.

Believe your reputation can make or break you, your career or your business.

Think the path to success is easier with influential friends or contacts.

Understand social proof is more important today than ever before.

Believe you would make more progress in life if you improved the quality of your network.

Know with more influence you would win new clients, get that promotion, attract people to you.

Hopefully, you are still reading. And, if so, here's my promise to you: this is going to be a simple blueprint for anyone that wants to increase awareness of themselves or their brand and genuinely wants to be better at motivating behaviours and outcomes. Because of the way I have written this book, you will spend time reflecting on your own situation/circumstance and start to form your own strategy.

I will not waffle or give you 10 examples of a point where one will do. I respect your time too much. I will not patronise you and assume you know nothing. However, I'll assume you have some common sense and a healthy level of ambition, whatever your situation. After all, you are reading a personal development book.

Just like you (I hope), every day for me is a school day. I am always discovering new things and I want to share with you the simple lessons I have learned, and the observations I have made along the way as an entrepreneur, business owner, friend and student of people.

Over the following chapters, I promise to lay it all out in the hope that you can extract the nuggets you need to take your influence to the next level. If you can implement just one good idea, and it makes a difference for you, I will be pleased. You can always let me know what it is @WarrenCass.

Also, before I go any further, I want to acknowledge that there are several great books on this subject – classics, in fact. I recommend reading them. But I wanted to write this to reflect upon how society has changed, and share why I feel that, to be influential today, you need more weapons in your armoury than simply those around face-to-face communication.

Influence is such a big topic which incorporates so many other aspects of communication (written, body language, NLP etc.), alongside thought leadership, authority, reputation, relationships and trust. The internet only adds another, more complicated, dimension.

The classic example on this topic is How to Make Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie, which focuses mainly on your interpersonal skills and your persuasive effect on others. Yes, I know it is more than that, but remember: this book was first published in 1937 and society has changed massively since then – with influence becoming a much bigger subject in the digital age.

SO WHY ME?

I am not claiming to rub shoulders with giants or to be on the top 10 rich list. I have enjoyed success though, both as a speaker and as a business owner. I have built an impressive network of people I greatly admire and value, many of whom I am proud to call my friends, and many who have had a profound impact on my outcomes.

Through our online brands we have built and attracted tens of thousands of subscribers and run over 1000 networking events. We have made a ton of mistakes: some minor, and some which cost us dearly. All of them, though, provided lessons and clarity which I will endeavour to share in the pages that follow.

Over the years I have worked with major brands and household names, including Microsoft, Santander, O2, Orange, BlackBerry, Telegraph and Volvo, to name just a few. Earning the credibility to work with such established brands hasn't happened by accident. It is the result of developing an understanding: how to establish a relationship with the appropriate person within an organisation and how to make the right approach.

Lastly, I don't believe everyone wants world domination. You might be reading this because you simply want to generate some more sales, or get that dream job/promotion. Influence is not just reserved for the super successful. We can all become more influential, and in this book I hope to show you how.

MAKING THE MOST OF THIS BOOK

I have written this book in a conversational easy-to-read style. I wanted to ensure that the simple concepts I share are both easy to understand and easy to implement.

There are questions at the end of each chapter which should get you one step closer to action, alongside some practical ideas you can implement straight away.

If you understand the principles, take action. It was the late, great educator Stephen Covey who said ‘To know and not to do, is really not to know.’ I wish I had really learned that as a younger man.

You will notice that I use quotes throughout the book to share what other great leaders have said on these topics. Read a little further and you may just realise another reason for them.

I appreciate that many of you will already be familiar with some of the points I am making. Hell, you may even consider them obvious. That's absolutely fine. My intention is not to patronise. I recognise that people reading this book will have varying degrees of knowledge and experience, so consider these points as useful reminders and move on. But, before you do, ask yourself honestly if you are applying these lessons in practice. If not, do you really know?

Serendipity is not a strategy. I have always achieved my best results when I have done things on and with purpose, and I encourage you to do the same.

At the end of each chapter, reflect on what you have just read and how it applies to you. What could you change to get better outcomes? Do these new approaches reveal low-hanging fruit you can pluck immediately for some instant results?

It is really important to be totally honest with yourself. There is nothing that irritates more than delusional people, ignorant of how they come across and believing they are brilliant at everything they do. Make sure you are not one of them. Think critically about yourself and consider seeking feedback from those close to you, who you trust to be honest and constructive.

Lastly, thoughts fade and ideas if not recorded can disappear for good. I have left some space for you to reflect and record your thoughts within the book. Please scribble all over it if you think it will encourage a better outcome. Alternatively, you can visit my website InfluenceTheBook.com and download the Influence Template for free.

So, let's get started.

1WHAT IS INFLUENCE?

So, what exactly is influence?

Some people influence with the words they use, the ideas they share, the stories they tell and the inspiring actions they take. Others have influence because of the positions they hold, the wealth they have or the company they keep.

There simply is no right or wrong way to influence. Everything is a factor. We are all influenced by people, places, events and situations . . . all of the time!

In a nutshell, influence is about affecting an outcome. It is about motivating a behavioural change or an action. It is about you, and understanding the impact you have on other people and their perceptions of you. It's about progressing things without forcing them or being pushy.

For me, when I imagine someone who is highly influential, a ton of words spring to mind to potentially describe them . . .

Reputation

Charismatic

Authentic

Integrity

Persuasive

Enthusiastic

Knowledgeable

Communicator

Respectful

Authoritative

Leader

Humble

Confident

Generous

Passionate

Connected

Powerful

Throughout this book these words are going to feature strongly, and there is a summary/exercise chapter at the back designed to help you really reflect on what these words mean to you and, more importantly, how they apply to you.

If you just read this book then I am sure you will find some useful ideas which can help you push forwards. But if you really reflect, and relate the content to yourself, I believe you will get much more, and your strategy will become clear.

Imagine a business leader, celebrity or politician, for example. They probably get inundated with requests for media interviews, they are wealthy, maybe they have a best-selling book and speak/perform on stages across the world to huge audiences.

But is influence really restricted to celebrity? I don't believe you have to be a person of influence to be influential. We all influence behaviours every day, mainly without even knowing it. People change my perspective, my behaviours and my decisions all the time without the faintest idea of the impact they have had on me.

‘Parents are our children's first heroes! Your influence matters! Wield it wisely with passion and purpose!’

Anonymous

Think about the most influential people in your life. Mum and Dad will be right up there for most people, but it is unlikely that they are captains of industry. Yet their social conditioning from day one has helped you form your values and your moral compass – maybe even your political or religious leanings.

Teachers can have the same profound effect. Most of us, I am sure, can name at least one teacher who really got through to us. Mine was Mr Nesbitt, my English teacher, who understood my disruptive nature and challenged and dared me instead of being authoritarian. He turned learning into a game, which appealed to my competitive nature. As a result he got the best of me compared to every other subject. I doubt Mr Nesbitt remembers who I am, but I shall never forget him. (In the unlikely event you are reading this Sir, thank you, I doff my cap . . . and who knew I would end up writing a book. ;-)

The influence of a good teacher, mentor or boss can never be erased. What mark do you leave on those who look up to you?

Sometimes we are influenced to revolt against the examples we are set. We adopt contrary behaviours based on consequences or our own disapproval of the authority figures in our lives.

Some of the people who have influenced us over the years did so intentionally, but I am sure many will have had no idea of the impact they had or the value they added.

‘You don't have to be a person of influence to be influential. In fact, the most influential people in my life are probably not even aware of the things they have taught me.’

Scott Adams

Many of the things that influence us day to day go completely unnoticed on a conscious level, yet can change our attitudes and behaviour patterns. For example, witnessing and being moved by a simple act of kindness is far more likely to make us more generous in the hours that follow. Or getting caught up in an angry exchange might make us more irritable for the rest of the day.

Human beings are like sponges, emotionally we are affected by the world around us every day. We subconsciously pick up on other people's micro expressions, on advertising messages, and on moods and atmospheres in the world around us. These in turn can have a knock-on effect on others. Which means we are potentially being influenced by people we haven't even met.