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- Herausgeber: Alan D. Weber (Ph.D.)
- Kategorie: Ratgeber
- Sprache: Englisch
Potty training is a subject that strikes a chord of fear in many parents’ hearts, understandably. It is not like other milestones. No one really teaches a child when to walk or talk, he just does so when he is ready. Toileting is different and parents need to teach the child when and how to toilet.
There are lots of books and fragmented information out there on potty training. But, what this guide seeks to do is to give parents choice. Yes, the choice to choose what method works best for them. And so, the author has put together the best potty training methods in an easy to understand format. Each method comes with a detailed description, including a step-by-step guide to help you implement it. What's more, the author discusses the pros and cons of each method so that no parent has to go in blindly.
Some of the methods that are explored in this book include the child-centred approach, the infant training method as well as, the 3-day method, the 7-day method, and the one-day method. To cap it up, the author provides a recommended method, which is a hybrid of several well-known approaches. It is simple, straightforward, and easy to put into practice.
This book is a hand guide for every parent who will ever go through the potty training stage with their child. It gives you the much-needed confidence to face the stage with patience, calmness and a glass of wine. Read to create a pleasurable toilet training experience for your child and for yourself.
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Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2019
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Table of contents
Introduction
Chapter One
Chapter Two
Chapter Three
Chapter Four
Chapter Five
Chapter Six
Chapter Seven
Chapter Eight
Chapter Nine
Conclusion
Introduction
How do you get your toddler to use the potty independently without raising a fuss? Potty training is a very important topic, just ask the mom of any toddler. This is one issue that has given several parents a tough time, yet if you do a quick search online, there is no end to claims that you can get your little one potty trained in a couple of days or less.
If you are struggling with training your toddler to use the potty and it is not yielding a lot of success, the temptation is to think that maybe there is something wrong with you. Or with your child. If those thoughts are sneaking into your consciousness, then this is the time to resist temptation.
There is likely nothing wrong with either you or your child.
So how exactly are you supposed to potty train your child?
That is a question that might be running through your mind, and it is a good one. The fact is that there are many methods to potty training and the one that will work for you depends largely on your child.
It is easy to assume that a parent just automatically knows how to toilet train a child. But, it does not work that away. As a parent, it is important to learn how to do things properly. Of course, there are those who just intuitively know how to go about the potty training business and some children who just automatically start using the toilet by themselves. However, these are the exception and you probably do not know very many people like that. In fact, you probably don’t know anyone like that.
What most people do is learn about the different methods of potty training and then pick the one that suits their child’s temperament and personality. What works for one child might not work for his sister. So understanding your child is imperative for successful toilet training.
What does not work though, is shaming and mocking your child whenever accidents happen. This can have far-reaching negative effects on your child.
The psychologist, Erikson believed that potty training was one of the eight important stages in the psychosocial development of a person. In particular, that toilet training was the most important stage between the ages 1 and 2. He believed that it was an event that led to self-confidence and self-control in a child, breeding greater freedom and the ability to do things on their own.
Autonomy Vs Shame and Doubt
In order to achieve this autonomy in children, it is important that parents let the children do things on their own. This means not being too overprotective and certainly not shaming the child whenever there was a mistake.
The result of the way you react to your child during this stage has a great significance on the child's world view later on. Whether your child goes on to become a confident and self-assured person or views the world through a lens of shame and doubt about his or abilities will depend a lot on the way you handle things during the potty training stage.
Not to put pressure on you as a parent, this is merely a call for lots of patience during the toilet training phase. During any phase to be honest, but your toddler is going to need you to be patient and encouraging as she navigates her way through the strange, diaper-less world.
Patience you say?
Yes, asking you to be patient is easier said than done. There are times when it is going to seem as though your little angel is on a mission to test the limits of your patience. And there are times when mistakes are going to happen no matter how hard you try. Frankly, there is nothing as frustrating as placing your little one on the potty for what seems like endless hours and nothing happens. Only for him to go just as soon as he gets up from the potty, leaving you to clean up the mess.
Those days are going to happen. There is not much you can do about that. However, this book seeks to share strategies and tips that can help you speed up the process and yes, build up your reserve of patience.
We will examine the different methods of potty training, then share practical steps to help you get your little one using the toilet in no time at all.
We are not going to lie and tell you that it is going to be easy. It probably won’t be. But it does not have to be as stressful and teeth-grinding an experience as most people make it out to be. This book is here to serve as a guide and a handbook as you and your toddler go through this very important milestone.
Chapter One
Understanding Potty Training
Potty training means teaching your child to recognize the body signs and signals for urinating and bowel movements, then teaching the child to use the toilet or potty in the right way. A child is toilet trained when that child can control the need to urinate or have a bowel movement and can speak up when he or she needs to use the toilet.
There are several theories about the right time to start toilet training for a child. There are many books and manuals out there that will tell you to wait until your child is ready to be potty trained before you even think about it. Well, maybe not before you think about it, because we all know that once your baby is approaching that crawling, toddling stage, potty training is something most parents can’t seem to stop thinking about.
Then there are those that advise starting a child out as early as possible. Some experts advocate starting out as early as three months. While this seems contrary to popular opinion, those who follow this method swear that it works.
In the following chapters, we will examine each method and look into the steps and strategies you can use to implement the method you choose. This is not about which method is most effective however, it is more about your child. Each child is different and what works for Child A might not work for her brother.
Talk to different moms and eight out of ten will probably tell you that they had different experiences when they were toilet training each of their children. While one child might take to toilet training and be off diapers before his second birthday, it could be a totally different story with his brother.
The brother might be totally averse to using the potty and might resist every strategy the mom uses. This child, let’s call him Mike, is just not interested in using the potty. No matter how hard Mike’s mom tried, she just could not get him to urinate inside the potty, not to talk about defecating in it. Mike’s mom was getting frustrated because each time she placed him on the little potty, he would sit there for several minutes, sometimes close to an hour, yet nothing happened. After she would give up and put his clothes back on, he would go ahead and have a bowel movement.
For most moms, that scenario is not a strange one. If you are a mom and you are reading this, you are probably laughing and shaking your head like a crazy bag lady. Potty training can do that to a person.
We hear a lot about potty training in three steps, but it is important to know that there are no universal ‘three steps’. Each of the steps might be different depending on the child and the circumstances. This book is about giving you options.
Toilet training or potty training is an important milestone in the development of a child and it is important to understand that no matter how resistant your child might seem to the idea, in the end, he or she is usually proud of the achievement. This is not to say that you should force your child to be toilet trained, but there are ways you can encourage the little one and follow him or her up gently until they get it.
Why is toilet training so important?
There are several reasons why toilet training is very important in a child’s development. As we have already mentioned, it is an important milestone. It is one that teaches the child to be independent and do things for himself or herself. It instills pride in their actions.
Simply put, your child is going to feel very proud of herself or himself when he or she is able to use the toilet independently.
But that’s not the only reason why this milestone is important. If you plan to send your child to a day care centre or to kindergarten, then you need to, first of all, make sure that child is potty trained. Most centres of schools will not accept a child who is not yet potty trained. So if you are still thinking about whether or not to put your child (and yourself) through the rigours of potty training, then this is a really good reason.
