Manipulation Techniques E-Book

Robert Leary

• Herausgeber: Books on Demand
• Kategorie: Geisteswissenschaft
• Sprache: Deutsch

Seitenzahl: 131

Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2022

Beschreibung

Imagine that you have the power to control and manipulate what you want. How would you feel? Well, the goal of this book is precise to give you a series of ideas, techniques, strategies that you can use immediately to understand people's minds and protect yourself from manipulation. Is it possible to influence others, to direct their thoughts, to control their behaviors without being discovered? Yes, within certain limits, it is possible. You have also realized that there are people who, when they talk to their interlocutors, seem to have the power to always carry them on their side, both in work and private life. On the other hand, there are people who, despite having excellent content, despite knowing how to explain well, and despite having valid rational arguments, fail to change their opinion even to their closest friends. In this book, you will find the results of studies and research on human psychology, learning a practical method that will help you persuade and influence. Within this book you will find out: -How to analyze the behavior of your interlocutor and better understand who -How to convince others without having to impose yourself in a rude and unprofessional way. -How to plant an idea in the mind of your interlocutor, without notice. -How to control people's behaviors: they will do what you want, without any resentment. -How to apply these techniques of persuasion even in the digital world, on your social media. -How to defend yourself, your friends, and your family from manipulative people. After reading this book, you will have the ability to persuade and influence others to defend yourself against "professional persuaders" on the other. You will learn the methodology used by leading psychology experts to control other people's thoughts, actions, and behaviors. And not only that. Thanks to these techniques, you will become a significant, magnetic, and irresistible communicator. What are you waiting for? Click BUY NOW and start learning today!

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Table of Contents

What Is Manipulation

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Types of Emotional Manipulators

Types of Manipulators in The Workplace

The Types of Manipulators We Encounter Every Day

Signs You're Being Manipulated

Signs That You Are Manipulating Your Friendship

Signs You're Emotionally Manipulated

Storytelling

Empathy

Avoid the Empathy Trap

Roots of Sympathy

Communication

Are You Communicating Strategically or Manipulating?

Manipulation Techniques

The Techniques Used by The Manipulator

Manipulation Techniques Your Colleagues Use to Hurt You

Manipulative Self-Disclosure

Socio-Cultural Customs

Why Do People Manipulate Others?

It Is Not Your Fault

Remember Who You Are

Manipulation in Real Life

Recognize Manipulation in Relationship

Recognize and Handle Manipulative Relationships

Here Is What You Are Looking For

How Do You Know If You Are Being Manipulated in A Relationship?

What Is the Manipulation in The Relationship?

How to Stop Manipulating Others in A Relationship?

What Does Manipulation in Relationships Look Like?

Tips to Defend Yourself from Manipulators

Some Ways to Guard Against People Who Might Try to Manipulate You

It Should Make Her Want to Avoid Dealing with You in The Future

Protect from Emotional Manipulation

What Is Manipulation

Operation is the skilled handling, control, or use of something or something. Whether it's the sculptures you make in art class or how you persuade friends to do your homework, these are all considered manipulations. At the psychological level, manipulation skills mainly involve two things: hiding aggressive intentions and behaviors, and fully understanding the opponent's psychological vulnerability to know which tactics may be the most effective weapon against them. Psychological manipulation is usually accomplished through covert aggression or aggression, which is such a cover-up or subtle that it is not easy to detect.

Robots want what they want and strive to achieve their goals. But the strategy they use makes it look like it's doing almost everything, just trying to make itself better. Tactics are also beneficial weapons of power and control. It is because, even if it is difficult to recognize them as conscious offensive actions, in the unconscious situation, other people will still get into trouble and fall into defense. It makes them more likely to retreat or succumb to the Manipulator.

The skilled Manipulator knows the fragility of the opponent. If vanity is someone's weakness, then the seduction strategy may be the best manipulation strategy. If over-cautiousness is their weakness, perhaps the most effective method is internal. Most manipulators' character is severely disturbed (that is, conscience or sensitivity is too low). They are most likely to be preyed by neurotic individuals (i.e., highly sensitive and responsible people). Strategies such as being a victim or humiliating will effectively manipulate the average neurotic patient because responsible people do not want to see others as pain or feel sorry. If a neurotic person tries these same strategies on a disturbed person, they will soon learn that they are not working.

Types of Emotional Manipulators

Frequent Victims

"No one cares about me, and no one wants to help me. No one likes me; everyone hates me. Guess I will eat bugs." No matter what happens, there will be many twists and turns, and this emotional Manipulator becomes a victim. This person often catches fire and angers people. Due to a lot of quarrels and fights, other people often feel overwhelmed. Although permanent victims will rage and fight, they will manipulate the situation to treat them as victims. After their partner or others engage in an emotional struggle with the long-term victim, the long-term victim seeks the sympathizer's sympathy and pits people against each other to gain control and power.

Like all emotional manipulators, constant victims also feel a sense of what they deserve. For example: "Because I am very talented and talented, I deserve special consideration. Others should know and accommodate me." Constant victims may get angry because they have not performed their duties (such as work). They project anger and other emotional states to others. For example: when they manipulate characters, they say that others hate them, or they try to hurt or betray them in some way. Fear and anger are the two most powerful emotions they struggle with. Many people become paranoid. They often say that other people have betrayed them and take out "morality cards." In other words, the project responsibility for their actions or lack of activities to others, thereby giving up personal responsibility.

Two Single Jobs

"Anything you can do, I can do better. I can do better than you." Through skilled operations, this person needs to go further than others. One-handed manipulators strongly hope to become the "King of the Hill." Although they usually lack conscious awareness, having a high social status and dominant position is very important to their self. They are gifted, can determine where people are vulnerable, and choose to be with people who lack self-esteem.

Constant use of insults and insults to hurt and exploit victims can bring benefits to victims. They may be considered selfish by others, but they are more likely to conceal their arrogance. Shame and anger are the motivation behind their manipulation, and manipulation is their tool to achieve their ultimate destiny: getting rid of shame and self-doubt. For example: "If I focus on belittling you, I won't focus on shame."

Healthy Family Members

I just can't take care of myself. Life is not fair to me. Please help me. Please do as I say. " They conceal the guise of weakness and incompetence but gain considerable strength in the lives of the people they depend on. They are a model of helplessness and secondary growth in learning. Unlike onehanded manipulators, influential family members use praise/self-attack to control the victim. Acting weaker and weaker than those they depend on will give them a sense of control. However, if someone refuses their dependence, they will quickly change from being friendly to disgusting. For example: "You are like everyone else. I can't count on you!" The hidden message behind all their actions is: "Don't let me down." In general, they are very self-centered and are forced to meet their own needs regardless of their impact on others.

Triangulation Machine

They use lies, distortions, and other forms of manipulation to control the people they rely on, thereby forming support and gaining an advantage. They build alliances (often by themselves) and attack other people who might hinder them. At first, they stayed friendly with the victim. They used compliments and self-deception techniques to promote the bond between them and the victim. They tell nasty things about the victim behind their senses and spread rumors. By forming alliances with others against the victims, they gained control and power.

Anger is their motivation; they want to show and hurt people, not physically or emotionally. On the outside, they seem to be heroes or rescuers, but their inner motivation is self-centered. Sometimes this occurs in parent-child relationships. For example, a parent wants his/her daughter to join the cheerleading team and spread malicious rumors about the girls in the group, cheerleading coaches, and other parents to achieve this goal. Because their followers lack self-esteem and feel powerless, triangulations often become great leaders.

Shockwave

"I'm furious, and you even ask me this. It's all your fault. It's all their fault." They use bursts of anger to deflect and avoid facing problems that need to be solved. It is usual for adolescents to use this technique, but it should not be classified as a Blaster. The real Blaster is more mature than the average teenager. Victims often feel that the bomber is doing something they shouldn't be doing behind the scenes, but cannot recognize it. In a couple, Blaster may be incurring credit card debt, stealing from his/her workplace, or having an affair.

When they face their behavior, they say that the victim is suspicious or paranoid, derailing the victim. They may say: "I can't believe you don't trust me." They may also blame the victim. For example: "If you can spend more time with me, then I won't have an affair. It's all your fault." They strongly need to resist changes and favor or reject them not to take personal responsibility for their actions. They hate to face their dysfunction; they will yell, yell, and threaten those who threaten them.

Projector

"You are always wrong, and I am always right. I hate people I hate." They use denial to defend their ego. They never take charge of their actions and have poor self-insight. When their character or motives are questioned, they become very defensive. Blaming others for their behavior or character defects is the central aspect of the projector. Projection is like looking at a mirror, thinking you are looking out the window how the projector sees the world and experiences life. They are unconscious of it most of the time. For example: "You are racist" when they are racist; or "You are controlling" when they are racist.

Like Triangulator, they may encourage people to join their own business, but not necessarily to hurt others, but to avoid responsibility. They never give up and are unrelenting because they try to avoid looking in the mirror at all costs. If you don't give them what they want, they will waste you and blame you. They firmly believe that their inferior quality is yours. They feel excessive hatred of others, but in fact, they hate themselves. By accusing others, they justify their actions.

Deliberate Misunderstanding

"Sorry, I must have misunderstood what you said. You confused me. That was not what I heard." They exaggerate, tell the truth, and lie to gain power and control. By spreading rumors and gossip, they damaged the reputation of the victims. Specifically, they will tell part of the truth, but they will distort the truth. By interpreting the victim's wrong words purposefully, they can manipulate and get what they want. They are very superficial and need to be the most famous people around. They appear outgoing and friendly, which is a way to obtain personal information about the victim to use it to their advantage. In their hearts, they created justifications to change/tilt the story, and many people believe in their distortions. When they face, they may shrink and cry.

Flirting

"Have fun with someone else's husband, what's the matter? She didn't give him what he needed. Other women hate me; it's not my fault. I'm gorgeous." They use provocative behaviors to attract people and achieve their goals. They are very superficial people. They consider themselves attractive, even if not beautiful, and They need to be everyone's favorite. They are very self-centered.

Many people are sexually active and often use sex as a catalyst to gain attention, strength, and control. When they flirt, they want others to recognize them and want immediate positive feedback. They seem to like to cause rifts between friends and family. It is not uncommon for them to break up their marriage and then gloat. They want to keep in touch with their current partner/spouse while actively looking for a new partner. They compete with partners. When they tamper with families, couples, friendships, and communities, they feel capable of watching these systems collapse.

Iron Fist

"Don't make me angry; otherwise, things will become very ugly!" If you don't give me what I want, I will mess with you! " They use intimidation and bullying to get what they want. They are very demanding and insist that you do what they say. Some of them use threatening gestures or actual physical attacks to threaten their victims. Some people use their wisdom to cover up the fact that they manipulate their victims. They will try to destroy those who will not give them what they want. When someone disagrees with them, they will be surprised because they feel superior to others. They believe in forcing things to move and bend to suit their desires. They see victims and others as pawns or tools that can be manipulated to get what they need. If their victims do not do what they want, the "iron fist"/"intimidator" will take positive action and force them to do so. They think it is their right.

Multiple Offenders

"If you didn't succeed at the beginning, please try again." They combined the above several ways of emotional manipulation. Generally, they use three or more types. For example, they use a combination of fixed victims, individual arms, triangulation, and blasters. They modified this mixture as a victim. If it is difficult for one to manipulate with a constant victim type, triangulation can be used.

Types of Manipulators in The Workplace

Manipulative leaders use subtle methods (such as gaslighting) to distort reality. Selectively use data or anecdotes to confuse others' opinions, and then use them to persuade people to ignore or doubt their feelings. To resist this manipulation, take a step back from what is happening and re-attract your senses. Here are five common workplace manipulators I have observed, and some tips to prevent them:

Dramatist

Historians and exaggerated emotions dominate this manipulative leader. When a sales manager was asked about his team's poor performance this quarter, he retorted: "For many years, I have been bleeding for this company and experienced a blizzard. Now you don't believe that I can achieve my annual plan. Is it?" The sales manager's dissatisfaction and overreaction caused his boss to back down because of fear of further violations. The opportunity for frank discussions about the ever-widening performance gap disappeared.

How do you deal with dramatists? Stick to the facts. Don't give in or apologize. Double handle simple, focused issues on understanding the situation.

Shunt

The obvious sign of this manipulation is an attempt to divert your attention from the topic at hand. The transferor is good at introducing nonsense or fallacy into the conversation, making things obscure. A CEO I know told the story of a former executive who has a knack for acting as a speaker (not logically derived from the discussion), which is a distracting topic, usually his execution Mistake. The discussion ended up wasting a lot of time and causing confusion.

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To deal with the shunt, please call him out on irrelevant information. Keep him focused on the topic and solve the real problem.

Twister

Unlike the diverters who keep you away from the subject and the playwrights who immerse the subject in emotion, twisters can damage. They are like Charles Boyer characters in "Gaslight," trying to control your perception. Distorters have distorted the meaning of the information and misled the followers of what happened.

His cunning subordinates often manipulate a smart but weakwilled leader I coach. He will provide impressive information about team sales, claiming that he will close the next big deal. The leader hangs on his subordinates for six months longer than he should, because he believes the prospecting pipeline is real. It's not. Delays in addressing insufficient sales have severely damaged business performance.

How do you deal with the distortion? Get out of the chair and see what happened. Conduct basic research (such as calling yourself so-called potential customers) to verify their existence and a true interest level. Keep focused and intense queries. Before being convinced by concrete facts and methods that reflect reality, please don't approve.

Fitter

Confusion is the mixing of two or more different themes. Some mergers are deliberately ignorant. They refuse to do the work required to understand the subject, so they think the subject is too complicated. Others just hide behind a mixture of two questions, rather than clarify the meaning of each question. They understand how the parts work, but they don't want you to do this.