Taking the Stage E-Book

Judith Humphrey

• Herausgeber: John Wiley & Sons
• Kategorie: Fachliteratur
• Sprache: Englisch

Seitenzahl: 356

Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2014

Beschreibung

Many women today wonder: what will it take to get that seat at the boardroom table? Earn that coveted promotion? Or simply have their voices heard? Taking the Stage provides a comprehensive, proven approach that enables women to come forward into the spotlight and speak up, stand out, and succeed. Based on a program from the Humphrey Group that has been delivered to over 400,000 women worldwide, Taking the Stage shows women--no matter their age, rank, or profession--how to communicate with courage and confidence in every situation, from formal speeches to brief hallway conversations. Judith Humphrey provides the inspiration and practical advice for women to "take the stage" mentally, verbally, vocally, and physically. Women can make the most of every opportunity by understanding how best to: * Speak up confidently, even when others don't agree; * Convey their accomplishments without self-doubt; * Be assertive but not aggressive; * Deliver clear and convincing messages; * Move beyond "minimizing" language and apology; * Find their own powerful and authentic voice; * Achieve confident body language and a leadership presence. By applying these techniques and others to every communication-- whether making a presentation, speaking at meetings, conducting an elevator conversation, or selling themselves in job interviews--women will be recognized as the leaders they are and attain positions of influence. For women at all stages of their career, and for managers and executives committed to supporting and guiding women on their leadership journeys, Taking the Stage is the practical, broad-based solution that will allow women to speak up confidently, gain respect, earn the promotions they deserve, and secure their places at the boardroom table.

Leseprobe

CONTENTS

Cover

Series Page

Title Page

Copyright

Dedication

Preface

Introduction

Part One: Choose to Take the Stage

Chapter One: We Have Been Taught to Fit In, Not Stand Out

Girls Are Taught to Fit In

Women Are Reluctant to Stand Out

If We Don't Stand Out, We Can't Be Outstanding

Advice for Leaders of Women

Chapter Two: Silence the Inner Crow

What the Inner Crow Says

How Can You Silence Your Inner Crow?

Advice for Leaders of Women

Chapter Three: Develop a Center Stage Mindset

Step 1: Know You Deserve the Spotlight

Step 2: Seize Opportunities to Shine

Step 3: Don't Retreat to the Wings

Advice for Leaders of Women

Chapter Four: Speak Up Confidently

Show Up

Prepare, Prepare, Prepare

Listen…to Others and to Yourself

Speak with Substance

Develop a Political “Sixth Sense”

Be Direct

Advice for Leaders of Women

Chapter Five: Be Assertive, Not Aggressive

Assertive Women Are Often Perceived as Aggressive

Don't Worry About Being Called Bossy

Avoid Aggressiveness; It Doesn't Work for Women or Men

Advice for Leaders of Women

Chapter Six: Promote Yourself

An Appetite for Humble Pie

How to Promote Yourself

Learn to Brag

Promoting Yourself in Every Situation

Advice for Leaders of Women

Chapter Seven: Be Courageous

Courage to Put Your Hand Up

Courage to Challenge Others

Courage to Take On a New Role

Courage to Break Into the Boys' Club

Courage to Be Yourself

Advice for Leaders of Women

Chapter Eight: Hold Your Ground

If Someone Interrupts You

If Someone Takes Your Idea

If Someone Challenges You

If Someone Blindsides You

If Someone Is Sexist toward You

If Someone Bullies You

Advice for Leaders of Women

Part Two: Create a Strong Script

Chapter Nine: Portray Yourself as a Leader

We Focus on Our Flaws, Fears, and Foibles

Create Your Leadership Profile

Advice for Leaders of Women

Chapter Ten: Strengthen Your Language

Weak Language Patterns Women Use

Edit Your Language

Advice for Leaders of Women

Chapter Eleven: Structure Your Script

Design of the Script

Advice for Leaders of Women

Chapter Twelve: Master Meeting Scripts

Formal Meeting Talks

Informal Meeting Remarks

Off-the-Cuff Meeting Remarks

Advice for Leaders of Women

Chapter Thirteen: Craft Career Conversations

Networking Conversations

Conversation with a Sponsor

Conversation with an Employer

Conversation with Your Manager

Advice for Leaders of Women

Chapter Fourteen: Elevate Your Elevator Scripts

Focus Your Thinking

Create Your Script

Advice for Leaders of Women

Part Three: Unlock the Power of Your Voice

Chapter Fifteen: Begin by Breathing

The Importance of Breath

Why We Lose Touch with Our Breath

Finding Your Breath

Advice for Leaders of Women

Chapter Sixteen: Find Your Full Sound

Surrendering Vocal Power

Regaining Your Full Vocal Power

Advice for Leaders of Women

Chapter Seventeen: Develop Your Leader’s Voice

Our Many Voices

Your Authentic Leadership Voice

Advice for Leaders of Women

Chapter Eighteen: Pace Yourself

Why We Talk Too Fast

Owning the Room

Advice for Leaders of Women

Chapter Nineteen: Be Expressive

Down with Upspeak

Mind Your Monotone

Don't Get Stuck in the Upper Registers

Vary Your Sound

Advice for Leaders of Women

Chapter Twenty: Articulate Clearly

Why A-R-T-I-C-U-L-A-T-E?

The Art of Articulation

Advice for Leaders of Women

Part Four: Stand Out on Stage

Chapter Twenty-One: Understand the Power of Presence

Advice for Leaders of Women

Chapter Twenty-Two: Be Fearless on Stage

Why Do We Fear the Stage?

Becoming Fearless on Stage

Advice for Leaders of Women

Chapter Twenty-Three: Sit Tall, Stand Tall

The Incredible Shrinking Woman

Sit Tall

Stand Tall

Advice for Leaders of Women

Chapter Twenty-Four: Strengthen Your Body Language

Head

Eyes

Mouth

Arms and Hands

Advice for Leaders of Women

Chapter Twenty-Five: She's Smart . . . but She Doesn't Look It

Rule 1. Dress for Your Corporate Environment

Rule 2. Dress for the Job You Want

Rule 3. Dress for the People You'll See

Rule 4. Shun Sexy If You Want to Get Ahead

Rule 5. Beware Bangs and Bangles

Rule 6. Follow the First Five Rules—but Develop Your Own Style

Advice for Leaders of Women

Conclusion: The World Is Your Stage

Acknowledgments

About the Author

More from Wiley

Index

End User License Agreement

Guide

Cover

Table of Contents

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“The ability to speak in front of a group is a very important tool. Taking the Stage teaches you that your opinions are as valuable as anyone else's. I have certainly seen members of my team more willing to speak up after participating in the ‘Taking the Stage’ program.”

—Richard Nesbitt, CEO, world markets, and COO, CIBC

“The ‘Taking the Stage’ program has profoundly impacted IBM women at all levels, encouraging them to speak up, communicate for impact, and become essential to their clients.”

—Lauren O'Donnell, global general manager and vice president, life sciences industry, IBM

“It is with excitement that I endorse Judith Humphrey's book. She is an excellent communicator and I wish her every success in delivering her powerful and helpful messages to a wide audience. Taking the Stage will touch thousands of women around the world in the most positive ways.”

—Micheline Bouchard, former CEO, Motorola Canada, and board member, International Women's Forum

“Over the past 10 years, our firm has been reporting on the unacceptably low numbers of women in senior executive positions. Those figures will change dramatically—for the better!—when women read Judith Humphrey's compelling new book, Taking the Stage. I will certainly be recommending it to all my female clients, and to those who have women on their teams.”

—Jay Rosenzweig, CEO, Rosenzweig & Company

“I love Taking the Stage. It spoke to me profoundly as I read it while on the subway in Seoul. It showed that we can embrace both the yin and yang, the female and male aspects of our natures. I truly believe that when we are able to harness both, we become better, stronger leaders. Judith Humphrey's brilliant book will show readers how to do just that.”

—Sharon Tan, vice president, HR/OD, Asia, Grohe Pacific PTE LTD

Taking the Stage

How Women Can Speak Up, Stand Out, and Succeed

Judith Humphrey

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Humphrey, Judith, 1943-

Taking the stage: how women can speak up, stand out, and succeed/Judith Humphrey.

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ISBN 978-1-118-95840-7 (pdf) — ISBN 978-1-118-95839-1 (epub) — ISBN 978-1-118-87025-9 (hardback)

1. Women executives. 2. Leadership in women. 3. Communication in management. 4. Public speaking for women. 5. Oral communication. 6. Career development. I. Title.

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Dedication

For Marc, my wonderful husband, who has always believed in me. For Bart and Ben, who have shown that a woman can have bright, happy, and cherished children and a successful career.

Preface

This book grows out of my conviction that confident self-expression is the foundation of success in business and life. I have seen the lives of thousands of women transformed when they learned to “take the stage.” Graduates of our firm's Taking the Stage® program have found—as readers of this book will discover—how to in ways that increase their visibility, earn them respect, and accelerate their advancement. Many inspiring stories of those who have achieved these goals fill the pages of this book. I'm pleased to share with readers the insights from our program, from my twenty-five years as head of a communications company, and from my own life.