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- Herausgeber: John Wiley & Sons
- Kategorie: Fachliteratur
- Sprache: Englisch
An essential companion to The Holistic You In The Holistic You: Integrating Your Family, Finances, Faith, Friendships, and Fitness Workbook, the renowned Rabbi Daniel Lapin delivers a practical companion and accompaniment to his widely read The Holistic You. If you were inspired by the idea of holistic life renewal but aren't sure of the next step, this book is for you. In the workbook, you'll find practical strategies for implementing the 5F crosslinks into your personal and business lifeplans. Exercises include * Explorations and descriptions of how characteristics such as punctuality, zeal, and humility can be used to enhance every aspect of one's life. * Additional study materials for readers who wish to become 5F trainers * Developing each F even when one is introverted or otherwise handicapped. * Restoring relationships after years of neglect. * Replacing passivity with ambitious activism * Implementing the power of partnership into every part of life. An indispensable and hands-on resource for people who want to get the absolute most out of the already powerful The Holistic You, this workbook is a can't-miss source of wisdom perfect for investors, entrepreneurs, , parents, and anyone looking for applicable and relevant advice they can apply immediately at home, at work, at school, and anywhere else.
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Table of Contents
Cover
Table of Contents
Title Page
Copyright
Dedication
Preface
Acknowledgements
About the Authors
Introduction
Chapter 1:
Meeting the Five Fs
What Systems Have We Been Sold? Getting Rid of Our Myths of Happiness
The Secret of Ancient Jewish Wisdom
How Holistic Systems Work
It Helps to Play by the Rules of the Game
Chapter 2:
Connect for Success
Connections in Time
The Bible's Teaching of Connection
Family Connection
Connection to Belongings
The True Meaning of Harmony
Chapter 3:
Seeing the Invisible
The Blindness of Science
Human Origins
Can We Really Get Along Without God Awareness?
Chapter 4:
Bodybuilding
How Fitness Is Impacted by the Other Four Fs
Healing the Soul to Heal the Body
Healing the Body to Heal the Soul
The Golden Mean
Food: Filling and Fulfilling
The Other End of the Mouth—The Indignity of “Crap”
The Spiritual Message of Sleep
Resistance and Struggle
Chapter 5:
Money and Morality
Let's Connect
Language Matters
Earning Money Versus Receiving Money
Chapter 6:
Sex: Pleasure and Pain
Changes and Not‐So‐Changes, Let There Be …
Are Men and Women the Same?
The Explosive Power of Sex
The Physical Depicts the Spiritual
Note
Chapter 7:
Some Tough Decisions
Are Marriage and Children Disposable?
Finance and Marriage
Platonic Relationships
Making Money Is Central to a Man's Masculinity
Teams Are Made of People Fulfilling Different Roles
Deliberate Decisions
Chapter 8:
Putting the 5Fs to Work
How to Grow
Takeaways from
The Holistic You
Index
End User License Agreement
Guide
Cover
Title Page
Copyright
Dedication
Preface
Acknowledgements
About the Authors
Introduction
Table of Contents
Begin Reading
Index
End User License Agreement
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THE HOLISTIC YOU: WORKBOOK
Integrating Your Family, Finances, Faith, Friendships, and Fitness
RABBI DANIEL LAPIN
AND
SUSAN LAPIN
Copyright © 2024 by Rabbi Daniel Lapin. All rights reserved.
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We humbly dedicate this book to our extraordinary children:
Rebecca and Max Masinter
Rena and Yoni Baron
Rachelle and Zev Stern
Ari and Menucha Lapin
Ruthie and Asher Abraham
Miriam and Anshel Kaplan
Tamara and David Sasson
With limitless admiration for what you have all become
and
with boundless appreciation for all you have done
Preface
We are not big fans of television. Nonetheless, on a trip once, we arrived in our hotel room to see the ubiquitous large‐screen television on the wall. It was on but set on mute, so the tantalizing bright and fast‐moving scenes were silent. Yet, no matter where we searched, all the usual places and others, we found no controller for the television. I (RDL) felt an almost irresistible compulsion to call the front desk and request a remote control for the television. Finally, I found the power switch on the bottom of the screen and turned it off. We laughed at how urgently I wanted to be able to control that television. Had it been off when we walked in, or had there been no television, I don't think it would have bothered me.
For someone utterly oblivious of the subconscious, those subtle but influential meanderings of the mind, not being able to control one's mind doesn't much matter. However, for those aware of their souls, it becomes important to be able to interact with those involuntary and unquantifiable parts of their beings.
But how does one shape one's beliefs? How does one generate optimism, sculpt one's outlook, and force happiness to well up in one's soul? After all, whether we are looking at the nervous young man staring, trying to summon up the courage to approach a pretty girl and ask her out on a date; the soldier in combat weighing up the risks and rewards of a potentially dangerous operation; or the young woman nervous before delivering a speech, believing in success makes the actions more likely to be undertaken and confers better chances of satisfactory outcomes.
That is what this book is about. It introduces you, the reader, to the actions and exercises that give you the remote control for your soul.
Think of the many little daily routines that we perform almost on autopilot. We brush our teeth without consciously deciding on exactly how much toothpaste to use each morning. It is just as well that we don't have to expend brain energy on determining each little step toward our daily oral hygiene. Buttering our toast or any other eating routine also becomes what we call second nature. We do it without consciously thinking through the steps as we might do, say, when navigating our way to a never‐before visited destination. As a matter of fact, shortly after relocating to our new home, I (SL) was driving home and suddenly found myself parked in front of our old home, the one we had vacated about a week earlier. That's right; I had been almost on autopilot, and my muscle‐memory and subconscious mind had me do once again what I had done every day for a decade.
There are many times when we wish to take control of our subconscious, many times when we would love to hold the remote control for our souls in our hands.
Here is a story I (RDL) often tell audiences at my personal appearances. Imagine I am at the airport on my way to give a speech in one of those sad cities that possess what is euphemistically known as a bad part of town. What that means is a neighborhood so rife with crime that for ordinary tourists to venture there is tantamount to an invitation to be robbed. Forewarned is forearmed, so I diligently make my way to the airport bookstore and purchase myself a paperback copy of Self‐Defense in Ten Easy Lessons, which I subsequently glance at during my flight. Later that night, I confidently venture out for an after‐dinner stroll. With my copy of Self‐Defense in Ten Easy Lessons safely stashed in my jacket pocket, I sally forth into the darkness.
Not surprisingly, I am soon startled by an arm around my neck from behind and the unpleasant sensation of something hard and metallic jabbing me in the ribs. A rather harsh sounding but unseen voice informs me that now would be a very good time to hand over my wallet and my watch if I retain any hope of continuing my walk. Nothing doing, think I. That informative volume nestled in my jacket pocket is my insurance policy. In fact, from my brief airborne perusal I recall that armed attacks from the rear were covered in Chapter 7.
“Just a moment,” I politely react. “Ease up with that gun, would you? I need to get out my self‐defense book and review exactly how to deal with your unprovoked interruption of my pleasant evening.” My impatient assailant sounds even more irritated as he states that time is running out for the conclusion of our transaction, and furthermore, even if he allowed me to carefully read my entire book, it would in no way change the outcome of our little encounter.
And you know what? My imaginary mugger is absolutely correct. There was only one effective way to have prepared for our little property‐transferring rendezvous, and putting a book in my pocket was not that way. What I should have done was to attend many sessions at the martial arts gym with a good unarmed combat teacher who would have repeatedly drilled me on each maneuver until it became, yes, second nature. My teacher would have helped me overcome my natural learned instinct not to hurt people. That way, the very instant that hostile arm snaked around my neck, every muscle in my body would have convulsed unthinkingly, and between my heel stomping down on his instep and my elbow connecting violently with his throat, the threat would have been averted before my conscious mind even realized what was happening. I should have reprogramed my soul. I should have re‐scripted my spiritual schematic. But I didn't do so, and therefore on that fateful (but imaginary) evening, I would feel lucky to lose only my wallet and watch.
The sales professional who exudes a friendly, calm confidence enjoys a considerable advantage over her nervous and desperate colleague. The sprinter crouched on his starting blocks who radiates assurance of his soon‐to‐be‐seen win, just as Usain Bolt did less than 10 seconds before he won the 100‐meter race at the London Olympics in 2012, is more likely to win.
Almost every one of the dozens of instances during each day, when busy people are confronted by a decision that needs to be made, share a strategic factor. Most of those decisions need to be made quickly. One does not always have time for careful and cautious deliberation. Just as in self‐defense, the body will only react quickly if it has been trained. A timely response to a child's inquiry, a business proposal, or a suggested social engagement, even if it is only a cheerful request to defer the decision, will reflect the spiritual matrices that have been set in place.
The anxious parent whose spiritual schematic is complete and integrated is more likely to make the right child‐raising decision. A substantial advantage in every area of life is enjoyed by the individual who succeeds in not only knowing what to do but who also succeeds in transferring that knowledge from the brain to the heart, from the matter to the mind, from the body to the soul.
In the eight chapters that follow, we are going to help you sculpt your soul. Moreover, we shall equip you with that elusive, but oh so important, remote control for your soul.
Onward and upward,
Rabbi Daniel and Susan Lapin
Acknowledgements
One reason it can be hard to teach a toddler to say “thank you” is because acknowledging gratitude is like declaring a dependency. In the Lord's language, Hebrew, the word for expressing gratitude is the same as the word for confessing. “Thank you” means that I confess I needed you and I needed and value what you have done for me. For little people, it can be hard to acknowledge a need for others.
We, on the other hand, joyfully acknowledge our dependency upon so many others and our delight at the privilege of collaborating with them on this book. Our family deserves much gratitude for so often having had to yield to the book's priority. Many is the family occasion that we missed or for which we arrived late on account of our dedication to the book. They understand our unquenchable desire to make ancient Jewish wisdom accessible to as many people as possible and uncomplainingly make allowances for it.
Kevin Harreld at Wiley is as much a parent of this book as are we. Without his vision, encouragement, and guidance it simply would never have come to life. We appreciate him greatly. Kevin's amazing colleagues at Wiley shepherded us toward the finish line. You would not be holding this book in your hands without the steady stream of directives and patient professionalism of Susan Cerra and her team.
Our editor, Sheryl Nelson, has known us for years and still agreed to undertake the task of polishing our torrents of verbal enthusiasm into this now very readable book. A great editor doesn't just change; a great editor improves, and this Sheryl certainly did.
Emma Fialkoff, an accomplished author in her own right, heads our production team and has shared many late night hours with us as we struggled with one or another aspect of the book's architecture. We recognize that we are not the easiest of writers to work with, and she deserves much credit not only for what she did but for how she did it.
There would have been no chance of our having been able to concentrate for such extensive periods on this book exclusively unless we felt confident that our office would continue to run smoothly and effectively. That it did so is due to three remarkable women who are not only accomplished professionals but who have also become cherished friends. Crystol Garrison could easily be managing any large multinational corporation. That she has instead chosen to be the crucial lynchpin of our organization for so many years fills us with wonder and appreciation. We doubt that we could manage without her because in addition to all she accomplishes, she also brings out the best in us. Jessica Solberg Black is the personification of competence. Those words are often used to describe a soulless bureaucrat, but Jessica could hardly be more different. She is not only startlingly creative but successfully stimulates similar creativity among her team members. Ellen Joyce Garcia is the calm and experienced engineer deep down in the engine room of our ship. She keeps the machinery throbbing with purpose and power as our enterprise plows through the oceans and is a pleasure to work with.
Dina Bengio is our truly remarkable personal assistant who uncomplainingly makes problems vanish and frustrations evaporate. We are still trying to discover areas in which she possesses less than extraordinary experience and ability.
We close this altogether inadequate attempt at expressing our gratitude with a great big thank you to God Almighty without whom we doubt that we would have found one another and without whom nothing our marriage has achieved would have come to pass.
Rabbi Daniel & Susan Lapin
Maryland, 2023
About the Authors
For nearly two decades, Rabbi Daniel Lapin and his wife, Susan, led the Southern California congregation they planted and where they met and married. After counseling crowds of young people through career crises, dating dilemmas, and marriage mysteries by applying ancient Jewish wisdom to solve contemporary problems, word of their work began spreading beyond their own community into both Jewish and Christian circles. Their seven best‐selling books, daily television show, weekly podcast, and the resources they create make their inviting, Bible‐based approach to life's challenges accessible to people of every background. They are well‐known speakers for Jewish, Christian, and business groups in the United Kingdom, Switzerland, South Africa, Ghana, Nigeria, Korea, China, and throughout North America.
