Spiritual Journey E-Book

Jill Mayer

• Herausgeber: Jill Mayer
• Kategorie: Ratgeber
• Sprache: Englisch

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Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2019

Beschreibung

This book has been written to help those who are interested in the more quiet side of their lives which is the spiritual side. It is a development or enlightenment tool which will help the reader to understand by tuning into ourselves through spiritual development, we can achieve a lot more in this life than we thought. Spiritual Journey covers a lot of information but is written simply for easy understanding. There are Guided Meditations and Worksheets dotted throughout Spiritual Journey.I have covered Understanding and Getting in Touch with our Spiritual side; Developing through the Dream State; Learning about our Guidance System; Meditation and what it has to offer; Actual Guided and Unguided Meditations for you to follow; Learning about the Chakra System giving a Guided Chakra Balance; Learning about Reincarnation; All Aspects of Karma; Understanding Past lives and the Lessons We Set Ourselves as well as What Soulmates and Twinsouls offer us; A Guided Past Life Regression Through Meditation; Learning about Healing Energies and what Candles can offer us for Healing; how Crystals can aid in spiritual development and finally using Positive Thought to understand the path to a spiritual journey. At the end it is all brought together so we can see the benefits to looking outside our earthly life. You dont have to read it all at once. Go with your intuition (gut feeling) and choose the areas you feel the need to learn about as you need to. I hope you enjoy Spiritual Journey as much as I enjoyed writing it.

Leseprobe

eBook version October 2018​Copyright © 2018 Jill Mayer​All Artwork Copyright © David Parrock

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By Jill Mayer

I would like to re-dedicate this book once again to my three sons Brian, Aaron and Nick. Boys you will always bring me such joy and happiness no matter where our journeys in life take us. Thanks guys for choosing me as your mum.

Acknowledgements

With Love and Thanks

David I want to thank you for designing the cover of Spiritual Journey and helping me to get this book ready to be published. You are truly a wonderful man and I am happy we are experiencing this journey together.

For those who have passed through my life and made a difference: Nana Lil, Graeme Minikin, Tony Berger and Jay Smith. Without you all my journey in life would be so different.

For all my friends and family that allow me to be me, I thank you for being a big part of my life.

For all my clients that have come into my life needing help and guidance, I thank you for allowing me to contribute to your spiritual journey. And for those of you who read Spiritual Journey and allow it to help you on your path in life, a huge thank you. Your ongoing support is much appreciated.

Bringing A Spiritual Vibration ​Into Your Physical Life

Hi there, welcome to Spiritual Journey. Let me take you on a journey that promises to be both exciting and informative. A journey that will span this lifetime and help you grow through other lifetimes as you gather information and knowledge, learning about the true you from within. This journey is not about telling you what you must do, but giving you different perspectives you can experience to make your lifes journey the best it can be. Take what you need from within this book and make it work for you in a way that is right for you. Blend the knowledge and wisdom from within these pages into your own belief system or just enjoy what has been written. My wish for you is that what you learn creates a life here on earth that is helpful and positive enough for you to create all you desire and more.

We must remember that there are different levels of understanding and memory within all who reside on this earth-plane which means there will be so many views to all the topics in this book. What you read here within Spiritual Journey is totally my viewpoint of spiritual and psychic awakening for development. What you choose to do with this knowledge is totally up to you and how you allow it to influence your life depends on what you need to learn in this lifetime. Always do what is right for you, change what you need to and always remember nothing is ever set in stone. You can change your path in life by making a conscious decision to do so and what happens from there is entirely up to you once again. I do know this: Spiritual Journey will help you to understand who you are at this time while you reside on this earth. It will give you the tools to awaken past knowledge and memory so this life is given a helping hand. You will see this book is about bringing out your psychic and spiritual knowledge from within so you learn to understand how you tick, where you may well be going in life and spiritually and who you can become in this lifetime. It will allow you to develop in a way that is right for you as you discover more about the spiritual side to your soul and how this can be woven into your physical life. From there you can share your knowledge passing it on as it is meant to be.

I have written this book as I have taught and still teach to the many groups, circles and workshops I run keeping it simple but informative, so if you are starting to explore your inner self you can understand all within easily. If you are more advanced, then this book will allow you to grow further in other ways. Sometimes it’s as simple as going back to basics that helps you move forward once again even at an advanced level.

I shall cover all aspects of a psychic and spiritual nature as I understand it as it has been given to me by my spirit guides, through my own experiences and with the knowledge I have gained in this life and throughout many others, then I will show you how all these experiences/understandings in the following pages can help us on our adventure through life whether we choose a physical existence, spiritual existence or both.

Firstly we will learn where our journey begins discussing Reincarnation and the cycles of life and death; we shall look at Past Lives to help us recognise why we do the things we do and meet the people we meet in our lives as well as learning what Karmic Lessons are and how to recognise them so they can be changed if need be; we will look at Vibration and Energy we as individuals work with, whether it is an Earthly/Psychic or a Spiritual vibration. We shall then learn about the Protection we are entitled to from within the spiritual planes. From here we shall look at Meeting our Guidance System in the spiritual and learning how they help us through the many twists and turns we shall encounter here on this earth. As we progress on our spiritual journey we will learn how to Understand our Psychic and Spiritual Abilities which in turn will help us to tune into our other senses such as Clairvoyance, Clairaudience and Clairsentience. We will explore Meditation and understand how a tool such as this can be used for development as well as unselfish personal gain. This will lead us into a Past Life Regression through Meditation which allows us to access previous knowledge to enhance our journey through the many lessons we may need to learn. As we always have to balance our learning we shall then access a Future Life to gain insight into what is to come in our futures. We shall explore our source of energy from within called The Chakra System and learn how to balance ourselves from the inside whenever we feel low or have lack of energy, or learn how to enhance the positive energy to improve our life. While dealing with colour and energy we will then learn how our Aura can be used as an indicator within our development then move onto how our Dreams are quite useful as we learn and grow spiritually. We will then learn how Astral Travel can help us throughout this journey if we feel confident enough to embark on this path. As I am passionate about Crystals this chapter will allow you to learn more about how they work, what they can do for you and how they will benefit you as you bring a spiritual/psychic vibration into your life. We will learn about Healing and Cleansing Energy so we can create a more positive and healthy life which in turn will help us to develop within as well as without ourselves progressing onto Manifestation by using Cosmic Ordering to take control of our journey. We shall then back this up with positive thought to bring our development together so we experience a more positive existence. Finally we will be able to see by bringing all of these tools, knowledge and understandings together, how much better our life can be while we exist here on earth.

There will be examples and experiences throughout this book to help you along your way, so read on and we shall begin our Spiritual Journey.....

Introducing the Author

Hi there welcome to my world. My name is Jill Mayer and I am a New Zealander now living in England. This country opened its arms to me fifteen years ago and throughout this time I have learned who I am understanding what my life purpose is about here on this earth. In this country I have truly come home. I consider myself to be a Natural Physical and Spiritual Medium and have devoted my life so far to this both in New Zealand in the public eye and here in England. I am so passionate about what I do and what I believe in, I couldn’t imagine a life without spirit. At this time I find myself practicing more of the physical or psychic mediumship as I embark on the path of the paranormal, enjoying the energy manifestation brings while I am ghost hunting. My readings and workshops/groups can be very grounding and practical as I remain in this vibration. Not only do I get to enjoy a night of chatting to and manifesting spirit, I also get to teach others how to be aware of what is around them on a spiritual and psychic level while ghost hunting which of course will filter into their everyday life eventually in some ways. What a challenge the paranormal world is but also the opportunity to visit some of the oldest buildings in England makes this work very worthwhile for me. The spiritual side is always close and comes when people need confirmation about their loved ones or when I need to teach development in its many forms. I believe I will continually practice Mediumship either by teaching through workshops and circles, doing private sittings, writing books associated with all aspects of the psychic and spiritual, working within the paranormal world ghost hunting in haunted locations and all the while learning and growing while I live on this earth. You could say this is one career I will keep enjoying throughout my life and thereafter!

My development started as a young child growing up with many spirits throughout the early years of my life, never feeling scared or worried about who they might have been or why they were there. I call myself a natural medium because to me talking with spirits and bringing knowledge out of myself and others is the most natural thing in the world. I have written this book in the hope that I can share the knowledge I have learned from other lifetimes as well as since I was born and am still learning, encouraging those who want to learn more about their psychic and spiritual paths to do so, which will allow you to see how our physical lives are intertwined with our spiritual lives to make our lives more fulfilling.

Even though I have been able to “see” all my life there are still lessons I am learning and I am always open to new ideas and input from anyone who would like to share. I have remarried since moving to England and can honestly say I have found a kindred soul and true mate in my David. My three lovely boys followed me here within this time and two have since married themselves. They all live with similar gifts to me but its only Nick who looks at it in the way that I do. Together we spend many hours chatting about life in a spiritual sense. Brian and Aaron live very physical lives so their spiritual side has become quieter at this point in time, though the basics will always be there for them. My grandson Ryder has since been born and I can see within those lovely eyes of his that he has vast knowledge spiritually, so I look forward to being a part of his life and helping him on his spiritual journey.

I was born in New Zealand in the city of Auckland in 1960. My mother tells me I was seeing things that weren’t there from as young as three but it wasn’t until the age of five that I knew I was different to my brother and sister in that I could see, hear, feel and at times taste things that weren’t there. My friends were all invisible to everyone except me.

By the age of seven I was aware that seeing people others couldn’t see and knowing things were going to happen before they did was not normal so I kept quiet most of the time. In those days they literally put you away in a mental institution if you said you heard voices. Sad but true! As you could guess, this was very daunting for a young girl of seven. I remember visiting my Nana Lil in the school holidays and feeling so intrigued whenever she got out her playing cards to tell me stories. As she did this I wanted to hold her cards because they were talking to me as well. She used to hold out her hands with the cards in her palms and tell me to pick one. From there she would give me little readings about what I would be doing in my life as an adult. Often I would go with her to family and friends homes for card evenings watching as she read their futures as well. My Nana Lil never really talked about her gifts as a psychic but she was always very supportive whenever I mentioned anything out of the ordinary. She told me to never use my gifts for self gain and felt very strongly about this. Over time I learned she gave readings to people by using a deck of ordinary playing cards but never charged them money. I guess you could say I was hooked from the moment I became aware of this and over the years we exchanged information we both saw in the cards. Turning twelve was extra special for me as Nana took me upstairs to visit with Mrs Conaught, one of her friends who was a gypsy-like woman. She taught me to tune into both tarot and playing cards and helped me to open myself to the knowledge that lay within. I still chuckle to myself now whenever I think that what started out as a game as a child ended up turning into a thirst for knowledge for me, opening doors to psychic and spiritual development. It never ceased to amaze me how I could see pictures in the cards when there were only numbers and symbols and how I could hear my guides speaking about what would happen when a specific card was drawn. My Nana Lil was always interested in what I saw, heard and felt and nurtured this with caring and loving insight.

As time went by I would find myself daydreaming while sitting outside and if I didn’t like a lesson at school, I simply tuned out and found myself walking in streams and on beaches until the lesson ended. Sometimes it was scary not really understanding how I could do this, but oh so very exciting for a teenager. At times I was in awe of what I could see and hear as it was always so real and any information I received proved so accurate. By the age of eighteen while working for the local newspaper in Auckland, I was introduced to Mr and Mrs Deacon quite by chance (but obviously not on a spiritual level) who invited me into their circle helping me to further develop, understand and fine tune what I already knew. Spirituality was just becoming an open subject in the late 70’s in New Zealand so you can imagine how good I felt to actually meet other people like myself.

During this time I visited my Nana Lil often so I could tell her about the progress I made spiritually and psychically. It was on one of these visits that she helped me to understand what the vibration of death would look like for me. As I arrived I noticed her sitting on the couch looking displaced, as if she didn’t belong here anymore. Even though she was sitting close to me she looked miles away in body, so I asked her why that was so. She explained to me that all living things have a life cycle and I was seeing the end of hers on this earth. I learned from that experience how to recognise death from there on. Over the years I have reasoned why I was there to witness this vibration and came up with this. My Nana Lil guided me onto my path spiritually teaching me to open myself up to the possibility of other things in my life, what better person to guide me through to the understanding of a physical death, the end of our natural earth cycle. From there she returned to me one week after her death, in full physical form to show me that we did indeed exist once we physically died. I realised at this point that I could hear, see, feel and sense her showing me what abilities I would have when I tuned into spirit. ​This made my career in Mediumship so much easier for me to help others as through my Nana I had learned so much already and understanding physical death spiritually like I had with her would help me help my clients more easily. She remains a teacher to me still and will always be in my heart as a much loved Nana. If my grandchildren can feel the same way about me, I will know that I have done my job as well as my Nana did.

As time went on it seemed whatever I attempted on a psychic and spiritual level the knowledge was just there. At times I questioned whenever I felt outside my comfort zone but generally I accepted what my guides in spirit had to say because it felt right. If I was unsure about something or simply didn’t have knowledge of it, I learned through study and experience about it, so I could make sense of it. It wasn’t until my early twenties that people took me seriously even though my readings were very accurate from the age of sixteen. On moving to Taupo in the middle of the North Island of New Zealand, I taught all I had learned through workshops and groups, becoming involved in Psychic Fairs and organising these from year to year. During this time I came in contact with many high profile American Mediums exchanging information and building friendships along the way. As the 1990s arrived and I entered my thirties I became aware that the hardships in my life being health and relationship problems, taught me lessons I needed to learn so I could progress in this lifetime and help others. I realised that what we thought seemed to create what happened in our lives so started living what I believe, a very positive lifestyle, practising positive thought and affirmations. The results were amazing and life changing. When I found myself in England at thirty-eight I knew things were now in perspective in my life and my development grew accordingly. I remain in the public eye enjoying the interaction from all, still helping others through private sittings, workshops, meditation groups and circles. In the last 12 years working with Fright Nights and Dusk Till Dawn here in the UK has made me realise yet again that there is great responsibility in what I do so I make sure I give what is tried and true in an honest and understanding way. Nothing is ever lost in our lives and no matter if you only want entertainment out of the spiritual side to your life, it will be part of your experience for learning and growing.

I believe each one of us has something to offer whether it is just for ourselves or for others. Whether you have a huge amount of knowledge or just the littlest amount, it doesn’t matter. Sometime, somewhere you will find yourself in a situation where you can help with what you know or someone will help you with what they know. You may forget what you have learned throughout your life, but when your children are old enough or experiencing what you had as a child, that knowledge will burst forward and you will find yourself helping those you love. That is what makes this all worthwhile. That is why I have dedicated my life to psychic and spiritual matters enjoying the results it had for other people and the peace it offers me. I have been told I do things very differently but the results are always very accurate and always right for those who receive. I believe spiritual matters should be treated with respect but that doesn’t mean we can’t have fun learning all about our spiritual selves as well. Often we find that once we explore the spiritual side of our lives, the physical side just simply starts to fall into place. For me, my belief system is a lifelong commitment and I will always lead by example so will never expect anyone to practice something without knowing if it works or not first.

Not all I have learned throughout my life I teach to others. Some things have been given to me just for me so I keep this knowledge close and thank my guidance system for it. The basis of my spiritual belief I still use to this day.

Chapter 1

Reincarnation - The Beginning of Our Spiritual Journey

I am sure we all have wondered at some stage in our lives where the spiritual or psychic knowledge we have to start off with has come from. Apart from being passed down the family line through some form of genetics, at times knowing you have a psychic or spiritual inclination can be a little unnerving. Maybe we have wondered what we had to achieve at other times to have gained the knowledge and wisdom we have. Maybe we believe we have lived other lives and this is where our knowing has come from but not really understanding how that could be. I believe to develop ourselves whether it seems to be a new thing for you in this lifetime, or to further develop ourselves as a continuation from other lives and times, we need to know a little about reincarnation. From here I am sure developing or awakening your spiritual or psychic abilities won’t seem so random if you feel you haven’t come across this type of thing before.

The belief of Reincarnation has been around since the beginning of time and practiced as a belief over many centuries and throughout many religions and belief systems. It is believed that our souls are forever eternal, that we are born, we live, we die and then we are reborn once more to repeat this cycle. When we feel the need not to anymore, or we indeed have learned the lessons we have set ourselves in a physical and/or spiritual sense within this dimension, we simply stop reincarnating into physical lives and continue the journey of our soul in a spiritual sense in other dimensions and planes of existence. For the purpose of this book we shall look at reincarnation as a way for our souls to transport if you like, the knowledge and wisdom we gain in every lifetime we live, so that eventually our journey here on earth finishes. With every life we live our soul evolves to become more focused on our purposes in life, helping us to strive for balance and unconditional love in a physical and spiritual sense. Every soul is different and unique to itself so there will always be those souls who enjoy living on this earth and want to return even when their lessons are finished. I believe what is right for that soul will be and if you are lucky enough to come across someone who seems to have their lives together in every sense, then you are more than likely looking at a soul who has finished their karma on earth but still wants to reside here. I feel you can learn so much from souls such as these.

Many a time I have been asked one particular question about reincarnation. This is: Can we come back as a bug or an animal? The way I see it is we all have certain levels we grow to and our knowledge and memory we retain will put us at a level where we surpass that of a bug or even an animal. I suppose you could say its like a pecking order. There are those who serve others and don’t want to extend themselves any further. There are those who want to improve their levels but are happy staying within their comfort zone which creates limits. There are those who want a part of their soul essence to belong to something with other soul essences so this limits the type of reincarnation they choose. There are those who choose to expand their wisdom and knowledge therefore growing past these more base levels. And it goes on. You wouldn’t want to be a slug in the garden and be a food source for other animals if you had knowledge and understanding of self preservation and the want to learn more. Why would a highly motivated person looking for new experiences in life want to return as a fox, duck or even a fish? It would be too limiting for the way that person would think. But there are beliefs out there that say this does happen. For me I feel at the level of development I am, this wouldn’t work.

Let’s look at how reincarnation can help us develop our psychic and spiritual abilities. Have you ever wondered where your phobias or fears have come from when you know you haven’t experienced anything to create these in this lifetime? Have you ever wondered why you keep repeating negative patterns in your life or why we feel and have different experiences in our lives in different towns and cities? Have you ever wondered why you are abundant in every area of your life without working for it or why you just happen to be the most positive person in the world naturally? Have you ever wondered why you can hear what other people are thinking in your mind or wonder why you see pictures when you stand around other people? Maybe you have visited a foreign country and felt you have lived there before? This country may make you feel quite airy fairy as you visit it or you may find a thirst for a certain religion or belief while residing there. These things can be attributed to living in other times and places throughout time, learning lessons and gaining insight spiritually which gives us an understanding of how we determine our destiny within our soul evolution. Some times we follow the way we feel or what we see in these situations, some times we don’t. I guess it has a lot to do with where you are in your earthly life and where you are on your spiritual journey at that time.

Here is an example through experiences of my own that I feel connects reincarnation to spiritual/psychic development.

All my life I had felt displaced, not always within myself but within the country I was living in. I always wanted to live elsewhere, anywhere just not New Zealand. At age eighteen I found myself in Australia believing I needed to be there to develop myself in a spiritual sense. The experiences I had in that time led me away from that path which frustrated me immensely as I felt being a Medium was meant to be. I knew I couldn’t live in Australia if I wanted a career in this way. After many past life experiences through meditation concerning Australia, I knew I would only have physical lives there as they had always been like that previously. So I walked away feeling Australia just wasn’t for me this lifetime.

At twenty years of age I found myself drawn to England and the history that surrounded it. I was fine tuned spiritually by an English couple which fed this need to know more, so searched for an Englishman hoping this would open the door to immigration. I found the Englishman but never managed to find my way here to England at that time. I still chuckle to this day thinking about how I just thought doors would open once the Englishman came along. I definitely learned patience through this experience which in turn helped me to help so many others as well. I constantly practiced all aspects of mediumship in New Zealand and came in contact with many American mediums throughout my life there. So I thought America was the place to go but whenever I made plans to visit America through these people, obstacles arose and nothing eventuated. Spiritually I was told America wasn’t for me at that time either but doors would open later in my life.

At thirty-eight years of age an English friend I had contact with over a period of time stated he was coming to New Zealand for a visit and within four months of that visit we organised for me to go back with him to see if I could make England work for me. Everything fell into place with ease so I knew it was meant to be. On arriving in Yorkshire I felt like I had come home. I knew within myself that all I needed was here spiritually and sure enough I picked up my business where I had left it in New Zealand. My first port of call was Scotland because the need to visit and even live there was very strong. One trip in particular I was given a recall of four lifetimes as I was visiting the towns and cities. Inverness brought me so much peace and I could feel spiritual knowledge flooding into my being as we resided there. This knowledge was earthly which I found myself developing from that time in 1999. At one stage I started speaking in a Scottish accent which really amazed me, as I just can’t get my tongue around any accent apart from my own. Over the time of being in Scotland I decided living there was not for me in this lifetime as I wanted to continue on my spiritual path more than the earthly path, though I still practice paganism as my belief. On making that decision I found doors opening in England within the spiritual movement but chose not to become involved as I had done in New Zealand. I met people I had known before, went places that enhanced my spiritual knowledge and yes places that drained it away and left me feeling all wrong. I woke up many a time wondering how I knew things that I hadn’t known before and moved around England following feelings spirit would give me to help my career. I have learned after fourteen years here that I needed to be in England so I could bring back the author in me, help people to find their purposes in life through spiritual and psychic development, meet the right life partner, develop further in a spiritual sense and finally find the peace I have craved for throughout my life. I know I will never return to New Zealand as I have moved passed that stage of development in my life both spiritually and physically.

As you can see opportunities arose to return to countries I had lived in before but the type of life I needed to have this time round was different to what those countries could offer me. Eventually with patience and of course right timing, the right situation turned up as I had always felt and the right life arrived as I made my way to England. Once settled I felt the need to write and the author in me from other times returned. What I found interesting was my grandfather was a medium in the 1950s and performed seances as a career and here I was in England doing the same thing through ghost hunting within the paranormal world. In New Zealand I had no inclination to do either of these things yet I always lived in haunted houses and helped people in these situations. I loved to write but never followed anything through. Sometimes now I read what I have written and am totally amazed that had come from within myself, so I know I am tapping into other significant lifetimes for the knowledge and wisdom in this way which enhances these abilities in the here and now.

If you believe you have had other lives in other places, then you may be able to understand how you know things without learning about them, and your spiritual and psychic knowledge will simply grow with a little faith and trust that everything is in the right time and space sequence for you. So we learn what we can in this lifetime, experience what we need to so we can move forward in our lives more easily and then we simply die, gather our experiences and information in spirit and once again look for another life in a way that is right for our souls and become reborn. From there it all begins again and depending on what sort of life you are living, any memories that are appropriate and knowledge you have gained from other times and places will step into play to continue your life cycle.

I love the idea that we just don’t die and that is it. That is why I practice mediumship – to give hope to the world that life goes on and on and on no matter what and who we are this time round. We will always have another lifetime to rectify any wrongs and change anything we need to whether we remember that or not. Our soul will have all that information imprinted into it so there is always a helping hand along the way, one way or another. My second book Walking with Spirit goes into more detail in this regard if you wanted to learn more about reincarnation.

Just know that the knowledge and memory we have within ourselves is there for our guidance and others if that is what you choose to do with it. Frankly I believe it doesn’t matter which lifetime it has come from, its what you do with it in this lifetime that is important. Always try to strive for balance and be as honest with yourself as you can as you access past experiences.

Lets move on now and see where our development takes us as we continue on with our spiritual journey.

Chapter 2

The Effects of Past Lives and Karmic Law on Our Development - Understanding Our Past Lives

Previously we talked about Reincarnation and how going from one life to another can either help us grow spiritually or simply stop this process. We learned that we can take our lessons through many lifetimes until we learn them but most importantly we have a choice whether we want to bring out any psychic or spiritual abilities or not. Lets have a deeper look at past lives, the karma we create and the lives we lead because of this. In the process of having past lives we are able to learn more about awakening this side of our life. Just maybe then we will see how important it is to listen to our inner knowing for one reason or another. Its not always about gaining spiritual insight but believe me, it certainly has its place in a physical life especially if you don’t get the answers you need from it.

I feel without past lives we could not have created our present life. With each lifetime we have lived we have learned many lessons, ones we have set ourselves every time we come back to this physical plane known as earth. In every lifetime we have returned to earth as a different person, we still have a common denominator – our soul. This stays the same with every lifetime we have, giving us the substance of a human being when on this earth-plane and giving us our spiritual existence when we have gone home again to spirit. Because we have the same soul essence every time, we tend to remember a few bits and pieces from other lives now and again, but if we are not aware in any way through psychic and spiritual insight, we tend to discount them. I do believe our consciousness keeps a record of the lives we have lived and stores it in our subconscious for when a specific lesson needs to be addressed. As we progress through our lifetimes we may bring our spiritual development to the fore helping us to recognise that lesson or at least give us an inkling into it. I believe our past lives form our present lives helping us to work through all the karma we have created in our time as a physical body. But don’t panic here, we don’t learn all our lessons at the same time. They are staggered throughout our many lifetimes we will live and are always appropriate to the life we are living at that time.

I am a great believer in that the hardest lessons create the greatest rewards. Sometimes in order to learn our lessons quicker we need to have a very hard path. If we choose this difficult path I believe while we are still in spirit we shall put in place the many signposts we shall encounter throughout that new life to help us get through it as need be. These usually come in the form of intuition, spiritual and psychic knowledge, coincidences in the physical and people we meet. Its up to us whether we take these signposts on board in that lifetime. Once all is set and we have returned, we should be able to experience all the patterns we have set ourselves and move on from them a lot quicker. How wonderful to think we meet the same people over and over throughout lifetime after lifetime giving us the opportunities to put right, receive or just to enjoy the connection. Isn’t it great to think we will be learning similar lessons with those we love and those around us! At this point you may sigh thinking how horrible to be coming back to do the relationship again with someone you don’t like. Doesn’t that make you think that just maybe you need to try and change things then? Here we are coming together with souls we have known and/or maybe not known much at all, which brings me to say that our lives are intertwined from one end of the Universe to the other. We would be silly to think we are the only soul vibration out there in this vast universal system. Who knows what form we have taken before when not in human form. Now that will be an interesting thought but one that is being written for another book. I believe we meet certain people in our lifetime because we have lessons or experiences to learn and need that person or people to help us learn them. I believe we choose our own sex, either male or female and look at what lessons we need to learn for this lifetime, then search out our parents to give us the start we need. As we choose our parents while in spirit, this ensures they will be able to teach us the lessons we need to learn from birth and until they simply are not a part of our physical lives. Sometimes the lessons we have with our parents are short lived so therefore the contact may stop at birth or a very young child, hence the spiritual reason why there are adoptions and fostering experiences. As spirit you will see that you may need to be with certain people to learn some valuable lessons in your life to be, or maybe just to pay back some karma, so you might need to choose parents that will be able to put you in the path of those other people. You will be able to see that by the time these parents have you they will be living in another city or town you have to be in to complete or take part in some karma in your life. Nothing will be left to chance as you choose the beginning of your newborn life. The only drawback this has is if you arrive on this earth and are not tuned into a spiritual vibration in any way at all, you simply won’t have any inclination why things may be as bad as they are, or as good as they are at the beginning of your life. Maybe it will be all part of your lessons to figure it out!

Look at this experience:

A long-standing client asked if I would put her experience in this book so it could help others. We talked often about how we choose our parents so her experience is quite appropriate.

Rosie was born to a mum that was only fourteen years old and for the first four years she experienced all the love in the world. Her mum grew up with her daughter as her parents watched out for them but not always in a positive way. When Rosie’s mum reached eighteen she realised how much of life she had missed out on and asked her parents to become Rosie’s adopted parents. From the day Rosie’s birth mother signed the papers giving her parents adoption, she simply packed her bag and left the country. She had met a man that didn’t want the baggage of a young child but most of all she wanted to be as far away from her daughter as she could. That was what she was told and that was all the explanation she was given as she grew up.

Rosie’s life from then on became harsher and she learned the only way to survive her childhood would be to keep a low profile, do as she was told and never question. Her grandparents begrudged her and constantly found ways of punishing her for no reason at all. As Rosie became a teenager, she realised her grandparents were punishing her for her birth mothers mistakes. Rosie made sure she didn’t have a boyfriend until she was sixteen just to keep the peace and when she found her first job she saved enough to find a flat of her own and leave her unhappy childhood home. On her eighteenth birthday her birth mother turned up at the door wanting to talk. Rosie had no idea where she had been or even that her birth mother wanted to see her. After many nights of talking Rosie realised her mother had been made to give up her daughter and encouraged to move away with the American man in her life at that time. She was told she could return for her daughter at any time. Her mother made reference to the letters she had written to Rosie over the years explaining all this but more so the letter she had left with her daughter the day she had left. Rosie had not been given any letters in eighteen years. She had been told her mother was selfish and had hated her, that is why she had left. Needless to say, Rosie and her mother went back to the family home to get some answers. She was lucky enough her grandmother had kept the letters in a box and was given them and told to leave, never to return.

The good thing was that Rosie after reading the letters her mother had sent her, felt the need to spend time with her birth mother and went back to America with her. There she met her husband and had two lovely children herself. Over the years she returned to England to catch up with her childhood friend but she always returned to America because that is where she felt she belonged. Her birth mother has been in her life all throughout and together they learned to forgive the harshness of Rosie’s grandparents. Through all the pain Rosie went through she admits without her grandparents bringing her up she wouldn’t have met her best friend that is still there, she wouldn’t have embarked on the career she had so in her mind nothing was lost. The connection to her real mum became a friendship so she didn’t go through any of the problems most children have with parents at times. She now understands that the way her life panned out was just as it was meant to be so she could find her soulmate, have a wonderful relationship with her mother and be somewhere that connected her soul to this earth. She realised that if her mother had not have gone off with her boyfriend, they all wouldn’t be connected, happy and living in America.

Learning to forgive is not an easy feat but Rosie felt that maybe that was one of the lessons she needed to learn and despite the pain she went through from her grandparents, she found it in her heart to let it go. This has made her an excellent councillor in her line of work.

So as you can see, sometimes we need one set of parents to get us to somewhere else or to someone else. If we are lucky enough to not have parental karma then that is a bonus for you. Either way, our parents are there because we need them to be regardless of how long they stay in our lives. I have found it is best to thank them and move on regardless of how things have worked out. Sometimes that is all that is needed to end any karma between you all.

How many times have you heard young children as young as the age of five recount experiences they have had but have no connection to at that time? A lot of these experiences stem from past lives such as remembering someone they have met in another time, remembering places they have been to in other times and even knowing what is going to happen in a couple of days. Children at this age don’t know how to judge, everything is treated in an innocent way and a very truthful way for them. They nearly always give out accurate accounts of other lifetimes because of these points. How often have you told your child he or she has an overactive imagination? Maybe it would be good to listen to what they have to say and learn something you didn’t know.

Lets connect the past to our future. Take a moment and think about these questions:

Do you have any major dislikes or likes in this life

Do you read certain types of books

Is there a particular time period you are drawn to outside of our time

Is there something you are so passionate about it consumes you

What type of furniture or houses are you drawn to

Is there a particular country you feel drawn to

What types of music are you drawn to

Are there any people you feel drawn to more than the norm.

All of these questions may just jog your memory and you may be amazed at what you come up with. Usually if you have answers to these questions then you most certainly have lived before. Sometimes you just have to think outside of the norm or tune into your psychic or spiritual abilities to realise it.

How wonderful it is to know that the person we are now has the same soul essence as every other lifetime we have lived, so any information stored is there for the taking if we know how to tune into it. Okay, sometimes our soul would have become confused and led lives that were not so good, but it has also led lives that were very worthwhile. Wouldn’t you love to be able to tune into some of that knowledge to help you as you are now through your life? Be honest with yourself. Wouldn’t that be exciting especially if it meant meeting someone you have always wanted to meet or getting the job you love or even breaking down the barriers where making money is concerned? Life doesn’t have to be tough when we can access past lives to help ease the way. We all have a choice between a life that is good and not so good and it all depends to what extent our other lives had been like as to what we are like now. So we make a choice to lead a very good life last time creating peace, good fortune and happiness, to come back this lifetime to sort out some karma we had worked up in other times. Staggering the not so good lives would be more beneficial to our soul growth so we could learn what we needed to learn in between the more paying back type of karmic lives. Makes sense really though its up to the individual at the end of the day. If you have taken on board a little spiritual insight then you could consciously make the decision for the next life before you end up in spirit. I suppose if you think about it at some stage in our evolution from spirit to the physical we will come back and sort things out anyway. The longer it takes to learn our lessons means we will come across many lifetimes learning the same ones. Sometimes we may feel like we are repeating something time and time again. Know this is because you still haven’t learned the experience attached to that particular lesson, so we repeat it until we finally can say - “hey I know why I have done this this way, or met this person or keep on returning to that country.” What a joy when this happens and what a wonderful feeling it is for our guidance system to know you have learned a lesson that has plagued you for many lifetimes. However if you can’t recognise your lessons in the first place, how can you learn them and leave them behind? This is when using your spiritual/psychic insight or help from within the spiritual realms comes in handy. Otherwise you are relying on the physical things such as other people and the repeating of something to help you take notice. This is truly the harder way of seeing the things you are meant to. Other people can help you but it is you who must see the issue, understand it then simply let it go.

Many people come to me asking for guidance and ask why they can’t leave a particular relationship behind, or why that certain someone keeps on coming back into their lives when they don’t want that, or why do people always treat them that way, or take them for granted? I always give what spirit tell me to give, but nine times out of ten those same people return asking the same questions months later, only because I have recognised their patterns and they haven’t. You can be told what those lessons are, but at the end of the day they are your lessons and you have to see them for what they are and take responsibility for them, otherwise you just don’t move on from them.

Past lives are there to connect us to the past and all those issues that we have created, healed or are still learning from. They are there to help us connect to the right partner in this life, find the right job, the right house and if we still don’t understand what is happening, then we move into another lifetime and try again. I believe we will always be given something to alert us to that right person or wrong person as it may be, to living in the right house or simply not to. Despite the relationships we have whether they are good or otherwise there is always some form of karma attached to them so I always say to people that a relationship is always there for the duration of the lessons that need to be learned. Some lessons take a lifetime to learn, some a few months, some a few weeks but overall eventually they will get learned.

I do believe there are no coincidences in a lifetime - everything is as it needs to be and will be. Yes there are many paths to take within one experience and it doesn’t matter which path we choose, there is certainly no right or wrong way, only things we need to learn and at times things we don’t need to learn but get caught up in. Do these issues help us? Not really but they may help someone else you come in contact with later on. Nothing is ever lost either through earthly or spiritual means. Sometimes it doesn’t matter how you try and change things, they will be as they need to be. Remember the next time you accidentally run into that special someone or win that special prize, that it is as you have planned it before you came down to this earth so that you could learn lessons attached to that particular experience. If you have a conscious choice to bump into that person, then of course the path can be changed. Nothing in your lifetime happens without a reason.

When I think about the tools we have available to us in this day and age, it does make me smile. How much easier is it to sort your life out with the computer technology we have! We need to take these opportunities by the hand and welcome them into our lives because they always mean something. Our technology has sped time up, our living is faster and opportunities arise that much quicker. Scary but quite useful if you feel the need to live in another country or be with someone from across the world that normally would not have been possible. Use some of the insight or intuition and take note of the situations you get yourself into through technology. What connections have you made and what results have they given you? Have you felt talking to someone over the net is like talking to your parents, your brother or sister? Interesting thought!

Talking about family, I wanted to state once again my belief is we choose our parents and usually come together with brothers and sisters who will have similar lessons to learn, as they have chosen the same mum and dad. I have tested this theory over many years asking many questions and always come up with its the parents that are the common denominator. I have seen many brothers and sisters that have absolutely nothing in common and end up living at the opposite sides of the world never to meet again, and siblings that create problems for each other more than I have seen siblings that help each other and have fantastic relationships. Quite interesting really. Maybe you could take a look at your brothers and sisters thinking about any issues or not you have. It could give you a clue as to what you all are learning at that time. As we all grow up our lessons change. But do remember we are all individuals so even as children our lessons can vary to those of our siblings. With brothers and sisters more often than not its a lucky dip. If you are lucky enough to get on then you are lucky. If not then learn the lessons quickly and move on anyway. You may find your connections to your brothers and sisters span one lifetime so of course the connections won’t there be anyway. If you have a great connection to your brothers or sisters then you will know the relationships would have spanned many lifetimes and it may not only be about the parents. Take a deeper look and compare notes with your siblings. You might be surprised by what you learn.

You may ask what about those people who have the most loveliest of lives. They have all the money they need, the people in their lives that are good for them, the right job and peace. From other peoples perspective they have everything they have ever wanted. Funny really, what we seem to think of as having it all, may not be how those people see that for themselves. What you believe to be happy and content may just be a problem for others. Putting that aside, yes there are people who genuinely are well off, happy with it and karma free living here on this earth. I believe that not everyone on this earth-plane needs to learn lessons and in that we hopefully will learn very valuable things from coming in contact with these people. Look at Mother Theresa and all those wonderful people who care deeply for others. Those people who are millionaires and live in a happy place within and without themselves helping as need be. This will be their choice to come to a place where they can do good and help in positive ways when there may have only been hardship and pain. Their unselfishness and kindnesses are because they are evolved souls here to teach others, sometimes for a long life, sometimes for a short life through no fault of their own. It really gives us hope to see there are happy souls around us.

As we are in total control of what happens in our lifetimes before we step foot on this earth-plane, we hopefully will meet everyone we plan to and achieve what we set ourselves unless we find once down here we can’t follow the path we have set ourselves. This does happen and can lead to accidental deaths or wrong paths in the physical if this is not recognised. Because we make these decisions in spirit we do forget that we have to be in the physical and go through all the experiences which can lead to unhappy beings at times. This is why we do have many paths we can take. If you find yourself going down a path that is frightening and painful you have that choice not to learn these lessons and can acknowledge the hard times you are going through, then making sure you move on from them by changing your direction. This moves you away from the problem but doesn’t sort it out. Sometimes you may find you have gone into a relationship or job and been through so many years to end up right back at the beginning of where you started from in the first place. This usually means the path you took taught you many lessons, maybe good and maybe not so good, but might not have been necessary and so you start again, hopefully this time on a path that is right for you with knowledge from the experiences you have had making it an easier transition. I say to people if we don’t learn the lessons we are meant to, we end up doing them time and time again and boy that can be really hard on a person. We might go down a particular path and loose money, friends, our self esteem and health to be right back at the beginning, only this time there is a choice not to do the same thing again. Usually just by acknowledging this thought and making sure we don’t repeat all those patterns again, we have learned a very valuable lesson.