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The ultimate guide to becoming an extraordinary leader - while finding happiness, gaining authenticity, and banishing stress Integrating proven mindfulness practices and world-class leadership theory, The Mindful Leader is the essential guide for self-aware leadership. The book simplifies mindfulness principles and links them solidly to business benefits. It provides a practically-grounded template for leaders to develop unprecedented levels of self awareness, wellbeing and effectiveness. Research findings throughout the book detail the positive impact of mindfulness from the perspectives of brain science, psychology and leadership. International case studies from a variety of industries illustrate the everyday implementation of mindful leadership. You'll learn easy mindfulness practices that you can implement today and a practical framework for everyday mindful leadership. You'll also be given access to online resources for vision reflections, values clarification, mindfulness practices and more. Mindful leadership is a hot topic - but it's not as simple as "when you become mindful, great leadership will spontaneously happen." This book serves as both mindfulness training and leadership training, clarifying the parallel while guiding you through the many points of intersection. * Improve your leadership skills via context-specific mindfulness practices * Learn mindfulness from a practical perspective, with real workplace skills * Discover how leaders from around the world practice mindful leadership every day * Understand the neuroscience link between mindfulness and great leadership * Learn practices that deliver a deeper sense of integrity, authenticity, fulfillment and bottom-line results improvement Mindfulness provides real, practical tools for self-awareness, mental wellbeing, stress reduction and more. When practiced through a leadership lens, it becomes much more than just another leadership guide. Mindfulness transforms leadership as a whole, delivering real, lasting change that transcends typical leadership training. For a clear, concise framework of mindfulness at work, The Mindful Leader is the ideal guide for those serious about effective, sustainable leadership.
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This book shows us that it truly is possible to be a successful business leader and an aware, compassionate human being. If you are wanting to find a way to authentic happiness and leadership effectiveness this is a great resource.
— Gordon Cairns, chairman, Woolworths Limited and Origin Energy
The Mindful Leader is a not-to-be-missed read. Michael Bunting breaks new ground, adding an important dimension to our understanding of leadership and the practice of leading. He offers insights about mindfulness that clearly illustrate how leadership development begins within, and he brings science to mindfulness in a way that offers practical applications for meeting today's leadership challenges — and for making an extraordinary difference in the world.
— Jim Kouzes and Barry Posner, co-authors of the award-winning book, The Leadership Challenge
We know self-aware leaders consistently achieve the best long term results for themselves and for others. This practical and insightful book is an excellent guide to developing extraordinary levels of self-awareness. Read it, apply its lessons and your leadership and life will be so much better for it.
— Shaun McCarthy, chairman, Human Synergistics, Australia & New Zealand
What I greatly appreciate about Michael Bunting's new book is that it reveals the value of honesty, truthfulness and integrity, not as a matter of right or wrong, but as an essential aspect of highly effective leadership. If all those in leadership positions around the globe took The Mindful Leader as a guide for their work, the results would be impressive.
— Sharon Salzberg, author of Lovingkindness and Real Happiness at Work
Our world needs a new kind of leader. The old paradigms of power, fear and control just don't work in our modern economy anymore. We need leaders who know how to inspire through vision, integrity, sustainability and compassion. If you are interested in finding out how to become a leader for the new economy this is a great read.
— Jostein Solheim, CEO, Ben & Jerry's
I have worked with Michael specifically in the area of Mindful Leadership and can say with confidence that Michael is the real deal. His deep understanding of the subject is second to none, and his methodology is disciplined and impactful. This book is an extraordinary resource for all leaders aiming to realise their true potential.
— Brian Gladsden, Country President and Managing Director, Novartis Australia and New Zealand
Michael Bunting is at the cutting edge of a new wave of business leadership that is developing more conscious, responsible, and dynamic organizations. His brilliant book shows us that outward success and a life of integrity and compassion are completely compatible, and that a deeper integration of our outer and inner lives is necessary for the future of our planet. This is a book for all those who truly wish to find a way to live and lead more consciously in the business world.
— Russ Hudson, co-author of The Wisdom of the Enneagram and collaborator for The Awakened Company
Leading in a way that leaves a positive legacy for generations to come should be the benchmark by which we measure great leadership. Conscious leadership is a requisite characteristic of any person who wishes to harness the potential of a millennial team. This book is a beautiful reminder of what that kind of leadership looks like and how to practice it.
— John Replogle, CEO, Seventh Generation
I have worked with Michael Bunting for several years. The message in this book reflects the way he lives and teaches — mindfully and insightfully. This book is a wonderful guide on exactly how to fully integrate mindfulness into your life and leadership. Science now tells us that mindfulness has a great impact on personal effectiveness, which in turn is not only good for you, but also for those you lead.
— Jan Pacas, MD, Hilti Australia, 2015 AHRI CEO of the Year
The Mindful Leader outlines the practices and disciplines that we see in the most effective and successful leaders. A really insightful and useful read for those wanting a practical guide for truly constructive leadership.
— Andrew Reeves, CEO, George Weston Foods Australasia
The world, more than ever, needs mindful leaders. What are the leadership qualities and attributes that are fostered by mindfulness? How can they be brought about? This outstanding book by Michael Bunting, based on his deep understanding of leadership development as well as the science and practice of mindfulness, provides the answers to those and many other related questions. Read it or give it to people who need to read it.
— Dr Craig Hassed, author of Mindfulness for Life
I believe that being a great leader and a great human being are inseparable. This book beautifully shows us how to do both; to be not only the best leader in the world, but to be the best leader for the world. Reading The Mindful Leader and applying its lessons will enrich your life, your leadership, and the lives of all those you influence.
— Rachel Argaman, CEO, TFE Hotels, Telstra National Corporate Businesswoman of the Year
Michael Bunting does a fantastic job of helping us not only learn how to practice mindfulness, but how to practice it in the pressurised and rapidly changing context of business leadership. If you apply the practices in this book it will not only make you a better person, it will transform your leadership and your business.
— Angus Kennard, Kennards Hire Group
As business is waking up to the sustainability revolution, so too must leaders embrace a new, deeply mindful kind of leadership. This book will guide you on how to be the kind of leader that this planet needs now more than ever. The kind of leader and human being your children would be proud of.
— Ryan Honeyman, author of The B Corp Handbook
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THE MINDFUL LEADER
7 Practices for Transforming Your Leadership, Your Organisation and Your Life
MICHAEL BUNTING
First published in 2016 by John Wiley & Sons Australia, Ltd
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To my three children.
My deepest hope is that this book will make the world a better place, so your generation's future is filled with consciousness, kindness, connection and sustainability.
CONTENTS
About the author
Introduction: How mindfulness impacts leadership
What is mindfulness?
The integration of mindfulness and leadership
Why does mindfulness matter for leadership and the bottom line?
Chapter 1: Be here now
Absentmindedness: the opposite of mindfulness
Presence: the antidote
Mindfulness is much more than observation
The senses: how to be present
The body: the gateway to ‘self’-awareness
The four foundations of mindfulness
Transforming ourselves through self-awareness
Stages of mindfulness development
The research on mindfulness
Formal and informal mindfulness practice
Mindfulness is a value proposition
Chapter 2: Take 200 per cent accountability
Looking deeper
Response-able leadership
Liberating your leadership potential
Accountability is a core mindfulness practice
Credibility-killer, life-stealer
Distress intolerance and equanimity
Leaning in deeper
You can't do it without inner kindness
Taking 200 per cent accountability
200 per cent in action
True freedom is available
Chapter 3: Lead from mindful values
Why do values matter so much to leadership?
What do we mean by ‘values'?
Values for wellbeing
Making a stand for something better
The best value to start with in leadership
Meeting your shadow
Values are the container for mindfulness
Finding the courage to follow our values
Why we're cynical about values
Two methods for staying on track with values
How to skilfully establish organisational values
Breathe life into your values
The truth will set you free
Find your compass and refer to it often
Chapter 4: Inspire a mindful vision
Understanding human motivation
Mindful livelihood: the basis of mindful vision
It pays to be conscious in business
A mindful vision is interdependent
From personal vision to shared vision
Putting your money where your mouth is
Conscious business isn't easy
How anyone at any level can make a difference
Ethical investing: extending our mindfulness from how we earn to how we spend
Change happens one person at a time
Chapter 5: Cultivate beginner's mind
Change or decline
Beginner's mind
Open-minded curiosity makes us smart
Why do we resist beginner's mind and stay entrenched in expert's mind?
Falling asleep at the wheel
Releasing bias and accepting reality
The brain science of beginner's mind
To innovate, first create a safe learning environment
Shift from ‘initiatives' to ‘experiments'
Overcoming the god complex
How to deal with complexity
The underlying attribute of beginner's mind
Chapter 6: Empower others to shine
Cultivate generosity to release insecurities and empower people
See the worthiness of others
Cultivate compassion to truly see people
Empower people by setting clear agreements
Fixing versus empowering
Turn on the light
Chapter 7: Nourish others with love
Lovingkindness: the heart of mindfulness
Empathetic joy: authentic encouragement from the heart
Gratitude: the gift that always comes back to us
Flowering from within
Chapter 8: Transforming for good
Overcoming ‘immunity to change'
There is more to behaviour change than meets the eye
Changing deeply ingrained habits takes time
You are worth it
Acknowledgements
Notes
Introduction
Chapter 1
Chapter 2
Chapter 3
Chapter 4
Chapter 5
Chapter 6
Chapter 7
Chapter 8
Index
Advert
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Guide
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About the author
Michael Bunting is the founder of the leadership consultancy WorkSmart Australia, a certified B Corp. He has trained and coached thousands of leaders, from CEOs to front-line leaders. WorkSmart consults to organisations ranging from global multinationals through to medium-sized businesses in the area of leadership, engagement, alignment, values and culture. He is the author of APractical Guide to Mindful Meditation and co-authored Extraordinary Leadership in Australia & New Zealand with Jim Kouzes and Barry Posner, the world's premier researchers and authors in the field of leadership. He also teaches Mindful Leadership for Sydney University's award-winning Global Executive MBA.
Michael regularly contributes articles for industry magazines including CEO Magazine, BRW, SmartCompany and Inside HR. He has also appeared on Sky Business News and several radio stations. He delivers large-scale keynote presentations at industry events, trade shows and company off-sites.
Michael has run a disciplined personal mindfulness practice for more than 23 years and has taught mindful leadership to businesses and government for more than 16 years. Michael holds two business degrees and a postgraduate diploma in mindfulness-based psychotherapy.
He lives with his family in Sydney, Australia.
IntroductionHow mindfulness impacts leadership
One can have no smaller or greater mastery than mastery of oneself.
Leonardo da Vinci
When I started my personal transformation journey at the age of 22, fresh out of studying business at university, I had no idea what I was signing up for. I was starting what seemed like a cool process of gathering knowledge by taking evening classes in practical philosophy, depth psychology and mindfulness meditation. I thought this would somehow make me special.
What I did not realise at the time was how delightfully humbling the process would be — that it would bring me into direct, truthful contact with my confusion, my deep conditioning, my self-obsession, my painful insecurity, my need to feel validated by always being ‘right'… and so much more. Rather than making me special it exposed a wonderful ordinariness in me.
Now, as I look back on years of disciplined mindfulness practice, the inquiry processes, the failures and successes, the laughter and the tears, I see that mastery of oneself is more about removal than addition. It's about stripping off the masks and pretences that keep us feeling isolated. It's about letting go of beliefs and ideas that keep us locked in self-defeating habits. It's about dissolving the inner judge, surrendering the burden of a busy mind, and rediscovering the innate love and wisdom that have been with us all along. It's a mastery that clears the conditioned patterns that confine us.
And as we let go, we begin to connect with our deepest, truest selves. In a sense, we take Pinocchio's journey. We become real and authentic, and our artificial selves fade away. As the parts of us that we want to hide from ourselves and the world are revealed, we are empowered to fully embrace our whole selves. This is how we find authentic joy and meaning in our lives.
What is mindfulness?
I define mindfulness as maintaining an open hearted awareness of our thoughts, emotions, bodily sensations and environment in the present moment. It is paying attention in the present moment purposefully, warm-heartedly and non-judgementally. It is experiencing and accepting the present moment as it really is — not how we want it to be, think it should be or perceive it to be, but as it really is.
Kevin Pickhardt, the CEO of Pharos, a print management solutions company headquartered in New York, gave me his beautiful definition of mindfulness: ‘Being mindful is our ability to pay attention and respond to every situation in the healthiest way possible — to accept whatever happens and respond with kindness, compassion and understanding.'
Through meditation and other practices we become more aware of our habitual reactions, expand the gap between stimulus and response and make wiser choices. We learn to see the innermost motivations for our actions and become more honest with ourselves. We learn to be the observer of our thoughts, rather than identifying with them and getting caught up in the mental stories we create. In short, we become profoundly self-aware.
The extensive research I will share with you in this book shows that mindfulness is not a new age, intangible abstraction for lofty-minded seekers of spiritual enlightenment. It is a concrete discipline proven to provide real, measurable benefits for your behaviour, performance, health and happiness. It is a well-developed, thoroughly substantiated, evidence-based process for gaining clarity and accessing and developing your greatest potential. As my friend and colleague Charlotte Thaarup-Owen, founder of the Mindfulness Clinic, puts it, ‘Mindfulness practice enables us to gradually learn to use the mind just as a tool, rather than as a tool and an obstacle. Our past conditioning embedded in our mind often gets in our way and causes us to make poor decisions. Mindfulness trains the mind to become present so that we can greet every experience with wisdom and freshness and start responding instead of reacting.'
The integration of mindfulness and leadership
Within a few years of starting my journey with mindfulness I was fortunate to meet two wonderful mentors who taught me the connections between mindfulness and leadership. As mindfulness became my deepest passion, they invited me to teach and make a living from the work. This was at a time when very few organisations offered transformational leadership development programs, let alone mindfulness training. Back in the late nineties mindfulness was a radical idea, even stigmatised. I took a great risk when I left my own thriving paper merchant business and joined them in the trailblazing venture of teaching mindfulness and leadership to business and government.
But it worked, and far exceeded my expectations. The programs were radically successful. Before any research on mindfulness was available, people connected with the elegant common sense of mindfulness in a leadership and transformational context, and the results were usually life changing.
The key is the integration of mindfulness and leadership. Just being mindful is not enough. Even with serious mindfulness training we can still be poor leaders. But when mindfulness is fully integrated into leadership, exponential progress can be made. This book marries research-based mindfulness practices and leadership behaviours to provide a practical model for improving your leadership and your life. For me, that has been the greatest reward of this work — supporting leaders to truly transform themselves and their teams.
I don't think the leaders I've worked with had much idea what they were taking on when they said yes to authentic, mindful leadership and personal development. They did not realise that the familiar ground they were standing on would be shaken. We like the word transformation, but the process is a whole lot grittier than the advertising. As one of my favourite awareness teachers once put it, ‘Most of us are not prepared to sign up for transformation, we just want to become a caterpillar with wings. But that is not a butterfly.' The caterpillar does not survive the process of becoming a butterfly.
Transformation is the territory of true leadership. The process of reinvention calls for a spirit of adventure. A transformational leader is willing to stay young, a beginner, an adventurer inside and out. They are also ordinary people. The work of true transformation is just that: work. It takes no special talent or skill. But it does take an uncommon determination to face our fears, reactivity, avoidance patterns and insecurities and to keep going. It takes strength.
Developing as a leader is about cultivating our inner strength to stay true under fire, to ask questions we don't know the answer to, to stay balanced when our world is turning upside down, to stay kind and respectful when the heat of anger and frustration is coursing through our veins, to courageously hold ourselves and others accountable when we want to slip into avoidance and self-justification. It is about enabling ourselves to connect with others with authentic compassion, to truly understand them, to see their struggles and aspirations, the deepest desires of their hearts, their greatest potential. And, perhaps above all, it is to stay real, to keep coming back to honesty and humility.
My friend Barry Keesan, Senior Vice President for General Code, a municipal codification service company in the US, explained to me how feedback is critical to this process. People are reluctant to give leaders feedback because they fear the consequences. This can create a skewed view of reality in the leader — it's easy to start believing you are perfect and everyone is engaged. That's a dangerous way to lead, especially if you are the last to know when your people are not truly aligned. So you have to really work at getting honest feedback.
Barry said, ‘You have to make yourself vulnerable, admit your fears, mistakes and uncertainties, and communicate to people that you welcome honest feedback. And that sends a message that you value them, that their opinion matters and that you are humble enough to look at your own actions. For me, it's actually a validation that I am doing something right when my team gives me honest feedback. It's paradoxical, but true. It means I have a good relationship with my team when they tell me when I did something that was out of line.'
When I expressed my surprise at Barry's attitude, given how rare it is, he explained that what has enabled him to stay open is years of mindfulness practice. Mindful, inspiring leaders like Barry are authentic and courageous enough to put down their mask. They have found a deeper place of self-acceptance in themselves, an acceptance of their humanity. They know all too well their faults and failures. They rarely excuse them or rationalise them. When they go off track (as they inevitably will) they are willing to really listen to the feedback they receive. They are people we can trust and relate to. We warm to them because they have cultivated an awareness we are drawn to.
But don't misinterpret their kindness and authenticity for complacency or softness. They can be tough when they need to be. Their compassion can be fierce. They will hold you accountable for commitments and will not avoid the tough conversations. They will stretch you beyond your capacity.
Jeff Weiner, the CEO of LinkedIn, a strong advocate of mindful leadership and judged by one rating service to be the best CEO in the US, is a great example of this. When asked in an interview how he handles poor performance he replied, ‘You do it in the most compassionate and most constructive way you know how.' Jeff then goes all in with those people to help them close their performance gap, and if it does not work out they are invited to leave, but with the support to find something better. As he put, ‘And if it doesn't work out, we're gonna figure out another role for you here hopefully, and if that doesn't make sense, I'll do everything I can to make sure you're successful elsewhere.'1
The greatest leaders cultivate a paradoxical and profoundly effective combination of strength and compassion. It is less science than art. But make no mistake, the science backing mindfulness and its impact on leadership is incontrovertible.
Why does mindfulness matter for leadership and the bottom line?
A critical factor in creating and sustaining job satisfaction, productivity and a healthy bottom line is workplace engagement. Research firm Towers Watson reports that organisations with high rates of engagement consistently outperform their sector benchmarks for growth across a range of financials, including more than double the stock performance of the Dow Jones and Standard & Poor's Index for five years running. Great Place to Work's data shows that between 1997 and 2013 the best companies performed nearly two times better than the general market. Furthermore, the value of their 100 best companies grew by 291 per cent between 1998 and 2012. Compare that with the 72 per cent growth of the Russell 3000 Index and the 63 per cent growth of the S&P 500 Index. Great workplaces perform better and have substantially stronger bottom lines.
Leadership is the cornerstone of engagement. According to research performed by leadership experts Jim Kouzes and Barry Posner, my friends and co-authors of Extraordinary Leadership in Australia and New Zealand, nothing impacts engagement more than the behaviour of leaders. As much as 37 per cent of employee engagement can be attributed to the boss's leadership behaviour. Leading from and embodying values and integrity, inspiring a shared vision and common purpose, staying open to continually learning, challenging oneself and others, enabling and developing others, building trusting relationships and recognising others for great work — these exemplary leadership qualities produce tangible results.
Jim and Barry have analysed responses from more than 2.5 million people across the world and found that leaders who exhibit these behaviours have employees who are significantly more committed, proud, motivated, loyal and productive. In groups with exemplary leaders, engagement scores are 25 to 50 per cent higher than in other groups.2 In one study, researcher and author Richard Roi looked at 94 large companies (with an average annual income of US$17.4 billion) and compared those in which senior leaders applied exemplary leadership behaviours to a greater extent with those companies applying them to a lesser extent. The companies with great leadership enjoyed an average stock price growth of 204 per cent over ten years and a net income growth of 841 per cent. For companies in which leadership behaviour was weak, the average stock price growth was 76 per cent, and their net income decreased by 49 per cent.
Note that these are behaviours, not technical competencies. When leaders fail, it is rarely related to technical competence. The x-factor in leadership is behaviour. And the key to transforming leadership behaviour is the cultivation of genuine mindfulness married with leadership research and practice. This enables you to truly see and manage your behaviour in real time, which is when it really matters.
Daphne Guericke, Vice President of Content Analytics at Appen Inc., a language technology consulting firm in Seattle, Washington, shared with me how mindfulness impacts her leadership behaviour on a daily basis. First and foremost, she said, it helps her to understand herself. It reveals her triggers and where her values may be misaligned. It helps her observe how she reacts to thing. As she put it, ‘I need to be very aware and attentive to what's going on with me so I can be attentive, aware and present for others. We all have crazy lives and it's easy to just go, go, go, constantly fighting fires and dealing with issues. Mindfulness practice ensures I don't lose myself or my values in the chaos. When I'm more present with people it creates a much more genuine interaction rather than just intellectual problem solving. It really helps me to connect with people on a deeper, more human level. We're all hungry for that because it's so easy to feel like a cog in a wheel in the corporate world.'
A number of research studies have proven how mindfulness has a measurable impact on behaviour. Cognitive neuroscience studies show that it actually creates structural and functional changes in the brain. Observed behaviour changes include:
improved attention control
improved self-awareness
improved emotional regulation.
One study concluded, ‘When engaged in cognitively demanding challenges, meditation is an effective means to “de-automate” behavior. We are less likely to respond with an impulsive/habitual response.'3 Another judged, ‘Mindful meditation will make you less mentally rigid and habit prone therefore more open to change.'4 In yet another study, the researchers found, ‘In a dynamic workplace setting, mindfulness may be a better predictor of workplace performance and job turnover than traditional measures of “engagement”.'5
The equation is simple: Highly engaged organisations are more profitable and effective. The key to improving your organisation's engagement is your leadership behaviour. And mindfulness — the practical application of self-awareness — is the most effective method for recognising and improving your behaviour.
In this book you will discover simple and advanced approaches to mindfulness practice and how to apply it skilfully and consistently, specifically in a leadership context. But like anything truly worthwhile, mindfulness is not a quick fix. The research shows that even small amounts of practice help, but to reach your full potential will take more than a few minutes. It will take a deep understanding of the nuances of mindfulness practice and exactly how it applies to leadership. It is a profoundly rewarding journey though — it will challenge you to your core, in the very best way. It can set you free from the behavioural patterns that are getting in your way, some of which you may not even be aware of yet.
This book will equip you with a proven methodology for holding yourself accountable. It teaches you how to skilfully become real and honest with yourself in a way that holds nothing back. It gives you a clear understanding of how to expose your blind spots and overcome your fears and self-defeating habits.
But more importantly, throughout the process you'll learn how to treat yourself with kindness and compassion so that your new understanding is liberating and joyful, rather than simply painful. And when you learn to manage yourself with strength and kindness, you'll be empowered to use the same qualities when leading others. You'll be able to firmly hold people accountable for values and commitments in a way that builds and develops them, rather than tearing them down. You'll cultivate the skill you need to handle difficult situations with a paradoxical — and incredibly effective — combination of total honesty and genuine care. In short, you will realise your full potential as a leader.
If you want a quick fix, a simple technique to make discomfort disappear and the leadership journey easy, you will find little of value in this book. If, however, you are interested in what da Vinci refers to as the greatest mastery of all, then this book will help you achieve your full potential.
I invite you to enter this journey home to yourself, to your deepest longing for aliveness, authenticity, happiness, meaning — and leadership greatness.
Chapter 1Be here now
The faculty of voluntarily bringing back a wandering attention over and over again, is the very root of judgment, character, and will. No one is [competent] if he have it not. An education which should improve this faculty would be the education par excellence.
William James, The Principles of Psychology, 1890
I once heard the great Vietnamese Zen teacher Thich Nhat Hanh say, ‘When we are well, our wellness spills onto others. And when we are unwell, that too spills onto others. Be well.' The behaviour of leaders has an enormous impact on those they lead, and the more senior they are the greater the impact. Leadership is both a privilege and a burden. It is incumbent on leaders to be well and to lead from a centre of wellness and non-reactivity. Leaders set the tone for the whole team or organisation: when they are calm, confident, open and relaxed, the team is more likely to feel the same. Likewise, when they are stressed, fearful and closed, it breeds the same emotions among team members.
In later chapters we will cover the integrated mindful practices that support specific leadership development challenges. But before we get into the subtleties of this transformational practice, we'll start with some basics so we can build from the ground up.
I usually start mindfulness foundation training by asking leaders an open-ended question: ‘What state are you in when you are at your best as a leader?' The answers are remarkably consistent: Physically, they are relaxed, rather than tense. Mentally, they are clear and calm, as opposed to being plagued by racing, frantic thoughts of regret, doubt and worry. Emotionally, they feel openhearted and courageous, as opposed to closed, hardened or fearful. Of course, this state is vital not only for great leadership but in all areas of our lives. Interestingly, most leaders agree that this state is in fact what we yearn for the most. It's the promise behind all our goals and longings.
So how can we deliberately cultivate healthy physical, emotional and mental states and become the captain of our own ship in this respect? How can we manage our internal world regardless of what is happening in our external world? Being dependent on external conditions for our inner wellbeing creates a constant underlying angst because we have little, if any, control over our external world. We can influence it, but we can't control it.
Mindful leadership means deliberately cultivating a state of wellness and being a beacon of goodness, responsiveness and clarity, even in the toughest circumstances.
Absentmindedness: the opposite of mindfulness
The first step toward managing anything is to be aware of what it is we're trying to manage. Try tidying up a room in the dark: it's obvious we cannot manage what we cannot see clearly and objectively. In the case of mindful leadership, we're trying to manage our state: our body, mind and heart, and by extension our words, actions, behaviours and habits. Using the previous analogy, what keeps the room ‘dark' is absentmindedness.
Most of us spend a substantial amount of time lost in thoughts about the future and the past. The science is clear that this habit is damaging for our health and wellbeing — particularly ongoing negative thinking (‘I should have said … ', ‘Why did I forget that?', ‘I hope my investments are going to be okay'). As one study concluded, ‘[A] human mind is a wandering mind, and a wandering mind is an unhappy mind. The ability to think about what is not happening is a cognitive achievement that comes at an emotional cost.'1
Absentmindedness, defined as being inattentive or distracted or zoning out, undermines our awareness and keeps us ‘in the dark'. Put simply, we cannot be self-aware or truly aware of others when we are distracted by our thinking (mentally preparing our answer while someone is speaking to us, for example, or rehashing meetings or interactions in our mind). Over the years of teaching mindfulness to thousands of leaders I have invited them to put what they have learned to the test in their own context. Invariably they have found that awareness and absentmindedness are mutually exclusive, but their greatest shock is realising how much of their lives is spent in an absentminded state.
During an interview, neuropsychologist and bestselling author Dr Rick Hanson told me that being consistently lost in thought is one of the most damaging things we can do for our mental and emotional wellbeing and our brain health. Most of our thinking typically defaults to negative patterns — in part based on our collective biological history.
As Rick explained, the brain's negativity bias evolved because our ancestors lived when lethal dangers were real and ever present. In a world where the ‘carrots' were sex, shelter and food and the ‘sticks' were snakes, lions and injuries (which generally meant death), it paid to focus on the sticks. If you missed a carrot today, you'd have another chance tomorrow. But if you missed a stick, well, no more carrots … ever.
In the modern world life-threatening situations are relatively unusual. But given our natural tendency to focus on the negative, combined with a habit of inattention and being lost in thought, we spend much of our time in a mentally constructed fight, flight or freeze mode. This unnecessary and inappropriate activation response leads to our accumulating wear and tear of the body and mind — called
