Learning Love: Key Secrets for Dating Beginners E-Book

Kim Nobel

• Herausgeber: RADIO BOOK
• Kategorie: Ratgeber
• Sprache: Englisch

Seitenzahl: 102

Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2024

Beschreibung

Are you in a relationship but not happy?
Are you stuck in a one-sided relationship where you're the only unhappy one?
Do you feel frustrated because you can't seem to have a relationship like everyone else?
Relationships are not easy. The less experience you have, the harder it is. Even if you have a lot of experience, it’s still challenging. That's because each person, situation, and circumstance is different. For everyone, relationships are always tough. How are you loving?

Are you willing to go through difficult trials and errors with the person you love now so that you can become a better partner and have a better relationship in the future?

If you don't have a partner right now, are you going to remain a lonely single, never even attempting a relationship amidst countless trials and errors?

To have a relationship, and to have a good one, you fundamentally need to understand relationships. How to date, who to date, what constitutes a good or bad relationship, and how both you and your partner should communicate and behave for a happy relationship, and so on. Knowing about relationships and then engaging in one is what makes a relationship happy.

This book is a guidebook to help you start a happy relationship. It offers not only simple dating tips but also advice on how to love, how to treat your partner, and how to deal with love and breakups, all focused on your happiness.
I hope that with this book, you can start a relationship and that your relationships become happier.

Leseprobe

Kim Nobel

Believing that eternal love does not exist, yet desiring to love eternally.

Dreaming of everlasting love with the partner currently by his side.

Table of Contents

CHAPTER 1 - You have to know someone to be in a relationship

CHAPTER 2 - Words and actions that call for love, Words and actions that push love away

CHAPTER 3 - Stages and situational strategies for love to avoid failure

CHAPTER 4 - The way to have a happy relationship

CHAPTER 5 - Here are some things to know when you're in love

CHAPTER 6 - Common sense of love that helps if you know it

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The vastly different psychology of men and women in relationships

1. Women prefer gradual progress, while men prefer to take things in one go

Women tend to prefer gradual progress in  relationships, while men often aim for quick advancements. This impatience on the part of men can be burdensome for women.

2. Women’s coyness and men’s bravado

Men are surprised by women’s coyness, while women are weary of men’s bravado. Whether it’s coyness or bravado, moderation is essential.

3. Women appreciate compliments, while men value recognition

Women smile when praised, while men are moved by acknowledgment. Men who frequently give compliments and women who recognize men’s strengths and potential are always surrounded by the opposite sex.

4. Women's chatter, men's reticence

Women often want to share even trivial matters with men, hence they tend to be chatty. Men, on the other hand, may not always pay attention to such conversations. What's crucial in relationships is not silence but active engagement.

5. Women pretend not to know, men pretend to know

Women sometimes pretend not to know things to gain a man's interest, while men often feign knowledge for the same reason.

6.  Women empathize, men advise

Women empathize with and comfort men in their troubles, while men tend to analyze women's problems and offer advice. Hasty advice from men can often lead to arguments.

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10 habits of men that frustrate women

1. Speaking only when necessary

Many men only speak when they have a purpose. This often leads to conversations feeling more like speeches or instructions. They may not realize how frustrating and annoying this can be from a woman's perspective.

2. Advising instead of empathizing

Men tend to be solution-oriented. Even in conversations with their partners, they lean towards logic and giving advice. They may not realize that simply listening can be enough.

3. Jumping straight to the conclusion

Men often fail to grasp the concept of "beating around the bush." They have a habit of getting straight to the point, only stating the conclusion. While they may think they're getting to the core of the matter, they often miss the necessary consideration along the way, leaving women feeling hurt.

4. Singular focus

When men are working, they're solely focused on their tasks. It's difficult for them to send affectionate messages to their girlfriends while working. That's why they often reply late during work hours. Women who can multitask are capable of sending playful texts to their partners even while working.

5. Selective listening

There's a tendency to tune out conversations deemed uninteresting. This is why men often don't remember the stories their girlfriends tell them. However, it's different with women who listen attentively and provide appropriate reactions, even if they find their boyfriends' stories uninteresting.

5. Silent solitude

Men tend to believe that their girlfriends should understand things without being told and thus refrain from sharing detailed information. However, women aren't mind readers. Such tendencies in men can sow seeds of conflict and misunderstanding.

7. Stingy praise

Unlike women who appreciate compliments, many men are stingy with their praise. Compliments cost nothing; being reluctant to give them is foolish.

8. Misunderstanding women's emotions

While men may easily forget bad memories, women often struggle to let go of accumulated emotions. It's a mistake to assume that just because one has cleared their own negative feelings, the other will do the same.

9. Lack of sensitivity

Compared to women, men are slower to pick up on communication cues such as facial expressions, body language, and tone of voice. They often repeat mistakes until they realize the mood, sometimes escalating the situation inadvertently.

10. Avoidance tactics

When a man falls silent, it signifies being cornered. This attitude of avoiding situations through silence, a form of disregard, only worsens the situation.

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The psychology hidden in men's minor actions

1. Rubbing hands

Rubbing the palms unconsciously during a conversation signifies positive expectations. It indicates an immediate attraction to the person in front.

2. Rolling up sleeves

Rolling up sleeves is an act of asserting oneself. It stems from confidence in one's forearms and expresses the intention to actively engage.

3. Crossed arms while talking

Crossing arms while smiling during a conversation indicates active listening. It signifies not wanting to miss what the other person is saying.

4. Fidgeting with objects

Touching objects around indicates nervousness. It's a way to relieve tension by fidgeting with nearby items.

5. Mirroring behavior

If a man mimics a woman's behavior, it indicates a sense of intimacy. It shows comfort in the presence of the person

6. Touching the face

Frequent face-touching during a conversation expresses a desire not to appear vulnerable to the woman. It often happens when feeling awkward or embarrassed.

7. Unbuttoning the top button

If someone casually unbuttons their top button while speaking, it signifies that they've relaxed their guard around you. It's evidence that the moment together is comfortable and not awkward.

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The unfavorable traits of men with little dating experience

1. Persistently insisting on meeting

They incessantly push for meetings, insisting on excessive encounters as if frequent meetings are the cornerstone of relationships.

2. Seeking alcohol when feeling awkward

They resort to alcohol to alleviate awkwardness, believing that bonding occurs through drinking rather than through empathy and understanding..

3. Prying into every detail

They relentlessly pry into even the smallest matters, causing irritation by asking about things that don't need to be discussed. They mistake probing for interest.

4. Wants to spend money alone

They hold onto outdated beliefs that spending a lot of money makes them a desirable partner. They believe that simply spending money will make women like them, oblivious to the fact that it can be burdensome for women.

5. Needless showiness

They engage in obvious displays of showiness. They are unaware that women see through their pretentiousness.

6. Trying too hard to be funny

They attempt to be funny through excessive exaggeration and over-the-top antics. While it's fortunate if they succeed in making others laugh, most of the time their attempts fall flat.

7. Talks only about their interests

 They assume that what interests them will also interest women. Oblivious to the fact that women may find it boring, they incessantly talk about their own interests day and night.

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The types of boyfriends who make relationships difficult

1. Men with low empathy

Seeking comfort from a loving partner during tough times is natural. However, men lacking empathy fail to comprehend a woman's situation and emotions. Being in a relationship with such individuals often leads to loneliness and emptiness.

2. Men with too many friends

While having a vibrant social life is important, having an excessive number of friends can be problematic in a relationship. When friends take precedence, it leaves the partner feeling lonely. The situation worsens when there are many female friends involved, resulting in constant relationship insecurities.

3. Men overly immersed in hobbies

Having healthy hobbies is crucial, but being excessively engrossed in them can lead to a lonely relationship. When hobbies take precedence over the relationship, the partner inevitably feels neglected.

4. Men lacking affection

Affection doesn't have to be extravagant, but a basic level of warmth is essential. However, some men can be so emotionally distant that they lack affection altogether. Such relationships are characterized by hurt and disappointment.

5. Indecisive men

Men with decision-making difficulties tend to procrastinate even on trivial decisions, burdening their partners with unnecessary stress at every decision-making moment.

6. Men who are bad at keeping in touch

There are men who are inherently lazy about staying in touch, or for various reasons, fail to maintain regular communication. In any case, they make for terrible romantic partners.

7. Men fixated on physical affection

Some men are so fixated on physical affection that they mistake it as the sole purpose of a relationship. If you find yourself confused about whether they like you or just your body, they are not good romantic partners.

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Special behaviors that men show only to women they truly like

1. Never refusing as much as possible

Unless it's truly impossible, they never refuse a woman's request. Even if they don't know how to do something, they strive to find a solution.

2. Showing interest in unfamiliar subjects

They pay attention even to topics they're not familiar with or interested in. They make an effort to like what the woman likes.

3. Avoiding saying they're busy

If they are genuinely busy, they inform in advance when they'll be available again. They prioritize setting plans with the woman and arrange the rest of their schedule around those commitments.

4. Becoming similar to the woman

At first, they had entirely different tastes, preferences, and interests, but gradually, they start resembling the woman, and everything becomes similar. It's not about forcing it; rather, the similarity manifests naturally in their behavior.

5. Never being unreachable

They never let communication issues dampen their spirits. The communication is so flawless that there's always a feeling of being connected.

6. Rarely turning their backs

They seldom turn away first. Whether it's giving a ride, dropping someone off, or making sure the woman enters safely before turning back, they prioritize the woman's well-being.

7. Willingly yielding their preferences

They willingly compromise on their preferences, even those they wouldn't surrender to friends or siblings, because the woman they like is their current favorite.

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When a woman feels attraction toward a man, she sends seven signals

1. Showing signs of vulnerability

She who seemed like she could conquer the world suddenly becomes meek in front of a man. Items that were once carried with ease now feel burdensome.

2. Indirectly displaying jealousy

While complimenting his friends or colleagues, she subtly observes his reaction, wondering if jealousy might arise.

3. Avoiding eye contact and blinking frequently

Though their eyes often meet, she quickly averts her gaze elsewhere. Then, in a charming manner, she blinks repeatedly.

4. When she shows interest in my ideal type

"Would you prefer a short girl? Is a tall girl also fine?" She asks about the type of women I like.

5. When she appears anxious somewhere

In the presence of a man, her gaze is uneasy, and she often stumbles over words, continuously seeming uncomfortable.

6. When her voice tone becomes upbeat

Unlike when talking to others, a voice mixed with charm emerges when conversing with a man.

7. When physical contact occurs frequently

She subtly touches the man's arms, hands, or shoulders.

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Six ways to tell if a man is focusing on you

1. Playing with hair

He is suppressing self-expression. It implies he is not empathizing with your conversation but merely listening.

2. Fidgeting with objects

Feeling the current conversation is boring and dissatisfying. Such individuals tend to view all relationships negatively. They are not easy to date.

3. Maintaining eye contact

Usually prone to anxiety and loneliness. They may not have many people they feel comfortable around. They struggle with forming human connections.

4. Chiming in at odd times

Indicates a desire to wrap up the conversation quickly. It's an attempt to hide disinterest in the conversation, but one can't completely conceal true feelings.

5. Touching the chin

An expression of confidence that the speaker can have their way with the conversation partner. There's a high likelihood of proactive actions or suggestions.

6. Blinking frequently

Frequent blinking is evidence of nervousness. If one responds more actively to the other person's conversation, the dialogue can become smoother.

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