Potty Training For Dummies E-Book

Diane Stafford

• Herausgeber: John Wiley & Sons
• Kategorie: Ratgeber
• Sprache: Englisch

Seitenzahl: 418

Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2011

Beschreibung

If you could remember your own potty training, you'd probably recall a time filled with anxiety and glee, frustration and a sense of accomplishment, triumphal joy and shamed remorse. You'd remember wanting so much to make mommy and daddy happy, and at the same time to make them pay for being so darned unreasonable. And you'd recall feeling incredibly grown up once you got it right. Maybe if we could remember our own potty training, it wouldn't be so tough when it came our turn to be the trainers. But as it is, most of us feel like we can use all the expert advice and guidance we can get. Potty Training For Dummies is your total guide to the mother of all toddler challenges. Packed with painless solutions and lots of stress-reducing humor, it helps you help your little pooper make a smooth and trauma-free transition from diapers to potty. You'll discover how to: * Read the signs that your tot is ready * Motivate your toddler to want to give up diapers * Kick off potty training on the right foot * Foster a team approach * Deal with setbacks and pee and poop pranks * Make potty training a loving game rather than a maddening ordeal Mother and daughter team, Diane Stafford and Jennifer Shoquist, MD separate potty-training fact from fiction and tell you what to expect, what equipment you'll need, and how to set the stage for the big event. They offer expert advice on how to: * Choose the right time * Use a doll to help model behavior * Say the right things the right way * Reinforce success with praise and rewards * Switch to training pants * Get support from relatives * Cope with special cases * Train kids with disabilities And they offer this guarantee: "If your child is still in diapers when he makes the football team or gets her college degree, you can send him or her off to us for a weekend remedial course--and ask for a refund of the cost of this book."

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Potty Training For Dummies®

by Diane Stafford and Jennifer Shoquist, MD

Potty Training For Dummies®

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Published simultaneously in Canada

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About the Authors

Diane Stafford: Diane’s writing career began when she snagged a great summer job as a speechwriter for the astronauts while she was attending college. After teaching high school journalism and English, she went on to her second career as a writer/editor, serving as editor-in-chief of Health & Fitness Magazine, Texas Woman Magazine, Houston Home & Garden, Dallas–Fort Worth Home & Garden, Philanthropy in Texas, and Latin Music. Also an entrepreneur, Stafford co-owned Health & Fitness Magazine and helped with startups of the magazine in New Orleans, Philadelphia, Miami, and Atlanta. She has won awards for health writing. Stafford has written hundreds of articles and now edits books for Arte Publico Press in Houston and writes books.

Diane Stafford lives with her husband, David Garrett, in Houston, where she is a well-known writer and a community volunteer for Casa de Esperanza de los Ninos and the Emergency Aid Coalition Clothes Center.

Stafford’s book Tilted Heart comes out in 2002, as well as another book that she and Jennifer Shoquist co-authored — No More Panic Attacks: A 30-Day Plan for Conquering Anxiety, also slated for publication in 2002.

Jennifer Shoquist, MD: Jennifer is a family-practice physician whose interest in writing began when she was attending the High School for the Performing and Visual Arts, while also interning at Health & Fitness Magazine in Houston, Texas. Later, she completed her medical degree at the University of Texas Medical School at Houston, followed by family practice residency at Memorial Southwest Hospital. Today, she works in family-practice medicine and serves as a health-issues resource for journalists. She and her husband, Robert San Luis, live in Houston with two shih-tzus, Lucy and Sophie. Their family will soon expand with the birth of a child, due in September 2002, a baby destined for an over-the-top potty-training extravaganza. Jennifer and Robert are both avid fitness enthusiasts.

Dedication

We dedicate this to parents and caregivers who potty train with TLC because they know how important it is to show children that we love them every single day of their lives. And, we dedicate this book to all the kids who inspire us with their fresh way of looking at the world, and remind us to keep the child in each of us alive. Kudos to our family tykes and tots — Xanthe, Cameron, Lindsay, Jack, Sam, Sidney. And, to those we were once “little people” alongside: Allen, Camilla, Austin, Fletcher, Shari, Amber. Shih-tzus Lucy and Sophie also deserve their share of the credit.

Authors’ Acknowledgments

This great project came our way thanks to the efforts of our incredible literary agent — Elizabeth Frost-Knappman of New England Publishing Associates, whose energy and optimism and warmth make everything more fun. She introduced us to Project Editor Kathleen Dobie and Acquisitions Editor Natasha Graf, both of Wiley Publishing, who worked hard to bring the book to fruition. Kathleen proves that amazing things can be communicated via e-mail. She’s such a gem to work with, and we thank her for being so patient and helpful; so gifted with super-word skills; and so generous with compassion. Natasha was always quick with answers, encouragement, and publishing expertise. Rob Annis also merits a pat on the back for his skillful copyediting.

Thanks to our wonderful friends and family who cheered and shared: David Nordin, Gina Bradley, Sarah Shoquist, Richard Pierce, Britt Pierce, Chris Fleming, Dot and Laurens Horstman, Eddi Lee, Christina Shirley, Joanne Goldstein, Cari LaGrange, Donna Pate, Jami Exner, Fred Aguilar, M.D., Dana Chandler, Wendy Corson, Shannon and John Mathis, Christy Waites, Liz Lemaster, Kristina Holt, Tweetie Garrett, Martha Steele, Michele Fisher. For helping us know what matters, we thank the folks at Emergency Aid Coalition Clothes Center, and the little children at Casa de Esperanza (and all the angels who work with them), and the big kids at South Houston High.

Deep appreciation goes to my husband, David Garrett, who gives me friendship and love. My loving thanks goes to my daughter, Jenny, who has made my life wonderful. Her good heart and sweetness are unparalleled. Also, my thanks to her husband, Robert, who is always supportive. For everything I know about loving ways to nurture kids, I thank my wonderful daddy, Clinton Shirley, and my beloved mother, Belle Shirley, who parented so beautifully, and gave all children — and all people — compassion and respect.

I want to thank my amazing husband, Robert San Luis, for all of his love and support, and my wonderful mom for her constant love. I also thank my sweet dad Martin Shoquist, Dr. Leticia Carlos San Luis, Dr. Tom and Gina Cartwright, and Lina Carlos. To my friends and patients, I send love and best wishes for positive potty-training days.

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Copy Editor: Robert Annis

Technical Editor: Beth Ann Martin, MD

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Editorial Manager: Christine Meloy Beck

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Editorial Assistant: Melissa Bennett

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Contents

Title

Introduction

About This Book

Foolish Assumptions

How to Use This Book

How This Book Is Organized

Icons Used in This Book

Where to Go from Here

Part I : Setting Up for Success

Chapter 1: Launching the Potty-Training Adventure

Starting Potty-Mambo Dance Class

Keeping an Eye Out for Your Window of Opportunity

Giving the Potty Mambo a Good Beat

Making Sure Everyone Enjoys the Big Dance

Knowing Your Place as Mentor

Benefiting from Others’ Cool Moves

Becoming the Grand Poopbah of Potty Mambo (Trouble-Buster Supreme)

Giving Special Attention to Special Children (with Disabilities)

Polishing off a Super-Slick Potty Babe

Chapter 2: Assembling Your Team

Starring Role for Junior

Taking on the Coach’s Job

Making Use of the Supporting Cast

Chapter 3: Using the Tools of the Trade and Dressing for Success

Picking a Potty Chair

Using Other Cool Tools

Getting the Goods

Being Clothes-Conscious

Part II : It’s All in the Timing

Chapter 4: Recognizing Readiness Signs

Doing Covert Operations

Watching for Behavioral Changes

Detecting Physical Clues

Noting Changes Directly Related to Potty Training

Chapter 5: Choosing the Right Time

Finding the Best Times

Avoiding High-Stress Times

Brainwashing Your Toddler (in a Nice Way)

Keeping Your Special Angel’s Quirks in Mind

Part III : Surefire Steps for Ditching Diapers

Chapter 6: Prepping for the Big Game

Modeling Big-People Behavior

Introducing All the Pieces

Chapter 7: Dancing the Potty Mambo

Kicking Off Mambo Weekend

Helping a Doll Use the Potty: Step 1

Sitting on the Potty Every Hour: Step 2

Setting Up a Success Chart: Step 3

Switching to Training Pants: Step 4

Minding Your Own Steps

Behaving after the Dance: Post-Weekend Protocols

Chapter 8: Keeping a Good Thing Going

Reinforcing Success

Oops, He Did It Again: Dealing with Accidents

Modifying Your Own Behavior

Switching to the Big Toilet

Chapter 9: Training Outside the Home

Dealing with Daycare Issues

Savvy Planning for Day Trips and Sleepovers

Part IV : Using Psych-Up Skills

Chapter 10: Staying on Message

Keeping the Game Upbeat and Pleasant

Avoiding the Pitfalls of Straying Off Message

Respecting Your Child’s Modesty Quirks

Getting to the Bottom Line

Chapter 11: Understanding Your Trainee

Getting Through to Busy Toddlers

Motivating with Pizzazz

Fielding Odd Behaviors

Chapter 12: Getting By with a Little Help

Special Potty-Training Issues for Working Parents

Getting Support from Helpful Relatives

Potty Training with an Ex: Going from Mom’s House to Dad’s House

Finding Outside Resources

Part V : Coping with Special Cases

Chapter 13: Managing Major-League Backsliding

Expecting Setbacks

Getting Back on Track

Dealing with Your Toddler’s Reactions to Accidents

Dealing with Your Own Reactions

Doctor, Doctor, Give Me the News

Chapter 14: Dealing with Day-Slippers and Bed-Wetters

Understanding the Differences between Night and Day

Handling the Emotional Aspects

Seeing a Doctor

Chapter 15: Handling a Hardcore Balker

Scoping Out the Problem

Trying a Few Options Before Handing Off the Baton

Dealing with More Than One Trainee

Responding When She Finally Gets It

Keeping Your Relationship Fun and Healthy

Chapter 16: Soiling Beyond Toddler Years

Tackling the Issue

Seeing a Doctor

Treating Other Physical and Psychological Problems

Dealing at Daycare

Preventing Future Bouts

Chapter 17: Training Children with Disabilities

Physical Issues

Emotional Differences

Coaching Techniques

Part VI : The Part of Tens

Chapter 18: Ten Answers from the Expert

Marking Territory

Sending Him to School Untrained

Handling a Potty-Mouth

Micro-Managing the Process Comes Naturally for Me

He Wants to Go Back to Diapers

My Son Still Wets the Bed

Is Putting Him in Cool Undies a Good Incentive?

He’s Peeing and Pooping During the Night

Refusing to Sit on the Potty Chair

One Twin is Dragging the Other One Down

Chapter 19: Ten Ways to Pump Up Potty Prowess

Softening the Setting

Properly Framing the Speed Bumps

Jazzing Up the Challenge

Using Your Insider Knowledge

Taking the High Road

Applying Pottying Skills to Real Life

Putting the Ball in Her Court

Letting Her Know She’ll Succeed

Cheering Her Slam Dunks

Crowning Her a Potty Princess

Chapter 20: Ten Reasons to Let Your Child Lead

Hearing His Body Talk

Setting the Pace

Finding His Motivation

Trailblazing via Temperament

Learning Pee and Poop Signals

Making It Up as He Goes

Learning How to Self-Propel

Signaling When He Needs Help

Knowing When to Sit a Game Out

Getting to Know Himself

Chapter 21: Ten Woulda-Couldas If You Got Do-Overs

Zipping Your Lips

Knowing When Enough is Enough

Curbing Your Tidying Tendencies

Stifling the Urge to Go Back to Diapers

Resisting the Desire to Compare Kids

Stopping the Steady Barrage of Bribes

Zapping the Noise-Maker Potty Chair

Taking a Laid-Back Approach

Laughing More, Frowning Less

Laying Off the Guilt-Tripping

Going with Your Gut

Introduction

Sure, you can be a potty guru. Spend a little time with Potty Training For Dummies, and you’ll be ready to handle anything in the Mad, Mad World of Potty Deeds — the absurd toilet-paper fiascos, the nudity-cult behavior, the tinkle terrors, the poo-poo bribes. Even getting prepped for the process can make you nervous.

That’s why it’s important to have terrific ideas — and psychic insight into what your kiddo’s thinking right now. If he could talk like a big person, he’d say, “Learning how to do the potty stuff will be tough, but with your help, I can pull it off.”

So, who cares if you’re second-guessing yourself. That’s natural — potty training can be intimidating. Truth is, most parents and caregivers are baffled by old wives’ tales and conflicting potty advice and the endless chances to mess this up.